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"If a couple called you their "plaything?"" It would depend who they were, the context, and how it was said. I've been called a bald, ugly tosser before and taken it in good spirits. 
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"I'd find it a slightly clumsy term if I'm honest. I wouldn't be really offended but I'd question it as it comes across as a bit of an owner and pet terminology to me. But that's just my opinion. Others are available . " | |||
"I use the term playmates for my "friends" all the time..." Playmates is fine | |||
"I would like it but I would be demanding lots of strokes so it would be petlike "Agreed. | |||
"If a couple called you their "plaything?"" Yeah it would. I met a couple once or twice and HE said that I was a "plaything" for him and his wife. I never met them again. That really did piss me off. In fact, I can't remember the last time I was that pissed off with a couple on here. Fair enough I probably was/am but there was no need to tell me that like I was some sort of contraption. That really pee'd me off that did. | |||
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"If a couple called you their "plaything?"" Yes, very much so. I'm not interested in being just a sexual object for someone. (Unless I had specifically sought out sexual objectification, then I would proberbly find it hot.) | |||
"I use the term playmates for my "friends" all the time..." That's a completely different word with a completely different conotation all together. Imo. | |||
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"Sooooo what's everyone's opinion on fuck-puppet "Depends where they want to stick their hands | |||
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"If a couple called you their "plaything?" Yeah it would. I met a couple once or twice and HE said that I was a "plaything" for him and his wife. I never met them again. That really did piss me off. In fact, I can't remember the last time I was that pissed off with a couple on here. Fair enough I probably was/am but there was no need to tell me that like I was some sort of contraption. That really pee'd me off that did. " | |||
"Quite often people are referred to as things on here. Plaything along with anything,which people often call someone they don't think is up to their standard,are both offensive to me. A thing is an inanimate object you have no feelings for or chemistry with,it implies they are worthless. " | |||
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"Reason I've stopped meeting couples alone. Their 'plaything' for a few hours to fill their fantasies is not something I want to be apart of anymore " Iv not even started and being called that has put me off a bit. | |||
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"For us a 3sum is exactly that . A 3 way thing. For all to enjoy,not just us as a couple" | |||
"Reason I've stopped meeting couples alone. Their 'plaything' for a few hours to fill their fantasies is not something I want to be apart of anymore " When I first joined this site I used to think the same way. But then I thought "hmm well Ben... you kind of are". So in my own head I'd accepted that and I knew that was the deal. But it's a totally different matter entirely when a couple actually comes right out and says it to you. Like in my case above (a few posts up). | |||
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"Reason I've stopped meeting couples alone. Their 'plaything' for a few hours to fill their fantasies is not something I want to be apart of anymore When I first joined this site I used to think the same way. But then I thought "hmm well Ben... you kind of are". So in my own head I'd accepted that and I knew that was the deal. But it's a totally different matter entirely when a couple actually comes right out and says it to you. Like in my case above (a few posts up). " That's why I've left the couples to find other willing women, it just isn't my thing. I felt a little sad after meets too, they'd be left to discuss the meet, probably followed by more sex and cuddles where as I'd be alone cuddling pillow!!  | |||
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"I use the term playmates for my "friends" all the time... Playmates is fine "Playmate yes, plaything no | |||
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"Offended.. Hell yes. Cheeky twats. A thing is an object. We're either playing as friends or we're not playing at all. " | |||
"As long as it wasn't meant in a condescending or patronising tone and was a term of endearment then no offence would be taken." | |||
