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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've just rejoined fabs after a lengthy spell away and I'm flabbergasted at some of the rude and aggressive profiles on here. Granted we all want certain characteristics but to say NO BLACKS, NO ASIANS, NO FAT PEOPLE is beyond rude. 
Why not say a polite no thanks if the person is not right for you.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've just rejoined fabs after a lengthy spell away and I'm flabbergasted at some of the rude and aggressive profiles on here. Granted we all want certain characteristics but to say NO BLACKS, NO ASIANS, NO FAT PEOPLE is beyond rude.
Why not say a polite no thanks if the person is not right for you. "
We don't meet black men Mrs l doesn't find them attractive why should we waste our time and there's by not having it on our profile so they message us only for us to say no thanks we don't meet black men, for people to then say well you've wasted my time you should really have it on your profile |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What I find surprising is that I find some women of all races very attractive just like I find some white British women very unnatractive. Maybe I'm just weird |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've just rejoined fabs after a lengthy spell away and I'm flabbergasted at some of the rude and aggressive profiles on here. Granted we all want certain characteristics but to say NO BLACKS, NO ASIANS, NO FAT PEOPLE is beyond rude.
Why not say a polite no thanks if the person is not right for you.
We don't meet black men Mrs l doesn't find them attractive why should we waste our time and there's by not having it on our profile so they message us only for us to say no thanks we don't meet black men, for people to then say well you've wasted my time you should really have it on your profile"
Well that makes sense. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never understand why people feel the need, when they verify someone, to tell us to ... " treat them with the respect they deserve" at the end. I think it's like that Sydney university stuff that people think its the right thing to put in a profile although most ain't got a clue what it's about. |
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By *MLETCouple
over a year ago
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"I've just rejoined fabs after a lengthy spell away and I'm flabbergasted at some of the rude and aggressive profiles on here. Granted we all want certain characteristics but to say NO BLACKS, NO ASIANS, NO FAT PEOPLE is beyond rude.
Why not say a polite no thanks if the person is not right for you.
We don't meet black men Mrs l doesn't find them attractive why should we waste our time and there's by not having it on our profile so they message us only for us to say no thanks we don't meet black men, for people to then say well you've wasted my time you should really have it on your profile"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would tend to ignore or block profiles I find offensive or rude,instead of starting a forum post and highlighting it.
Some may even consider it rude to criticise another's person's profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would tend to ignore or block profiles I find offensive or rude,instead of starting a forum post and highlighting it.
Some may even consider it rude to criticise another's person's profile."
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I don't specify a type on my profile.. Because I am open to being attracted to all types. I find pushy rude people who don't make an effort unattractive so my profile is to show I won't entertain anyone who doesn't grab my attention.
Still had to put up with someone messaging me this morning just to have a go at me and call my profile aggressive! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is nothing wrong with preferences a this is what they are but there is a way to word things on your profile in a non offensive way, if I were going to say I wasn't interested in black guys I'd probably say something like; my preference is for white guys as I'm not into black guys in that way, no offence and my apologies, just not for me. It seems a lot nicer than saying NO BLACKS. |
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"But when you see a profile that says "not interested in black men" surely that saves you wasting your time messaging them?
But you are black. Or is that an standard avatar?  "
I am frickin' rainbow coloured and I taste like Skittles. Anyone who disagrees is a sock puppet...
It's like the whole "what colour is the dress" crap again.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've just rejoined fabs after a lengthy spell away and I'm flabbergasted at some of the rude and aggressive profiles on here. Granted we all want certain characteristics but to say NO BLACKS, NO ASIANS, NO FAT PEOPLE is beyond rude.
Why not say a polite no thanks if the person is not right for you. "
It's not just colour , some peoples profiles are VERY aggressive to everyone but that's up to them, |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"I've just rejoined fabs after a lengthy spell away and I'm flabbergasted at some of the rude and aggressive profiles on here. Granted we all want certain characteristics but to say NO BLACKS, NO ASIANS, NO FAT PEOPLE is beyond rude.
