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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi all
I'm 30, had quite a few sexual partners, but so far have only ever played safe.
I had two partners who I was together with for a few years, but both wouldn't take the pill and I wasn't ready for kids.... so it's something I haven't experienced.
What I'd like to know, from male and female perspectives, is there a big difference? And how does it make you feel... I have tried the very thin condoms and love the feeling, so imagine without one would be pretty intense! |
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By *ave1977Man
over a year ago
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Ive only ever used a condom twice in my life, the only way i could describe the difference in feeling is to tell you to go and paddle in the sea with wellies on....the feeling is just not there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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well i would think its down to the individual their choice, i hate the fecking things but then again i hate the thought of picking up something from not using one cos after all its a swinging site . have lived a full active sex life with protection so im still here to tell the tale lol  |
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"Hi all
I'm 30, had quite a few sexual partners, but so far have only ever played safe.
I had two partners who I was together with for a few years, but both wouldn't take the pill and I wasn't ready for kids.... so it's something I haven't experienced.
What I'd like to know, from male and female perspectives, is there a big difference? And how does it make you feel... I have tried the very thin condoms and love the feeling, so imagine without one would be pretty intense!"
I've never done it without either. Although I can't imagine it making much difference from the female's perspective I am also very curious (not curious enough to try it though lol) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Durex should use you in their marketing campaign. That's a pretty impressive record  "
Yeah, I really didn't want my partners at the time to get pregnant, they would have done it but I am quite patient... until recently now I'm wanting to try it more and more. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have you considered trying apple pie?
After watching American Pie... no. lol."
If you change your mind don't even dream about using the macDonalds ones, they are piping hot  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi all
I'm 30, had quite a few sexual partners, but so far have only ever played safe.
I had two partners who I was together with for a few years, but both wouldn't take the pill and I wasn't ready for kids.... so it's something I haven't experienced.
What I'd like to know, from male and female perspectives, is there a big difference? And how does it make you feel... I have tried the very thin condoms and love the feeling, so imagine without one would be pretty intense!
I've never done it without either. Although I can't imagine it making much difference from the female's perspective I am also very curious (not curious enough to try it though lol)"
It makes a huge difference to a woman.. you can most definitely feel the difference. I mostly do oral with guys because sex with a condom feels a bit naff x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"From my point of view its defo better nice n warm n I love feeling it twitch n the cum shooting inside me but on here its safe all the way x"
Wow... you make me want it now ha ha. |
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Firstly, we're both impressed that you've been so sensible....
Personally, I can definitely feel a difference. It's not a massive difference but it is without a doubt nicer bareback. The main difference is not having that compression of the condom squeezing your knob.
On the other hand, I'd rather not be in a possition where my cock goes spotty and drops off.
I only go bareback with the wife..... |
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"Have you considered trying apple pie?
After watching American Pie... no. lol.
If you change your mind don't even dream about using the macDonalds ones, they are piping hot "
they come with warnings ...wish there was a 'bullshit' warning also  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi all
I'm 30, had quite a few sexual partners, but so far have only ever played safe.
I had two partners who I was together with for a few years, but both wouldn't take the pill and I wasn't ready for kids.... so it's something I haven't experienced.
What I'd like to know, from male and female perspectives, is there a big difference? And how does it make you feel... I have tried the very thin condoms and love the feeling, so imagine without one would be pretty intense!
I've never done it without either. Although I can't imagine it making much difference from the female's perspective I am also very curious (not curious enough to try it though lol)
It makes a huge difference to a woman.. you can most definitely feel the difference. I mostly do oral with guys because sex with a condom feels a bit naff x"
Same here |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Firstly, we're both impressed that you've been so sensible....
Personally, I can definitely feel a difference. It's not a massive difference but it is without a doubt nicer bareback. The main difference is not having that compression of the condom squeezing your knob.
On the other hand, I'd rather not be in a possition where my cock goes spotty and drops off.
I only go bareback with the wife..... "
Thanks Yeah I'm sure it just feels a bit more free and not constricted like you say. I'd much rather it didn't drop off too! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"there are people on this thread who are open and honest about going bareback all the time...their knobs haven't fell off from what I understand !"
