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Varies. We've met people who would say it is just touching, stroking, caressing. Then we've met people who feel that everything except penetration is soft. |
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Before we decided to take the plunge into full sex with others, my wife and I had a few "soft threesomes" with a male friend where everyone kept their underwear on. So lots of kissing, caressing etc but nothing more. |
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Interesting. As newbies to this scene we are taking it slowly. But I understood It to mean just taking the atmosphere of a club in with own partner first.
I guess it's a definition thing.
Suppose that's what it could mean in a club, but have a different meaning if you arrange a private meeting? |
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Its a term couples use when there still unsure about getting in too deep in my opinion.
Bloody waste of time if u ask me .
Never had a single lady ask for it yet |
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"As with everything set your boundaries and limits at each meet. It doesn't matter what it means to anyone but those directly involved."
Think this is spot on !  |
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"Its a term couples use when there still unsure about getting in too deep in my opinion.
Bloody waste of time if u ask me .
Never had a single lady ask for it yet"
I agree with you. If you're not sure don't do it rather do half a job. |
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"Its a term couples use when there still unsure about getting in too deep in my opinion.
Bloody waste of time if u ask me .
Never had a single lady ask for it yet"
Might not be waste of time for a couple though |
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"Its a term couples use when there still unsure about getting in too deep in my opinion.
Bloody waste of time if u ask me .
Never had a single lady ask for it yet
I agree with you. If you're not sure don't do it rather do half a job."
It's not about not being sure...it's the opposite for us. We know what we do and don't want. Penetration is something we keep back just for us, but love to touch and caress others....nothing wrong with that  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its a term couples use when there still unsure about getting in too deep in my opinion.
Bloody waste of time if u ask me .
Never had a single lady ask for it yet
I agree with you. If you're not sure don't do it rather do half a job.
It's not about not being sure...it's the opposite for us. We know what we do and don't want. Penetration is something we keep back just for us, but love to touch and caress others....nothing wrong with that "
Completely agree.. 
If we are being pedantic about definitions.. Isn't "swinging" something couples do? Haha!
A single bloke on a single lady is just "shagging" in my book. |
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"Its a term couples use when there still unsure about getting in too deep in my opinion.
Bloody waste of time if u ask me .
Never had a single lady ask for it yet
I agree with you. If you're not sure don't do it rather do half a job.
It's not about not being sure...it's the opposite for us. We know what we do and don't want. Penetration is something we keep back just for us, but love to touch and caress others....nothing wrong with that "
totally agree soft swing is not about being unsure ! And as normal when this topic comes up the get on top, two pumps and get off boys says it's a wast of time lol |
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By *bovethekneeCouple
over a year ago
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"Its a term couples use when there still unsure about getting in too deep in my opinion.
Bloody waste of time if u ask me .
Never had a single lady ask for it yet
I agree with you. If you're not sure don't do it rather do half a job.
It's not about not being sure...it's the opposite for us. We know what we do and don't want. Penetration is something we keep back just for us, but love to touch and caress others....nothing wrong with that
Completely agree..
If we are being pedantic about definitions.. Isn't "swinging" something couples do? Haha!
A single bloke on a single lady is just "shagging" in my book. "
Agree completely. There is so much more than just penetrative sex. |
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"I always thought it was a bit like driving with the brakes on...  "
when I drive a nice classy car I like to take things slowly and anjoy the ride not just thrash about like a teenage boy that is out of control most of the time ! |
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"Its a term couples use when there still unsure about getting in too deep in my opinion.
Bloody waste of time if u ask me .
Never had a single lady ask for it yet
I agree with you. If you're not sure don't do it rather do half a job.
It's not about not being sure...it's the opposite for us. We know what we do and don't want. Penetration is something we keep back just for us, but love to touch and caress others....nothing wrong with that "
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We like it.
Prefer a bit of imagination and fun.
If putting cock in a pussy is someones ultimate definition of sex then shows a slight lack of erotica for us.
Have had sex for hours without needing to ejaculate inside my wife.
Don't get me wrong full sex is fun. But if we have time for more than a quick shag. Then oral and fingers are minimum    |
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"I always thought it was a bit like driving with the brakes on...
when I drive a nice classy car I like to take things slowly and anjoy the ride not just thrash about like a teenage boy that is out of control most of the time ! "
I might have the mind of a teenage boy but these days my body is defintely more at the 'classic car' end of the spectrum (which in my case is a polite euphemism for 'old banger'!) |
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"Its a term couples use when there still unsure about getting in too deep in my opinion.
Bloody waste of time if u ask me .
Never had a single lady ask for it yet
I agree with you. If you're not sure don't do it rather do half a job."
good sex is not just penetration, touch and feel teasing can be very erotic, if penetration was everything why do we all like toys and other ways to get our pleasures |
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"Its a term couples use when there still unsure about getting in too deep in my opinion.
Bloody waste of time if u ask me .
Never had a single lady ask for it yet
I agree with you. If you're not sure don't do it rather do half a job.
good sex is not just penetration, touch and feel teasing can be very erotic, if penetration was everything why do we all like toys and other ways to get our pleasures"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We like it.
Prefer a bit of imagination and fun.
If putting cock in a pussy is someones ultimate definition of sex then shows a slight lack of erotica for us.
Have had sex for hours without needing to ejaculate inside my wife.
Don't get me wrong full sex is fun. But if we have time for more than a quick shag. Then oral and fingers are minimum "
agree x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm guessing this is everything apart from sex?
Or have I got this a little wrong?
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For us, everything is good except actually fucking, use your imagination! |
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"Its a term couples use when there still unsure about getting in too deep in my opinion.
Bloody waste of time if u ask me .
Never had a single lady ask for it yet"
I actually prefer soft play, that's not to say I won't have full sex if its what the guy wants but if I'm honest I would rather not and would happily meet a guy who only wants the oral/foreplay, there just aren't many about |
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"I woundn't let them in the club in the first place, there's too many of them, its like a bloody plague for gods sake. They could at least stick to couples only nights  "
To many people having penetrative sex???
It's a novel approach but I'll run with it.
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"Its a term couples use when there still unsure about getting in too deep in my opinion.
Bloody waste of time if u ask me .
Never had a single lady ask for it yet
I actually prefer soft play, that's not to say I won't have full sex if its what the guy wants but if I'm honest I would rather not and would happily meet a guy who only wants the oral/foreplay, there just aren't many about "
Not being funny, but serious question if you don't fancy it, then why do it? I'm sure there are one or two blokes out there who would settle for some oral and foreplay. |
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