Why not say a polite no thanks if the person is not right for you. "
here is an radical idea.... use it as a filter and just...move...on!! |
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"I never understand why people feel the need, when they verify someone, to tell us to ... " treat them with the respect they deserve" at the end. I think it's like that Sydney university stuff that people think its the right thing to put in a profile although most ain't got a clue what it's about. "
I always think that if you say "the respect they deserve" you're actually implying that they might not deserve any  . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its just a fuck at the end of the day who cares what color and size lol "
I see what you mean but I wouldn't want to meet anyone with a chip on their shoulder or a bad attitude. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its just a fuck at the end of the day who cares what color and size lol
NEWS FLASH; some people do care! Ooops, I shouted there, sorry "
lol yes you are right there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its just a fuck at the end of the day who cares what color and size lol
I see what you mean but I wouldn't want to meet anyone with a chip on their shoulder or a bad attitude."
yes thats right as u wanna be comfy with them  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is nothing wrong with preferences a this is what they are but there is a way to word things on your profile in a non offensive way, if I were going to say I wasn't interested in black guys I'd probably say something like; my preference is for white guys as I'm not into black guys in that way, no offence and my apologies, just not for me. It seems a lot nicer than saying NO BLACKS. "
This is how it is worded on our profile because Mrs l wrote it, me personally I don't see why people should apologise for the preferences it's ridiculous, you don't see sorry no white people do you? |
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I once made a thread about this same thing and was flooded with messages from those same kinds of people saying 'because we can' and that's fair enough.
However it does save my time, if the profile is rude, I just won't contact them regardless of their preferences and (sorry to sound arrogant but) I know they would have missed out |
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By *MLETCouple
over a year ago
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"There is nothing wrong with preferences a this is what they are but there is a way to word things on your profile in a non offensive way, if I were going to say I wasn't interested in black guys I'd probably say something like; my preference is for white guys as I'm not into black guys in that way, no offence and my apologies, just not for me. It seems a lot nicer than saying NO BLACKS.
This is how it is worded on our profile because Mrs l wrote it, me personally I don't see why people should apologise for the preferences it's ridiculous, you don't see sorry no white people do you? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we've had this one before....
Me personally, I believe you can get the same information across in a profile nicely, or in a SHOUTY DEMANDING WAY!!!
Those who read and pay attention to profiles will pay attention no matter how it's written, and those who don't...won't.
The shouty caps or rude style of delivery is just a reflection of the profile writer and nothing more...like Fabio says...it's a filter of types, if you don't like it...move on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is nothing wrong with preferences a this is what they are but there is a way to word things on your profile in a non offensive way, if I were going to say I wasn't interested in black guys I'd probably say something like; my preference is for white guys as I'm not into black guys in that way, no offence and my apologies, just not for me. It seems a lot nicer than saying NO BLACKS.
This is how it is worded on our profile because Mrs l wrote it, me personally I don't see why people should apologise for the preferences it's ridiculous, you don't see sorry no white people do
you? "
I have seen a woman's profile with something along the lines of only meeting black guys which is kind of the same thing I guess. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If we come across a profile that says blacks only or only interested in bbc we block so we don't come across there profile again and move on, we don't bitch and moan we just look for people who wide are compatible with |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There is nothing wrong with preferences a this is what they are but there is a way to word things on your profile in a non offensive way, if I were going to say I wasn't interested in black guys I'd probably say something like; my preference is for white guys as I'm not into black guys in that way, no offence and my apologies, just not for me. It seems a lot nicer than saying NO BLACKS. "
Exactly this....
Same info, different authour.....speaks volumes about the writer. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is nothing wrong with preferences a this is what they are but there is a way to word things on your profile in a non offensive way, if I were going to say I wasn't interested in black guys I'd probably say something like; my preference is for white guys as I'm not into black guys in that way, no offence and my apologies, just not for me. It seems a lot nicer than saying NO BLACKS.
This is how it is worded on our profile because Mrs l wrote it, me personally I don't see why people should apologise for the preferences it's ridiculous, you don't see sorry no white people do
you?
I have seen a woman's profile with something along the lines of only meeting black guys which is kind of the same thing I guess. "
It's not kind of the same thing it is the same thing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If we come across a profile that says blacks only or only interested in bbc we block so we don't come across there profile again and move on, we don't bitch and moan we just look for people who we are compatible with"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would tend to ignore or block profiles I find offensive or rude,instead of starting a forum post and highlighting it.
Some may even consider it rude to criticise another's person's profile."
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"I've just rejoined fabs after a lengthy spell away and I'm flabbergasted at some of the rude and aggressive profiles on here. Granted we all want certain characteristics but to say NO BLACKS, NO ASIANS, NO FAT PEOPLE is beyond rude.
Why not say a polite no thanks if the person is not right for you. "
As others have said - just use it as a filter. If a profile is not to your liking why spend a second worrying about it.