It's about being with the right person, I would like to try it but with the right person... not just anybody. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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it makes a huge difference. There is nothing like the intensity when you feel the guy cumming inside you....often triggers an orgasm from me.....I think psycologically it works too... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have to agree - for me there's a huge difference - both in the feel, and in the erotic knowledge that I'm being filled with cum.
To be honest, sex with a condom just doesn't satisfy me, and I'd much rather go without a condom or go without sex if it were as simple as that!.
But in this world you just have to be sensible - though sometimes, with the right men, I do still indulge and enjoy the real naked pleasure..
But I just wish that some people on Fab didn't have such a massive downer on it - makes it very difficult to have honest and open discussions about the subject!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have to agree - for me there's a huge difference - both in the feel, and in the erotic knowledge that I'm being filled with cum.
To be honest, sex with a condom just doesn't satisfy me, and I'd much rather go without a condom or go without sex if it were as simple as that!.
But in this world you just have to be sensible - though sometimes, with the right men, I do still indulge and enjoy the real naked pleasure..
But I just wish that some people on Fab didn't have such a massive downer on it - makes it very difficult to have honest and open discussions about the subject!
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Both good points, didn't think of it that way but it must be a big turn on knowing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's interesting to hear that women also prefer it without!
If there is trust then I am happy to go without and it feels 1000 times better..
Especially when you shoot inside a wet pussy.. The feeling is mindboggling! |
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Personally I love bareback and cumming hard and filling a women is a great turn on, however on here has to be safe. I have taken condom off and cum over body or in mouth though and at one party was asked to shoot over ladies pussy. Be safe guys and girls x |
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I much prefer it without. The act is just so much smoother and yummier.
I love the feeling of him cumming deep inside me, leaving me sticky.
Just not enough to risk doing it with swinging partners. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I much prefer it without. The act is just so much smoother and yummier.
I love the feeling of him cumming deep inside me, leaving me sticky.
Just not enough to risk doing it with swinging partners. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The other benefit of condoms is that it is easier to clean up and you don't have to share the bed with a woman leaking cum all over the sheets lol"
Ha ha, there is that I suppose! Use a towel though? |
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"Ive only ever used a condom twice in my life, the only way i could describe the difference in feeling is to tell you to go and paddle in the sea with wellies on....the feeling is just not there"
wtf
so you bareback on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Durex should use you in their marketing campaign. That's a pretty impressive record
Yeah, I really didn't want my partners at the time to get pregnant, they would have done it but I am quite patient... until recently now I'm wanting to try it more and more."
Condoms - for me - are a necessary evil on a swinging site! Much prefer bareback when in a relationship or with a trusted fb! For a man the difference is phenomenal! When you have bareback for the first time op let us know first so we can run a book on it! I'm betting you'll last about 30 seconds before you explode! Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ive only ever used a condom twice in my life, the only way i could describe the difference in feeling is to tell you to go and paddle in the sea with wellies on....the feeling is just not there"
Yet safe sex is on your profile. Ohhh I know why, you've only ever had sex twice  |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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What I'd like to know, from male and female perspectives, is there a big difference? And how does it make you feel... I have tried the very thin condoms and love the feeling, so imagine without one would be pretty intense!"
I have used my strap-on with and without condoms; doesn't feel any different to me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Durex should use you in their marketing campaign. That's a pretty impressive record
Yeah, I really didn't want my partners at the time to get pregnant, they would have done it but I am quite patient... until recently now I'm wanting to try it more and more.
Condoms - for me - are a necessary evil on a swinging site! Much prefer bareback when in a relationship or with a trusted fb! For a man the difference is phenomenal! When you have bareback for the first time op let us know first so we can run a book on it! I'm betting you'll last about 30 seconds before you explode! Xx "
I'll let you know, it will likely be less than a minute ha ha. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me there a big difference the act of removing a co dom from jys wrapper and placing it in my cock is unsexy, simple.
Not so bad when my partner knows how too put the condom on.
Additionally they seem to take away much of the pleasureable sensations, that said some condims sre very comfortable and thin these are preferable.
Howrever bareback is still 100 times better.
Just my opinion.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have to agree - for me there's a huge difference - both in the feel, and in the erotic knowledge that I'm being filled with cum.
To be honest, sex with a condom just doesn't satisfy me, and I'd much rather go without a condom or go without sex if it were as simple as that!.
