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Bi bad for couples?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi guys!
Quick question - I am in the market for a couple meet. Cuckold or normal threesome.
Is my being honest about being a bit bi more of a hindrance?
Seems straight guys think I will jump on them, I can resist! 
But my verifications are from guys - and I feel it best to be honest!
What do you guys think? |
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By *andd2Couple
over a year ago
The Dungeon |
Being Bi wouldn't and doesn't bother us. We've met Bi guys before and personally (I'm the Mr) I have never felt at 'risk'. We've had more problems with straight guys who are scared of doing a DP, or double bj etc, in case their willy gets rubbed against during the act. Bi guys tend to be more relaxed about such things. |
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By *4nc3rCouple
over a year ago
Clacton-On-Sea, Essex |
Yes there will be some couples who won't like that you're Bi as it's their preference,
But honesty is still best as if you claimed to be straight but have Veris from guys it's just obvious you're lying lol
As long as you make it clear you're Bi but happy to play however the couple wants to that should be fine |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Appreciated folks!
Had a couple of instances now where the woman has been great, yet when the fella finds out I'm bi, no dice.
And who doesn't like a dp! Jesus!  |
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We love to meet bi guys, but there are other things on your profile that mean you would not be for us, for example your preference for younger men. I do have the same problem with straight women thinking I am going to jumps them because I am bi. When. we play at clubs, we often do so alone and playing with other couples is rarer for us. Not sure if that helps. |
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"Being Bi wouldn't and doesn't bother us. We've met Bi guys before and personally (I'm the Mr) I have never felt at 'risk'. We've had more problems with straight guys who are scared of doing a DP, or double bj etc, in case their willy gets rubbed against during the act. Bi guys tend to be more relaxed about such things. "
I agree. Bi guys can (and often do) play straight with no interest in the other guy. A smidgin more relaxing if both guys are bi though. |
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"Being Bi wouldn't and doesn't bother us. We've met Bi guys before and personally (I'm the Mr) I have never felt at 'risk'. We've had more problems with straight guys who are scared of doing a DP, or double bj etc, in case their willy gets rubbed against during the act. Bi guys tend to be more relaxed about such things.
I agree. Bi guys can (and often do) play straight with no interest in the other guy. A smidgin more relaxing if both guys are bi though. "
Yes agreed. Just because someone is bi, doesn't mean they want too play with everyone of the same sex. Bf is very picky. But I set up all the meets, part of our dynamic. |
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Is my being honest about being a bit bi more of a hindrance?
Seems straight guys think I will jump on them, I can resist!
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Personally we would find dishonesty far more of a hindrance, so good for you for sticking to your principles.
But there is a lot more to consider with bisexual men than 'will he jump me', so I'd stick to looking for those that are interested, rather than trying to persuade those who aren't.
Mr ddc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Saying im bi curious certainly doesnt seem to put straight guys off messaging us. But I think a lot of straight guys message couples just imagining they're going to be getting a crack at the mrs without any interaction with the guy  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Appreciated folks!
Had a couple of instances now where the woman has been great, yet when the fella finds out I'm bi, no dice.
And who doesn't like a dp! Jesus! "
It would bother me ( ms) way more than it would Mr.... So in our case its mostly me that refuses..
I would be honest... as I find I am in the minority of women that dont want to see guys together.. |
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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago
Northampton |
IMHO, saying you are bi, is the best way (cause I love bi guys)
yes, it will turn some couples off
yes, it will turn some couples on
Own how you are, and be fucking proud of it!! If people don't like it, they can find others!!
Even some straight couples appreciate you won't turn into a raging cock hungry monster as soon as you hit the bed - cause least they know you won't freak out if your 2 cocks should (shock horror) touch eachother!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a turn off for us not because we are scared a Bi guy will jump on a stray cock. We just simply don't want to meet them.
People should be honest about who they are as you can see above chap plenty of people will meet Bi men and most certainly give them a great welcome! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks again to the new respondees.
Maybe I'm just a little shocked by it I suppose. People are free to their choices, I fully appreciate that. And maybe I am judging others by my standards. But I expect people into swing/cuckold/swapping or what have you to be fairly open minded people.
Can I ask what other factors would need to be considered with a bi guy btw? Surely it is just the person that matters, not the persuasion? |
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"Thanks again to the new respondees.
Maybe I'm just a little shocked by it I suppose. People are free to their choices, I fully appreciate that. And maybe I am judging others by my standards. But I expect people into swing/cuckold/swapping or what have you to be fairly open minded people.
Can I ask what other factors would need to be considered with a bi guy btw? Surely it is just the person that matters, not the persuasion? "
With us, we prefer to meet at a club because it is the vibe. We maybe have a chat and see how it goes, maybe play that evening or the next time we go. Takes time to sort it. I know my bf prefers a certain type of guy, and we dont always like the same. We do have the same taste in women though |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks again to the new respondees.
Maybe I'm just a little shocked by it I suppose. People are free to their choices, I fully appreciate that. And maybe I am judging others by my standards. But I expect people into swing/cuckold/swapping or what have you to be fairly open minded people.
Can I ask what other factors would need to be considered with a bi guy btw? Surely it is just the person that matters, not the persuasion? "
rightly or wrongly I find it a complete turn off... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks again to the new respondees.