And shouldn't it be 'we've just rejoined' ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think this is an interesting topic. We are all different, and we all have different tastes, likes and dislikes. We all have certain things that we look for in our potential playmates, in the same way that we have certain things that however nice that person may be, they just won't be for us because we find that thing off putting.
Nobody should feel that they have to apologise for how they feel and what they like - it's their own personal taste.
The core of this issue however, is how we express this. I personally find the use of block capitals off putting. It's not what is being said, it's how it's being said. There's a subtle but important difference there.
I'm here to have relaxed, easy going fun. The use of 'shouty' capitals is indicative to me of somebody who just isn't on my wavelength.
Fab is meant to be fun - if you come across a profile that just doesn't do it for you, then no problem. Just move on |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think this is an interesting topic. We are all different, and we all have different tastes, likes and dislikes. We all have certain things that we look for in our potential playmates, in the same way that we have certain things that however nice that person may be, they just won't be for us because we find that thing off putting.
Nobody should feel that they have to apologise for how they feel and what they like - it's their own personal taste.
The core of this issue however, is how we express this. I personally find the use of block capitals off putting. It's not what is being said, it's how it's being said. There's a subtle but important difference there.
I'm here to have relaxed, easy going fun. The use of 'shouty' capitals is indicative to me of somebody who just isn't on my wavelength.
Fab is meant to be fun - if you come across a profile that just doesn't do it for you, then no problem. Just move on "
I get what your saying and ours isn't I'm capitals, but imagine getting message after message from people not suitable to what you want there comes a point where your going to be so annoyed that you do put it in big shouty letters,
But as someone else has said, the people that message haven't read your profile or choose to ignore what you've wrote so capitals make no difference anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think this is an interesting topic. We are all different, and we all have different tastes, likes and dislikes. We all have certain things that we look for in our potential playmates, in the same way that we have certain things that however nice that person may be, they just won't be for us because we find that thing off putting.
Nobody should feel that they have to apologise for how they feel and what they like - it's their own personal taste.
The core of this issue however, is how we express this. I personally find the use of block capitals off putting. It's not what is being said, it's how it's being said. There's a subtle but important difference there.
I'm here to have relaxed, easy going fun. The use of 'shouty' capitals is indicative to me of somebody who just isn't on my wavelength.
Fab is meant to be fun - if you come across a profile that just doesn't do it for you, then no problem. Just move on
I get what your saying and ours isn't I'm capitals, but imagine getting message after message from people not suitable to what you want there comes a point where your going to be so annoyed that you do put it in big shouty letters,
But as someone else has said, the people that message haven't read your profile or choose to ignore what you've wrote so capitals make no difference anyway"
When I receive a message from somebody who isn't my type or clearly hasn't read my profile then they receive a polite message back along the lines of 'thanks, but no thanks'. It doesn't bother me especially that they haven't read my profile if I'm honest. And rudeness or hostility certainly isn't going to make me change my mind! |
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All these complaints about rude people!! Folks that work in retail are immune to rudeness!!!! we get it all the time from "customers" lol personally we feel stating preference has nothing to do with rudeness, rudeness is when you say not thanks to someone who doesnt meet your criterior and then they call you "a pair of f****ng old tw*ts lol |
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By *r jblMan
over a year ago
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"NO BLACKS
NO ASIANS
NO BISEXUALS
NO FATTIES
NO BASIC PUNCTUATION
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NO UGLY PEOPLE
Am sure not everyone on fab is attractive. So why do you never see this on a profile?  |
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"NO BLACKS
NO ASIANS
NO BISEXUALS
NO FATTIES
NO BASIC PUNCTUATION
You missed
NO UGLY PEOPLE
Am sure not everyone on fab is attractive. So why do you never see this on a profile? "
NO CROSSDRESSERS
It's women's clothing, you know  |
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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago
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"All these complaints about rude people!! Folks that work in retail are immune to rudeness!!!! we get it all the time from "customers" lol personally we feel stating preference has nothing to do with rudeness, rudeness is when you say not thanks to someone who doesnt meet your criterior and then they call you "a pair of f****ng old tw*ts lol "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just because they state their preferences doesn't mean they're being rude, it's a preference, simple as that "
This is true but as has already been said, there's a polite way of putting it. If I order a coffee in costa I don't shout COFFEE at the assistant, I say please may I have a coffee but I suppose some don't! |
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"Just because they state their preferences doesn't mean they're being rude, it's a preference, simple as that
This is true but as has already been said, there's a polite way of putting it. If I order a coffee in costa I don't shout COFFEE at the assistant, I say please may I have a coffee but I suppose some don't!"
