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Where are all the single females who want to swing with couples??????
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We are a couple who joined this site to meet with sexy women to have NSA fun with.
We have never had a FFM before and have wanted this for a long time, can anyone tell us where they are as we have had no luck on here, I would'nt mind were not even bad looking.
My mans Birthday this weekend and have tried to arrange for 3 months now with no luck. PLEASE PLEASE CAN ANYONE HELP XXXXXX |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You pics are not enticing, your profile text says very little, you're not verified by meet even a social or webcam. You say what you want, how you're not bad looking but don't say what you offer the single fem and why they would be interested in you over many other couples on the same search.
It really does read all about you - if you want a lady on your terms for your night and for your fantasy then I suggest getting yourselves an escort. Otherwise understand that in swinging the ladies are here for their own pleasure not just to offer a service when you so demand it!
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"You pics are not enticing, your profile text says very little, you're not verified by meet even a social or webcam. You say what you want, how you're not bad looking but don't say what you offer the single fem and why they would be interested in you over many other couples on the same search.
It really does read all about you - if you want a lady on your terms for your night and for your fantasy then I suggest getting yourselves an escort. Otherwise understand that in swinging the ladies are here for their own pleasure not just to offer a service when you so demand it!
Good luck "
I agree..there would need to be a lot more details for me to respond. Also everyone wants a mff so demand is high and you have to stand out.
Most couples I've met were at clubs as I prefer the less pressurised environment |
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"You pics are not enticing, your profile text says very little, you're not verified by meet even a social or webcam. You say what you want, how you're not bad looking but don't say what you offer the single fem and why they would be interested in you over many other couples on the same search. "
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After 2 weeks with a one line profile and mostly pictures of your bottoms... Think about it, if you were a single bi fem who was looking to join a couple and you received a messge from your profile would you reply? Most people check out profiles before even reading a message so you need to put more effort in im afraid. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you, it's about the 3 of us having fun together.
We would love it if you would play with us.
Your profile won't let us message you are we are out of your age group, we can send you a face pic.
Regards E & M |
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"We would message you so we can send a pic, it says we are out of you XXr age group.
We would love to have some dinner drinks and adult fun. xx
E & M"
Try hitting the reply and quote button for who you are replying to as people won't know otherwise, |
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"We would message you so we can send a pic, it says we are out of you XXr age group.
We would love to have some dinner drinks and adult fun. xx
E & M"
use the quote button so it is clear who you are talking to |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thank you, it's about the 3 of us having fun together.
We would love it if you would play with us.
Your profile won't let us message you are we are out of your age group, we can send you a face pic.
Regards E & M"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are a couple who joined this site to meet with sexy women to have NSA fun with.
We have never had a FFM before and have wanted this for a long time, can anyone tell us where they are as we have had no luck on here, I would'nt mind were not even bad looking.
My mans Birthday this weekend and have tried to arrange for 3 months now with no luck. PLEASE PLEASE CAN ANYONE HELP XXXXXX"
The tone of this suggests you want someone to fulfil your fantasy, it doesn't sound like mutual fun is that high on your agenda |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We would message you so we can send a pic, it says we are out of you XXr age group.
We would love to have some dinner drinks and adult fun. xx
E & M
Try hitting the reply and quote button for who you are replying to as people won't know otherwise, "
They're probably aiming it at any woman who replied on this thread  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is a reason single bi females are sometimes referred to as unicorns. You haven't even bothered to write a profile (it's just the default text) - what do you really expect to be the outcome with so little effort? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are a couple who joined this site to meet with sexy women to have NSA fun with.
We have never had a FFM before and have wanted this for a long time, can anyone tell us where they are as we have had no luck on here, I would'nt mind were not even bad looking.
My mans Birthday this weekend and have tried to arrange for 3 months now with no luck. PLEASE PLEASE CAN ANYONE HELP XXXXXX
The tone of this suggests you want someone to fulfil your fantasy, it doesn't sound like mutual fun is that high on your agenda"
What's wrong with trying to fulfil a fantasy  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We would message you so we can send a pic, it says we are out of you XXr age group.
We would love to have some dinner drinks and adult fun. xx
E & M
Try hitting the reply and quote button for who you are replying to as people won't know otherwise,
They're probably aiming it at any woman who replied on this thread "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are a couple who joined this site to meet with sexy women to have NSA fun with.
We have never had a FFM before and have wanted this for a long time, can anyone tell us where they are as we have had no luck on here, I would'nt mind were not even bad looking.
My mans Birthday this weekend and have tried to arrange for 3 months now with no luck. PLEASE PLEASE CAN ANYONE HELP XXXXXX
The tone of this suggests you want someone to fulfil your fantasy, it doesn't sound like mutual fun is that high on your agenda
What's wrong with trying to fulfil a fantasy "
here here! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are a couple who joined this site to meet with sexy women to have NSA fun with.
