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Is booking a hotel like paying for sex?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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If you wanted a meet, neither of you could accommodate that time for whatever reason. One of you booked a hotel room or you go halves (going halves feels fairest to me) - would you consider that like paying to have sex?
My view is no, as you're paying to have somewhere to enjoy a meet together and have mutual fun. I know some seem to have a different concept to me. So I'm interested in other's views.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you wanted a meet, neither of you could accommodate that time for whatever reason. One of you booked a hotel room or you go halves (going halves feels fairest to me) - would you consider that like paying to have sex?
My view is no, as you're paying to have somewhere to enjoy a meet together and have mutual fun. I know some seem to have a
different concept to me. So I'm interested in other's views.
I'm with you on this one I'd say it's just providing a neutral places for everyone conceited to play and have fun
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you wanted a meet, neither of you could accommodate that time for whatever reason. One of you booked a hotel room or you go halves (going halves feels fairest to me) - would you consider that like paying to have sex?
My view is no, as you're paying to have somewhere to enjoy a meet together and have mutual fun. I know some seem to have a different concept to me. So I'm interested in other's views.
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 its not atall but u both gona enjoy it togeda  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Now this is difficult, if you both agree to say half and agree beforehand what's happening then no it's not,
There are people on here who expect any meet to book and pay for the hotel, now that is paying for sex in my opinion |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've paid, been paid for and gone halves in the past and none of those occasions have ever felt paying or being paid for sex.
But I only meet people I like, so I kind of think of it as the same thing as if I go for tea with a friend and I pay, I'm not paying for their time, the money isn't an important part of the equation so we just do whatever is easiest.
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By *gNeMan
over a year ago
Harrogate |
If costs are shared then I agree entirely.
I see a few adds which say that they expect the other party to cover any hotel costs ect. That is along the same lines as prostituting oneself out though I feel.
But hey what's wrong with being paid for it if that's what you wanna do..? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If a guy buys you a drink and you then play with him - is that paying for sex?
noooooooooo - thats saying thanks but very nicely  "
joke by the way for the pouncers  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's about the demands made - the profiles that say they won't meet unless they get x - that feels a bit iffy to me. But if someone offers to book and pay for a hotel, because they want to, (not because I've told them in shouty capitals that I won't meet them otherwise) well that's a different thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No I don't think it is like paying for sex - to me it's paying for a place which makes it possible for two consenting people to enjoy a good time with each other, when no other place is available.
On the other hand, If you invited me to your house and when I got to the door you asked me for 50 quid before I came over your step - then I would consider it paying for sex.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, if you`re accommodating, your mortgage/rent/council tax is like paying for sex?"
bloody hell - weve been running a knocking shop and didnt realise it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes simple things are so over thought that they make what should be fun a logistical pain in the arse
I don't think that getting a room so that you can meet someone is paying for sex
Its for each parties convenience or you wouldn't be able to meet |
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"I think it's about the demands made - the profiles that say they won't meet unless they get x - that feels a bit iffy to me. But if someone offers to book and pay for a hotel, because they want to, (not because I've told them in shouty capitals that I won't meet them otherwise) well that's a different thing. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Having recently enjoyed a cpl of nights in hotels with female playmates I certainly don't see it as paying for sex.
As long as both parties feel things are fair then who pays for what really doesn't really matter. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Who gives a shit lol if you get fucked thats all that matters no?
However nope even if one pays you're not paying for sexyou're paying for a room if you choose to share it then your being nice
Mrs P |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have paid for a hotel before and not got sex (Stood me up and unlos)
I had a couple book and pay for the hotel and not turn up (she backed out then unlos)
Had work pay for the hotel, now THAT was a meet 
Sex is never guaranteed so you are not paying for anything other than the room.
Moral of my story is get work to foot the bill |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sometimes simple things are so over thought that they make what should be fun a logistical pain in the arse
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I think this knocks the nail on the head!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If a guy buys you a drink and you then play with him - is that paying for sex?
Depends if you buy him one back..."
I cost a lot more than a pint for a shag
Buying someone a drink on a social meet is just manners, seeing it as paying for sex seems a very immature attitude to me
I have paid for rooms, paid the fees into clubs and bough drinks in the past I don't feel I have paid for sex, it just how it goes at times, if I'm meeting a guy and he can't afford to go half's on a room I will pay, my choice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it is a one on one meet or a mmf/mff or two couples then I can understand that it is for their mutual convenience.