What if it's busy? Some profiles have a lot of information so may be necessary to stress key points |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just because they state their preferences doesn't mean they're being rude, it's a preference, simple as that
This is true but as has already been said, there's a polite way of putting it. If I order a coffee in costa I don't shout COFFEE at the assistant, I say please may I have a coffee but I suppose some don't!
What if it's busy? Some profiles have a lot of information so may be necessary to stress key points "
I still wait my turn and am polite! I've come to the conclusion you can write what you want but mostly it will be ignored. A profile can speak volumes about a person and ranty ones are not for me but if they work for the profile owner then great, it doesn't affect me in the slightest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What I find surprising is that I find some women of all races very attractive just like I find some white British women very unnatractive. Maybe I'm just weird "
That's bleeding into a nature vs nurture cultural thesis that's a whole different ball game. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sometimes it's not what you say it's how you say it.
However some people on here are as thick as two planks so maybe being explicit is the only way to get through?! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think there are many ways to say what you do want rather than what you don't want
I don't understand why people have shouty profiles that make them seem unapproachable and negative on a site where the objective is to meet people be sociable and have fun with them |
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"I think there are many ways to say what you do want rather than what you don't want
I don't understand why people have shouty profiles that make them seem unapproachable and negative on a site where the objective is to meet people be sociable and have fun with them"
Not everyone's objective is to meet people...and if they don't want to meet the sort of people they're shouting at, chances are the won't, whether they shout or not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think there are many ways to say what you do want rather than what you don't want
I don't understand why people have shouty profiles that make them seem unapproachable and negative on a site where the objective is to meet people be sociable and have fun with them
Not everyone's objective is to meet people...and if they don't want to meet the sort of people they're shouting at, chances are the won't, whether they shout or not. "
So why shout at all? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Last sentence on OP profile says no single guys , surely that's the same discrimation but in a sexist way. Why not let them message you and then say no thanks ? |
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"I think there are many ways to say what you do want rather than what you don't want
I don't understand why people have shouty profiles that make them seem unapproachable and negative on a site where the objective is to meet people be sociable and have fun with them
Not everyone's objective is to meet people...and if they don't want to meet the sort of people they're shouting at, chances are the won't, whether they shout or not.
So why shout at all? "
The people who don't plan to meet are separate in that sentence from the people who do.
The point is, people can run their profiles how they see fit.
If someone doesn't like someone's shouty manner, that's fine, move on to the next. If someone is the type of person who is being shouted at, move on to the next. If someone isn't put off by the shouting and meets the shouty criteria, then they might well be in with a shot. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Last sentence on OP profile says no single guys , surely that's the same discrimation but in a sexist way. Why not let them message you and then say no thanks ? "
Now don't be so sensible!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never understand why people feel the need, when they verify someone, to tell us to ... " treat them with the respect they deserve" at the end. I think it's like that Sydney university stuff that people think its the right thing to put in a profile although most ain't got a clue what it's about.
I always think that if you say "the respect they deserve" you're actually implying that they might not deserve any ."
I always read it like that. Same with the veris from single fems 'you got to meet this guy ladies blah blah' I translate as 'have him he's crap and I certainly won't go there again'. Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Isn't how we perceive things wonderful . One man's perception of use of CAPS is rude and shouty (diddums), another is that it highlights certain things.
Bet you can't guess my perception  . |
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If ladies say, 'No bald men' or 'No hairy chests' ... I just think 'Shame' and move on.
Not all bald guys look the same. They have diff personalities and aesthetics but some can't see past that.
But it is a preference so I move along. Respect each individual choice is what I say.
That includes a person's right to be rude. |
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"NO BLACKS
NO ASIANS
NO BISEXUALS
NO FATTIES
NO BASIC PUNCTUATION
You missed
NO UGLY PEOPLE
Am sure not everyone on fab is attractive. So why do you never see this on a profile? "
I've read on a profile 'no dull/ugly people' and she proves to be very popular. So shows that either the people she meets don't read her profile or aren't bothered that she's incredibly rude and arrogant. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"NO BLACKS
NO ASIANS
NO BISEXUALS
NO FATTIES
NO BASIC PUNCTUATION
You missed
NO UGLY PEOPLE
Am sure not everyone on fab is attractive. So why do you never see this on a profile?
I've read on a profile 'no dull/ugly people' and she proves to be very popular. So shows that either the people she meets don't read her profile or aren't bothered that she's incredibly rude and arrogant."
