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Where do you find these?!
I am constantly on the look out - I seem to click with people, have a meet, then after a few days they fizzle out of the picture!
I promise I'm not THAT bad in bed! 
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"Would it help to say that's what you're after in your profile or would that just encourage people to say they were looking for that too even though they really aren't?"
I think that would encourage men to say that's what they are interested in, when they're not really...  |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Would it help to say that's what you're after in your profile or would that just encourage people to say they were looking for that too even though they really aren't?"
Bad idea.
People will bullshit just to get a meet.
OP - just meet people. If one meet progresses to a repeat - enjoy it. Even then don't label it. If you BOTH decide you'd like to assume a FB relationship then give it a try, but still under no illusion it will last a week, a month or longer. Set ground rules. Then just see what happens.
Trying to do anything else won't work.
Good luck.  
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"Don't look.
If you set out with an agenda you'll end up disappointed.
If it happens - it happens.
Did for us and moved on from being FB's to a whole lot more.
A"
Just be 100% clear on what you want and, just as important, what they want.  |
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"Would it help to say that's what you're after in your profile or would that just encourage people to say they were looking for that too even though they really aren't?
Bad idea.
People will bullshit just to get a meet.
OP - just meet people. If one meet progresses to a repeat - enjoy it. Even then don't label it. If you BOTH decide you'd like to assume a FB relationship then give it a try, but still under no illusion it will last a week, a month or longer. Set ground rules. Then just see what happens.
Trying to do anything else won't work.
Good luck.
A"
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By *onyneMan
over a year ago
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Building up a good understanding and relationship [in the friends with benefits meaning of the word...] depends on a good understanding of each other, recognition of things like availability, trust, mutual exploring ideas [being on same page...] and generally getting along with whatever else happens that isn't the physical bit [conversation and general attitudes towards life, that sort of thing]
...after that it should be fairly straightforward if you get on and share the same approach to it all... |
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over a year ago
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"Where do you find these?!
I am constantly on the look out - I seem to click with people, have a meet, then after a few days they fizzle out of the picture!
I promise I'm not THAT bad in bed!
Any advice?! "
Mine just happens |
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"Actually, just had a brainwave. Go on a dating site, men will pretend they want a relationship to get a shag. Woman knows this, but all she wants is a FWB so is happy.
The End.   
(Some women, some men, other options are available.) "
Just trotting off to a website full of fish... ... Ha ha. |
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Don't give up hope curvy brunette or Kelly, there are lots of guys that would love that relationship with you its just the preverbial needle in a haystack syndrome.
So stay positive or failing that consider moving to the Midlands
Have a fab bank holiday weekend all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Actually, just had a brainwave. Go on a dating site, men will pretend they want a relationship to get a shag. Woman knows this, but all she wants is a FWB so is happy.
The End.
(Some women, some men, other options are available.)
Just trotting off to a website full of fish... ... Ha ha. "
Right behind you...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would it help to say that's what you're after in your profile or would that just encourage people to say they were looking for that too even though they really aren't?
I think that would encourage men to say that's what they are interested in, when they're not
really... "
I completely agree. Guys tell you what you want to hear. I find this happens too and it's often down to life. Unable to find the time that you're both free, they find girlfriends, they turn out to want to shag everything they can.... I'm beginning to think it's impossible. |
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"Actually, just had a brainwave. Go on a dating site, men will pretend they want a relationship to get a shag. Woman knows this, but all she wants is a FWB so is happy.
The End.
(Some women, some men, other options are available.)
Just trotting off to a website full of fish... ... Ha ha.
Right behind you... "
Ooooohhhh...! If we skip and hold hands our innocence might be more believable! |
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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago
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"Actually, just had a brainwave. Go on a dating site, men will pretend they want a relationship to get a shag. Woman knows this, but all she wants is a FWB so is happy.
The End.
(Some women, some men, other options are available.)
Just trotting off to a website full of fish... ... Ha ha.
Right behind you... "
Fishing nets at the ready girls |
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"Actually, just had a brainwave. Go on a dating site, men will pretend they want a relationship to get a shag. Woman knows this, but all she wants is a FWB so is happy.
The End.
(Some women, some men, other options are available.)
Just trotting off to a website full of fish... ... Ha ha.
Right behind you...
