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" Perhaps people should trust the guy to tell the truth ( like I always do ) what do ladies want a note from your wife giving her permission , surely not !!!! " Actually, I would suspect most women/couples here WOULD want to hear from the wife of permission was given. Very much doubt you'd find people on here who would go on the day so of one half of a couple. | |||
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"Tons of women say the exact same thing on here and more often than not they are believed " And we would seek the approval of the hubby in that case | |||
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"For every person that won't meet married guys there is one who will. For us it's a no no unless it's a male from a couple on the scene who we have met before. We like to know the dynamic " Also due to past experience we avoid married men; as sometimes the other part of the couple gets very jealous and it is embarrassing to have a very loud wife on the door step | |||
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"Tons of women say the exact same thing on here and more often than not they are believed " That says something about the men who contact them, not really the women themselves | |||
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" Perhaps people should trust the guy to tell the truth ( like I always do ) what do ladies want a note from your wife giving her permission , surely not !!!! " Sort of yes. IF we played with one half of a couple ( which we don't knowingly ) then we would want to confirm with the wife that he can play yes. | |||
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"For me I judge people based on what I would do in the same situation. I'd never give permission for my boyfriend/husband to sleep with other women so I don't believe anyone else would. My way of thinking is probably wrong but why bother with complications when you can have someone who is definitely single. " There probably are a few women who don't care what their husband does and maybe that's because they are doing similar themselves or believe that he would be incapable of attracting another woman anyway. But agree why take on someone with that sort of complication when there are truckloads of really single men available? | |||
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" Perhaps people should trust the guy to tell the truth ( like I always do ) what do ladies want a note from your wife giving her permission , surely not !!!! Sort of yes. IF we played with one half of a couple ( which we don't knowingly ) then we would want to confirm with the wife that he can play yes." PS, cynical I know, but I don't trust any stranger on the net. ( Mr Ruggers is less cynical ) | |||
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"There's plenty of single men with no one getting hurt so sorry but to us you re an irrelevance on here " im here lol x | |||
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"My husband has "permission" to have a single profile on here and I'd go ballistic if he spoke about me in his profile the way you speak about your wife. I'm not convinced by your profile that you are as open as you claim to be with your wife. (And for the record I'd think the same about a woman who said the same.) I don't play with married guys who's wives aren't aware or happy about it so no I wouldn't go anywhere near a profile like that. And yes I would want confirmation from her. And if that's too much to ask, there's a billion other guys on the site who are single or would be happy for me to talk to their wife." This, down to a tee! | |||
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"What is the problem with married guys on here ? I am married with a wife who is genuinely not interested in sex. With her blessing I am hoping to find a lady for some naughty fun. If you have your partners blessing what is the problem ?? Perhaps people should trust the guy to tell the truth ( like I always do ) what do ladies want a note from your wife giving her permission , surely not !!!! " There's nothing wrong with playing on here with your partners blessing. I do it all the time. People sometimes ask to contact my partners to check I have their permission and I point out that I don't need their permission to have sex with people. However that's not good enough for many people - I personally am more hesitant with guys. If there's no potential to say 'hi' to your wife in person at some point in the future then it's a no deal for me - however I'm looking for more than a one off, others might feel differently. | |||
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"What is the problem with married guys on here ? I am married with a wife who is genuinely not interested in sex. With her blessing I am hoping to find a lady for some naughty fun. If you have your partners blessing what is the problem ?? Perhaps people should trust the guy to tell the truth ( like I always do ) what do ladies want a note from your wife giving her permission , surely not !!!! There's nothing wrong with playing on here with your partners blessing. I do it all the time. People sometimes ask to contact my partners to check I have their permission and I point out that I don't need their permission to have sex with people. However that's not good enough for many people - I personally am more hesitant with guys. If there's no potential to say 'hi' to your wife in person at some point in the future then it's a no deal for me - however I'm looking for more than a one off, others might feel differently." I like your posts, always interesting and thought provoking. | |||
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"What is the problem with married guys on here ? I am married with a wife who is genuinely not interested in sex. With her blessing I am hoping to find a lady for some naughty fun. If you have your partners blessing what is the problem ?? Perhaps people should trust the guy to tell the truth ( like I always do ) what do ladies want a note from your wife giving her permission , surely not !!!! " We are all on here for one reason or another. There are a lot of men who are cheating on their partners. As someone has already stated if I was a single fem I would want conformation from the wife. Even if it meant meeting them to discuss first before any arrangements were made that way I would know if genuine. I have been bitten too many times by men who pretend they are single their gfs or wife knows. | |||
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"Tons of women say the exact same thing on here and more often than not they are believed " not by me.... and i would ask for the same thing.. to speak to hubby!!! some of the people i have been able to do that with.. and we have gone on some haven't... and i didn't take it further.... I think that says as much about a man thinking with his cock... and wanting to believe that is the case | |||
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"i have came across lots of married women who are the same on here who hide there marital status" And you walked away ? | |||
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"What is the problem with married guys on here ? I am married with a wife who is genuinely not interested in sex. With her blessing I am hoping to find a lady for some naughty fun. If you have your partners blessing what is the problem ?? Perhaps people should trust the guy to tell the truth ( like I always do ) what do ladies want a note from your wife giving her permission , surely not !!!! " If s guy says he has his partners blessing regarding him meeting other women for sex, then I would want to actually speak to his wife on the phone to confirm this before i met him In the past i did meet a guy who said his wife was also a swinger and didn't mind him meeting other fems, however that wasn't her view when she found text messeges between him and me arranging our meets .... well that is the impression i got when she phoned me and yelled abusive down the phone to me !!! | |||
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"A guy has permission from his wife , where have we heard that before ???? Just goes to show the lack of respect a guy must have for his wife , I wouldn't touch him with a barge pole " I understand exactly what you mean but my wife and I play as a couple and separately. If and when the situation arises neither of us would have a problem with a phone call between the ladies. However, don't forget the voice on the other end of the phone could be anyone! | |||