Or don't perceive her as you do |
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"NO BLACKS
NO ASIANS
NO BISEXUALS
NO FATTIES
NO BASIC PUNCTUATION
You missed
NO UGLY PEOPLE
Am sure not everyone on fab is attractive. So why do you never see this on a profile?
I've read on a profile 'no dull/ugly people' and she proves to be very popular. So shows that either the people she meets don't read her profile or aren't bothered that she's incredibly rude and arrogant."
Maybe she's not incredibly rude and arrogant in real life. Maybe it's tongue in cheek. I think people take what's written on here to heart far too much. You can't perceive tone in text! |
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By *andACouple
over a year ago
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"I've just rejoined fabs after a lengthy spell away and I'm flabbergasted at some of the rude and aggressive profiles on here. Granted we all want certain characteristics but to say NO BLACKS, NO ASIANS, NO FAT PEOPLE is beyond rude.
Why not say a polite no thanks if the person is not right for you. "
'***No singles guys unless we ask you. Your messages will not be read*** '
Isn't there a certain irony having that on your profile then? |
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"NO BLACKS
NO ASIANS
NO BISEXUALS
NO FATTIES
NO BASIC PUNCTUATION
You missed
NO UGLY PEOPLE
Am sure not everyone on fab is attractive. So why do you never see this on a profile?
I've read on a profile 'no dull/ugly people' and she proves to be very popular. So shows that either the people she meets don't read her profile or aren't bothered that she's incredibly rude and arrogant.
Maybe she's not incredibly rude and arrogant in real life. Maybe it's tongue in cheek. I think people take what's written on here to heart far too much. You can't perceive tone in text! "
No I've seen her say similar in chat and she was deadly serious. I'm not prone to making snap judgements on the basis of a profile. |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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"Last sentence on OP profile says no single guys , surely that's the same discrimation but in a sexist way. Why not let them message you and then say no thanks ? "
I really can't stand people who make these sensible statements and ruin a thread |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The last time there was a thread on this topic I got called attention seeking and desperate for messages because I dared to suggest that rude and ranty profiles do nothing to deter idiots who don't care if they meet your preferences anyway, while putting off the very people you might want to meet.
For me it's all about the tone and how it's put across. I won't meet anyone smaller than me, but I don't feel the need to write "FOR FUCK'S SAKE DON'T MESSAGE ME IF YOU'RE SHORT" or "MUST BE OVER 6 FOOT, CAPICHE?" all over my profile. My approach continues to work well for me, and the rude profiles seem to often as not still be complaining about the hoardes of messages they get from people who have ignored their profile...go figure. |
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"I would tend to ignore or block profiles I find offensive or rude,instead of starting a forum post and highlighting it.
Some may even consider it rude to criticise another's person's profile."
Simply: this!
Anything on a profile I don't like, whether it affects me or not I simply ignore and move on to the next one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The last time there was a thread on this topic I got called attention seeking and desperate for messages because I dared to suggest that rude and ranty profiles do nothing to deter idiots who don't care if they meet your preferences anyway, while putting off the very people you might want to meet.
For me it's all about the tone and how it's put across. I won't meet anyone smaller than me, but I don't feel the need to write "FOR FUCK'S SAKE DON'T MESSAGE ME IF YOU'RE SHORT" or "MUST BE OVER 6 FOOT, CAPICHE?" all over my profile. My approach continues to work well for me, and the rude profiles seem to often as not still be complaining about the hoardes of messages they get from people who have ignored their profile...go figure. "
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"There is nothing wrong with preferences a this is what they are but there is a way to word things on your profile in a non offensive way, if I were going to say I wasn't interested in black guys I'd probably say something like; my preference is for white guys as I'm not into black guys in that way, no offence and my apologies, just not for me. It seems a lot nicer than saying NO BLACKS.
This is how it is worded on our profile because Mrs l wrote it, me personally I don't see why people should apologise for the preferences it's ridiculous, you don't see sorry no white people do you? "
Agreed! I don't see why people should apologise for their preferences! |
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"The last time there was a thread on this topic I got called attention seeking and desperate for messages because I dared to suggest that rude and ranty profiles do nothing to deter idiots who don't care if they meet your preferences anyway, while putting off the very people you might want to meet.
For me it's all about the tone and how it's put across. I won't meet anyone smaller than me, but I don't feel the need to write "FOR FUCK'S SAKE DON'T MESSAGE ME IF YOU'RE SHORT" or "MUST BE OVER 6 FOOT, CAPICHE?" all over my profile. My approach continues to work well for me, and the rude profiles seem to often as not still be complaining about the hoardes of messages they get from people who have ignored their profile...go figure. "
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"I've just rejoined fabs after a lengthy spell away and I'm flabbergasted at some of the rude and aggressive profiles on here. Granted we all want certain characteristics but to say NO BLACKS, NO ASIANS, NO FAT PEOPLE is beyond rude.