We have never had a FFM before and have wanted this for a long time, can anyone tell us where they are as we have had no luck on here, I would'nt mind were not even bad looking.
My mans Birthday this weekend and have tried to arrange for 3 months now with no luck. PLEASE PLEASE CAN ANYONE HELP XXXXXX
The tone of this suggests you want someone to fulfil your fantasy, it doesn't sound like mutual fun is that high on your agenda
What's wrong with trying to fulfil a fantasy "
Nothing at all. But as countless previous forum posts have demonstrated, people don't like to be made to feel like 'performing seals'. It's the mutual enjoyment part that is key |
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"We are a couple who joined this site to meet with sexy women to have NSA fun with.
We have never had a FFM before and have wanted this for a long time, can anyone tell us where they are as we have had no luck on here, I would'nt mind were not even bad looking.
My mans Birthday this weekend and have tried to arrange for 3 months now with no luck. PLEASE PLEASE CAN ANYONE HELP XXXXXX
The tone of this suggests you want someone to fulfil your fantasy, it doesn't sound like mutual fun is that high on your agenda
What's wrong with trying to fulfil a fantasy "
nothing! The point is there has to be something in it for everyone involved not just the OP and her husband |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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"i will with the right couple but as soon as i see a profile that says the women will play whilst the man watches i close the page.i am not a stage actThis Why should women have to perform for the guy,really dont know what the man can get out of watching and not touching 
You've never viewed porn then?What has that got to do with having some ape stood over you if your playing with his wife?"
What if he is a mild mannered pipsqueak, watching through the wrong end of a telescope? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As someone who does meet couples there is absolutely nothing on your profile that sounds attractive. If you are goibg to rely on this site you need to put more effort into yoyr profile and that includes good photos of you both. If not go to a club cos you will have a long wait. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why should women have to perform for the guy,really dont know what the man can get out of watching and not touching
You've never viewed porn then?What has that got to do with having some ape stood over you if your playing with his wife?"
Was intended as a facetious albeit obvious comment on 'watching not touching'. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been on this site for almost 5 years now and have only recently met with a couple. This is due the approach that previous couples have made, the kind of approach you have made in your post. For me the thought of performing for someone, fulfilling someone else's fantasy or being someone's birthday/anniversary present does not make me want to meet them. I much prefer to know that all three people are interested in each other, are attracted to each other and want to have fun with each other. Good luck in your search OP but maybe take another approach. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It sounds like you want to do this as a birthday treat for hubby.
This makes it hard for others at times, as doing it just for him, it is about mutual good times.
We have been in a situation where the female half was doing it just for the male half, no good laugh at all that.
Mutual pleasure all the way, the single female could end up feeling like a toy.
Her |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are a couple who joined this site to meet with sexy women to have NSA fun with.
We have never had a FFM before and have wanted this for a long time, can anyone tell us where they are as we have had no luck on here, I would'nt mind were not even bad looking.
My mans Birthday this weekend and have tried to arrange for 3 months now with no luck. PLEASE PLEASE CAN ANYONE HELP XXXXXX"
None of the single bi females that I know want to be considered a "birthday treat" for a bloke... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I sometimes feel that people imagine fab to be similar to a mail order catalogue. "
I get messaged from many couples who are 'looking for a birthday treat' for their partners. Honestly, being treated like a commodity is not a flattering proposition. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unicorns this way
Guiltypleasure sexy couple he he he
Lol I'm the guy and I tell you I'm very popular with the girls on a night out in town,,,, but on hear I'm just the a average cock he he.
Give the single fems a rest there hear all right they just play with who they want and most have buddies. |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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People should remember that people that they have met, or who post on the forums, don't constitute everyone who is on Fab.
There are single bi fems on Fab who will happily play with the fem of a couple while the man watches - because that's what turns them on too.
There are also single bi fems on Fab who are happy to be a toy for a couple to fulfil their fantasies with - because that's what turns them on too.
In short, whatever you are looking for, you will find it on here if you are patient, honest and communicative enough. If the OP couple don't find what they are looking for, it certainly isn't going to be because they are after something that doesn't exist. |
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"I sometimes feel that people imagine fab to be similar to a mail order catalogue.
I get messaged from many couples who are 'looking for a birthday treat' for their partners. Honestly, being treated like a commodity is not a flattering proposition. "
No I don't imagine it is.
We were talking about this today when we were messaged by someone twenty minutes after they joined and two hours before they left and agreed that some people have the wrong idea about the site. |
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"People should remember that people that they have met, or who post on the forums, don't constitute everyone who is on Fab.