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"We have met women who specifically asked to be treated as a couple's 'plaything'. It doesn't necessarily follow that there is then any lack of respect, consideration, mutual enjoyment or appreciation on the parts of anyone involved. Of course, if a 'plaything' is not what you are seeking to be, you are likely to find it very offensive if that's what you are referred to as. And it indicates a lack of consideration from the couple concerned." Lack of consideration in a first message. | |||
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"We have met women who specifically asked to be treated as a couple's 'plaything'. It doesn't necessarily follow that there is then any lack of respect, consideration, mutual enjoyment or appreciation on the parts of anyone involved. Of course, if a 'plaything' is not what you are seeking to be, you are likely to find it very offensive if that's what you are referred to as. And it indicates a lack of consideration from the couple concerned. Lack of consideration in a first message." Yes, that's how it sounds. Or perhaps they misjudged what they thought you were looking for. Either way, not a succesful start! | |||
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"As long as it wasn't meant in a condescending or patronising tone and was a term of endearment then no offence would be taken." True. But I can generally sense when it's one way traffic and that's normally when I go cold. When I sense it's all about them and absolutely dick all about me that's when I'll go cold and switch off. | |||
"Probably not offended as such, but that right there is the main reason I'm not into meeting couples. I'm nobody's toy, plaything or performing seal; I like it to be all about me and what I want and need as well as the person I'm meeting, and that's not what came across at all in the majority of approaches I got, where it was all about what I could do for their experience; not what they could do for mine." | |||
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"Probably not offended as such, but that right there is the main reason I'm not into meeting couples. I'm nobody's toy, plaything or performing seal; I like it to be all about me and what I want and need as well as the person I'm meeting, and that's not what came across at all in the majority of approaches I got, where it was all about what I could do for their experience; not what they could do for mine." Hence it being really difficult to find the right couple to play with. I see so many threads about it being difficult to meet single bi fems, but honestly, I've found the prevailing attitude from couples who've contacted me to be one of me providing a service to aid their fantasies. | |||
"If a couple called you their "plaything?" It would depend who they were, the context, and how it was said. I've been called a bald, ugly tosser before and taken it in good spirits.
Mr ddc"Who called you that!!! I'll sort em out (it wasn't me was it?) Lol!
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"If a couple called you their "plaything?"" Chance would be a fine thing! | |||
"Not if it was a couple of ladies "I bet | |||
"If a couple called you their "plaything?" Chance would be a fine thing! "Howi your a good looking chap!! | |||
"If a couple called you their "plaything?" Chance would be a fine thing!
Howi your a good looking chap!! "Well maybe, maybe not, but I still can't find a couple to call me their plaything! | |||
"If a couple called you their "plaything?" Chance would be a fine thing!
Howi your a good looking chap!!
Well maybe, maybe not, but I still can't find a couple to call me their plaything! "You can be my playmate | |||
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"If a couple called you their "plaything?" Chance would be a fine thing!
Howi your a good looking chap!!
Well maybe, maybe not, but I still can't find a couple to call me their plaything!
You can be my playmate "You say all the right things. You're on! | |||
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"From reading all the posts, in general it seems single women don't like to be treated as sex objects, but single men would love the opportunity. Thank goodness we only meet single men "Don't get me wrong I know I'm a sex object to most, but I don't want to hear it. I always make the most of my meets also as to not feel like a sex object. | |||
"If a couple called you their "plaything?" Chance would be a fine thing!
Howi your a good looking chap!!
Well maybe, maybe not, but I still can't find a couple to call me their plaything!
You can be my playmate
You say all the right things. You're on! "Very nice pics, I feel a bit flushed now  | |||
"If a couple called you their "plaything?" Chance would be a fine thing!
Howi your a good looking chap!!
Well maybe, maybe not, but I still can't find a couple to call me their plaything!
You can be my playmate
You say all the right things. You're on!
