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This annoys me soooo much. A woman that pretends to be bi for her husband so he can gawk and watch. Or equally a husband that tells her wife she's "bisexual" just so he can see what he wet dreams about.
And the worst bit is people actually agree to these meets! I just don't get how, mid arranging either a solo f-f with a so called "single lady" or a ffm with a cpl, they reveal that actually a man is there to watch, I won't do it without hubby, or respectively for the ffm he's only there to gawk! NO
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over a year ago
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"This annoys me soooo much. A woman that pretends to be bi for her husband so he can gawk and watch. Or equally a husband that tells her wife she's "bisexual" just so he can see what he wet dreams about.
And the worst bit is people actually agree to these meets! I just don't get how, mid arranging either a solo f-f with a so called "single lady" or a ffm with a cpl, they reveal that actually a man is there to watch, I won't do it without hubby, or respectively for the ffm he's only there to gawk! NO
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Surely, this behaviour is just a sub-section of dishonesty. If people are upfront in stating what they want, then you have the option to accept or decline. |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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This set up is something we equally want to explore, there's no exploitation from either of us on the other. It's a really delicate set up for us and Mrs wants to be in total control over who the woman will be as it will be her first experience with a girl. It's something we've spoken about but believe me it won't happen unless she says so and there's zero pressure from me either. Seeing her in differing scenarios is what I like and how she reacts in said scenario. No wanking EVER from me not even getting remotely undressed is how we play, it's not always pressure from the guy. Just for the record I prefer her to be with guys, never been interested in ff it's her who wants fm. I love to totally focus on Mrs N 100% and it's that we put our swinging focus on and she loves the fact I love to watch, it's totally about that for us and explicitly why we swing. There will be many words exchanged before we engage in this type of play with the persons involved as we'd never want people to feel how you do. Glad you put this up as it's another aspect we need to consider. |
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over a year ago
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It's all too common. I approach single bi fems profile with a little caution now.
I've chatted to a few fems who are part of a couple and use their single fems profile to initiate chat when they have no intention of meeting alone. They tend to get a little upset when I tell them I think it's an underhanded way of going about it.
I'm happy to play with couples, but would never do so if I've been contacted via a single fem profile first. |
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over a year ago
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To be honest, I personally find the thought of a man fully dressed watching me play with his partner with no involvement at all a bit creepy...Each to their own but if I was a single female meeting couples this wouldn't be for me. If I wanted to play with a woman with no involvement from the monkey, I'd meet her one to one
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"It's all too common. I approach single bi fems profile with a little caution now.
I've chatted to a few fems who are part of a couple and use their single fems profile to initiate chat when they have no intention of meeting alone. They tend to get a little upset when I tell them I think it's an underhanded way of going about it.
I'm happy to play with couples, but would never do so if I've been contacted via a single fem profile first. "
Totally with you on this ! Ive been approached by many single bi females with 'hidden agendas' saying they only meet with their fb! |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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"To be honest, I personally find the thought of a man fully dressed watching me play with his partner with no involvement at all a bit creepy...Each to their own but if I was a single female meeting couples this wouldn't be for me. If I wanted to play with a woman with no involvement from the monkey, I'd meet her one to one
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And I don't understand why you'd find that creepy, I'm not getting involved in the sexual side so why would I undress? Taking pics of Mrs N having fun is how it works for us. Got to say this is the first I've ever heard someone say that.  |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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"To be honest, I personally find the thought of a man fully dressed watching me play with his partner with no involvement at all a bit creepy...Each to their own but if I was a single female meeting couples this wouldn't be for me. If I wanted to play with a woman with no involvement from the monkey, I'd meet her one to one
J
And I don't understand why you'd find that creepy, I'm not getting involved in the sexual side so why would I undress? Taking pics of Mrs N having fun is how it works for us. Got to say this is the first I've ever heard someone say that. "
What people on Fab often fail to understand is because they like their play to be a certain way, it doesn't follow that is how everyone else likes to play.