There are single bi fems on Fab who will happily play with the fem of a couple while the man watches - because that's what turns them on too.
There are also single bi fems on Fab who are happy to be a toy for a couple to fulfil their fantasies with - because that's what turns them on too.
In short, whatever you are looking for, you will find it on here if you are patient, honest and communicative enough. If the OP couple don't find what they are looking for, it certainly isn't going to be because they are after something that doesn't exist."
Very good point! |
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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago
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We were talking about this today when we were messaged by someone twenty minutes after they joined and two hours before they left and agreed that some people have the wrong idea about the site. "
So how many times did they get laid while they were on the site???? |
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I think as previously said there is something for everyone on here. although not personally interested in being your birthday gift to your hubby, there are definitely some girls that would, your main problem I think it the complete lack of info and or pics. For a start it's difficult from your pics to tell for sure if there is indeed a fem and a guy! your profile looks massively rushed and as some one also previously said this is not a catalogue! Your profile needs pics, You need some verifications for BOTH of you, even if just by cam. And u need to not sound so much like your shopping. Speak to some of the ladies and find out if you suit them and vice versa before you try and make plans. Pushing people m or f tend (in general) to put people off! If you can be patient and not quite so selfish sounding (sorry!) you may have more luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are a couple who joined this site to meet with sexy women to have NSA fun with.
We have never had a FFM before and have wanted this for a long time, can anyone tell us where they are as we have had no luck on here, I would'nt mind were not even bad looking.
My mans Birthday this weekend and have tried to arrange for 3 months now with no luck. PLEASE PLEASE CAN ANYONE HELP XXXXXX"
My Mum used to say to me 'I want doesn't get'.
I think it's appropriate. You have to put the work in. |
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We were talking about this today when we were messaged by someone twenty minutes after they joined and two hours before they left and agreed that some people have the wrong idea about the site.
So how many times did they get laid while they were on the site????"
No idea but not many in a couple of hours I wouldn't have thought |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think this is a problem for mf couple that have decent profile and decent pics, like some one said previously that the bi fem = unicorn but we also think that just a single fem that's interested in threesome (Mff) are also hard to come by  |
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They are here, with us, having non-stop sex!
Ok, that was flippant, here's the sensible answer... stop trying so hard!
We have never played with a "single bi female"... but we have played with a shitload of our friends who just so happen to be single, bi, and female!
One of the main fantasies that brought us into swinging was for Jayne to try out her "bi side", and once she tried it, she loved it, so we love playing with bi ladies.
But we love making friends too, so we hit the socials, parties, clubs and events, make friends..... and then just go with the flow.
If we play, whether its with a Cpl, a guy, or a fem, then that's great, but if we don't, well, we've still made some more friends.
If you make one fantasy your whole focus, you will quickly lose faith in swinging, so accept that they are out there, but also accept that you have to do the long yards to get anywhere.... and just enjoy the lifestyle! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think we've been fortunate but when its happened, its been organic rather than a planned operation, just get to know people attend clubs and socials get familiar and comfortable with people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm guessing all the single females who want to play with couples are out there playing with the couples they have chosen to play with
Just a wild stab in the dark  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm guessing all the single females who want to play with couples are out there playing with the couples they have chosen to play with
Just a wild stab in the dark "
That's obviously it |
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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago
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We were talking about this today when we were messaged by someone twenty minutes after they joined and two hours before they left and agreed that some people have the wrong idea about the site.
So how many times did they get laid while they were on the site????
No idea but not many in a couple of hours I wouldn't have thought "
Yeah your probably right, 3-4 Max I would say, at a real push, if they were hot, maybe 5 fucks, but probably no more than that.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My mum used to say 'I want, don't get' too - I thought it was a daft saying then, and I still do
Elle has been on a meet and had that feeling of being there just for the man's fantasy - effectively a free whore. Now she enjoys acting like a wanton slut, but didn't enjoy that meet at all and as a result has never met alone with a couple again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My mum used to say 'I want, don't get' too - I thought it was a daft saying then, and I still do
Elle has been on a meet and had that feeling of being there just for the man's fantasy - effectively a free whore. Now she enjoys acting like a wanton slut, but didn't enjoy that meet at all and as a result has never met alone with a couple again. "
That's basically my experience.
I love threesomes, I do them as often as possible with one of my lovers and his partner. But I'm extremely hesitant to meet couples off of sites like this. I would *never* meet someone who intended me to be a birthday present for hubby, because that's just objectifying and kind of gross. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What sort of FFM are you looking for? I meet 2 couples but for fun with Mr while the lady watches and/or assists with toys etc. I'm not interested in woman sexually really. I only mention this because from your profile and meet request, that wouldn't be clear. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We exist, I know many bi lasses on here who meet couples - myself included - & having read the replies here I have to say I agree with what many others are saying.