But in this world you just have to be sensible - though sometimes, with the right men, I do still indulge and enjoy the real naked pleasure..
But I just wish that some people on Fab didn't have such a massive downer on it - makes it very difficult to have honest and open discussions about the subject!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I struggle to cum and it takes ages at the best of times, throw a condom on and there's no chance for me...never once cum with one on, tried many types too....
It does mean that I'm good to go all night though so that's cool, I just don't get that lovely 'cumming inside' feeling....
Having said that, I'm tested with my g.f, and don't use them and I think I've only cum inside her twice In the last six months or so after abstaining from cumming for five or six days beforehand
They need to invent one that increases men's sensitivity!
But back to my point, I think they're shit, but what can you do? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"no you didn't miss anything just some pathetic woman who seems to think.I bareback with anyone and everyone. all done covertly of course.....
Covertly?
I thought you's lost the plot for a min....wondered what you were stropping at  "
no I haven't lost the plot at all....lost what I thought was a friend but not the plot |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"no you didn't miss anything just some pathetic woman who seems to think.I bareback with anyone and everyone. all done covertly of course.....
Covertly?
I thought you's lost the plot for a min....wondered what you were stropping at
no I haven't lost the plot at all....lost what I thought was a friend but not the plot "
Good to know, I had visions of you stood in the town centre tommorrow shouting at pigeons or some crap |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"no you didn't miss anything just some pathetic woman who seems to think.I bareback with anyone and everyone. all done covertly of course.....
Covertly?
I thought you's lost the plot for a min....wondered what you were stropping at
no I haven't lost the plot at all....lost what I thought was a friend but not the plot
Good to know, I had visions of you stood in the town centre tommorrow shouting at pigeons or some crap "
I might still do that.....sounds kinda fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"no you didn't miss anything just some pathetic woman who seems to think.I bareback with anyone and everyone. all done covertly of course.....
Covertly?
I thought you's lost the plot for a min....wondered what you were stropping at
no I haven't lost the plot at all....lost what I thought was a friend but not the plot
Good to know, I had visions of you stood in the town centre tommorrow shouting at pigeons or some crap
I might still do that.....sounds kinda fun "
Give those feathery club footed little bastards a lungfull from me if you do.... |
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I have to insist on Skyns latex free because of an allergy but god wouldn't it be great if there were no consequences from barebacking!
The feeling of cum spurting right onto my cervix is the most sexy feeling in the world. Then to have cum running out of me and smelling of another man is my ultimate fantasy.
Fingers crossed my fb will soon be brave enough to try bareback. We've been seeing each other for almost a year. Sigh.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have to insist on Skyns latex free because of an allergy but god wouldn't it be great if there were no consequences from barebacking!
The feeling of cum spurting right onto my cervix is the most sexy feeling in the world. Then to have cum running out of me and smelling of another man is my ultimate fantasy.
Fingers crossed my fb will soon be brave enough to try bareback. We've been seeing each other for almost a year. Sigh.
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Take him to the gum clinic and get tested together...easy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mrs loves it without as when we post public pics is an obvious thing. I love the feeling of the hot cum filling me up its dirty and naughty. On the other hand I quite enjoy with too especially blindfolded as it feels like someone else, plus when mr wears a condom it reminds me of an old toy I had that brought me much pleasure so yeah we are happy either waaay  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thanks for the advice from those who think "only have bareback sex with a partner"...
I haven't had a partnership with a man for over 20 years (I prefer women!) so that's a non-starter for me..!
But I'm damned if I'm going to miss out - I do want and need it sometimes, and am damn well going to have it, if you please...
But I promise not to do it often, and then only if I feel that the risks are minimal!
I don't get up to half the things that some people do on Fab - just occasional fun, but I want to enjoy it when I do...
So if you think that I've been very, very naughty to dare to enjoy bareback sex occasionally - please feel welcome to give me a well-deserved spanking!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me it does take some sensation away and I would rather not have to use them but as others have said my health and whoever I am with comes first so always safe sex for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is going reasonably well for a bareback thread ! Not too many do-Gooders and preachers .
The difference to me is unbelievable, sex with a condom doesn't feel great if I'm honest so on meets I like extended foreplay and usually cum that way .
Barebacking is for making luv to someone special . Totally feeling them contract around like two people truly becoming one !
