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do verifications actully mean much ???
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We find them useful tbh, and we presume ours are for people wondering if we are worth getting in contact with.
Its like a job reference, if someone has a recieved a short "nice people" veri, our guess is that they are not. Lol.  |
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For us it's a gauge of they are who they say they are (if it's a couple they are actually a couple rather than a single guy), and if they sound like the kind of people we'd get on with.
After that it's down to chatting etc to see if there's a mutual interest before proceeding to a meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just check peeps are verified so that we know they are real and turn up.
We make our own mind up after that.
We like to leave verifications as a compliment to the nice people we have met  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think they are useful to gauge if someone is actually doing what they say they are in the profile. If they haven't had a veri in 6+ months it makes me a little suspicious"
Why? I work away all summer and often go six months without a fab meet....many of us hunt away from fab too.......fab adds to a sex life, its not the only way most of us meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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first time i joined (2yrs ago) all i wanted was to get veried!
now i see em as nothing more than green flags. they lost ANY value to me when i showed a fwb how to join last year and within minutes she was offered a meet veri. "it will give you cred!" the guy said!
Since then i have found out "straight" guys meet bi men to get a veri then open a female account and veri that!!
So lost all value to me and i have met off here with those who do not require or want a veri. So of no value to me and if i miss the odd meet because i'm not veried, i'll cope.
However if i was part of a couple i may change that approach  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We keep losing ours as meet people with no verification and then they leave... Honestly we are not hiding them in the basement lol
Verifications we use and can be useful. If a single lady has been on ages with no verification we are pretty sure it's a guy x
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I never read people's veris, I look to see if they have any, when the last one was, if they are meet or webcam and lastly if it is the same person writting veri after veri, pissing up the lamp post kinda thing. I don't read the actual content as they all seem to be pretty similar. Great person, suckable cock (!) don't let this one pass you by and treat them with respect  |
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"I never read people's veris, I look to see if they have any, when the last one was, if they are meet or webcam and lastly if it is the same person writting veri after veri, pissing up the lamp post kinda thing. I don't read the actual content as they all seem to be pretty similar. Great person, suckable cock (!) don't let this one pass you by and treat them with respect "
I totally agree with this.
Somebody earlier in the thread said they make up their own mind....well you can do that once the verification has at least proved that they're real...what is said in the verification is largely immaterial. |
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"Yes as not keen to meet people who have met people we have previously met."
I have no problem with meeting people who played with the same people I have.
I often get recommendations from friends, you will like this guy. Quite often they are right |
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"I think they are useful to gauge if someone is actually doing what they say they are in the profile. If they haven't had a veri in 6+ months it makes me a little suspicious"
Our last verification was over a year ago but we are still looking to meet people. We use fab as an addition to our sex life. It wouldn't be the end of the world if we didn't meet someone for another year either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They're a part of the tool box along with judgement, intuition, communication and lust! The content isn't that important unless they're a graphic blow by blow account, which can put us off, although it's not the verified who have much control over that...are they who they portray themselves as, have they turned up previously, are they purely social meets or cam verifications? They're also a good way of seeing who someone has already met, do they seem to have a type, are we it? One thing that does sometimes make us wary are people saying they only meet one group of people ie. Couples, but only have verifications from another group, usually single men...It makes us wonder if they're consistent or that they'll meet just anyone if they can't get what they're supposedly looking for...or maybe they've just changed their preferences and we find that out by talking with them...it's all part of the selection process for us |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They hopefully mean they are real and that's as far as it goes for us. The rest we find out ourselves by chatting/messaging them. "
Agreed! For me, as a single fem, if they have several verifications then I'm more confident that they're safe to meet! I've had no problems on fab - but had one or two awful experiences in the online dating world! It's the verification process on fab - and the safe environment in clubs - that matters to me most! |
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We did have a single guy who came here one night, although he had no veri's he had been on the site for over a year, however, when he did come along he was such a nice and good looking guy who had obviously just been overlooked so its still worth checking out people who are not verified but obviously not on your own and in an unsafe place..  |
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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago
Nr Manchester |
We often don't expect or provide verifications for people we meet more than once; at least not every time.
However ou can actually tell quite a lot from verifications, and the verifications of the people doing the verification. However agree with the response that they are only a tool.