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"What is the problem with married guys on here ? I am married with a wife who is genuinely not interested in sex. With her blessing I am hoping to find a lady for some naughty fun. If you have your partners blessing what is the problem ?? Perhaps people should trust the guy to tell the truth ( like I always do ) what do ladies want a note from your wife giving her permission , surely not !!!! If s guy says he has his partners blessing regarding him meeting other women for sex, then I would want to actually speak to his wife on the phone to confirm this before i met him In the past i did meet a guy who said his wife was also a swinger and didn't mind him meeting other fems, however that wasn't her view when she found text messeges between him and me arranging our meets .... well that is the impression i got when she phoned me and yelled abusive down the phone to me !!! " Surely she should be yelling at him u didn't cheat on her he did | |||
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"What is the problem with married guys on here ? I am married with a wife who is genuinely not interested in sex. With her blessing I am hoping to find a lady for some naughty fun. If you have your partners blessing what is the problem ?? Perhaps people should trust the guy to tell the truth ( like I always do ) what do ladies want a note from your wife giving her permission , surely not !!!! If s guy says he has his partners blessing regarding him meeting other women for sex, then I would want to actually speak to his wife on the phone to confirm this before i met him In the past i did meet a guy who said his wife was also a swinger and didn't mind him meeting other fems, however that wasn't her view when she found text messeges between him and me arranging our meets .... well that is the impression i got when she phoned me and yelled abusive down the phone to me !!! Surely she should be yelling at him u didn't cheat on her he did" Maybe she did yell at him too but according to her i should stay away from her husband etc etc etc ......... To be honest i hadn't planned on meeting him again, the first meet was good, we went dogging but the second meet was rubbish so i had ignored his recent text messeges but she found the text messeges with the info about the previous meets ! | |||
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"I never believe the i have permission to play as long as i dont rub it in.I would want to speak to the wife to confirm this. But bet there would be excuses why not.Why do married men have such a problem with those of us who won't help them deceive their poor wives?." You're welcome to speak to my Mrs anytime x | |||
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"I never believe the i have permission to play as long as i dont rub it in.I would want to speak to the wife to confirm this. But bet there would be excuses why not.Why do married men have such a problem with those of us who won't help them deceive their poor wives?. You're welcome to speak to my Mrs anytime x" I wasnt aiming that at men here with permission | |||
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"I think a search option on here where married men and women playing away or with consent can find each other and meet make be even with partners present the two active partners could go upstairs for fun and the other two could play a game of scrabble downstairs ! Just a thought " there are actually sites out there that cater for that..... but they actually tend to cost a lot of money... so i do feel as if fab is sometimes seen as a cheap option | |||
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"I think a search option on here where married men and women playing away or with consent can find each other and meet make be even with partners present the two active partners could go upstairs for fun and the other two could play a game of scrabble downstairs ! Just a thought there are actually sites out there that cater for that..... but they actually tend to cost a lot of money... so i do feel as if fab is sometimes seen as a cheap option" Most of the 'other' sites are free for women, but I'd still rather use something that's free for both parties because I'm uncomfortable about men having to pay to message me. | |||
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"I think a search option on here where married men and women playing away or with consent can find each other and meet make be even with partners present the two active partners could go upstairs for fun and the other two could play a game of scrabble downstairs ! Just a thought " You think you're being funny, but my partners frequently play board games together while I sit and work in the other room! Or in some cases, when I go to bed early knackered! | |||
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"I never believe the i have permission to play as long as i dont rub it in.I would want to speak to the wife to confirm this. But bet there would be excuses why not.Why do married men have such a problem with those of us who won't help them deceive their poor wives?. You're welcome to speak to my Mrs anytime x I wasnt aiming that at men here with permission " Yeah true there seems to very few guys that have the same kind of freedom as I do x | |||
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"What is the problem with married guys on here ? I am married with a wife who is genuinely not interested in sex. With her blessing I am hoping to find a lady for some naughty fun. If you have your partners blessing what is the problem ?? Perhaps people should trust the guy to tell the truth ( like I always do ) what do ladies want a note from your wife giving her permission , surely not !!!! " Perhaps people should do exactly what suits them rather than someone with an overdeveloped sense of entitlement who's miffed because people won't meet him, tell them to do...just saying... | |||
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"I think a search option on here where married men and women playing away or with consent can find each other and meet make be even with partners present the two active partners could go upstairs for fun and the other two could play a game of scrabble downstairs ! Just a thought You think you're being funny, but my partners frequently play board games together while I sit and work in the other room! Or in some cases, when I go to bed early knackered!" Or go off to a room to have a row with yourself I d imagine | |||
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"What is the problem with married guys on here ? I am married with a wife who is genuinely not interested in sex. With her blessing I am hoping to find a lady for some naughty fun. If you have your partners blessing what is the problem ?? Perhaps people should trust the guy to tell the truth ( like I always do ) what do ladies want a note from your wife giving her permission , surely not !!!! " You do seem a little naive if you dont understand peoples reticence to belive a married man to play with his wifes permission. Yes a note would be nice but a chat would be better. X | |||
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"What is the problem with married guys on here ? I am married with a wife who is genuinely not interested in sex. With her blessing I am hoping to find a lady for some naughty fun. If you have your partners blessing what is the problem ?? Perhaps people should trust the guy to tell the truth ( like I always do ) what do ladies want a note from your wife giving her permission , surely not !!!! " If you have her blessing why does your profile say you need to be discreet? I'd never do this to my wife even if she want adventurous I love her for who she is not for what she is like in the sack! You need to get your morals sorted I wish I could show your wife your profile and your forum post!!!!! | |||
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"We have no issue playing with married people, it's their business and not ours." Funny thing is a few single men / women we have meet have a tan line on the ring finger, but hay its a swinging site ..Connie x | |||
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"We have no issue playing with married people, it's their business and not ours. Funny thing is a few single men / women we have meet have a tan line on the ring finger, but hay its a swinging site ..Connie x " Yes SWINGING... that isn't the same as cheating! | |||
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"We have no issue playing with married people, it's their business and not ours. Funny thing is a few single men / women we have meet have a tan line on the ring finger, but hay its a swinging site ..Connie x Yes SWINGING... that isn't the same as cheating!" | |||