You guys carry on having fun exactly how you like, and of course it's not creepy. If it's right for you and the people you play with, that is all that matters. |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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"It is if the male doesnt want to play. No woman in her right mind.would turn up to a meet with a couple on her own 
Er I have. And had a great time."
Of course. There are plenty of women who will meet a couple on their own. We've met some of them ourselves!
The key is comfort and safety for all involved, and that requires patience, consideration and honest communication. |
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over a year ago
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"It is if the male doesnt want to play. No woman in her right mind.would turn up to a meet with a couple on her own
Er I have. And had a great time.
Of course. There are plenty of women who will meet a couple on their own. We've met some of them ourselves!
The key is comfort and safety for all involved, and that requires patience, consideration and honest communication. "
Exactly. I really hate that attitude about single girls, it makes it all the more difficult for us! Not the kind of thing you expect to find on here. Anyway, each to their own! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We meet guys on their own , more than a few guys together , couples , and single girls and the only common denominator is that I will often just watch , whoever they are .
No complaints so far in 3 spells on fab , and hopefully we won't get any as time goes by .
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"To be honest, I personally find the thought of a man fully dressed watching me play with his partner with no involvement at all a bit creepy...Each to their own but if I was a single female meeting couples this wouldn't be for me. If I wanted to play with a woman with no involvement from the monkey, I'd meet her one to one
J
And I don't understand why you'd find that creepy, I'm not getting involved in the sexual side so why would I undress? Taking pics of Mrs N having fun is how it works for us. Got to say this is the first I've ever heard someone say that.
What people on Fab often fail to understand is because they like their play to be a certain way, it doesn't follow that is how everyone else likes to play.
You guys carry on having fun exactly how you like, and of course it's not creepy. If it's right for you and the people you play with, that is all that matters."
I fail to see where in my post I say that we all have to play the same way...just that it wouldn't be my choice...In fact, I said each to their own.
Opinions vary about many things, I expressed mine in response to the OP...no criticism implied...purely an opinion... |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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What people on Fab often fail to understand is because they like their play to be a certain way, it doesn't follow that is how everyone else likes to play.
You guys carry on having fun exactly how you like, and of course it's not creepy. If it's right for you and the people you play with, that is all that matters."
Phew! And there I was thinking all of our meets were creepy . Creepy for me is of the stalking sense and the ilk, was almost asking what does that make of the people we've met who knew our scenario prior  Was getting creeped out for a sec,. |
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Agree with OP 
If the word 'show' appears in any message from a couple looking to meet it's an automatic no (but less polite!), I tell them I'm bi for real and not a performing seal  |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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"To be honest, I personally find the thought of a man fully dressed watching me play with his partner with no involvement at all a bit creepy...Each to their own but if I was a single female meeting couples this wouldn't be for me. If I wanted to play with a woman with no involvement from the monkey, I'd meet her one to one
J
And I don't understand why you'd find that creepy, I'm not getting involved in the sexual side so why would I undress? Taking pics of Mrs N having fun is how it works for us. Got to say this is the first I've ever heard someone say that.
What people on Fab often fail to understand is because they like their play to be a certain way, it doesn't follow that is how everyone else likes to play.
You guys carry on having fun exactly how you like, and of course it's not creepy. If it's right for you and the people you play with, that is all that matters."
Exactly!
There seems to be a growing number of threads where unwarranted assumptions are made about other people's preferences. If it isn't for you simply move on and please leave others to enjoy what they enjoy without criticism.
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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We love FFMs with everyone involved, but are also interested in starting off with our guest and M 'putting on a show' for C, where C is being made to watch. So it would be the man of the couple and single woman putting on a show for the fem of the couple.
It's a different twist, and one we are very keen to explore. You don't see it mentioned on Fab much, though. Is it something anyone else enjoys?
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"We love FFMs with everyone involved, but are also interested in starting off with our guest and M 'putting on a show' for C, where C is being made to watch. So it would be the man of the couple and single woman putting on a show for the fem of the couple.
It's a different twist, and one we are very keen to explore. You don't see it mentioned on Fab much, though. Is it something anyone else enjoys?
