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Same as the Friends list - because some people like to keep certain elements private. I've met Couples and Ladies who do not have or want verifications as they feel they don't have to 'prove' they're genuine to anyone else. Their take on it is that people can either believe them or move on.
I think they can help some groups who maybe have to try harder for meets but it's that Forum favourite again - personal choice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ok then if you have verifications why hide them then lol xxxxxx mark and sheila"
because we can
if someone really wants to see our verifications,they only have to ask,then at our discretion we might just oblige
after all,no one invites all site members on their dates/meets |
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Because we dont want everyone to know our business.
It can also work against you by showing them all as we once did dot meet someone because they had a verification from someone we had met and did not like.
Judgemental we know but just another reason to hide them. |
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By *ustyWoman
over a year ago
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one guy asked me about my verifications, he wanted to know exactly what happend when i met, so that reason i dont show mine, he just wanted to get his kick of me telling him exactly what went on...... em dont think so as its no one elses business what happenes except those involved in the meet |
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In all fairness, there are some people who actually think that your verifications tell the full story! Like all the meets you've ever had will be here! Some one may be meeting every night of the week and have no verifications - why? They might go to clubs - they might go to parties - they may be a member of another site and get meets from that as well. Come on, lets get to grips with the verification system - it's to show that you're genuine and not a diary of your sexual activities! Z |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"one guy asked me about my verifications, he wanted to know exactly what happend when i met, so that reason i dont show mine, he just wanted to get his kick of me telling him exactly what went on...... em dont think so as its no one elses business what happenes except those involved in the meet"
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We've had this too and on one occasion shared the detail of one of our meets. The person then went and mailed our verifications to find out who it was we'd had that particular adventure with!
So we hide ours for that reason, it avoids people discussing us with others we've met, when we're unaware of it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We never leave a verification that refers to having had sex, sometimes we play sometimes we just meet socially, all our verification of people talk about the social side.
So the sex was great, best blow job ever, that would be my opinion but doesn't guarantee that the next guy will enjoy it, we talk about the people being genuine, easy to get on with, gsoh, non-pushy, similar to thier photographs, getting what it says on the tin etc
ie the important things that people should know about someone |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"one guy asked me about my verifications, he wanted to know exactly what happend when i met, so that reason i dont show mine, he just wanted to get his kick of me telling him exactly what went on...... em dont think so as its no one elses business what happenes except those involved in the meet"
The same reason as me, I was getting fed up of being asked about the details of this meet and that! I don't even think the people asking were interested in meeting, just as you say wanting a bit of tittilation from you explaining the details  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Am I the only one who hates the verification process?
Yes I have them
Yes I show SOME of them
Yes I give them
But I feel pressured by the site set up to do so.
I don't really want everyone to know who I have met. And the way some verifications are given of sexual prowess really embarrass me but guys leave them and then mail " why aren't you showing it" so I feel that I have to show them.
Then there's those that make the insinuation that you have something to hide by not showing them ( yes I have seen endless threads on this topic)
For some its like a badge of honour - a notch on the bed post
I will give them if asked ( guys I meet) but I do say right away it will be a social one.
To me it really does feel that there is too much importance placed on the verifications, esp when advice on how to get meets is always " only arrange to meet verified members" |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Must admit. I like to see verifications to see if people actually meet or not. I'm not interested in all the ins and outs of the meet itself. When I see lots of verifications verifying that they sound good on the phone, or they just go to socials, it just makes me wonder. If someone hides their verifications, then thats up to them, but doesnt it make you wonder if they are genuine or not!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Am I the only one who hates the verification process?
Yes I have them
Yes I show SOME of them
Yes I give them
But I feel pressured by the site set up to do so.
I don't really want everyone to know who I have met. And the way some verifications are given of sexual prowess really embarrass me but guys leave them and then mail " why aren't you showing it" so I feel that I have to show them.
Then there's those that make the insinuation that you have something to hide by not showing them ( yes I have seen endless threads on this topic)
For some its like a badge of honour - a notch on the bed post
I will give them if asked ( guys I meet) but I do say right away it will be a social one.
To me it really does feel that there is too much importance placed on the verifications, esp when advice on how to get meets is always " only arrange to meet verified members""
Agree with you 100%! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i hide all, mine because some nasty jealous woman mailed some of my friends and veris saying horrible things about me....."
Apart from the discretion factor your story is another reason why ours are hidden,there are some weirdos on here
I also feel that if people are that hung up on what other people think of us without being able to work it out or find out for themselves from chatting to us then im not fussed about getting to know them x |
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"Must admit. I like to see verifications to see if people actually meet or not. I'm not interested in all the ins and outs of the meet itself. When I see lots of verifications verifying that they sound good on the phone, or they just go to socials, it just makes me wonder. If someone hides their verifications, then thats up to them, but doesnt it make you wonder if they are genuine or not!!"
OK, I know I've said this before on a similar thread but for us veri's are simply to prove you are who you say you are and that's it. For this very reason we only show our social veri's, this doesn't mean these are the only veri's we have but who we play with and what we do when we play is nobody else's business and there for I don't feel the need to prove anything!