Very nice pics, I feel a bit flushed now "Oh, hello...and thank you. Nice pics yourself | |||
" Don't get me wrong I know I'm a sex object to most, but I don't want to hear it." No-one should feel like they're only a sex object, ever. Where's the fun in that? Surely mutual fun should always be just that: mutual. I do feel though that it is beholden on couples to always ensure any single person is comfortable - as a couple you have strength in numbers, whereas it must always be more daunting for a single person. | |||
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" Don't get me wrong I know I'm a sex object to most, but I don't want to hear it. No-one should feel like they're only a sex object, ever. Where's the fun in that? Surely mutual fun should always be just that: mutual. I do feel though that it is beholden on couples to always ensure any single person is comfortable - as a couple you have strength in numbers, whereas it must always be more daunting for a single person." I quite enjoy being a sex object at times. Even though I get treated like a toy at times I still feel I have 'the power'. | |||
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"If a couple called you their "plaything?"" I would prefer to be called your plaything | |||
"If a couple called you their "plaything?"" Like most things it would really depend on how it was said and by whom. It might give us pause for thought rather than actually offend us if we didn't already know them. | |||
"If a couple called you their "plaything?"" I would just think they lack tact or intelligence to communicate properly. | |||
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"If a couple called you their "plaything?" Yeah it would. I met a couple once or twice and HE said that I was a "plaything" for him and his wife. I never met them again. That really did piss me off. In fact, I can't remember the last time I was that pissed off with a couple on here. Fair enough I probably was/am but there was no need to tell me that like I was some sort of contraption. That really pee'd me off that did. " So it annoyed you a bit then | |||
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"I use the term playmates for my "friends" all the time... Playmates is fine " never refer to the fems or couples we play with as a thing | |||
"If a couple called you their "plaything?"" no it would be fine | |||
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" Don't get me wrong I know I'm a sex object to most, but I don't want to hear it. No-one should feel like they're only a sex object, ever. Where's the fun in that? Surely mutual fun should always be just that: mutual. I do feel though that it is beholden on couples to always ensure any single person is comfortable - as a couple you have strength in numbers, whereas it must always be more daunting for a single person. I quite enjoy being a sex object at times. Even though I get treated like a toy at times I still feel I have 'the power'. " I'm the same. I Dom from the bottom! Its an unspoken rule for me. | |||
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"Reason I've stopped meeting couples alone. Their 'plaything' for a few hours to fill their fantasies is not something I want to be apart of anymore When I first joined this site I used to think the same way. But then I thought "hmm well Ben... you kind of are". So in my own head I'd accepted that and I knew that was the deal. But it's a totally different matter entirely when a couple actually comes right out and says it to you. Like in my case above (a few posts up). That's why I've left the couples to find other willing women, it just isn't my thing. I felt a little sad after meets too, they'd be left to discuss the meet, probably followed by more sex and cuddles where as I'd be alone cuddling pillow!! "Awww
Meh , yep been called a lot worse , sawn off ginger runt, as a term of affection,
Mind you I've been called butter cup , which is an Afro t too far!!
I'm no ones cup!!! | |||
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"To us it is defiantly down to context. We are actively looking for a female plaything. A lady to be used by us for our pleasure. However that would be very much by mutual agreement before we met. I can also see it being used in other contexts without problem but it certainly does have the possibility to cause offence." See i don't like your second paragraph, that gets my back up. I understand what you are saying though. | |||
"We conciously avoid this and don't particularly like it, it doesn't play any part in our thought process when meeting. For us it's a joint experience with the said person(s) which is why we tend not to have socials prior, our social is during the meet, before, after and sometimes during the fun as we feel it takes away that 'plaything' element making the meet more personal and less mechanical. We're always concious of this and try to get the balance just right so all of us are getting an equal amount from the meet without anyone feeling they're the spare part. Him" | |||
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"If a couple called you their "plaything?"" I'd prefer pleasure bot | |||