Swinging is just sex |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi all
I'm 30, had quite a few sexual partners, but so far have only ever played safe.
I had two partners who I was together with for a few years, but both wouldn't take the pill and I wasn't ready for kids.... so it's something I haven't experienced.
What I'd like to know, from male and female perspectives, is there a big difference? And how does it make you feel... I have tried the very thin condoms and love the feeling, so imagine without one would be pretty intense!"
I can't tell the difference between thin condoms and bareback sex.
I have had more than one partner who actually actively enjoyed the sensation of wearing condoms. |
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No you haven't been naughty. You've exercised your freedom to choose who you have bareback sex with and who not to.
As a male who had a vasectomy some years ago pregnancy is not a risk so only used for sti protection.
I love bareback and really only use condoms where risk is unknown. But hate the things when I do use them.
Never yet had an sti.
Take care. P |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i (fem) can defo tell the difference and we both hate the bloody things.. we used to use condoms on a meet but now never use them. we are open about our preferences on our profile so no grey areas when we are arranging meets |
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"well i would think its down to the individual their choice, i hate the fecking things but then again i hate the thought of picking up something from not using one cos after all its a swinging site . have lived a full active sex life with protection so im still here to tell the tale lol "
so how often do you get tested at the clinic. |
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E (female) writing here - we mix it up with and without condoms. I'm on the pill and have never had problems or any scares so we're confident to have sex without condoms. Ever since I picked up a box of Skyns large (non latex I believe) we've really enjoyed using condoms. S had never been able to get on with condoms and while he's got a nice big cock, it's not a monster like some that you see in porn, but still skyns large condoms have really done the trick! Durex are just horrible and dry me out. We use condoms when we've already had sex that day as we can left a bit sore and condoms just help with any sensitivity. Also if we're having morning sex and S had got a bit of the whiffy penis going on teheh. Or if I'm off to work and don't want to be dripping, bleh. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bareback vs condom, i've not seen this advertised, is it pay per view, only i've just shelled out for wrestlemania"
Can you smell what the rock and ronda are cooking |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ive only ever used a condom twice in my life, the only way i could describe the difference in feeling is to tell you to go and paddle in the sea with wellies on....the feeling is just not there"
And people still meet you on here.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What I'd like to know, from male and female perspectives, is there a big difference? And how does it make you feel... I have tried the very thin condoms and love the feeling, so imagine without one would be pretty intense!
I have used my strap-on with and without condoms; doesn't feel any different to me"
I much prefare bareback off a lady with her strap on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ive only ever used a condom twice in my life, the only way i could describe the difference in feeling is to tell you to go and paddle in the sea with wellies on....the feeling is just not there"
I can see this, from an active bi guy greatly reducing the chances of future meets. It's a swinging site, where people have multiple sexual partners....let's stay safe guys! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i (fem) can defo tell the difference and we both hate the bloody things.. we used to use condoms on a meet but now never use them. we are open about our preferences on our profile so no grey areas when we are arranging meets "
this |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ive only ever used a condom twice in my life, the only way i could describe the difference in feeling is to tell you to go and paddle in the sea with wellies on....the feeling is just not there"
Then maybe you should remove SAFE SEX from your list ! |
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We don't use condoms and it's great...however as we don't sleep with others it's perfectly safe. If we were to sleep with others we would use them as the thought of maybe slightly less sensation but without the death and disease is quite appealing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think of STI's and pregnancy werent an issue everyone would say they would go babreback everytime, but unfortunately they are both very real possible consequences"
If STIs and pregnancy weren't an issue condoms would never have been invented 
Of course everybody would be going bareback |
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Of course it feels better without, though we wouldn't dream of doing it with anyone but each other and any meet we get will be safe. Given the choice between condom and no sex though, I know what I'd pick!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi all
I'm 30, had quite a few sexual partners, but so far have only ever played safe.
I had two partners who I was together with for a few years, but both wouldn't take the pill and I wasn't ready for kids.... so it's something I haven't experienced.
What I'd like to know, from male and female perspectives, is there a big difference? And how does it make you feel... I have tried the very thin condoms and love the feeling, so imagine without one would be pretty intense!"