So just because the only veri's you can see on somebody's profile are social doesn't mean they don't play, it means that they have discretion! |
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I had a profile with a play partner, she preffered not to advertise the fact she was a squirter, so any verification that mentioned that was not displayed. Some things you may just prefer to stay private! |
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"Must admit. I like to see verifications to see if people actually meet or not. I'm not interested in all the ins and outs of the meet itself. When I see lots of verifications verifying that they sound good on the phone, or they just go to socials, it just makes me wonder. If someone hides their verifications, then thats up to them, but doesnt it make you wonder if they are genuine or not!!
OK, I know I've said this before on a similar thread but for us veri's are simply to prove you are who you say you are and that's it. For this very reason we only show our social veri's, this doesn't mean these are the only veri's we have but who we play with and what we do when we play is nobody else's business and there for I don't feel the need to prove anything!
So just because the only veri's you can see on somebody's profile are social doesn't mean they don't play, it means that they have discretion!"
I'm not saying it means that they dont play and accept what you say about discretion. Thats fine. Everyone can choose to show or not. However. It would still make me think twice as to whether all I would be doing is just going for a drink. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not saying it means that they dont play and accept what you say about discretion. Thats fine. Everyone can choose to show or not. However. It would still make me think twice as to whether all I would be doing is just going for a drink. "
Thats really interesting,what about if they have loads of play verifications you meet them and still only end up having a drink?
Would you feel dissappointed? cheated out of something? or just think oh well it was'nt meant to be this time? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why shouldn't I?"
I tried to add to my comment. I have no problems meeting up for a drink and would accept it especially from a single lady but if all their verifications showed going for a drink only, it would make me think that thats all they do. Sorry if thats how I think. Had a lady have me take her for a few drinks and a meal and then fooook off through the back door. She was noted for it. Had a free nite out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Personal preference...
The thing is no one ever is likely to say anything bad. it still shows verified even if the persons not got any on show.
I will say I have had a few meets with people that have great verifications only to think.. How much did they pay them to say that.
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"Am I the only one who hates the verification process?
Yes I have them
Yes I show SOME of them
Yes I give them
But I feel pressured by the site set up to do so.
I don't really want everyone to know who I have met. And the way some verifications are given of sexual prowess really embarrass me but guys leave them and then mail " why aren't you showing it" so I feel that I have to show them.
Then there's those that make the insinuation that you have something to hide by not showing them ( yes I have seen endless threads on this topic)
For some its like a badge of honour - a notch on the bed post
I will give them if asked ( guys I meet) but I do say right away it will be a social one.
To me it really does feel that there is too much importance placed on the verifications, esp when advice on how to get meets is always " only arrange to meet verified members""
You don't have to do anything you are uncomfortable doing.
For every person who seriously thinks you are hiding them because of some sinister reason, there will be someone else who reads something negative into those who only have one or loads or from the wrong type of people, or any other reason thay can twist into meaning something else.
Bollox to them all - do what you feel is right for you. |
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"Why shouldn't I?
I tried to add to my comment. I have no problems meeting up for a drink and would accept it especially from a single lady but if all their verifications showed going for a drink only, it would make me think that thats all they do. Sorry if thats how I think. Had a lady have me take her for a few drinks and a meal and then fooook off through the back door. She was noted for it. Had a free nite out. "
I was asking the question generally - re the OP.... why should I show them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i hide all, mine because some nasty jealous woman mailed some of my friends and veris saying horrible things about me....."
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Jealousy is a green eyed monster!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like to see at least one verification where they have actually met, even if it was just for quick drink...
Too many have been only verified by phone/web cam....
I would never accept/write a verification that went into any detail about sex....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i think most people who hide verification only have cam and phone verifications and to hide the fact they have never met they make verfications private so it just shows as a verified profile
thats my opinion lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would never leave a detailed verification about everything that had taken place, to me thats personal and shouldnt be shared. Some people who have met us have said it about us though, and whilst everyone who has verified have been absolutely lovely, I sometimes cringe when I read, Feebs gives a great blowjob or whatever it was.
I also find it odd when people say, this couple not to be missed, like advertising us, it just feels a bit odd though I know people only do it to let others know that we are genuine. Im always grateful that people have taken the time to verify us though |
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By *ustyWoman
over a year ago
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would you verify a person if it was all one sided, i met a guy on sat night was but was all very one sided from me, it for me was a very big let down and he then askes me to verify him...... dont think so when he was getting all the pleasure and not me...... i thought it was supposed to a fun time for both |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"would you verify a person if it was all one sided, i met a guy on sat night was but was all very one sided from me, it for me was a very big let down and he then askes me to verify him...... dont think so when he was getting all the pleasure and not me...... i thought it was supposed to a fun time for both"
Didn't you guide him?!!
We all react differently, perhaps he's used to doing a certain "thing" that gets the ladies going, or they pretend, but unless you tell them, how will they know?!!
When playing I've got to get my groove on too, what's the point otherwise?!!  |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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"would you verify a person if it was all one sided, i met a guy on sat night was but was all very one sided from me, it for me was a very big let down and he then askes me to verify him...... dont think so when he was getting all the pleasure and not me...... i thought it was supposed to a fun time for both"
I would and have yes. But only to say met ****recent and just like his photos. Thanks for a nice evening...
Leave it like that.
He turned up, he was who he said he was. He is genuine. Yes you didnt get the fun and was unfair of him but he was a real person wasnt he, so why not verf them.
If I read a verfi which is short and says nothing complemntary like fabulous or sexy,amazing.... then makes me wonder if nice is the only word for the person so its more about what isnt being said maybe rather than what is being said. |
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