I've had numerous couples contact me in the past with the 'birthday treat' line & they always get a polite no....shockingly this has often been followed up by a 'please just meet me...she'll never know'...appalling!
I'll only ever play if a couple has: good veris, clear pics & an articulate profile....but moreover that they have what I'm looking for in terms of fantasies & kinky turn ons...simply being a third leg - pfft no thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Interesting thread - basically though, the reality is that the % of single ladies on fab who do meet couples is extremely low - and that is borne out by many conversations we have had with swingers (none of whom, we might add, would ever treat a single lady with anything but the utmost respect i.e. no "birthday present for hubby" types). We have only ever managed one meet with a single girl in 4 years on this site (previously under another profile) and have now given up on the idea altogether. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes its very hard to find a woman op. I been trying for 5 years lol
Did you call? "
Ggrr ive met you but youre too young for us to message ...
We have met some single fems ..they are out there ..go and pamper them .. |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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My mans Birthday this weekend and have tried to arrange for 3 months now with no luck. PLEASE PLEASE CAN ANYONE HELP XXXXXX"
Sorry, but it sounds like that you are looking for an 'object' to please your man. I for one have a lot more self-respect to even consider to be someone's plaything, especially not for a couple  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i will with the right couple but as soon as i see a profile that says the women will play whilst the man watches i close the page.i am not a stage act"
.....you English are a strange race.....lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You pics are not enticing, your profile text says very little, you're not verified by meet even a social or webcam. You say what you want, how you're not bad looking but don't say what you offer the single fem and why they would be interested in you over many other couples on the same search.
It really does read all about you - if you want a lady on your terms for your night and for your fantasy then I suggest getting yourselves an escort. Otherwise understand that in swinging the ladies are here for their own pleasure not just to offer a service when you so demand it!
Good luck "
I dunno if they have updated their profile since you posted this. But it doesn't read it's all about them to me. Granted it doesn't say at lot about them either. To me though it reads like they are very considerate to the ladies needs. |
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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago
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You may one day get to fulfil your fantasy but you will need to socialise, go to clubs, make friends, you know like in the real world.
We have made some amazing friends in the past year we've been swinging and have been fortunate enough to have mfm, fmf, foursomes and moresomes. We organised our own birthday fantasies and were aided by our wonderful Fab friends.
We wish you luck in your endeavour but you'll probably have to work at it. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You pics are not enticing, your profile text says very little, you're not verified by meet even a social or webcam. You say what you want, how you're not bad looking but don't say what you offer the single fem and why they would be interested in you over many other couples on the same search.
It really does read all about you - if you want a lady on your terms for your night and for your fantasy then I suggest getting yourselves an escort. Otherwise understand that in swinging the ladies are here for their own pleasure not just to offer a service when you so demand it!
Good luck
I dunno if they have updated their profile since you posted this. But it doesn't read it's all about them to me. Granted it doesn't say at lot about them either. To me though it reads like they are very considerate to the ladies needs."
It's been reworded since earlier. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just a note to the OP - referring to someone you want to have sex with as 'the lady' is quite objectifying. How about 'we don't mind putting YOU up at our place, or in a hotel' instead of 'we don't mind putting THE LADY up at our place'. It might seem pedantic, but those of us who actively search for couples to have sex with can be put off very easily by such things. |
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"Yes its very hard to find a woman op. I been trying for 5 years lol
Did you call? Yes I did call you X"
Hmmmm
I just find it awkward when one person is just watching it seems like such a waste! Unless theyre temporarily holding a camera that is |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When we first joined fab about 4 years ago , it was our first time swinging , and we had been together for a year .
Like so many other couples we sought the bi female to join us . To cut a long story short , we went to our local swingers club , and a few clubs further afield and within weeks had a few ffm meets . Even a three girl and myself one night within our first month .
After 9 months in the scene we had our hen/ stag night in our local club and finished up with 6 girls and myself in a lockable room .
Before you think we are exercising bragging rights here , let me assure you we aren't . That night I got some male friends to join us as the appeal had gone for me , and although we met many more single bi females I chose to watch rather than join in from then on .
The simple fact is that if its what you really want , it's very easy to find if you are proactive .
But because so many expect every fantasy to become a reality by sitting in front of a computer , it seems impossible to them .
This is our third stint on fab , I guess we have must have met over 50 single bi females , half we both played with , half just my wife as I watched . I prefer the latter .
So to sum up , get out there and be proactive , it's not hard to get what you want .
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