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"The idea that "I dint need permission from my partner to have set with other people" is an interesting one. No of course no one needs permission to do anything from anybody as long as what they are doing is legal. BUT... If you love and respect your partner(s) surely you would use decency and morality to consider their feelings and either let them know you wish to have additional partners or if you don't have sufficient feelings for the person(s) end an unsatisfactory relationship and find another. that way at least your partner has all the facts to decide whether they accept what you are going to do.... or vote with their feet and remove themselves from a situation that will make them unhappy. If you are selfish enough not to care.... you are not mentally capable of a relationship surely? " You are quoting me there - I said that I don't need permission to have sex with other people. I'm openly polyamorous and have multiple partners that all know each other socially. I'm not selfish, I care immensely about them. They care immensely about me. They also care immensely about their other partners - who I am friends with. You quoted the wrong person there. | |||
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"The idea that "I dint need permission from my partner to have set with other people" is an interesting one. No of course no one needs permission to do anything from anybody as long as what they are doing is legal. BUT... If you love and respect your partner(s) surely you would use decency and morality to consider their feelings and either let them know you wish to have additional partners or if you don't have sufficient feelings for the person(s) end an unsatisfactory relationship and find another. that way at least your partner has all the facts to decide whether they accept what you are going to do.... or vote with their feet and remove themselves from a situation that will make them unhappy. If you are selfish enough not to care.... you are not mentally capable of a relationship surely? " Mentally capable? Seriously? I accept everybody's right to think that cheating is wrong and to avoid married people at all costs, but to call someone's mental capability into question is a bit fucking much. | |||
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"A guy has permission from his wife , where have we heard that before ???? Just goes to show the lack of respect a guy must have for his wife , I wouldn't touch him with a barge pole " A very interesting and telling thread. call me naive and horribly optimistic, but I'm always surprised by the kind of attitudes expressed above, when they are written on a swingers site. My wife and I have a tremendous amount of respect for each other. Everything is open and above board and everyone knows what is going on. That is at the heart of ethical non-monogamy. This is not the same as cheating which is about lies and deceit, rather than honesty, trust and freedom. A lot of people don't understand the difference between the two which I think is a shame. | |||
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"i am saying that exactly!!! cheating is wrong on every level. If you can't understand that having sex with others without your partners knowledge is cheating... and wrong. NOT your right. Sorry but you are not mentally mature enough to be capable of having a relationship. It sounds like the morals and behaviour of immature school kids " I don't think its my 'right' and I do think that it can be wrong. But I'm mature enough to have made a decision which I know is the best decision for my relationship at this point in time. I'm also mentally mature enough not to call other people's decisions, relationships, morals and decency, which I know nothing about, into question. | |||
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"wasp hunter your life choices are yours and far away from those mostwould understand.... but you clearly stated in response to the preprevious post " I don't need anyone's permission to have sex with others" no you don't need permission to do anything.... just decency and respect for how ever many people you count as being your partners to let them know you are choosing to add extras to the list? or is your lifestyle totally without respect?" The relationship dynamic, rules and boundaries are different within polyamory than they are within swinging. Within poly, wasp hunter's behavior is "normal" (hate to use that word) as long as everyone within the relationship is aware of the rules, happy with the rules, and is playing by those rules, then there is no lack of respect or cheating going on. | |||
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"wasp hunter your life choices are yours and far away from those mostwould understand.... but you clearly stated in response to the preprevious post " I don't need anyone's permission to have sex with others" no you don't need permission to do anything.... just decency and respect for how ever many people you count as being your partners to let them know you are choosing to add extras to the list? or is your lifestyle totally without respect?" Our lifestyle is ALL about respect. We respect each other enough to trust that we would not intentionally hurt each other. That is the crux of it. We trust each other that we won't hurt each other. That is respect, in my eyes. A lack of respect for autonomy would be forcing my partners to tell me every time they have sex with another person. I trust that they will not hurt me. They trust that I will not hurt them. | |||
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"If you aren't prepared for your views and ideas to be challenged perhaps an open forum is not the place for you." If you can't put forward a view point without calling those who have a different view to yours 'mentally unstable' then perhaps you need to review your participation in open forums too? | |||
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"I'm happy for people to question my life choices and decisions as i am mentally able to stand by them and justify them without the use of foul language or the obvious anget spewing out of some of these replies. i always feel that aggression and anger usually result from attempts to defend something the person knows deep within themselves is indefensible.... If you aren't prepared for your views and ideas to be challenged perhaps an open forum is not the place for you. lack of consideration for anyone but themselves sadly is in epidemic proportions in today's society and is likely to be the cause of much death and destruction in years to come. think of the major causes of injury to society and most are caused by selfishness and aggression. smile and the world smiles with you.... treat others with the respect you expect to be given to you.... think less about your own RIGHTS and consider those of the person standing next to you" Since I'm now not only mentally incapable but also responsible for death, destruction and injury to society on an epidemic scale, I will take your advice and smile and back away slowly. I'm always happy to have a debate on an open forum and for my views to be challenged but that's not what you're doing, because that implies some consideration or even understanding of the replies you're receiving. | |||
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"If a man claims he has permission I would like a quick phone call with the wife to confirm that. I've been bitten because of this before and that's just how I work. Of course if this isn't possible I'd just wish him well in finding what he's looking for." | |||
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"If you aren't prepared for your views and ideas to be challenged perhaps an open forum is not the place for you. If you can't put forward a view point without calling those who have a different view to yours 'mentally unstable' then perhaps you need to review your participation in open forums too?" | |||
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"If a man claims he has permission I would like a quick phone call with the wife to confirm that. I've been bitten because of this before and that's just how I work. Of course if this isn't possible I'd just wish him well in finding what he's looking for." Lets turn it around, would you need to fone the husband to ask if the woman got permission?. | |||
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"A guy has permission from his wife , where have we heard that before ???? Just goes to show the lack of respect a guy must have for his wife , I wouldn't touch him with a barge pole " | |||