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I've been approached by quite a few couples who share your interests so you're not alone. Not my thing, but I do believe there is someone for everyone on here. |
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"It's all too common. I approach single bi fems profile with a little caution now.
I've chatted to a few fems who are part of a couple and use their single fems profile to initiate chat when they have no intention of meeting alone. They tend to get a little upset when I tell them I think it's an underhanded way of going about it.
I'm happy to play with couples, but would never do so if I've been contacted via a single fem profile first. "
Exactly!! |
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"To be honest, I personally find the thought of a man fully dressed watching me play with his partner with no involvement at all a bit creepy...Each to their own but if I was a single female meeting couples this wouldn't be for me. If I wanted to play with a woman with no involvement from the monkey, I'd meet her one to one
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Same |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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"Agree with OP
If the word 'show' appears in any message from a couple looking to meet it's an automatic no (but less polite!), I tell them I'm bi for real and not a performing seal "
But in our scenario you're not performing for me (him) you're according to us enjoying your ff experience with Mrs N. I have no interest in you as I'm interested in Mrs N like you would be, no? |
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"Agree with OP
If the word 'show' appears in any message from a couple looking to meet it's an automatic no (but less polite!), I tell them I'm bi for real and not a performing seal
But in our scenario you're not performing for me (him) you're according to us enjoying your ff experience with Mrs N. I have no interest in you as I'm interested in Mrs N like you would be, no?"
If I want an FF I'll have purely an FF, if I want a full on 3sum I'll have one. If youre not interested in the extra fem, don't attend, don't watch and let your wife have her girl on girl  |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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"Agree with OP
If the word 'show' appears in any message from a couple looking to meet it's an automatic no (but less polite!), I tell them I'm bi for real and not a performing seal
But in our scenario you're not performing for me (him) you're according to us enjoying your ff experience with Mrs N. I have no interest in you as I'm interested in Mrs N like you would be, no?
If I want an FF I'll have purely an FF, if I want a full on 3sum I'll have one. If youre not interested in the extra fem, don't attend, don't watch and let your wife have her girl on girl "
And the point of her having me watch is totally missed yet again. Who she plays with isn't the point it's the point of watching her and her having me watch which is totally paramount for us. Hope you get it. |
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"Agree with OP
If the word 'show' appears in any message from a couple looking to meet it's an automatic no (but less polite!), I tell them I'm bi for real and not a performing seal
But in our scenario you're not performing for me (him) you're according to us enjoying your ff experience with Mrs N. I have no interest in you as I'm interested in Mrs N like you would be, no?
If I want an FF I'll have purely an FF, if I want a full on 3sum I'll have one. If youre not interested in the extra fem, don't attend, don't watch and let your wife have her girl on girl
And the point of her having me watch is totally missed yet again. Who she plays with isn't the point it's the point of watching her and her having me watch which is totally paramount for us. Hope you get it. "
It's creepy |
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When we have FFM's we like everyone to be fully involved but it often starts as fem/fem play while Jay watches for a little while. That is MY choice, as I want to have some one on one fem play before I let my hubby join us. I say when he joins and what he does. I am not bi for him, or indeed because he 'made' me. I play with other women for my own reasons but enjoy sharing that experience with him & spoiling a fem together.
I find it a bit insulting that people constantly talk about these 'over bearing, controlling husbands' who apparently pressure their women into playing bi for his pleasure!! I have my own brain and am capable of making decisions for myselF, including who I play with. |
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"Agree with OP
If the word 'show' appears in any message from a couple looking to meet it's an automatic no (but less polite!), I tell them I'm bi for real and not a performing seal
But in our scenario you're not performing for me (him) you're according to us enjoying your ff experience with Mrs N. I have no interest in you as I'm interested in Mrs N like you would be, no?
If I want an FF I'll have purely an FF, if I want a full on 3sum I'll have one. If youre not interested in the extra fem, don't attend, don't watch and let your wife have her girl on girl
And the point of her having me watch is totally missed yet again. Who she plays with isn't the point it's the point of watching her and her having me watch which is totally paramount for us. Hope you get it.