Fishing nets at the ready girls "
I'm taking a boat... Feel I will be in it for the long haul! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My last one I convinced her to take a second date with a nice guy she had met on a datting site. Now they are all loved up leaving me to one side. I am pleased for her now she is happy.
I need a new one now |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Actually, just had a brainwave. Go on a dating site, men will pretend they want a relationship to get a shag. Woman knows this, but all she wants is a FWB so is happy.
The End.
(Some women, some men, other options are available.)
Just trotting off to a website full of fish... ... Ha ha.
Right behind you...
Fishing nets at the ready girls "
Or a harpoon. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been seeking a friend with benefits for years - no amount of witty banter, poetic language, intelligent discussion or hot pics seems to bring her any closer to the surface however. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"I've been seeking a friend with benefits for years - no amount of witty banter, poetic language, intelligent discussion or hot pics seems to bring her any closer to the surface however."
Try looking for one that doesn't have witty banter, poetic language, intelligent discussion or hot pics then!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been seeking a friend with benefits for years - no amount of witty banter, poetic language, intelligent discussion or hot pics seems to bring her any closer to the surface however.
Try looking for one that doesn't have witty banter, poetic language, intelligent discussion or hot pics then!
A"
Nice try - if I hadn't used the 'bring her closer to the surface' line implying that those were all attributes I'd applied  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's just something that happens naturally if you meet regularly, very hard to out a label on something after one meet however great the sex was! x |
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"I think it's just something that happens naturally if you meet regularly, very hard to out a label on something after one meet however great the sex was! x"
Exactly what I mean - I want to meet more regularly than once... Maybe I am shocking in bed! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"maybe you need to sort the friend part out first then introduce the benefits part later (that's my theory at least) "
That's actually a pretty good thought, but you could still get 'friend zoned'. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd love to find a long term friend with benefits rather than a long term relationship, but not had much luck in the last 2 years of trying to be honest.
I won't be giving up though and you never know what's around the corner. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Seems strange to want to be an instant play partner with a stranger from the get go.
Thought it was supposed to be; you meet someone it goes well, you meet again, you get along, meet again, being play partners makes sense, you become play partners.
Anyway, good luck in your endeavour to do things to increase your chances of sex. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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I remember the first meet with one of my fwbs. It wasn't all that and I expected never to see him again. We played together for 9 years
You just never know which one of your meets will become a fb/fwb. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would love a FWB but I don't think many on here do as they enjoy sex with a lot of other people.
To me a FWB would bring along a greater understanding of each other than just an occasional meet."
I have several. I do like being with lots of people but i also enjoy seeing some guys more than once. Also, some people on here are married so gonna see the same person every day. So there are those of us out there who enjoy FWB and anything else really.
Only time i don't want repeat meets is if i didn't enjoy the guy sexually as much as other guys i'm fucking or he did something to put me off when we met the first time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Where do you find these?!
I am constantly on the look out - I seem to click with people, have a meet, then after a few days they fizzle out of the picture!
I promise I'm not THAT bad in bed!
Any advice?! "
same. i had bit of a rant other week lol try have a meet with someone i find attracted and have a 'regular' than a one nighter and they disappear lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's just something that happens naturally if you meet regularly, very hard to out a label on something after one meet however great the sex was! x
Exactly what I mean - I want to meet more regularly than once... Maybe I am shocking in bed! "
I doubt that!! Do you spend much time getting to know before meets? I do try to build up friendships before the sex but I think it's hard to find someone where you both want the same, I've had guys want fwb but I've not been that bothered and vice versa x |
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I met someone off another site in january and have seen her numerous times since.
We've never been out, just meet at each other's places. We like to chat about stuff, but it always ends up with sex, which of course is getting better the more times we do it
Wouldn't mind another fwb though lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Two of my fwbs are my exes. Not planned it just happened. It helped that we already knew each other inside out and had good chemistry, most of my breakups have been mutual and amicable. It's good to know I have them on my phone if I'm feeling frisky and vice versa. Now I'm not the kind of guy who likes to visit the same spot too many times if you get my gist! Hence why I'm on here. But it serves as a lifeline on those cold winter night when there's nothing decent on the telly and going out is just too much of a hassle lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I met someone off another site in january and have seen her numerous times since.
We've never been out, just meet at each other's places. We like to chat about stuff, but it always ends up with sex, which of course is getting better the more times we do it
Wouldn't mind another fwb though lol"
this is a fb not a fwb imo. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Where do you find these?!