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"basically the world...." ....would be a far better place if we could all strive to be a little less judgmental and try to accept others as they are, especially when then are doing nothing that affects us personally. Some people cheat. Some people don't. Live your life however you choose, but allow others the same freedom too. Mr ddc | |||
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"At no point have i called anyone mentally unstable!!! figment of your imagination or an inability to read English? I question the mental ability and maturity to function in a relationshipwhich doesn't centre around you and your wants and desires. I also did not blame you for societies ills.... again your fabrication!!! inability to follow a reasoned argument again shows mental immaturity. I am not attacking you so you don't need to assume that what I say is directed at you. It may be that you can only discuss by making things personal attacks bbut that hopefully change as you grow up. basically the world does not revolve around you and your beliefs the world is full of varying beliefs and situations most of which you have no experience of.... It doesn't mean that other beliefs are equally valid orbecause someone holds ddifferent views they are trying to convert you from yours or place personal attacks. YOU chose to assume that my comments were attacks when they are general statements at no point directed at you.... just using one of your comments as a starting point for discussion as this is.... or so I thought a discussion forum .... not a place to attack your lifestyle choices. as I say if it's legal.... fill your boots.... hope it makes you as happy as I am in my ordinary relationship where we consider each other and strive to be happy and make each other happy too. Just a point of view... but if you have to be abusive and feel threatened by other opinions I think that is for you to deal with.... not just attack an innocent third party and blame themfor whatever you feel. good luck to you and all your partners." I haven't been abusive. I don't feel threatened by other opinions. I didn't even mention mental instability. I haven't attacked any innocent (or guilty) third party. I haven't blamed anyone for anything. Nobody has attacked anyone's lifestyle choices except for you. What I have done is suggest that calling anyone who has committed adultery not mentally capable of a relationship is offensive and I wholly stand by that. By the way you're combining mine and Wasphunter's posts which is fairly ironic since I'm sure we have opposing views about infidelity. However I respect her ability to put her points across without patronising or ranting at the other person, because I'm entirely capable of following a reasonable argument when presented with one. Unfortunately you haven't presented me with one at any point. | |||
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"What is the problem with married guys on here ? I am married with a wife who is genuinely not interested in sex. With her blessing I am hoping to find a lady for some naughty fun. If you have your partners blessing what is the problem ?? Perhaps people should trust the guy to tell the truth ( like I always do ) what do ladies want a note from your wife giving her permission , surely not !!!! " How do we know your telling the truth? Trust is early not something given just cause a man or a woman that's married claims have permission, doesn't mean they have. | |||
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"i simply point out your use of the word "fucking"....I find that offensiveand proof of inability to formatany ffeasted argument. I have simply responded to whoever responded above... no favour or mixing up... but when both felt the need to say you felt attacked personally.... you received a joint response. I stand by my comment... If you don't understand that cheating is cheating and totally unacceptable you are not mature enough mentally for a relationship and should grow up first.... why is that wrong?" I think I answered that earlier..... | |||
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"i simply point out your use of the word "fucking"....I find that offensiveand proof of inability to formatany ffeasted argument. I have simply responded to whoever responded above... no favour or mixing up... but when both felt the need to say you felt attacked personally.... you received a joint response. I stand by my comment... If you don't understand that cheating is cheating and totally unacceptable you are not mature enough mentally for a relationship and should grow up first.... why is that wrong? I haven't called anyone unstable nor have I used any foul language in my discussion. would you say then, if you are disagreeing, that people who feel creating isn't cheating... but rather acceptable behaviour, should still be considered as mentally ready for a relationship?" Well then I apologise for saying "fucking" if you were offended by it, I wasn't intending it to be abusive, it was more an exclamation of incredulity because I couldn't believe you were seriously saying what you appeared to be saying. But evidently you were. On the rest of it, I've said what I wanted to say in my posts above already, perhaps re-read them slowly. | |||
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"If a man claims he has permission I would like a quick phone call with the wife to confirm that. I've been bitten because of this before and that's just how I work. Of course if this isn't possible I'd just wish him well in finding what he's looking for." This. | |||
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"I don't think that swingers would care about married men or women, but would care about cheating men and women. Or am I just being naive? Would anyone describe themselves as a swingers and disagree with the above? " Some would yes | |||
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"If a married guy describes his relationship as 'sexless' I always wonder why she doesn't want it from him any more. Doesn't say much about his skills as a lover does it?! ." Two people in a relationship, it isn't always one persons fault that things are not right. Men always seem to get the blame in this situation though | |||
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"anon. sadly it seems you didn't read or more correctly understand my posts. i am questioning mental maturity not mental stability or any other question of intelligence. mature fulfilling relationships need mature thoughts and consideration and use of the mind. The inability to understand what cheating is and the inability to understand that it is wrong clearly demonstrates the total lack of maturity to be in a relationship. as you disagree with that I'd love to understand your take on it.... but you haven't explained why you disagree you simply attack the opinion and make abusive comments. pPlease explain how and why you think that people who cheat but then say it's not cheating because they have the right to have sex with anyone without asking permission, are mentally and emotionally mature? it is a secondary school attitude to my mind and they should wait to be more mature to enter into a proper relationship to avoid causing hurt and pain" I'm glad you're not questioning intelligence, because that would be rather hypocritical. I have not mentioned mental stability; I was challenging your use of the term mental CAPACITY. The only person on this thread who has said anything about not having to ask permission from partners before having sex is the person who is in an openly poly relationship and not cheating on anybody. It wasn't me who said that. That's why I said you were confused. That's not the point I'm defending. At no point have I been trying to justify infidelity. My only argument has been that I find it offensive to suggest that any person who has ever cheated on someone has done so because they lack the mental capacity to have a relationship. The reason I think that is offensive, is because it IS offensive. People make decisions for all kinds of reasons. You may not agree at all with their decision and that's totally ok - but that doesn't mean they're too stupid to make it, which is what you are saying by saying that someone lacks mental capacity. | |||