From a female perspective it feels 100% better bareback - no comparison! BUT obviously there are way too many risks to make that a realistic option when you have multiple partners. x |
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Only ever gone bare 4 times before with a trusted partner and yes it does feel much better, but swinging with mulitple partners is not worth exposing yourself too unless it is a partner you have known and trust for years xx |
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By *addubMan
over a year ago
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bareback is a lot better but only with a long term partner i have been married twice & divorced twice but before getting married i used them for months until i built up trust with them even when starting a new relationship condoms are a must |
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"there are people on this thread who are open and honest about going bareback all the time...their knobs haven't fell off from what I understand !"
T he Risk from unprotected sex has been hyped up a lot, quite rightly, to avoid the possibility of a massive epidemic 30 years ago.
It worked, and that policy still continues today.
However, risk balances have tipped, as technology advanced.
If you put a hundred people in a room, and asked them to have unprotected sex, there would be panic from most of them.
If you asked the same people to get in their car and drive home, a different response.
Yet they have a far, far greater chance of dying in a car crash. Aint life sweet?. lol. x
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I'd equate it to having a bareback blowjob and then one with a condom. Definitely more sensation without. You could always try a male masturbator toy like a Fleshlight to recreate the experience somewhat? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If you put a hundred people in a room, and asked them to have unprotected sex, there would be panic from most of them.
If you asked the same people to get in their car and drive home, a different response.
Yet they have a far, far greater chance of dying in a car crash. Aint life sweet?. lol. x
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The thing is, it's about balancing the risks vs the reward.
Getting to work and earning money so that I can live, for instance, is worth me risking my health by getting in a car.
Having a half hour shag with someone I don't really care about - when there are other options available for different people with less risk - it's not worth it to me. |
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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago
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Obviously me & John prefer bareback but its too dangerous so condoms have to be used, as we state we are happy with not using condoms if people have gone to bother like us of getting tested/certed every 28 days on a regular monthly basis which no swinger ever does unless they are industry too.
Getting tested monthly is free unless you need a letter/cert which carries a small charge, no its not bomb proof but it works for us. |
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If you put a hundred people in a room, and asked them to have unprotected sex, there would be panic from most of them.
If you asked the same people to get in their car and drive home, a different response.
Yet they have a far, far greater chance of dying in a car crash. Aint life sweet?. lol. x
I would agree with you if it was as clear cut as that, but then, if you had actually looked at it like that, surely you would take all preventative measures available to protect you during sex ? so therefore you would follow the policy as, or even more carefully when driving- (after all, the risks are far greater to both you, your loved ones, and other road uses).
So therefore,to follow that logic, none of these hundred people would speed, drink drive, use mobile phones, eat. etc? Cant think of a survey where 100 drivers have come out 100% clean, without commiting offences.
Yes it is all about balancing the risks againt the reward, but the scales are not evenly loaded. the logic is flawed, influenced by perception of risk, not facts. x
The thing is, it's about balancing the risks vs the reward.
Getting to work and earning money so that I can live, for instance, is worth me risking my health by getting in a car.
Having a half hour shag with someone I don't really care about - when there are other options available for different people with less risk - it's not worth it to me."
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Yes it is all about balancing the risks againt the reward, but the scales are not evenly loaded. the logic is flawed, influenced by perception of risk, not facts. x
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No, you missed my point.
I understand that the risk of catching an STI is pretty minimal (the risk of pregnancy is far higher).
But it's about what the 'reward' is. I don't personally see bareback sex as a particular reward, therefore it is not worth the risk.
If the reward was something other than bareback sex with someone I didn't really care about, then I might be prepared to take the risk. |
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If you put a hundred people in a room, and asked them to have unprotected sex, there would be panic from most of them.
If you asked the same people to get in their car and drive home, a different response.
Yet they have a far, far greater chance of dying in a car crash. Aint life sweet?. lol. x
The thing is, it's about balancing the risks vs the reward.
Getting to work and earning money so that I can live, for instance, is worth me risking my health by getting in a car.
Having a half hour shag with someone I don't really care about - when there are other options available for different people with less risk - it's not worth it to me."
I would agree with you if it was as clear cut as that, but then, if you had actually looked at it like that, surely you would take all preventative measures available to protect you during sex ? so therefore you would follow the policy as, or even more carefully when driving- (after all, the risks are far greater to both you, your loved ones, and other road uses).