I am constantly on the look out - I seem to click with people, have a meet, then after a few days they fizzle out of the picture!
I promise I'm not THAT bad in bed!
Any advice?! "
Doesn't work. Been there, tried it, just didn't work. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My friend with benefits turned into a friend on benefits. Sad story, we still talk on the phone, she is overdue a call. May do that later. This thread has jogged my memory |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i know a few people who were friends with benefits,it never works, always ends up people getting feelings for one another and either ends up happily ever after or a messy end to a friendship "
you know a few. so that qualifies you saying it never works? urm, i'll form my own opinion ta!!  |
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By *igDD95Man
over a year ago
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probably should have worded that better, what i meant to say was from the people i know that have had FWB, they didnt work out, either someone got too attached or they decided to stop due to getting relationships, im not saying it would never work in general, just from what i've seen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"probably should have worded that better, what i meant to say was from the people i know that have had FWB, they didnt work out, either someone got too attached or they decided to stop due to getting relationships, im not saying it would never work in general, just from what i've seen."
too attached is a problem for some, but only if its not mutual, if a guy i was seeing as an fwb found the love of his life id be happy for him, wouldnt be a problem.
I think reasons for wanting fwb plays a big part of whether or not it can work. |
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"I think it's just something that happens naturally if you meet regularly, very hard to out a label on something after one meet however great the sex was! x
Exactly what I mean - I want to meet more regularly than once... Maybe I am shocking in bed!
I doubt that!! Do you spend much time getting to know before meets? I do try to build up friendships before the sex but I think it's hard to find someone where you both want the same, I've had guys want fwb but I've not been that bothered and vice versa x"
I would say on average messaging and chatting and camming in a friends way for at least 3/4 weeks... |
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By *irceWoman
over a year ago
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"Where do you find these?!
I am constantly on the look out - I seem to click with people, have a meet, then after a few days they fizzle out of the picture!
I promise I'm not THAT bad in bed!
Any advice?! "
Explore fantasy's with them, seems to keep friendships alive and kicking |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Where do you find these?!
I am constantly on the look out - I seem to click with people, have a meet, then after a few days they fizzle out of the picture!
I promise I'm not THAT bad in bed!
Any advice?! "
If you find out let me know!!
I had one friend who I got close with and we fucked a few times (she was my last sexual encounter ... almost 7/8 months ago!!  ) but she's now with someone so she ruined it! Haha.
We were both sexually open and easy to talk about our experiences and that's how it got started. It's hard though .. most people want relationships or friendships and don't like a halfway house so it never happens.
FWB would be perfect for me right now  |
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"Where do you find these?!
I am constantly on the look out - I seem to click with people, have a meet, then after a few days they fizzle out of the picture!
I promise I'm not THAT bad in bed!
Any advice?! "
you can certainly find that in Newcastle..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It takes time and patience. Over the past couple of years I have been lucky and have found 3/4 on this site who have become fwb. It's not something you go looking for. It will happen naturally. |
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A fwb is what I'm looking for and have had it before and was a whole lot of fun.
Things came to an end some time ago but just what i could do with now.
So just keep looking, you just never know when it can happen |
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"Would it help to say that's what you're after in your profile or would that just encourage people to say they were looking for that too even though they really aren't?
I think that would encourage men to say that's what they are interested in, when they're not really... "
Men say all the time that they are looking for a regular fwb, and not looking to fuck the entire site, then have 76 veris in 4 months! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Where do you find these?!
I am constantly on the look out - I seem to click with people, have a meet, then after a few days they fizzle out of the picture!
I promise I'm not THAT bad in bed!
Any advice?! "
I would like to find one too maybe there is a secret stash we dont know about lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a FB with a cpl of people. Funny though cos they not from Fab, only met one great woman from here. Don't seem to have much luck on here. But don't think that that makes it sex everyday. Sometimes it a few weeks and sometimes you get 2 wanting the same day. It's all hit and miss.
I don't want strings or complications. If they want to see me they drop me a text. If not its not a problem. I just don't have time for a full relationship but still love the sex. |
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By *ilberryMan
over a year ago
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My fwb, was a friend who had a fantasy of having me, I was open with her and we got together and had some great fun, we are still friends, though we don't meet for sex now, and thats nice? Keep looking, there are so many people who want a fwb,its the taboo thing that stops us all communicating!  |
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