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"Its swing !!! as long as both adults are consenting to the activities they indulge in why does the marital status matter and surely no one has to get permission for their own life choices now days ??? " Life choices? We aren't talking about going gluten free here - sex with strangers has physical, emotional and sometimes medical implications. When cheaters are making "life choices" for their cock or pussy, they are also making "life choices" for their unsuspecting partner at home. Some partners are okay with that. Some wouldn't be. Wanting verification that it's all above board would be an "all clear" for my conscience - but apparently not everybody needs it cleared. | |||
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"Its swing !!! as long as both adults are consenting to the activities they indulge in why does the marital status matter and surely no one has to get permission for their own life choices now days ??? Life choices? We aren't talking about going gluten free here - sex with strangers has physical, emotional and sometimes medical implications. When cheaters are making "life choices" for their cock or pussy, they are also making "life choices" for their unsuspecting partner at home. Some partners are okay with that. Some wouldn't be. Wanting verification that it's all above board would be an "all clear" for my conscience - but apparently not everybody needs it cleared. " | |||
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"Hey OP, When she says she's not into sex all I think is you are no good between the sheets!lol,I say this in jest... Ultimately though I couldn't give a shit if you are married or not,have permission or not.i don't know you,or your wife,nor do I care about the pair of you,empathy rarely stretches further than our noses,or line of sight.if fucking makes you happy on a planet that can be shit,and miserable at times then go for it..lets just hope the girls stay interested in sex after you've banged em... " If Carlsberg made replies | |||
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"Too many people on here are preoccupied with what others do! " Would be a pretty boring thread if no one had a opinion | |||
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"Too many people on here are preoccupied with what others do! Would be a pretty boring thread if no one had a opinion " As long as there are no personal attacks, everyone is entitled to their own opinion. | |||
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"Too many people on here are preoccupied with what others do! Would be a pretty boring thread if no one had a opinion " There's having an opinion and then there's not taking others points of view and carrying on ad infinitum! | |||
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"Too many people on here are preoccupied with what others do! Would be a pretty boring thread if no one had a opinion There's having an opinion and then there's not taking others points of view and carrying on ad infinitum!" Still good to read though. | |||
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"Its swing !!! as long as both adults are consenting to the activities they indulge in why does the marital status matter and surely no one has to get permission for their own life choices now days ??? Life choices? We aren't talking about going gluten free here - sex with strangers has physical, emotional and sometimes medical implications. When cheaters are making "life choices" for their cock or pussy, they are also making "life choices" for their unsuspecting partner at home. Some partners are okay with that. Some wouldn't be. Wanting verification that it's all above board would be an "all clear" for my conscience - but apparently not everybody needs it cleared. " Ps going gluten free is not always a life choice. | |||
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"Too many people on here are preoccupied with what others do! Would be a pretty boring thread if no one had a opinion There's having an opinion and then there's not taking others points of view and carrying on ad infinitum! Still good to read though. " Lol | |||
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"What is the problem with married guys on here ? I am married with a wife who is genuinely not interested in sex. With her blessing I am hoping to find a lady for some naughty fun. If you have your partners blessing what is the problem ?? Perhaps people should trust the guy to tell the truth ( like I always do ) what do ladies want a note from your wife giving her permission , surely not !!!! " In response to first question - they're married | |||
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"This is a meet let's have sex and fun site not a court group on morals it doesn't matter if a person is married single divorce seperated conscious uncoupling or what ever other status there may be Now go forth have sex and dam it just everyone enjoy yourselves Marie sermon over lol" Woohoo we've been given permission to lose base with empathy/conscience/morals. So let's all fuck each other and potentially fuck over those who are being cheated. | |||
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"This is a meet let's have sex and fun site not a court group on morals it doesn't matter if a person is married single divorce seperated conscious uncoupling or what ever other status there may be Now go forth have sex and dam it just everyone enjoy yourselves Marie sermon over lol Woohoo we've been given permission to lose base with empathy/conscience/morals. So let's all fuck each other and potentially fuck over those who are being cheated. " | |||
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"This is a meet let's have sex and fun site not a court group on morals it doesn't matter if a person is married single divorce seperated conscious uncoupling or what ever other status there may be Now go forth have sex and dam it just everyone enjoy yourselves Marie sermon over lol" Lets hope no one ever cheats on you hey | |||
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"I would make an intelligent and informed comment, based on posts and information i have read in this thread, but like most threads, i fear i don't have a horse high enough to sit on Try a clothes horse. You'll collapse in giggles " never understood why there called that, cos they dont look like a horse | |||
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"What is the problem with married guys on here ? I am married with a wife who is genuinely not interested in sex. With her blessing I am hoping to find a lady for some naughty fun. If you have your partners blessing what is the problem ?? Perhaps people should trust the guy to tell the truth ( like I always do ) what do ladies want a note from your wife giving her permission , surely not !!!! " Who cares? I see some married and attached guys regularly. I'm not interested in their situation - that's their problem. I'm not looking for a new partner or someone to father my kids. It's nsa in the true sense but that doesn't mean you can't form a relationship with them. Xx | |||
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"What is the problem with married guys on here ? I am married with a wife who is genuinely not interested in sex. With her blessing I am hoping to find a lady for some naughty fun. If you have your partners blessing what is the problem ?? Perhaps people should trust the guy to tell the truth ( like I always do ) what do ladies want a note from your wife giving her permission , surely not !!!! Who cares? I see some married and attached guys regularly. I'm not interested in their situation - that's their problem. I'm not looking for a new partner or someone to father my kids. It's nsa in the true sense but that doesn't mean you can't form a relationship with them. Xx" Hmmm troll? *gets popcorn and sits in front row VIP* | |||
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"What is the problem with married guys on here ? I am married with a wife who is genuinely not interested in sex. With her blessing I am hoping to find a lady for some naughty fun. If you have your partners blessing what is the problem ?? Perhaps people should trust the guy to tell the truth ( like I always do ) what do ladies want a note from your wife giving her permission , surely not !!!! Who cares? I see some married and attached guys regularly. I'm not interested in their situation - that's their problem. I'm not looking for a new partner or someone to father my kids. It's nsa in the true sense but that doesn't mean you can't form a relationship with them. Xx Hmmm troll? *gets popcorn and sits in front row VIP*" Why would someone be trolling for expressing that view? A lot would agree. There are certainly men on here who have told me they like to meet married women because they know there's little chance of them getting too attached or looking for something more serious. Others will completely disagree and that's totally understandable too. | |||