So therefore,to follow that logic, none of these hundred people would speed, drink drive, use mobile phones, eat. etc? Cant think of a survey where 100 drivers have come out 100% clean, without commiting offences.
Yes it is all about balancing the risks againt the reward, but the scales are not evenly loaded. the logic is flawed, influenced by perception of risk, not facts. x
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Yes it is all about balancing the risks againt the reward, but the scales are not evenly loaded. the logic is flawed, influenced by perception of risk, not facts. x
No, you missed my point.
I understand that the risk of catching an STI is pretty minimal (the risk of pregnancy is far higher).
But it's about what the 'reward' is. I don't personally see bareback sex as a particular reward, therefore it is not worth the risk.
If the reward was something other than bareback sex with someone I didn't really care about, then I might be prepared to take the risk."
No, I think you are missing my point. you perceive sex as a 'reward' (your words), others perceive it differently.
Some people progress to high positions of power, to further their pursuit of sex, (certain American presidents did).
My point is about perception in society in general, not personal choice. if we explored risk perception on a personal basis, it would be farcical, I mean, how many nuns would see sex as a reward? How many non drivers would see driving as a risk? my original post was about general risk perception, not how mrs brown, ect. views the risk.
You have to take a cross section of the population in all major social decisions, I mean, planning for a car park? if we ask every one personally where they would like it,we would probably need 60 million new carparks tomorrow.lol.x |
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Yes it is all about balancing the risks againt the reward, but the scales are not evenly loaded. the logic is flawed, influenced by perception of risk, not facts. x
No, you missed my point.
I understand that the risk of catching an STI is pretty minimal (the risk of pregnancy is far higher).
But it's about what the 'reward' is. I don't personally see bareback sex as a particular reward, therefore it is not worth the risk.
If the reward was something other than bareback sex with someone I didn't really care about, then I might be prepared to take the risk.
No, I think you are missing my point. you perceive sex as a 'reward' (your words), others perceive it differently.
Some people progress to high positions of power, to further their pursuit of sex, (certain American presidents did).
My point is about perception in society in general, not personal choice. if we explored risk perception on a personal basis, it would be farcical, I mean, how many nuns would see sex as a reward? How many non drivers would see driving as a risk? my original post was about general risk perception, not how mrs brown, ect. views the risk.
You have to take a cross section of the population in all major social decisions, I mean, planning for a car park? if we ask every one personally where they would like it,we would probably need 60 million new carparks tomorrow.lol.x "
Sorry, meant to say you DONT perceive sex as a reward (but others do). lol.xx |
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Yes it is all about balancing the risks againt the reward, but the scales are not evenly loaded. the logic is flawed, influenced by perception of risk, not facts. x
No, you missed my point.
I understand that the risk of catching an STI is pretty minimal (the risk of pregnancy is far higher).
But it's about what the 'reward' is. I don't personally see bareback sex as a particular reward, therefore it is not worth the risk.
If the reward was something other than bareback sex with someone I didn't really care about, then I might be prepared to take the risk.
No, I think you are missing my point. you perceive sex as a 'reward' (your words), others perceive it differently.
Some people progress to high positions of power, to further their pursuit of sex, (certain American presidents did).
My point is about perception in society in general, not personal choice. if we explored risk perception on a personal basis, it would be farcical, I mean, how many nuns would see sex as a reward? How many non drivers would see driving as a risk? my original post was about general risk perception, not how mrs brown, ect. views the risk.
You have to take a cross section of the population in all major social decisions, I mean, planning for a car park? if we ask every one personally where they would like it,we would probably need 60 million new carparks tomorrow.lol.x "
But we're not talking about major social decisions.
We're talking, on this thread, about individuals choice about how to have sex. |
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Yes it is all about balancing the risks againt the reward, but the scales are not evenly loaded. the logic is flawed, influenced by perception of risk, not facts. x
No, you missed my point.
I understand that the risk of catching an STI is pretty minimal (the risk of pregnancy is far higher).
But it's about what the 'reward' is. I don't personally see bareback sex as a particular reward, therefore it is not worth the risk.
If the reward was something other than bareback sex with someone I didn't really care about, then I might be prepared to take the risk.
No, I think you are missing my point. you perceive sex as a 'reward' (your words), others perceive it differently.
