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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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My mum found my fleshlight and went crazy at me and we havnt spoken for a few days
I know there are a lot of older couples on here that have children around my age!
I was just wondering how you would react if you found out that your 20 year old was using sex toys?? |
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"My mum found my fleshlight and went crazy at me and we havnt spoken for a few days
I know there are a lot of older couples on here that have children around my age!
I was just wondering how you would react if you found out that your 20 year old was using sex toys??"
We would leave it where we found it and never mention it. We firmly believe that once past 18 their sex life is their private business unless it's abusive or dangerous.
Your mum might be embarrassed but in my opinion she needs to be adult about this. If you feel able to talk to her do so but I understand how that might be difficult, otherwise leave it and in future clean your own room  |
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"Oh and when I did find porno mags when he was 13 I just told him it was completely normal and to be descrete as I didn't want to find them round the house
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"My mum found my fleshlight and went crazy at me and we havnt spoken for a few days
I know there are a lot of older couples on here that have children around my age!
I was just wondering how you would react if you found out that your 20 year old was using sex toys??"
Generally, if it wash a straight toy I.E dildo for a girl, flesh light for a guy I wouldn't care.
If it was a toy associated with the opposite sex then I'd ask them about it in case they were hiding something it would do them good to get "out" |
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As soon as they are teenage (or upon discovering anything otherwise embarrassing for them), get them a lockable cupboard for their room and suggest they use it to keep anything private put well away where other younger family members wouldn't come across it, like, oh, "personal letters", that kind of things, with the reinforcement that it's private even from us, apart from there's any problem that comes up about anything illegal (specifically, drugs). |
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"My mum found my fleshlight and went crazy at me and we havnt spoken for a few days
I know there are a lot of older couples on here that have children around my age!
I was just wondering how you would react if you found out that your 20 year old was using sex toys??"
We're parents of an 18 and 20year old and would consider toys and of pornography perfectly normal. We've always been able to talk openly about sex and relationships with them both.
I personally think this is a huge over reaction. You are an adult after all.
You should definitely try to talk to your mum about it and be more discrete in future. It can be hard for some parents to accept that their children have grown up or feel uncomfortable about sex and toys.
Hope you get things sorted. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My mum found my fleshlight and went crazy at me and we havnt spoken for a few days
I know there are a lot of older couples on here that have children around my age!
I was just wondering how you would react if you found out that your 20 year old was using sex toys??"
I have two daughters aged 20 and 22 I have found various sex toys in their bedrooms its part of life, people masterbate and my kids are normal so why wouldnt they?
I think your mother is acting unreasonable, I have never even mentioned it if I have stumbled across my kids toys, I just leave them be and get on with collecting dirty laundry |
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I used to raid my Dad's porno collection as a teen and forget to put the box back one day. He called me upstairs and the box was still on the bed. Was embarassed and scared as f**k.
Only thing he said was "Hey I get it, but just don't leave it about for the littl'uns."
Sounds like your mum needs to respect your needs as an adult.
On the opposite side, I came across my parent's sex toys once and was absolutely fine about it. My Dad would probably be a far moodier bugger if they were still going haha |
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"No member of my family has ever had sex, or seen anyone naked. I would be very disappointed if they did.
My family are just like this too!  "
I'd not realised just how lucky I am.
My parents are fairly open about sex too - especially my mum.
I expected more people my generation, and older, to be less hung up about sex... It's normal for heavens sake! |
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"No member of my family has ever had sex, or seen anyone naked. I would be very disappointed if they did.
My family are just like this too! 
mine are too no cruel how my mum had so many kids"
How about when you were watching a movie and sex scene came on? Suddenly it was time to grab another drink or do the washing up! |
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Don't know what to say here. Your Mum's being rediculous (unless you left it lying on the dining room table or selotaped it to the TV, of course).
Newsflash: Adult human being masturbates... Shock horror! |
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"My stepdaughter has had toys since she was 15 and its normal I think for people to use them
Uh that ain't cool "
Why? You're not going to be able to stop them feeling sexual urges once they hit puberty...
Rather than making them think it's something to be ashamed of, surely it's better to encourage them to deal with it in a healthy way?