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"What is the problem with married guys on here ? I am married with a wife who is genuinely not interested in sex. With her blessing I am hoping to find a lady for some naughty fun. If you have your partners blessing what is the problem ?? Perhaps people should trust the guy to tell the truth ( like I always do ) what do ladies want a note from your wife giving her permission , surely not !!!! Who cares? I see some married and attached guys regularly. I'm not interested in their situation - that's their problem. I'm not looking for a new partner or someone to father my kids. It's nsa in the true sense but that doesn't mean you can't form a relationship with them. Xx Hmmm troll? *gets popcorn and sits in front row VIP*" Troll why? | |||
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"Just the way it was worded. Thought it may have been. Most of the other posts weren't quite that open and vocal. I'm sure it will get a few users disagreeing with it etc" I'm sure it will too, but it doesn't mean it's not a genuine post. | |||
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"This is a meet let's have sex and fun site not a court group on morals it doesn't matter if a person is married single divorce seperated conscious uncoupling or what ever other status there may be Now go forth have sex and dam it just everyone enjoy yourselves Marie sermon over lol Lets hope no one ever cheats on you hey " I have been cheated on I just got over it as I knew I was too good for him | |||
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" Every Relationship sets it's own boundaries, what actions contistue cheating varies greatly from person to person Personally, being on a swinging site without the knowledge or consent of your partner is cheating, regardless of whether you've met anyone or not. The act of cheating isn't the sex part, by my mind But I fully accept that many will disagree with this " I agree with this. When I was monogamous (god... what was I thinking... ) my partner interacting with other people in a sex related way (such as chatting on a site like this) would have constituted cheating for me. | |||
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"If a couple in a monogamous relationship, then their boundaries for cheating, will be different to those that are not An ethical, non monogamous relationship is at its core, about being open and honest with each other. Permission isn't sought to sleep with others, because it's not normally required as most that have this type of relationship have worked out what their boundaries are for them. in my relationship, everything is shared. To cheat, within the boundaries we have set for us, would be to do something that the other has absolutely no knowledge of, that was hidden away and not shared Every Relationship sets it's own boundaries, what actions contistue cheating varies greatly from person to person Personally, being on a swinging site without the knowledge or consent of your partner is cheating, regardless of whether you've met anyone or not. The act of cheating isn't the sex part, by my mind But I fully accept that many will disagree with this For the majority of couples not on this site , any couple that have sex with others view it as cheating, because it's outside of what they perceive as normal relationship boundaries But, that's my opinion " I'm inclined to agree with what you say. | |||
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"Lets face it ..for the most you wouldnt ever know if they were wed or no ... just being realistic SX" If you're into one off meets / clubs / parties where you turn up fuck & go I'm sure that is the case for many. I've yet to ask anyone's martial status at a club... | |||
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"If a couple in a monogamous relationship, then their boundaries for cheating, will be different to those that are not An ethical, non monogamous relationship is at its core, about being open and honest with each other. Permission isn't sought to sleep with others, because it's not normally required as most that have this type of relationship have worked out what their boundaries are for them. in my relationship, everything is shared. To cheat, within the boundaries we have set for us, would be to do something that the other has absolutely no knowledge of, that was hidden away and not shared Every Relationship sets it's own boundaries, what actions contistue cheating varies greatly from person to person Personally, being on a swinging site without the knowledge or consent of your partner is cheating, regardless of whether you've met anyone or not. The act of cheating isn't the sex part, by my mind But I fully accept that many will disagree with this For the majority of couples not on this site , any couple that have sex with others view it as cheating, because it's outside of what they perceive as normal relationship boundaries But, that's my opinion I'm inclined to agree with what you say. " | |||
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"What is the problem with married guys on here ? I am married with a wife who is genuinely not interested in sex. With her blessing I am hoping to find a lady for some naughty fun. If you have your partners blessing what is the problem ?? Perhaps people should trust the guy to tell the truth ( like I always do ) what do ladies want a note from your wife giving her permission , surely not !!!! " What I would be interested to know is to what extent is she telling the truth....some women will say I am happy for you to find another lady to have some fun with....but then when you actually did go off and do so, they would throw a dizzy fit and demand divorce - make sure that her intentions are properly discussed...she may just be looking for a way out of the relationship too..... | |||
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"Just the way it was worded. Thought it may have been. Most of the other posts weren't quite that open and vocal. I'm sure it will get a few users disagreeing with it etc" The words "troll" and " bully" are bandied about too much on here just for someone posting their view. | |||
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"What is the problem with married guys on here ? I am married with a wife who is genuinely not interested in sex. With her blessing I am hoping to find a lady for some naughty fun. If you have your partners blessing what is the problem ?? Perhaps people should trust the guy to tell the truth ( like I always do ) what do ladies want a note from your wife giving her permission , surely not !!!! Who cares? I see some married and attached guys regularly. I'm not interested in their situation - that's their problem. I'm not looking for a new partner or someone to father my kids. It's nsa in the true sense but that doesn't mean you can't form a relationship with them. Xx Hmmm troll? *gets popcorn and sits in front row VIP* Troll why? " Yes, why troll?? I'm nowt like the ones in Hobbiton! ! Really not good for my ego... sigh... | |||
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"The fact that you call, the woman you married "frosty" makes me think, you need a check-up from the neck up! And, that she isn't aware of your attempted, outdoor pursuits. I hope your wife is on here, getting rattled by all and sundry " When did he call his wife 'Frosty' ???? She a snowman? | |||
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"I'm happy for people to question my life choices and decisions as i am mentally able to stand by them and justify them without the use of foul language or the obvious anget spewing out of some of these replies. i always feel that aggression and anger usually result from attempts to defend something the person knows deep within themselves is indefensible.... If you aren't prepared for your views and ideas to be challenged perhaps an open forum is not the place for you. lack of consideration for anyone but themselves sadly is in epidemic proportions in today's society and is likely to be the cause of much death and destruction in years to come. think of the major causes of injury to society and most are caused by selfishness and aggression. smile and the world smiles with you.... treat others with the respect you expect to be given to you.... think less about your own RIGHTS and consider those of the person standing next to you" I've noticed that these forums are dominated by opinionated single females, with overly inflated egos due to the amount of attention which they receive. They are backed by an army of sycophants, trying to score points with them. Any opinion different to their own is immediately and aggressively attacked. Anyway I agree with you, cheating is wrong, and the erosion of nearly all social values, as well as the destruction of community is already causing untold problems. | |||