Some people progress to high positions of power, to further their pursuit of sex, (certain American presidents did).
My point is about perception in society in general, not personal choice. if we explored risk perception on a personal basis, it would be farcical, I mean, how many nuns would see sex as a reward? How many non drivers would see driving as a risk? my original post was about general risk perception, not how mrs brown, ect. views the risk.
You have to take a cross section of the population in all major social decisions, I mean, planning for a car park? if we ask every one personally where they would like it,we would probably need 60 million new carparks tomorrow.lol.x "
And what does all this have to do with the Op's question?? |
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"I guess it will be worth the wait "
You and prospective partner need to see if it is also worth the very real risk.
I see you have 3 verifications...one fem, 2 from TVs. You played safe there so well done! |
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"there are people on this thread who are open and honest about going bareback all the time...their knobs haven't fell off from what I understand !
T he Risk from unprotected sex has been hyped up a lot, quite rightly, to avoid the possibility of a massive epidemic 30 years ago.
It worked, and that policy still continues today.
However, risk balances have tipped, as technology advanced.
If you put a hundred people in a room, and asked them to have unprotected sex, there would be panic from most of them.
If you asked the same people to get in their car and drive home, a different response.
Yet they have a far, far greater chance of dying in a car crash. Aint life sweet?. lol. x
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I think dying in a car crash is preferable to a slow and unpleasant death from a syphilis or HIV/AIDS infection. |
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I'm 30, had quite a few sexual partners, but so far have only ever played safe.
I had two partners who I was together with for a few years, but both wouldn't take the pill and I wasn't ready for kids.... so it's something I haven't experienced.
What I'd like to know, from male and female perspectives, is there a big difference? And how does it make you feel... I have tried the very thin condoms and love the feeling, so imagine without one would be pretty intense!"
I hate condoms personally I become very dry when they are being used and sometimes red and sore. I have no option when playing on here. But andy and I don't use them... |
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"Ive only ever used a condom twice in my life, the only way i could describe the difference in feeling is to tell you to go and paddle in the sea with wellies on....the feeling is just not there"
Yet you still have the safe sex option ticked on your profile... |
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"there are people on this thread who are open and honest about going bareback all the time...their knobs haven't fell off from what I understand !"
Yeah but how often do you think they get tested honestly?
And how many do you think are quietly passing on say chlamydia to their meets as they have no symptoms so think they're ok. |
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"there are people on this thread who are open and honest about going bareback all the time...their knobs haven't fell off from what I understand !
Yeah but how often do you think they get tested honestly?
And how many do you think are quietly passing on say chlamydia to their meets as they have no symptoms so think they're ok."
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I'm 30, had quite a few sexual partners, but so far have only ever played safe.
I had two partners who I was together with for a few years, but both wouldn't take the pill and I wasn't ready for kids.... so it's something I haven't experienced.
What I'd like to know, from male and female perspectives, is there a big difference? And how does it make you feel... I have tried the very thin condoms and love the feeling, so imagine without one would be pretty intense!"
Experiment on me lol |
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"there are people on this thread who are open and honest about going bareback all the time...their knobs haven't fell off from what I understand !
Yeah but how often do you think they get tested honestly?
And how many do you think are quietly passing on say chlamydia to their meets as they have no symptoms so think they're ok."
Which of course, is a real blow. It barely shows any symptoms in men, but slowly makes women infertile thought pelvic inflammatory disease. |
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"there are people on this thread who are open and honest about going bareback all the time...their knobs haven't fell off from what I understand !
Yeah but how often do you think they get tested honestly?
And how many do you think are quietly passing on say chlamydia to their meets as they have no symptoms so think they're ok.
Which of course, is a real blow. It barely shows any symptoms in men, but slowly makes women infertile thought pelvic inflammatory disease."
Exactly. |
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Agreed with the above.
Rarely am I asked but I do go bareback if requested. I do get tested every three months irrespective of whether there are symptoms or not.
I wouldn't go bareback without regular testing. Our local clinic doesn't provide "certificates" unfortunately. |
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"Agreed with the above.
Rarely am I asked but I do go bareback if requested. I do get tested every three months irrespective of whether there are symptoms or not.
I wouldn't go bareback without regular testing. Our local clinic doesn't provide "certificates" unfortunately."
They will if you ask them and pay for it |
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