Ok, I'd like to start by saying I generally despise cheating with the view of if you're not happy in a relationship then leave it.
That being said...
I've been talking to this lass for a while, we have a mutual friend and always been a bit flirty with each other.
We've exchanged numbers and both stated we don't want a relationship, however we do talk a lot, she said it first. So it's been light hearted chatting.
She wants to come up to my flat to visit and I think in an intimate way, as in progressing towards a relationship and her talk of not wanting a relationship is a safety net.
However I've been approached by a female off a different site who wants me to go round to hers later this evening for "whatever happens"
Me and the first lass although having spoken for a few weeks haven't had a date, haven't had any intimate contact not even a kiss.
So, would it be wrong of me to see the lass later? I have told her about girl number one and that I'm not sure what's happening there and she still wants to meet.
I can't stress enough I didn't approach girl number 2 and replied to her messages in a strictly friendly way. |
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If she's repeatedly said she doesn't want a relationship and you want to see lass number 2 for fun then go for it. You have no commitments to lass 1 as of yet.
And what makes you think lass 1 wants a relationship? She could just be looking for a fuck buddy.
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You are single therefore it's not cheating .
However if you are likely to feel guilty or if you think it would upset the first girl then don't do it.
No girl wants to be a regret. Even those who offer whatever happens. |
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Based on what you've said... you're single, your own person and free to do what you please.
If you think person one will be upset and you're also worried about upsetting her, then it may be worth having a conversation with her to re evaluate the situation. It may be that you both are crossing over into a slightly more committed relationship |
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Why should you have to tell either about the other one...you are on a swinging site, you do not want a relationship (or perhaps you secretly do) so all meets/play are simply for fun...no? |
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To me cheating means doing something that will hurt somebody who loves you or holds you in high regard.
If you are honest with the people in your life and they tell you that they don't like what you are about to do you then have the choice to do it or not. |
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"To me cheating means doing something that will hurt somebody who loves you or holds you in high regard.
If you are honest with the people in your life and they tell you that they don't like what you are about to do you then have the choice to do it or not. "
Understand the sentiment but disagree with your definition of cheating. |
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"Ok, I'd like to start by saying I generally despise cheating with the view of if you're not happy in a relationship then leave it.
That being said...
I've been talking to this lass for a while, we have a mutual friend and always been a bit flirty with each other.
We've exchanged numbers and both stated we don't want a relationship, however we do talk a lot, she said it first. So it's been light hearted chatting.
She wants to come up to my flat to visit and I think in an intimate way, as in progressing towards a relationship and her talk of not wanting a relationship is a safety net.
However I've been approached by a female off a different site who wants me to go round to hers later this evening for "whatever happens"
Me and the first lass although having spoken for a few weeks haven't had a date, haven't had any intimate contact not even a kiss.
So, would it be wrong of me to see the lass later? I have told her about girl number one and that I'm not sure what's happening there and she still wants to meet.
I can't stress enough I didn't approach girl number 2 and replied to her messages in a strictly friendly way."
YOU ARE SINGLE. do what you want!! As for girl 1 and 2 it's none of their business what you do. Why are you feeling guilty for meeting girl 2 when girl one is in a relationship!? |
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"To me cheating means doing something that will hurt somebody who loves you or holds you in high regard.
If you are honest with the people in your life and they tell you that they don't like what you are about to do you then have the choice to do it or not.
Understand the sentiment but disagree with your definition of cheating."
Fair enough, that's why I said "to me"  |
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"Ok, I'd like to start by saying I generally despise cheating with the view of if you're not happy in a relationship then leave it.
That being said...
I've been talking to this lass for a while, we have a mutual friend and always been a bit flirty with each other.
We've exchanged numbers and both stated we don't want a relationship, however we do talk a lot, she said it first. So it's been light hearted chatting.
She wants to come up to my flat to visit and I think in an intimate way, as in progressing towards a relationship and her talk of not wanting a relationship is a safety net.
However I've been approached by a female off a different site who wants me to go round to hers later this evening for "whatever happens"
Me and the first lass although having spoken for a few weeks haven't had a date, haven't had any intimate contact not even a kiss.
So, would it be wrong of me to see the lass later? I have told her about girl number one and that I'm not sure what's happening there and she still wants to meet.
I can't stress enough I didn't approach girl number 2 and replied to her messages in a strictly friendly way.
YOU ARE SINGLE. do what you want!! As for girl 1 and 2 it's none of their business what you do. Why are you feeling guilty for meeting girl 2 when girl one is in a relationship!? "
Apologies I may have read it wrong thinking girl 1 is in a relationship due to your first paragraph. |
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I say, "believe what people tell you." Lass #1 has said she DOESN'T want a relationship -so believe her, stop second guessing and go for it with #2 if that's what you want to do. You ARE single. |
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So girl 1 doesn't want a relationship but you think she does? I think you need to talk to her honestly.
Also, do you really like girl 1? I'd hold girl 2 off for a bit until you know what's going on with girl 1.
But I worry you have got mixed messages from girl 1 and I hope she's not messing you around. |
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Cheating is doing something with someone, anything really, that you don't want your partner to know about. You don't have a partner so this does not qualify. |
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A few months ago I met a Woman and we arranged a date for when I got back of holiday, I hid my profile for 2 weeks as I thought it might of went somewhere and I didn't want to be seen to be still looking for meets on here, You could always ask girl no 2 to wait until you see how it goes with girl no 1 |
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"Correct me if I'm mistaken but surely the undiluted opinions are the ones that swing it in a certain way..."
Undiluted is concentrated/pure if you dilute something you add to it to change it to your liking. |
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as friends you are it depends on which one you want to choose tonight id choose friend and see whats going on
if shes that good of a friend to you
the other would hopefully understand that your long friends and shes coming to see you tonight so you wont be meeting
you could be reading it all wrong but a casual mention of an interested other party maybe could be whats needed or it could not be |
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