Maybe I'm just a little shocked by it I suppose. People are free to their choices, I fully appreciate that. And maybe I am judging others by my standards. But I expect people into swing/cuckold/swapping or what have you to be fairly open minded people.
Can I ask what other factors would need to be considered with a bi guy btw? Surely it is just the person that matters, not the persuasion? "
I am not sure excercising a preference makes a person close minded. |
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Can I ask what other factors would need to be considered with a bi guy btw? Surely it is just the person that matters, not the persuasion? "
Inability to give blood if Mrs ddc has sex with a bisexual man, with or without a condom.
Statistics on women catching std's from bisexual men compared to straight men.
Personal choice.
Sorry, but you asked. |
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By *andd2Couple
over a year ago
The Dungeon |
We only have 2 or 3 considerations in choosing playmates:
Someone we find to be good looking (male for her or gal for him)
Verified by meeting
No facial hair on either of them
Their sexual inclinations isn't a deciding factor. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Thanks again to the new respondees.
Maybe I'm just a little shocked by it I suppose. People are free to their choices, I fully appreciate that. And maybe I am judging others by my standards. But I expect people into swing/cuckold/swapping or what have you to be fairly open minded people.
Can I ask what other factors would need to be considered with a bi guy btw? Surely it is just the person that matters, not the persuasion?
I am not sure excercising a preference makes a person close minded. "
I appreciate that. Not my place to question your preferences. Thanks for the response all the same.
Love your pics btw!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Can I ask what other factors would need to be considered with a bi guy btw? Surely it is just the person that matters, not the persuasion?
Inability to give blood if Mrs ddc has sex with a bisexual man, with or without a condom.
Statistics on women catching std's from bisexual men compared to straight men.
Personal choice.
Sorry, but you asked."
Did not know about the Blood thing you learn something new every day on this site.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Can I ask what other factors would need to be considered with a bi guy btw? Surely it is just the person that matters, not the persuasion?
Inability to give blood if Mrs ddc has sex with a bisexual man, with or without a condom.
Statistics on women catching std's from bisexual men compared to straight men.
Personal choice.
Sorry, but you asked."
No need to apologise! I don't enjoy anything other than oral/hand jobs so my risk is very, very low. Regular tests too. I think the STD thing is a fallacy (other than HIV/AIDS), but I'll respectively disagree with you there.
Thanks for taking the time to comment. |
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I think the STD thing is a fallacy (other than HIV/AIDS), but I'll respectively disagree with you there.
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Or you could take the time to read the latest research, published in medical journals and broadsheet newspapers.
The FACTS are almost as scary as the way some people choose to disregard them.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I think the STD thing is a fallacy (other than HIV/AIDS), but I'll respectively disagree with you there.
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Or you could take the time to read the latest research, published in medical journals and broadsheet newspapers.
The FACTS are almost as scary as the way some people choose to disregard them.
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Oh I am well aware of the research and the facts. No need to condescend. I work in science.  |
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Oh I am well aware of the research and the facts. No need to condescend. I work in science. "
And I apologise if you thought me condescending, but perhaps you misread my frustration at being continually questioned for having preferences.
Even more so once it transpires you were fully aware of the facts that you asked me to provide!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just as a side note OP if your judging people by your own standards and mention people being Open minded. Why is your own profile stating straight if your BI?
Thanks for the picture compliment by the way! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Just as a side note OP if your judging people by your own standards and mention people being Open minded. Why is your own profile stating straight if your BI?
Thanks for the picture compliment by the way! "
Thanks for pointing that out! Amended! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Oh I am well aware of the research and the facts. No need to condescend. I work in science.
And I apologise if you thought me condescending, but perhaps you misread my frustration at being continually questioned for having preferences.
Even more so once it transpires you were fully aware of the facts that you asked me to provide!
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The research shows that bi men are not the issue, it is the general promiscuity that is the issue.
Anyway - I'm not here to debate. Thanks for your replies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i am bi and say so on my profile, but do find it difficult to meet couples, i get impression that when they see bi they not interested, but always happy to meet a bi lady |
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The research shows that bi men are not the issue, it is the general promiscuity that is the issue.
Anyway - I'm not here to debate. Thanks for your replies. "
Then you, me and the NHS must have reached different conclusions, or seen different advice.
Always happy to debate with anyone, and I'm always happy to have my opinions challenged.
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"i am bi and say so on my profile, but do find it difficult to meet couples, i get impression that when they see bi they not interested, but always happy to meet a bi lady"
Unfortunately that's because the facts and restrictions to giving blood do not extend to bisexual women. It's not a conspiracy, or double-standards, or sexism or hypocrisy. Just cold, boring, logical fact. |
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Oh I am well aware of the research and the facts. No need to condescend. I work in science.
And I apologise if you thought me condescending, but perhaps you misread my frustration at being continually questioned for having preferences.
Even more so once it transpires you were fully aware of the facts that you asked me to provide!
The research shows that bi men are not the issue, it is the general promiscuity that is the issue.
Anyway - I'm not here to debate. Thanks for your replies. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You just have to be honest people will either like you or they won't
A man being bi is a bonus for me but then I don't have a guy to worry about
Plenty of bi couples on here |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You just have to be honest people will either like you or they won't
A man being bi is a bonus for me but then I don't have a guy to worry about
Plenty of bi couples on here "
Well I am remaining honest!  |
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