It's creepy "
No it isn't! And this really isn't the place for a judgemental attitude! I for one love the idea of being with another female and having her partner just watch. You think it's creepy and you will never do it. Nice one, we all now know what you think. Move on! |
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"When we have FFM's we like everyone to be fully involved but it often starts as fem/fem play while Jay watches for a little while. That is MY choice, as I want to have some one on one fem play before I let my hubby join us. I say when he joins and what he does. I am not bi for him, or indeed because he 'made' me. I play with other women for my own reasons but enjoy sharing that experience with him & spoiling a fem together.
I find it a bit insulting that people constantly talk about these 'over bearing, controlling husbands' who apparently pressure their women into playing bi for his pleasure!! I have my own brain and am capable of making decisions for myselF, including who I play with."
But you are part of a couple. You also need to understand that from the genuinely bi single fem perspective who just wants ff or a ffm, its creepy to have a guy gawk. Being bi doesn't make you an art exhibition! |
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"When we have FFM's we like everyone to be fully involved but it often starts as fem/fem play while Jay watches for a little while. That is MY choice, as I want to have some one on one fem play before I let my hubby join us. I say when he joins and what he does. I am not bi for him, or indeed because he 'made' me. I play with other women for my own reasons but enjoy sharing that experience with him & spoiling a fem together.
I find it a bit insulting that people constantly talk about these 'over bearing, controlling husbands' who apparently pressure their women into playing bi for his pleasure!! I have my own brain and am capable of making decisions for myselF, including who I play with.
But you are part of a couple. You also need to understand that from the genuinely bi single fem perspective who just wants ff or a ffm, its creepy to have a guy gawk. Being bi doesn't make you an art exhibition!"
To YOU it's creepy. Don't talk one behalf of us all, please. I don't find it creepy. As long as I know that he will be there but not participating, that is fine with me. |
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"We love FFMs with everyone involved, but are also interested in starting off with our guest and M 'putting on a show' for C, where C is being made to watch. So it would be the man of the couple and single woman putting on a show for the fem of the couple.
It's a different twist, and one we are very keen to explore. You don't see it mentioned on Fab much, though. Is it something anyone else enjoys?
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I've done this a fair bit with one of my partners. He ties me up and makes me watch him fuck women.
It's very hot. And great fun. |
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"But you are part of a couple. You also need to understand that from the genuinely bi single fem perspective who just wants ff or a ffm, its creepy to have a guy gawk. Being bi doesn't make you an art exhibition!"
well ofcourse i would not expect the SBF to do something she didn't feel comfortable with but what you find creepy, plenty of others have found a huge turn on. It is not a show for him to gawk at, it's just a chance for me and the fem to have some fun before he joins in! |
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"But you are part of a couple. You also need to understand that from the genuinely bi single fem perspective who just wants ff or a ffm, its creepy to have a guy gawk. Being bi doesn't make you an art exhibition!
well ofcourse i would not expect the SBF to do something she didn't feel comfortable with but what you find creepy, plenty of others have found a huge turn on. It is not a show for him to gawk at, it's just a chance for me and the fem to have some fun before he joins in!"
I get the fun before he joins in. Just doesn't make sense why he has to be present. |
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"We love FFMs with everyone involved, but are also interested in starting off with our guest and M 'putting on a show' for C, where C is being made to watch. So it would be the man of the couple and single woman putting on a show for the fem of the couple.
It's a different twist, and one we are very keen to explore. You don't see it mentioned on Fab much, though. Is it something anyone else enjoys?
I've done this a fair bit with one of my partners. He ties me up and makes me watch him fuck women.
It's very hot. And great fun."
I love the idea of tying my partner up while I'm with another girl, but of course the other girl would have to find it hot too |
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I find it a bit insulting that people constantly talk about these 'over bearing, controlling husbands' who apparently pressure their women into playing bi for his pleasure!! I have my own brain and am capable of making decisions for myselF, including who I play with."
And for me, that's how it should be. The majority of couples I meet are much like yourselves. However, I have met a fair few couples for socials where the 'only doing it for her husband' has been very apparent. I've even met a couple where I assumed I'd been chatting to her via fab, but sussed out it was him that had been doing all the talking and she had little idea of what had been said.