Rather that than them going out, shagging eachother and getting pregnant... |
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Did you leave it in the cornflakes ?
If it was CLEAN and in YOUR room in a private draw or cupboard then your mum shouldn't say anything about it.
Are you one of those 'adults' who picks and chooses when to be adult e.g. mum still does your cleaning and washing and goes in your room for your stuff.....AND she would rather you didn't leave a spunky flesh lite where she has to see it or move it.
I expect she might not have lectured you about sexual morality just about respecting her privacy or modesty.
Put your fanny away when you're done with it. |
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Tell her to get a grip. Me and my mam were gutting my bedroom out the other day and got to the ominous brown box. She picked up the butt plug looked st strange and just put it down without even asking I had my first bullet when I was 14. it's normal. People masturbate. I bet she does too. :p |
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personally I do find it hard to except that my teenage son is obviously in throes of experimenting sexually but I know it's completely normal.
Go easy on your mum she might be finding the adjustment of you being an adult hard to handle in relation to sexual side.
Maybe suggest that you'll be responsible for your room & keep it tidy so she doesn't have to come in.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My mum found my fleshlight and went crazy at me and we havnt spoken for a few days
I know there are a lot of older couples on here that have children around my age!
I was just wondering how you would react if you found out that your 20 year old was using sex toys??"
Where was it? She went mad in what way?
I think that's incredibly rude of her. You're an adult.
If I had a 20 year old I'd respect their privacy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My mum found my fleshlight and went crazy at me and we havnt spoken for a few days
I know there are a lot of older couples on here that have children around my age!
I was just wondering how you would react if you found out that your 20 year old was using sex toys??"
i have a spare room you can have!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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In my opinion you're 20 years old and that's old enough to make your own decisions. It is natural to want toys, I'm 19 and I have a few plus outfits. I'd trust my family to not go through my things but if they found them accidentally it wouldn't be a big deal. Luckily my family have always been open and honest about these things instead of shielding me in the dark so I find it easier to talk with them if something comes up.
If it is an option for you, you should set things straight and let your mum know that you are an adult and it isn't really her business...
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Thankyou everyone for your responses
No I was up one night wanking must of repeated about 4/5 times and just left t on my floor and then fell asleep!
Then the next morning I overslept and my mum came in to wake me!
"What an earth is that?"
You can imagine the rest ;(
I'm so embarrasst! ;(
I think I may have a problem ;(
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My stepdaughter has had toys since she was 15 and its normal I think for people to use them
Uh that ain't cool
Why? You're not going to be able to stop them feeling sexual urges once they hit puberty...
Rather than making them think it's something to be ashamed of, surely it's better to
encourage them to deal with it in a healthy way?
Rather that than them going out, shagging eachother and getting pregnant..."
thank you your right |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thankyou everyone for your responses
No I was up one night wanking must of repeated about 4/5 times and just left t on my floor and then fell asleep!
Then the next morning I overslept and my mum came in to wake me!
"What an earth is that?"
You can imagine the rest ;(
I'm so embarrasst! ;(
I think I may have a problem ;(
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so she didnt go mad at you for having a toy, she was pissed off at it being on the floor in plain sight, used!!!
bit different really!!!   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I wouldn't do anything. I barely go into my son's room anyway and I only pick up washing or dirty cups etc when I do. He doesn't hide his porn DVDs and knows he doesn't have to. Even if he were 16 I wouldn't say anything. I would rather he had a gf but needs must. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thankyou everyone for your responses
No I was up one night wanking must of repeated about 4/5 times and just left t on my floor and then fell asleep!
Then the next morning I overslept and my mum came in to wake me!
"What an earth is that?"
You can imagine the rest ;(
I'm so embarrasst! ;(
I think I may have a problem ;(
so she didnt go mad at you for having a toy, she was pissed off at it being on the floor in plain sight, used!!!
bit different really!!! "
Why? He fell asleep. Why not just step over it and not make such a big deal. Not like he left it on the kitchen worktop. |
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It's an interesting scenario.
Technically it's her house and she can do as she pleases.
Although in the end, is a piece of plastic worth ending a relationship with your son over?
In the end you are going to be picking her care home!! 
Besides if she is pissed about the sex toy, just wait until she see's the internet history on the router.  |
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