"If a couple called you their "plaything?"" let me think about that for a minute, no ,  . | |||
"If a couple called you their "plaything?"." We are all playthings to other people! So what? We are here for sex and if we have a fantasy about meeting others and fucking their brains out, we are not looking for relationships! For the time we are together, we use their bodies! They use ours too.. Otherwise, we would all be doing this out of the kindness of our hearts and basically giving "pity fucks"! I do not believe that anyone on here is that altruistic! (if they are, I can message our phone number! ) | |||
"If a couple called you their "plaything?". We are all playthings to other people! So what? We are here for sex and if we have a fantasy about meeting others and fucking their brains out, we are not looking for relationships! For the time we are together, we use their bodies! They use ours too.. Otherwise, we would all be doing this out of the kindness of our hearts and basically giving "pity fucks"! I do not believe that anyone on here is that altruistic! (if they are, I can message our phone number! )"I think you're missing the point. To me, playmates would be fine because that implies a level of equality, plaything (especially when said by a couple about a single) feels like something just there for their benefit, not mine. Yes it's just sex not a relationship. But it's sex for my enjoyment too not just theirs. | |||
"If a couple called you their "plaything?". We are all playthings to other people! So what? We are here for sex and if we have a fantasy about meeting others and fucking their brains out, we are not looking for relationships! For the time we are together, we use their bodies! They use ours too.. Otherwise, we would all be doing this out of the kindness of our hearts and basically giving "pity fucks"! I do not believe that anyone on here is that altruistic! (if they are, I can message our phone number! )"I disagree! no man or anyone I play with or fuck is a "plaything" to me and never will be. Yes it's just sex! However I enjoy good sex, sex with a big sexual connection, sex with most Iv gotten to know. | |||
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"I think you're missing the point. To me, playmates would be fine because that implies a level of equality, plaything (especially when said by a couple about a single) feels like something just there for their benefit, not mine. Yes it's just sex not a relationship. But it's sex for my enjoyment too not just theirs." I think you are missing the point, you have just confirmed what I have said.! I am speaking for couples mainly, because singles are not swingers! If they were, every guy or gal who went out on a Saturday night to pull would be a swinger! Fact is that we are all in it for what WE want! No ifs ands or buts! If it wasn't for YOU wanting sex, you wouldn't do it! Or are you saying that even if you didn't want sex and someone else did, you would put out? Whether we were to meet a couple or a single, we would be using them for our ends and they would be using us for their ends! OK, it would be in a mutual way, but it is still using. Otherwise as I said, that would be a very altruistic thing to do... | |||
"I think you're missing the point. To me, playmates would be fine because that implies a level of equality, plaything (especially when said by a couple about a single) feels like something just there for their benefit, not mine. Yes it's just sex not a relationship. But it's sex for my enjoyment too not just theirs. I think you are missing the point, you have just confirmed what I have said.! I am speaking for couples mainly, because singles are not swingers! If they were, every guy or gal who went out on a Saturday night to pull would be a swinger! Fact is that we are all in it for what WE want! No ifs ands or buts! If it wasn't for YOU wanting sex, you wouldn't do it! Or are you saying that even if you didn't want sex and someone else did, you would put out? Whether we were to meet a couple or a single, we would be using them for our ends and they would be using us for their ends! OK, it would be in a mutual way, but it is still using. Otherwise as I said, that would be a very altruistic thing to do... " I haven't confirmed what you said. To me, plaything implies that the 'using' is a one way street and that's why I don't like it. If it's mutual, that's totally different. And yeah I'm not a swinger, I don't see how that makes any difference. | |||
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"And I do disagree about your singles can't be swingers argument. I'm not, but a lot of the singles on this site I would consider swingers." Why? | |||
"And I do disagree about your singles can't be swingers argument. I'm not, but a lot of the singles on this site I would consider swingers. Why? " because your idea of what swinging is quite outdated...and has been for years. | |||
"And I do disagree about your singles can't be swingers argument. I'm not, but a lot of the singles on this site I would consider swingers. Why? because your idea of what swinging is quite outdated...and has been for years."