It's a con, underhanded and a waste of my time. Social meets can be time consuming, but I won't meet a couple without one for this very reason. |
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"But you are part of a couple. You also need to understand that from the genuinely bi single fem perspective who just wants ff or a ffm, its creepy to have a guy gawk. Being bi doesn't make you an art exhibition!
well ofcourse i would not expect the SBF to do something she didn't feel comfortable with but what you find creepy, plenty of others have found a huge turn on. It is not a show for him to gawk at, it's just a chance for me and the fem to have some fun before he joins in!
I get the fun before he joins in. Just doesn't make sense why he has to be present."
For me it would be that a huge part of my arousal from playing with others male or female is my partner watching.. the look in his eyes , the pleasure of watching him get aroused as he watches x so for me I'd not play with a girl without him present not because I'm doing it for him.. But because part of my enjoyment comes from the being watched x |
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"But you are part of a couple. You also need to understand that from the genuinely bi single fem perspective who just wants ff or a ffm, its creepy to have a guy gawk. Being bi doesn't make you an art exhibition!
well ofcourse i would not expect the SBF to do something she didn't feel comfortable with but what you find creepy, plenty of others have found a huge turn on. It is not a show for him to gawk at, it's just a chance for me and the fem to have some fun before he joins in!
I get the fun before he joins in. Just doesn't make sense why he has to be present."
Because he'd be joining in with us after a few mins?! I don't want to have to ring him and summon him from the pub!! Plus, we are a couple and only play as a couple. |
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"This annoys me soooo much. A woman that pretends to be bi for her husband so he can gawk and watch. Or equally a husband that tells her wife she's "bisexual" just so he can see what he wet dreams about.
And the worst bit is people actually agree to these meets! I just don't get how, mid arranging either a solo f-f with a so called "single lady" or a ffm with a cpl, they reveal that actually a man is there to watch, I won't do it without hubby, or respectively for the ffm he's only there to gawk! NO
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I think the key part of the op's statement is she said the female 'pretends' for her husband or she's told that she is bi by her husband. Which suggests the wife is doing something she might not want to do, which of course is wrong for all parties concerned.
However if the wife is genuinely bi (i don't think the op was suggesting this) and she and the single bi-fem are happy for the husband to watch and it was discussed from the outset surely this is just another form of voyeurism?
If Lucinda wants to play with another women without me I'm happy for her to do that, as long as I get to hear about it afterwards
But personally speaking from a man's point of view if I'm there I want to be involved |
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"But you are part of a couple. You also need to understand that from the genuinely bi single fem perspective who just wants ff or a ffm, its creepy to have a guy gawk. Being bi doesn't make you an art exhibition!
well ofcourse i would not expect the SBF to do something she didn't feel comfortable with but what you find creepy, plenty of others have found a huge turn on. It is not a show for him to gawk at, it's just a chance for me and the fem to have some fun before he joins in!
I get the fun before he joins in. Just doesn't make sense why he has to be present.
For me it would be that a huge part of my arousal from playing with others male or female is my partner watching.. the look in his eyes , the pleasure of watching him get aroused as he watches x so for me I'd not play with a girl without him present not because I'm doing it for him.. But because part of my enjoyment comes from the being watched x"
Exactly the same here |
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Personally I will only play in a ffm setup if the woman is also happy to play with me alone. That doesn't always happen, but I need to know that she would be absolutely willing to do that. |
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Fuck that! No hidden agendas here, I'd meet a female one to one, not a problem, this for me would be heaven shopping little girlie n fluffy time! Our fun n frolicks time..once I'd meet with her with me n my guy, for a social. Shoe on the other foot he wants to make sure I'm not meeting a lunatic... I love to meet ladies, they are delicious! I enjoy their faces as he pleasures them?? Explain can i buggery!
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"Personally I will only play in a ffm setup if the woman is also happy to play with me alone. That doesn't always happen, but I need to know that she would be absolutely willing to do that."
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"This annoys me soooo much. A woman that pretends to be bi for her husband so he can gawk and watch. Or equally a husband that tells her wife she's "bisexual" just so he can see what he wet dreams about.