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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago
Cambridge |
"I think they are useful to gauge if someone is actually doing what they say they are in the profile. If they haven't had a veri in 6+ months it makes me a little suspicious
Why? I work away all summer and often go six months without a fab meet....many of us hunt away from fab too.......fab adds to a sex life, its not the only way most of us meet. "
It's just the way we work it. I just said it makes me more suspicious, not that I would rule out a meet because of it. If they haven't had a meet in a long time it COULD be that the couple have split, but Mr is still using the account. So if we were going to play we would probably do a Skype chat before. If they have recent veris, from other verified people, we might skip this step. |
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over a year ago
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"It seems swinging is more about seeing who has and gets the most veris lol "
It does seem that way these days. It was, I thought, just a way to say the person was who they said they were and were genuine. Now it seems some are totally obsessed with getting them like its some sort of badge of honour. I never read them, some are just way too graphic and I prefer to make my own mind up about a person, not go on what a total stranger has said. |
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over a year ago
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"It seems swinging is more about seeing who has and gets the most veris lol
I don't agree, but you can't Swing with a fake profile.... "
So what your saying everyone who is not verified is fake? What do you class as fake? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It seems swinging is more about seeing who has and gets the most veris lol
It does seem that way these days. It was, I thought, just a way to say the person was who they said they were and were genuine. Now it seems some are totally obsessed with getting them like its some sort of badge of honour. I never read them, some are just way too graphic and I prefer to make my own mind up about a person, not go on what a total stranger has said. "
YEs that's right its more of a badge of honour these days. How I see it as is you dont need a veri to show your genuine, many do get missed and them who looking for a veri might miss their perfect match cos they don't got a veri. The only thing you really need is to be foto verified. |
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I don't like graphic ones and if someone left me one like that I wouldn't display it.
I love the social ones, they make me chuckle every time I read them.
On other peoples profiles they are only a small piece of the many things I look for when deciding wether to meet someone. |
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"I don't like graphic ones and if someone left me one like that I wouldn't display it.
I love the social ones, they make me chuckle every time I read them.
On other peoples profiles they are only a small piece of the many things I look for when deciding wether to meet someone. "
Seeing graphic ones puts me right off. I am not hoping for veris that give blow by blow (pun) accounts of my liaisons and do not give them to others. |
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over a year ago
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"I don't give them much notice. Had verified people go quiet when it is time to meet as well as unverified. "
Exactly. It doesn't guarantee anything. I've seen status updates naming people as time wasters yet when you look, they're very well verified. I've had great meets with unverified people and been mucked around by verified people. I treat them with a pinch of salt and make my own mind up. |
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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago
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"It seems swinging is more about seeing who has and gets the most veris lol
I don't agree, but you can't Swing with a fake profile.... So what your saying everyone who is not verified is fake? What do you class as fake? "
We only play with couples so I never really look at single men or women. The kind of profiles I am talking about are usually 25-35, non-smoker, with a really hot woman in the pics, some of them dating back more than a year, but no verifications. Have you ever seen a profile like that? So either it is a bloke pretending to be a couple, or it might be a genuine couple, but they are not actually interested in swinging. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It seems swinging is more about seeing who has and gets the most veris lol
I don't agree, but you can't Swing with a fake profile.... So what your saying everyone who is not verified is fake? What do you class as fake?
We only play with couples so I never really look at single men or women. The kind of profiles I am talking about are usually 25-35, non-smoker, with a really hot woman in the pics, some of them dating back more than a year, but no verifications. Have you ever seen a profile like that? So either it is a bloke pretending to be a couple, or it might be a genuine couple, but they are not actually interested in swinging. "
YEs I have as well seen them kind of pics and you are right or they just wanna be there so thy can get to the top fabbed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't mind giving them but don't like having them really.Makes some people jealous as they think you should be exclusive to them.We had one on a different site who stalked our friends who had given us verification. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd trust verifcations as much as I'd trust someones credit score.......
only as good at the time and is no prediction of what will happen in the future.....
Only true gauge is to meet and go from there........but only my view of course. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only used veris as a guide that someone us what they say they are (single fem etc) and I do tend to cross ref a few (I'm sure we've all caught fakes out like that). No bothered about the content - he fucks like a rabbit blah blah. |
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