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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Can anyone offer any advice on trying to get a girlfriend to swing iv mentioned dogging and shes up for trying it but only with people watching not joining in |
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"Can anyone offer any advice on trying to get a girlfriend to swing iv mentioned dogging and shes up for trying it but only with people watching not joining in "
That's a better reaction than "fuck off, you kinky twisted pervert".
Are you in a Flonting-naryside relationship? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can anyone offer any advice on trying to get a girlfriend to swing iv mentioned dogging and shes up for trying it but only with people watching not joining in "
Well if you set up a really nice swing in the garden with a floral seat cushion and stuff she might ....
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Baby steps. Take what she's offereing at the moment (people watching) and don't be pushy!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you persuade her to do something she may later regret you could find yourself being blamed, it can only be her own choice. If you love her, which I'm not disputing, then the last thing you'd want is to see her in a situation which she feels uncomfortable. |
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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago
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I would recommended a book by Tristan Taormino. Called Opening Up: a guide to creating and sustaining open relationships.
Also try listening to a podcast called Life on the swingset. I would recommend episode 200 for your situation. Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can anyone offer any advice on trying to get a girlfriend to swing iv mentioned dogging and shes up for trying it but only with people watching not joining in
That's a better reaction than "fuck off, you kinky twisted pervert".
Are you in a Flonting-naryside relationship? "
Steve that's about the 100 th time I've seen you mention that. . What the hell is that? ...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's just a case of taking small comfortable steps. We don't full swing.
First step is going to a club together. Then its full nudity in the jacuzzi full of strangers. Then its sex in a private room knowing other people are listening, we a up to pussy licking in the club couples room and jacuzzi with another couple present. |
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"Can anyone offer any advice on trying to get a girlfriend to swing iv mentioned dogging and shes up for trying it but only with people watching not joining in "
She's agreed to that much why not try it and see if it leads on to something else. What do you imagine we can suggest that will make your girlfriend change her mind? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We weren't sure when we started we agreed to just go to a club to see what it's like a few drinks later and a cock near her she was screaming to get the condoms funny what happens when they're d*unk eh I was the one who wasn't sure after that... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Show her your fab single bi male profile. At least it would be a conversation starter. Failing that respect her wishes and just fuck men off here."
Busted  |
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"Perhaps wanting to "get" your girlfriend to swing is not the right attitude?"
No harm in asking..or trying to convince someone of the merits of the lifestyle you enjoy living..especially if its something they've never really had to give any thought to.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If she's happy to be watched go for that (provided she's not being pushed into it) - I know on here it seems like everyone is into it but actually in the scheme of things most guys would love their partner to be happy to be watched - so you're already very lucky to have someone happy for that!
And who knows as her confidence increases as others have said, you might get there in time! Don't push it though as its meant to be fun for all!
Good luck! And enjoy yourselves  |
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Similarly to others' points, it's better if she discovers that she has a desire for something, then being dragged into it. Discuss fantasies as much as possible too, as people will open up, if the trust is there and it's the right situation - we don't always get the results we want though.
When sexually charged, we often push boundaries too,that we perhaps wouldn't have recognized we'd do.
If she's curious about dogging, you can choose a quieter spot, as being swamped with a gaggle could deter her. You always set the boundaries during play and dogging. An easy boundary is a locked vehicle.
Take your time when at a new place. Get a feel for it and its sense of safety - nowhere is 100% risk free, but checking a place out is better than finding an unexpected, but potentially avoidable, situation from arising.
Another option would be to have a pre-arranged meet with appropriate others. Even if they just perform and you watch and vice versa. It could avoid masses of guys etc and could be at a non dogging venue.
She might be open to expanding what the two of you do, based on that first step - but aim for her to suggest it.
If she'd like help finding the right others to go dogging with, you might 'stumble' across fab, in your search to help her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's just a case of taking small comfortable steps. We don't full swing.
First step is going to a club together. Then its full nudity in the jacuzzi full of strangers. Then its sex in a private room knowing other people are listening, we a up to pussy licking in the club couples room and jacuzzi with another couple present. "
we are the same soft only at the moment , mildred loves to be seen naked and enjoys some soft fun, we started at nude beach so she could be naked in public first but we kept well away from others so know one actually seen us closed , then after a few visits we got closer to others and now she loves guys to see her and enjoys the attention,
try doggin but you don't have to have any contact with others just let them see you through the windows, and maybe just mess about in the car lifting up her top flashing boobs and pantys first to see if she likes it before having full sex ect, small steps basicly,
if she don't like it and don't want anything else just accept it and explore your own sexlife together fantasys ect |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Similarly to others' points, it's better if she discovers that she has a desire for something, then being dragged into it. Discuss fantasies as much as possible too, as people will open up, if the trust is there and it's the right situation - we don't always get the results we want though.
When sexually charged, we often push boundaries too,that we perhaps wouldn't have recognized we'd do.
If she's curious about dogging, you can choose a quieter spot, as being swamped with a gaggle could deter her. You always set the boundaries during play and dogging. An easy boundary is a locked vehicle.
Take your time when at a new place. Get a feel for it and its sense of safety - nowhere is 100% risk free, but checking a place out is better than finding an unexpected, but potentially avoidable, situation from arising.
Another option would be to have a pre-arranged meet with appropriate others. Even if they just perform and you watch and vice versa. It could avoid masses of guys etc and could be at a non dogging venue.
She might be open to expanding what the two of you do, based on that first step - but aim for her to suggest it.
If she'd like help finding the right others to go dogging with, you might 'stumble' across fab, in your search to help her. "
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May I suggest that a club is far safer and more comfortable than dogging, no risk of getting caught, lockable rooms and a couples room or couples only night? Also people are far better behaved (in my experience), for fear of being ejected/loosing membership. Once in a swinging environment she can decide for herself. Just beware, she may love it and leave you standing, both literally and metaphorically! |
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