And the worst bit is people actually agree to these meets! I just don't get how, mid arranging either a solo f-f with a so called "single lady" or a ffm with a cpl, they reveal that actually a man is there to watch, I won't do it without hubby, or respectively for the ffm he's only there to gawk! NO
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I can only speak for us, but Mr is a voyeur and loves to watch me sometimes, regardless of which sex I'm with. We also like to take pics/videos, when everyone is agreeable.
I didn't begin to really explore my bi side until I met him, but I've always fancied women and I certainly don't do it to please him.
I understand there are some who do that, but that's not the case with us
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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"We love FFMs with everyone involved, but are also interested in starting off with our guest and M 'putting on a show' for C, where C is being made to watch. So it would be the man of the couple and single woman putting on a show for the fem of the couple.
It's a different twist, and one we are very keen to explore. You don't see it mentioned on Fab much, though. Is it something anyone else enjoys?
I've done this a fair bit with one of my partners. He ties me up and makes me watch him fuck women.
It's very hot. And great fun."
Yes, that's exactly the sort of thing we are talking about...it's so hot! |
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"It is if the male doesnt want to play. No woman in her right mind.would turn up to a meet with a couple on her own "
I have met lots of women on their own with Kim & do so on a regular basis, it is a strange comment but perhaps you have had a bad experience. |
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"This annoys me soooo much. A woman that pretends to be bi for her husband so he can gawk and watch. Or equally a husband that tells her wife she's "bisexual" just so he can see what he wet dreams about.
And the worst bit is people actually agree to these meets! I just don't get how, mid arranging either a solo f-f with a so called "single lady" or a ffm with a cpl, they reveal that actually a man is there to watch, I won't do it without hubby, or respectively for the ffm he's only there to gawk! NO
I think the key part of the op's statement is she said the female 'pretends' for her husband or she's told that she is bi by her husband. Which suggests the wife is doing something she might not want to do, which of course is wrong for all parties concerned.
However if the wife is genuinely bi (i don't think the op was suggesting this) and she and the single bi-fem are happy for the husband to watch and it was discussed from the outset surely this is just another form of voyeurism?
If Lucinda wants to play with another women without me I'm happy for her to do that, as long as I get to hear about it afterwards
But personally speaking from a man's point of view if I'm there I want to be involved "
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I'm a bit of an exhibitionist when it comes to group sex, be it the orgies I've had before I got into a relationship, or the scenarios I've been in with him after. The first time I did girl on girl, I was being watched by about 4 guys I all knew and a couple of girls too... Super hot. Also last foursome we had, I started playing with the wife, whilst the two men watched for a bit, and I blushed with pride when they told me after that they were both content to watch the 'beautiful sight' for a bit before play.
Having said that, I'm not bi for everyone and that's a special side that comes out occasionally... But its not gawking in my eyes, its appreciating. I'd be the same if two guys were getting off... |
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"To be honest, I personally find the thought of a man fully dressed watching me play with his partner with no involvement at all a bit creepy...Each to their own but if I was a single female meeting couples this wouldn't be for me. If I wanted to play with a woman with no involvement from the monkey, I'd meet her one to one
J
And I don't understand why you'd find that creepy, I'm not getting involved in the sexual side so why would I undress? Taking pics of Mrs N having fun is how it works for us. Got to say this is the first I've ever heard someone say that.
What people on Fab often fail to understand is because they like their play to be a certain way, it doesn't follow that is how everyone else likes to play.
You guys carry on having fun exactly how you like, and of course it's not creepy. If it's right for you and the people you play with, that is all that matters.
I fail to see where in my post I say that we all have to play the same way...just that it wouldn't be my choice...In fact, I said each to their own.
Opinions vary about many things, I expressed mine in response to the OP...no criticism implied...purely an opinion..."
I'll hold my hand up and agree with you. Depending on the guy, I'd find it creepy too. I might find it a turn on too though.... depending on the guy.
I think it's unfair to criticise you for having an opinion. If everyone agreed with everything the world would be a boring place. |
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