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"I'm happy for people to question my life choices and decisions as i am mentally able to stand by them and justify them without the use of foul language or the obvious anget spewing out of some of these replies. i always feel that aggression and anger usually result from attempts to defend something the person knows deep within themselves is indefensible.... If you aren't prepared for your views and ideas to be challenged perhaps an open forum is not the place for you. lack of consideration for anyone but themselves sadly is in epidemic proportions in today's society and is likely to be the cause of much death and destruction in years to come. think of the major causes of injury to society and most are caused by selfishness and aggression. smile and the world smiles with you.... treat others with the respect you expect to be given to you.... think less about your own RIGHTS and consider those of the person standing next to you I've noticed that these forums are dominated by opinionated single females, with overly inflated egos due to the amount of attention which they receive. They are backed by an army of sycophants, trying to score points with them. Any opinion different to their own is immediately and aggressively attacked. Anyway I agree with you, cheating is wrong, and the erosion of nearly all social values, as well as the destruction of community is already causing untold problems. " I don't have an ego issue People who know me and have met me can testify this in abundance And I'm not talking about people I've been intimate with but people off sites such as this for over a decade and the numerous swingers clubs I've attended I am right in my life You are right in yours What you do doesn't concern me But when people feel they have a right to judge me an comment negatively on my life choices when not one of us is perfect rather grates with me Call it aggressive I call it standing my corner and refusing to be bullied That is IF you meant me | |||
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"I'm happy for people to question my life choices and decisions as i am mentally able to stand by them and justify them without the use of foul language or the obvious anget spewing out of some of these replies. i always feel that aggression and anger usually result from attempts to defend something the person knows deep within themselves is indefensible.... If you aren't prepared for your views and ideas to be challenged perhaps an open forum is not the place for you. lack of consideration for anyone but themselves sadly is in epidemic proportions in today's society and is likely to be the cause of much death and destruction in years to come. think of the major causes of injury to society and most are caused by selfishness and aggression. smile and the world smiles with you.... treat others with the respect you expect to be given to you.... think less about your own RIGHTS and consider those of the person standing next to you I've noticed that these forums are dominated by opinionated single females, with overly inflated egos due to the amount of attention which they receive. They are backed by an army of sycophants, trying to score points with them. Any opinion different to their own is immediately and aggressively attacked. Anyway I agree with you, cheating is wrong, and the erosion of nearly all social values, as well as the destruction of community is already causing untold problems. " Without rehashing my previous argument (I'd hate to do that ad infinitum and bore everyone ) this was aimed at me and the reason I attacked the opinion was because I was being called mentally incapable. I don't need any male sycophants to back me up, I don't post for attention, and I don't have an over inflated ego. I am actually this argumentative in real life too, funny that. | |||
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"I'm happy for people to question my life choices and decisions as i am mentally able to stand by them and justify them without the use of foul language or the obvious anget spewing out of some of these replies. i always feel that aggression and anger usually result from attempts to defend something the person knows deep within themselves is indefensible.... If you aren't prepared for your views and ideas to be challenged perhaps an open forum is not the place for you. lack of consideration for anyone but themselves sadly is in epidemic proportions in today's society and is likely to be the cause of much death and destruction in years to come. think of the major causes of injury to society and most are caused by selfishness and aggression. smile and the world smiles with you.... treat others with the respect you expect to be given to you.... think less about your own RIGHTS and consider those of the person standing next to you I've noticed that these forums are dominated by opinionated single females, with overly inflated egos due to the amount of attention which they receive. They are backed by an army of sycophants, trying to score points with them. Any opinion different to their own is immediately and aggressively attacked. Anyway I agree with you, cheating is wrong, and the erosion of nearly all social values, as well as the destruction of community is already causing untold problems. I don't have an ego issue People who know me and have met me can testify this in abundance And I'm not talking about people I've been intimate with but people off sites such as this for over a decade and the numerous swingers clubs I've attended I am right in my life You are right in yours What you do doesn't concern me But when people feel they have a right to judge me an comment negatively on my life choices when not one of us is perfect rather grates with me Call it aggressive I call it standing my corner and refusing to be bullied That is IF you meant me " Nope definitely didn't mean you. Was actually talking more about the types who were attacking you | |||
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"Lets face it ..for the most you wouldnt ever know if they were wed or no ... just being realistic SX If you're into one off meets / clubs / parties where you turn up fuck & go I'm sure that is the case for many. I've yet to ask anyone's martial status at a club... " Takes me all my time to ask a lady if shes bi | |||
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" Without rehashing my previous argument (I'd hate to do that ad infinitum and bore everyone ) this was aimed at me and the reason I attacked the opinion was because I was being called mentally incapable. I don't need any male sycophants to back me up, I don't post for attention, and I don't have an over inflated ego. I am actually this argumentative in real life too, funny that. " Agreed, you are one who doesn't appear to have an overly inflated ego. You are opinionated though, but hey so am I. You may not need the sycophants, but they are there, i'm sure you've noticed them anyway. I was just making an observation. Anyone being genuine would likely make the same one. | |||
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" I've noticed that these forums are dominated by opinionated single females, with overly inflated egos due to the amount of attention which they receive. They are backed by an army of sycophants, trying to score points with them. " It's funny, because I've noticed these forums are dominated by men with outdated and old fashioned values who don't have any respect for the viewpoints of women. (I argue the same off the forum too... so I don't think it's the 'army of sycophants' that are sending me into a hysterical state.) | |||
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" Without rehashing my previous argument (I'd hate to do that ad infinitum and bore everyone ) this was aimed at me and the reason I attacked the opinion was because I was being called mentally incapable. I don't need any male sycophants to back me up, I don't post for attention, and I don't have an over inflated ego. I am actually this argumentative in real life too, funny that. Agreed, you are one who doesn't appear to have an overly inflated ego. You are opinionated though, but hey so am I. You may not need the sycophants, but they are there, i'm sure you've noticed them anyway. I was just making an observation. Anyone being genuine would likely make the same one. " The sycophants are no reason to criticise though, because I don't court them, need them, want them or get them any more than any other woman on this site. In fact probably less so, because they don't want to be seen to condone cheating (in public). I get that this was not aimed at me - I'm just pointing out that the post you quoted originally was. And the reason I've argued my head off on this thread is not because I expect anyone to agree with my relationship status but because I massively object to being patronised and called incapable. | |||