Why not say a polite no thanks if the person is not right for you. "
Having read your profile it's clear what you want and don't want from Fab, and how you will block people who don't do as you do.
So if I choose to meet black guys or not, or to meet fat couples or not then I'll say so in my profile just as you have said in yours.
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"What I find surprising is that I find some women of all races very attractive just like I find some white British women very unnatractive. Maybe I'm just weird "
Couldn't agree more, there may be races that perhaps generally speaking, I don't find attractive as often as I do others but that's probably more to do with probability and the actual number from each race that I see/get messages from. I also find it offensive when I see NO BLACKS etc. I think it's incredibly rude and I wouldn't put NO UGLY PEOPLE. Those who I don't find attractive, I just politely decline. I think manners say a lot about somebody. |
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We're both of the opinion that it's the whole person who is attractive or otherwise. The colour of their skin is just one tiny part of the total package. Personally, I find attitude and personality to be the most important parts of the package.
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"I've just rejoined fabs after a lengthy spell away and I'm flabbergasted at some of the rude and aggressive profiles on here. Granted we all want certain characteristics but to say NO BLACKS, NO ASIANS, NO FAT PEOPLE is beyond rude.
Why not say a polite no thanks if the person is not right for you. "
I do agree there are a minority of rude people on here, as in all walks of life. But do you not think it is better that you can
see who those people are from their profiles as you then know who to avoid. If everyone ignored the rude people perhaps they would go away.
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Perhaps we are missing the point. Profiles, and the text and pictures they contain, are a reflection of who we are as people. They are therefore the best, if not only, way of deciding whether we are going to want to meet someone. So if profiles are rude, objectionable, vulgar or whatever it is a good indication of the owners personality - and you know whether the owners are your type. Be thankful their profile is upfront. |
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"Perhaps we are missing the point. Profiles, and the text and pictures they contain, are a reflection of who we are as people. They are therefore the best, if not only, way of deciding whether we are going to want to meet someone. So if profiles are rude, objectionable, vulgar or whatever it is a good indication of the owners personality - and you know whether the owners are your type. Be thankful their profile is upfront. "
Great point. Similarly, don't complain about other people's photos that you don't like; just don't meet them. |
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"Perhaps we are missing the point. Profiles, and the text and pictures they contain, are a reflection of who we are as people. They are therefore the best, if not only, way of deciding whether we are going to want to meet someone. So if profiles are rude, objectionable, vulgar or whatever it is a good indication of the owners personality - and you know whether the owners are your type. Be thankful their profile is upfront. "
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"There is nothing wrong with preferences a this is what they are but there is a way to word things on your profile in a non offensive way, if I were going to say I wasn't interested in black guys I'd probably say something like; my preference is for white guys as I'm not into black guys in that way, no offence and my apologies, just not for me. It seems a lot nicer than saying NO BLACKS.
This is how it is worded on our profile because Mrs l wrote it, me personally I don't see why people should apologise for the preferences it's ridiculous, you don't see sorry no white people do you? "
I won't apologise for s preference, if people don't like my profile they are free to use their block button just as I am when I don't like there profile |
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"NO BLACKS
NO ASIANS
NO BISEXUALS
NO FATTIES
NO BASIC PUNCTUATION
You missed
NO UGLY PEOPLE
Am sure not everyone on fab is attractive. So why do you never see this on a profile?
I've read on a profile 'no dull/ugly people' and she proves to be very popular. So shows that either the people she meets don't read her profile or aren't bothered that she's incredibly rude and arrogant.
Maybe she's not incredibly rude and arrogant in real life. Maybe it's tongue in cheek. I think people take what's written on here to heart far too much. You can't perceive tone in text! "
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"I've just rejoined fabs after a lengthy spell away and I'm flabbergasted at some of the rude and aggressive profiles on here. Granted we all want certain characteristics but to say NO BLACKS, NO ASIANS, NO FAT PEOPLE is beyond rude.
Why not say a polite no thanks if the person is not right for you. "
Is not telling someone to go to a church instead of being on the site not rude then |
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"I generally find the more block capitals on a profile the more likely they are to think Farrage is a jolly nice guy. "
Didnt you know that being BLOCKED is way worse?????... |
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