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over a year ago
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hi all....would it be ok just to go and look/observe,or would this be considered rude/unfriendly?
the mrs would not be interestted in more than one guy you see |
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play how you want to play, go to clubs and just be watchers if you want then play and be watched at the same time (or not if its not yor thing)
this is your sexual life you ae enhancing, not anyone elses |
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"Thanx huni....
How does one go about discouraging unwanted advances....?(although i picture us proping up the bar,like lemons)"
in just the same way that you would if someone tried to chat you up in the pub.
You could say that you're waiting for friends, or if you don't play with singles, just say so.
In a club environment, regulars know the craic, so they wont be offended by you saying "no thanks"
We go to clubs as often as we can, and have never had any problems with unwanted advances.
I'm sure you will be fine, just go and enjoy yourselves.
Good luck XX |
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"Thanx huni....
How does one go about discouraging unwanted advances....?(although i picture us proping up the bar,like lemons)"
No usually does it...
Like been said just take things at your own pace and i would say try to chat to people or you will be just sitting in the bar,we have found most people in clubs are friendly.
Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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thanx guys...am sure your rolling your eyes at our post lol,but these are real concerns for us.
thanx for taking the time to reply....much appreciatedxx |
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everyone has a first time for everything, and we all have different levels of confidence too.
Some peoples first time will seem to others like the're "old hands" at it, whereas some others will still display nerves after a few club visits.
Your questions are as valid as they are relavent.  |
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"hi all....would it be ok just to go and look/observe,or would this be considered rude/unfriendly?
the mrs would not be interestted in more than one guy you see"
Never rush into anything and only do what you want to do and never get pressured. Nice people will not mind you just observing and going at your own pace. |
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just out of curiosity,if we spot,say a gorgeous woman,that is wayyyy out of our league,would she mind us looking at her....?or would this be abit pervy? |
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"just out of curiosity,if we spot,say a gorgeous woman,that is wayyyy out of our league,would she mind us looking at her....?or would this be abit pervy?"
There isn't a blanket answer to this because we're all different. Some people want to be lusted after, lol, and indeed some will be uncomfortable with it. If they notice you looking, and they get up and go, you can assume they don't like it. But.....if they give you a cheeky smile before they go, they just might, yes they just might be inviting you to follow them. |
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"jack.....you have put a smile on my face...lol...but still reckon i'l get some abuse,or a slap!!!
graham"
On our first club visit, we had a few preconceived ideas of what it would be like, just as you are experiencing.
We chose to go to Chameleons in West Midlands for our first time.
We thought the clientelle would all be "pretty people" and that we would be like the "odd couple", but when we got there we were massively surprised, and in a good, nice way.
Everyone was so nice and friendly, the staff were lovely, and we got a tour of the club to show us the ameanities.
We chose to go on a couples night, because, although we have played with singles, our heads were filled with the views that, at clubs, all single guys are nuisences.
Then we started to go on a couples and singles night, and to be honest, it was hard to tell the difference between the two.
Of course, we can only speak as we find, but there are plenty of people on here that have had the same experiences. |
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the majority of guys n gals that have been kind anough to offer their opinion say the same...but we are not sure if the enviroment is right for us.we are still very body concious |
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"the majority of guys n gals that have been kind anough to offer their opinion say the same...but we are not sure if the enviroment is right for us.we are still very body concious"
lol, have a look at our pics. There are more people there who look like us than look like models. I would say that the majority of the ladies are size 16 plus and that most of the guys are built more like darts players than footballers.
At the end of the day, you're the only ones who can decide if you're up for it or not.
But I would bet that after you've been, you'll wonder why you were so nervous about going. |
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