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" It's funny, because I've noticed these forums are dominated by men with outdated and old fashioned values who don't have any respect for the viewpoints of women. (I argue the same off the forum too... so I don't think it's the 'army of sycophants' that are sending me into a hysterical state.)" I respect your viewpoint. It is a very unique one however, and you seem to see the world through a rather distorted lens. Again I wasn't particularly referring to you. The sycophants tend to leave you alone as you'll bite their head off anyway. | |||
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" It's funny, because I've noticed these forums are dominated by men with outdated and old fashioned values who don't have any respect for the viewpoints of women. (I argue the same off the forum too... so I don't think it's the 'army of sycophants' that are sending me into a hysterical state.) I respect your viewpoint. It is a very unique one however, and you seem to see the world through a rather distorted lens. Again I wasn't particularly referring to you. The sycophants tend to leave you alone as you'll bite their head off anyway. " Her viewpoint isn't that unique. Once you step outside of the construct of monogamous relationship, there are many that view things in a very similar way As for believing that women on this site are fuelled by an army of sycophantic man to give their opinions, all I can say is that it would appear strong women aren't a norm for you Yes, many men can be falsely sycophantic on herev(in the delusional hope that will somehow get them what they want) but the majority of women on here are smart, savy and educated enough to see the false platitudes for what they are, and have no need for them to enable them to voice their opinions | |||
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" It's funny, because I've noticed these forums are dominated by men with outdated and old fashioned values who don't have any respect for the viewpoints of women. (I argue the same off the forum too... so I don't think it's the 'army of sycophants' that are sending me into a hysterical state.) I respect your viewpoint. It is a very unique one however, and you seem to see the world through a rather distorted lens. Again I wasn't particularly referring to you. The sycophants tend to leave you alone as you'll bite their head off anyway. " I don't have a distorted lens - I just reject tradition. | |||
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" Her viewpoint isn't that unique. Once you step outside of the construct of monogamous relationship, there are many that view things in a very similar way" Of course the whole idea that non-monogamy is odd or a 'distorted lens' or a somehow immoral lifestyle on a swinging site is... quite odd in itself. | |||
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" Her viewpoint isn't that unique. Once you step outside of the construct of monogamous relationship, there are many that view things in a very similar way As for believing that women on this site are fuelled by an army of sycophantic man to give their opinions, all I can say is that it would appear strong women aren't a norm for you Yes, many men can be falsely sycophantic on herev(in the delusional hope that will somehow get them what they want) but the majority of women on here are smart, savy and educated enough to see the false platitudes for what they are, and have no need for them to enable them to voice their opinions" Well firstly living ones life polyamorously is fairly unique, not sure how you can argue with that. At no point have i said i have a problem with it. I have plenty of respect for genuinely strong minded women. Not those who disrespect others. You are painting me as someone I am not, and arguing with a false sentiment. | |||
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" Her viewpoint isn't that unique. Once you step outside of the construct of monogamous relationship, there are many that view things in a very similar way Of course the whole idea that non-monogamy is odd or a 'distorted lens' or a somehow immoral lifestyle on a swinging site is... quite odd in itself." I wasn't talking about your non-monogamy. How does that have any bearing on the way you view the world..? | |||
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" It's funny, because I've noticed these forums are dominated by men with outdated and old fashioned values who don't have any respect for the viewpoints of women. (I argue the same off the forum too... so I don't think it's the 'army of sycophants' that are sending me into a hysterical state.) I respect your viewpoint. It is a very unique one however, and you seem to see the world through a rather distorted lens. Again I wasn't particularly referring to you. The sycophants tend to leave you alone as you'll bite their head off anyway. " Haha, the wisdom of the young!! Strange, tho two people who's positions would appear to be an anathema to me have my respect by virtue of their ability for calm and reasoned argument, whereas those who I probably most closely agree with have largely lost my respect due to the immaturity of theirs. Oh the irony..... | |||
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" Her viewpoint isn't that unique. Once you step outside of the construct of monogamous relationship, there are many that view things in a very similar way Of course the whole idea that non-monogamy is odd or a 'distorted lens' or a somehow immoral lifestyle on a swinging site is... quite odd in itself. I wasn't talking about your non-monogamy. How does that have any bearing on the way you view the world..?" That's the only thing I've contributed to this thread in discussion. So if you're not referring to that, then I have no idea what you're referring to. | |||
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" Well firstly living ones life polyamorously is fairly unique, not sure how you can argue with that. " About 50% of my friendship group are polyamorous. And there are thousands and thousands and thousands of people on this site alone who are non monogamous. Not actually that unique. I generally consider myself non-monogamous rather than polyamorous. | |||
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"I'm happy for people to question my life choices and decisions as i am mentally able to stand by them and justify them without the use of foul language or the obvious anget spewing out of some of these replies. i always feel that aggression and anger usually result from attempts to defend something the person knows deep within themselves is indefensible.... If you aren't prepared for your views and ideas to be challenged perhaps an open forum is not the place for you. lack of consideration for anyone but themselves sadly is in epidemic proportions in today's society and is likely to be the cause of much death and destruction in years to come. think of the major causes of injury to society and most are caused by selfishness and aggression. smile and the world smiles with you.... treat others with the respect you expect to be given to you.... think less about your own RIGHTS and consider those of the person standing next to you I've noticed that these forums are dominated by opinionated single females, with overly inflated egos due to the amount of attention which they receive. They are backed by an army of sycophants, trying to score points with them. Any opinion different to their own is immediately and aggressively attacked. Anyway I agree with you, cheating is wrong, and the erosion of nearly all social values, as well as the destruction of community is already causing untold problems. Without rehashing my previous argument (I'd hate to do that ad infinitum and bore everyone ) this was aimed at me and the reason I attacked the opinion was because I was being called mentally incapable. I don't need any male sycophants to back me up, I don't post for attention, and I don't have an over inflated ego. I am actually this argumentative in real life too, funny that. " Why did you assume my Latin adverb was aimed at you? It actually wasn't | |||
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