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"Context is everything. There are many terms that some people would like on here but would offend others so ultimately there is no right or wrong answer here." | |||
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"If a couple called you their "plaything?"" That's an interesting one. If I knew them well and knew it to be a light-hearted joke, I'd have no problem. But my hackles would be raised if someone I don't know well said it to me. | |||
"And I do disagree about your singles can't be swingers argument. I'm not, but a lot of the singles on this site I would consider swingers. Why? " Because I think swinging has evolved from just being about couples putting their car keys in a bowl. | |||
"And I do disagree about your singles can't be swingers argument. I'm not, but a lot of the singles on this site I would consider swingers. Why? Because I think swinging has evolved from just being about couples putting their car keys in a bowl."
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"If a couple called you their "plaything?"" Offended, not at all I would be delighted ! As long as they used me as a plaything not just said it. | |||
"And I do disagree about your singles can't be swingers argument. I'm not, but a lot of the singles on this site I would consider swingers. Why? because your idea of what swinging is quite outdated...and has been for years." So anyone who goes down the pub/club and pulls is now a swinger? Just because you are on a swingers site, doesn't make you a swinger! I note it is the singles who have replied to what I typed and I would expect that. Some couples who use singles would think the same. Here you are on a swingers site. But think on this, just because you stand in a garage workshop, does that make you a mechanic? My view is only outdated because you are so desperate to belong to something. | |||
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"I quite like it personally being a couples plaything can be a real turn on " | |||
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"I quite like it personally being a couples plaything can be a real turn on "Give me a try | |||
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"If a couple called you their "plaything?"" I'd be deeply offended and would verbally tear them to pieces.... | |||
"And I do disagree about your singles can't be swingers argument. I'm not, but a lot of the singles on this site I would consider swingers. Why? because your idea of what swinging is quite outdated...and has been for years. So anyone who goes down the pub/club and pulls is now a swinger? Just because you are on a swingers site, doesn't make you a swinger! I note it is the singles who have replied to what I typed and I would expect that. Some couples who use singles would think the same. Here you are on a swingers site. But think on this, just because you stand in a garage workshop, does that make you a mechanic? My view is only outdated because you are so desperate to belong to something."desperate to belong? get a grip.... you are more desperate to prove that you have something more to offer than any singles can... not that often I meet people from the pub and engage in group sex...you have used that analogy for years now... | |||
"And I do disagree about your singles can't be swingers argument. I'm not, but a lot of the singles on this site I would consider swingers. Why? because your idea of what swinging is quite outdated...and has been for years. So anyone who goes down the pub/club and pulls is now a swinger? Just because you are on a swingers site, doesn't make you a swinger! I note it is the singles who have replied to what I typed and I would expect that. Some couples who use singles would think the same. Here you are on a swingers site. But think on this, just because you stand in a garage workshop, does that make you a mechanic? My view is only outdated because you are so desperate to belong to something.
desperate to belong?
get a grip....
you are more desperate to prove that you have something more to offer than any singles can...
not that often I meet people from the pub and engage in group sex...you have used that analogy for years now...
"And it still holds! If you are really saying that singles are swingers, then every single that goes out on the pull is a swinger. Whether it is group sex or not. That is not the usual scenario on sites like this. Look at the profiles, men looking for women. Look at the posts on here, men looking for women. Not that many men looking for group sex at all... If you need to call yourself a swinger because it makes you feel part of a group, then go ahead. But as far as we and others are concerned, swingers are couples. They bring a partner with them. They are not just an extra cock or fanny! Some couples on the forum won't agree, but c'est la vie. We don't call ourselves swingers. We are just a couple who like the occasional hook up with other couples. Yes we have met singles, but they are not part of us, they are extra! They are something WE want, we are not being altruistic in any way. It is for our benefit, or we simply wouldn't do it! Any couple that tells you they are meeting singles for the singles benefit are quite simply lying! They are doing it because THEY want to do it. If it happens to benefit the single, then all is good.... | |||
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"If a couple called you their "plaything?"" Not really. If she was talking to her husband as she sat on my face, I wouldn't mind at all and positively encourage her | |||