The only time I'd see it as paying for sex is if it was a couple seeking multiple men and asking for contributions at a rate that far exceeds the actual cost of the room once you add up the dozen or so guys that go through. |
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By *gNeMan
over a year ago
Harrogate |
"If a guy buys you a drink and you then play with him - is that paying for sex?
Depends if you buy him one back...
I cost a lot more than a pint for a shag
Buying someone a drink on a social meet is just manners, seeing it as paying for sex seems a very immature attitude to me
I have paid for rooms, paid the fees into clubs and bough drinks in the past I don't feel I have paid for sex, it just how it goes at times, if I'm meeting a guy and he can't afford to go half's on a room I will pay, my choice "
Completely agree it's all about attitude. The attitude that "if we are going to meet you have to pay" translates to "if you want us to enjoy sex together, then you must pay a premium".
In that respect it is similar to paying for sex. I don't think that theoretically, paying for sex is such a problem though anyway. |
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By *tevelizCouple
over a year ago
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"If you wanted a meet, neither of you could accommodate that time for whatever reason. One of you booked a hotel room or you go halves (going halves feels fairest to me) - would you consider that like paying to have sex?
My view is no, as you're paying to have somewhere to enjoy a meet together and have mutual fun. I know some seem to have a different concept to me. So I'm interested in other's views.
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if it was paying for sex then you could claim that sex at home is if you paid for the house. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i never let a lady pay x  "
What if she insisted
For example you mailed me and we swapped pics, got on well arranged to meet and got into where and when and I said if you book a room I'll give you some money on at the meet and you said no its OK I'll pay and I said I'd rather pay my way or not meet, would you call off the meet if I insisted on paying my way or even booked the room from this end myself
And no sarky replies like you wouldn't meet me anyway its just an example |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you wanted a meet, neither of you could accommodate that time for whatever reason. One of you booked a hotel room or you go halves (going halves feels fairest to me) - would you consider that like paying to have sex?
My view is no, as you're paying to have somewhere to enjoy a meet together and have mutual fun. I know some seem to have a different concept to me. So I'm interested in other's views.
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Nope. You're paying for a venue, not for what happens there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i never let a lady pay x
What if she insisted
For example you mailed me and we swapped pics, got on well arranged to meet and got into where and when and I said if you book a room I'll give you some money on at the meet and you said no its OK I'll pay and I said I'd rather pay my way or not meet, would you call off the meet if I insisted on paying my way or even booked the room from this end myself
And no sarky replies like you wouldn't meet me anyway its just an example "
I'd let you pay. It shows that we have a level of trust built through conversation which can be like foreplay... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No it's not. If he books and pays for the hotel he's booking a room. I still have the choice as to what the sex act is and I can up and leave at anytime. You can't do that in sex work |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Typically, no. It's similar in principal to just buying a drink or going out for a meal on a date or something. It's a bit different however, if a profile demands a hotel meet, or insists as a rule, that the other party pays. That would make me feel like I was kind of paying for sex, so I'd avoid those people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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its not atall but u both gona enjoy it togeda "
While not wanting to sound like the spelling / grammar inspectorate of fab, is nobody else in the slightest bit concerned at the quite brazen use of "togeda", never mind u and gona?
I mean, for fucks sake bawheid! Get a grip! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you wanted a meet, neither of you could accommodate that time for whatever reason. One of you booked a hotel room or you go halves (going halves feels fairest to me) - would you consider that like paying to have sex?
My view is no, as you're paying to have somewhere to enjoy a meet together and have mutual fun. I know some seem to have a different concept to me. So I'm interested in other's views.
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My view would be no also. |
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I've only met 1 woman in an hotel and she paid...... I travelled about 40 miles to meet her. I asked her if she wanted half or if she wanted me to book my own room. But she said that'd be silly, her rich hubby probably picked up the bill |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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Does it matter I wonder, what other people think?
If I considered a hotel meet was paying for sex and if I were not comfortable with it then so be it, I would not do it.
If I WERE comfortable with it, it would not matter what other people thought.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Is taking a date out for dinner paying for sex? Buying lingerie for your other half? Regardless of who pays for the room ultimately its 2 consenting adults finding a location where they can have sex so no. |
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