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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just a quick one. Why is it after weeks of chatting to peeps, do they then arrange to meet, then not turn up for what ever reason and then they dont contact you after that ? Its ok if you have to cancel its not a prob honest, but why no more contact beats me ?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sadly a lot of people get a buzz out of the chase, the build up to a meet is erotic for them, the anticipation, the dreaming, but when it gets down to the actual meeting the adrenalin has gone, the buzz faded and they move on to another chase.
They don't even see themselves as timewasters because when they are doing the chasing they are really serious about meeting, but when the catch is made the urges wear off and they just put it down (in thier own minds) to "don't think we really want to meet them after all" and they see that as a personal choice decision without realising that whilst personal choice is correct, leading people on isn't. |
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When we first started the fun of the chase was the easy bit. When we arrange our first meeting that was fine too. But for reasons we can't explain we found ourselves becoming more and more 'terrified' for want of a better word when actually traveling to the meet. It would have been VERY easy to turn back but when we make an arrangement we stick to it and that is what got us there.
Once we got there everything was fine, we had a great time and then driving back we really couldn't understand why we got so wound up about it on the way out!
We learned from that and its not been a problem since but if we've not met anyone new for a while we still get the jitters on the first meeting with new folks.
It's daft, irrational and we cannot explain it but we'd guess we are not the only ones who feel it. As we always turn up we haven't had to make that last minute 'sorry we can't make it' call so can only guess that people might be too shy or embarrassed to make that phone and let you know.
There are also people who will arrange to meet several people at the same time so if one blows-out they can move onto the next inline or just pick the best on the night. |
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