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Curious about bi-curiosity
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've always wondered why people are 'bi-curious' but never 'straight-curious'.
I mean either you find both men and women sexually attractive (that's what makes you bisexual) or you don't find them attractive. And if you don't find them sexually attractive in some way (in that, you have a desire to do sexual activities with them) then you're probably not bisexual. Or bi-curious. |
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Sexuality is a spectrum and people can move up and down it at various periods of their lives. I guess most who are bi curious are by definition, consider themselves straight to begin with.
With so many sexy ladies on here, I'm getting straighter.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My views have changed. ..I do not find men attractive or "fancy "men... However I am very curious as to how it would feel to play with a man. Especially in a bi mmf with my wife |
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"My views have changed. ..I do not find men attractive or "fancy "men... However I am very curious as to how it would feel to play with a man. Especially in a bi mmf with my wife"
It's very liberating and relaxing. Good luck to finding the lucky man  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My views have changed. ..I do not find men attractive or "fancy "men... However I am very curious as to how it would feel to play with a man. Especially in a bi mmf with my wife"
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By *ip73Man
over a year ago
Stanwell |
"I've always wondered why people are 'bi-curious' but never 'straight-curious'.
I mean either you find both men and women sexually attractive (that's what makes you bisexual) or you don't find them attractive. And if you don't find them sexually attractive in some way (in that, you have a desire to do sexual activities with them) then you're probably not bisexual. Or bi-curious."
I suppose I am what you term straight - curious. Been with guys but not with girls, would like to give it a go in an mmf or mmff |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My views have changed. ..I do not find men attractive or "fancy "men... However I am very curious as to how it would feel to play with a man. Especially in a bi mmf with my wife"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The labels on here are difficult. I've put straight, but I have had sex with women in threesome situations and enjoyed it. I'm not bi-curious because I know I like it, but I'm not bisexual because I wouldn't meet a woman alone without a man there as well. I think curious only really applies while you're finding out you like something, so straight curious could absolutely be a thing as well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've always wondered why people are 'bi-curious' but never 'straight-curious'.
I mean either you find both men and women sexually attractive (that's what makes you bisexual) or you don't find them attractive. And if you don't find them sexually attractive in some way (in that, you have a desire to do sexual activities with them) then you're probably not bisexual. Or bi-curious."
I'm straight but fb wants a ffm and we have been discussing it for so long now that I'm a little curious about the other female, so does that make me straight-curious? |
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"My views have changed. ..I do not find men attractive or "fancy "men... However I am very curious as to how it would feel to play with a man. Especially in a bi mmf with my wife"
Exactly this, I enjoy bi play in mmf format, the dynamics are very enjoyable so I enjoy the title hettoflexible, when I look at bi curious it seems vague, so as there is currently (admin) no tick box lol for het exible I write that on my profile and keep straight yo ward off tons of single guys. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"The labels on here are difficult. I've put straight, but I have had sex with women in threesome situations and enjoyed it. I'm not bi-curious because I know I like it, but I'm not bisexual because I wouldn't meet a woman alone without a man there as well. I think curious only really applies while you're finding out you like something, so straight curious could absolutely be a thing as well. "
I like the term Heteexible which is an option on a well known fetish site. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"The labels on here are difficult. I've put straight, but I have had sex with women in threesome situations and enjoyed it. I'm not bi-curious because I know I like it, but I'm not bisexual because I wouldn't meet a woman alone without a man there as well. I think curious only really applies while you're finding out you like something, so straight curious could absolutely be a thing as well.
I like the term Heteexible which is an option on a well known fetish site."
Ha the term has r-o-f-l in it. |
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"I've always wondered why people are 'bi-curious' but never 'straight-curious'.
I mean either you find both men and women sexually attractive (that's what makes you bisexual) or you don't find them attractive. And if you don't find them sexually attractive in some way (in that, you have a desire to do sexual activities with them) then you're probably not bisexual. Or bi-curious."
Hetexible in a mmf format, absolutely love this, and have met a some couples off here that indulge because I said so on my profile. |
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Bi-curious = exploring your feelings as you're not sure of them (I.e. Is it a sexual/romantic attraction, or do you just enjoy someone playing with your bits regardless of gender).
Bisexual = you're sure and comfortable with your bisexuality. |
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By *im1978Couple
over a year ago
sheffield |
Male here.... I consider myself bi in a sexual way ie will be as intimate with a male as I would with a female and I find certain men hot to look at but that's where it stops. I couldn't have a relationship with a guy. We are happily married with a family and appear from the outside as a 'normal' heterosexual couple. I have told a very limited few people and their jaws have dropped and on one occasion their trousers!! |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
I have never understood 'bi-curious'. Even before having any imtimate contact with a woman, I knew that I wanted to; it was just a question of getting to know the right woman (for me)
If 'bi-curious' means that one is bisexual but hasn't yet had sex with a person of the same gender, then it could make sense to me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not curious at all. I know my sexuality and it has never changed. I have, however been involved in dozens of mmf situations several ongoing or longer term.
I'm comfortable in the presence of other guys, some of which I know are/have bern bi. But never any intention of sexual interaction between us and not in the slightest bit curious.
I think if most people are honest, and have lived a bit rather than just starting out, then they KNOW there sexuality. Most on here are honest about it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have never understood 'bi-curious'. Even before having any imtimate contact with a woman, I knew that I wanted to; it was just a question of getting to know the right woman (for me)
If 'bi-curious' means that one is bisexual but hasn't yet had sex with a person of the same gender, then it could make sense to me"
I think we should call virgins 'straight-curious'.
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
"Male here.... I consider myself bi in a sexual way ie will be as intimate with a male as I would with a female and I find certain men hot to look at but that's where it stops. I couldn't have a relationship with a guy. We are happily married with a family and appear from the outside as a 'normal' heterosexual couple. I have told a very limited few people and their jaws have dropped and on one occasion their trousers!!"
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"I have never understood 'bi-curious'. Even before having any imtimate contact with a woman, I knew that I wanted to; it was just a question of getting to know the right woman (for me)
If 'bi-curious' means that one is bisexual but hasn't yet had sex with a person of the same gender, then it could make sense to me
I think we should call virgins 'straight-curious'.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know this topic isn't about this exactly, but i have wondered if everyone is automatically bisexual but because we know more about reproduction and how children are made, and because we also want children (most of us) then we fetishized breeding and heterosexuality?
Not in the way breeding would be on here exactly, but just that we want to have babies and know how to make them so only find the opposite gender attractive.
It's based on all the psychological knowledge i have, as well as sexual history, as well as personal experience. I never wanted kids (or so i thought), ended up with 4 and did actually be a good mum to them and do a good job looking after them. If i really didn't want kids then i shouldn't have wanted sex with people who could give me them? Idk, i know i don't make a lot of sense but sometimes i do in my head. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I know this topic isn't about this exactly, but i have wondered if everyone is automatically bisexual but because we know more about reproduction and how children are made, and because we also want children (most of us) then we fetishized breeding and heterosexuality?
Not in the way breeding would be on here exactly, but just that we want to have babies and know how to make them so only find the opposite gender attractive.
It's based on all the psychological knowledge i have, as well as sexual history, as well as personal experience. I never wanted kids (or so i thought), ended up with 4 and did actually be a good mum to them and do a good job looking after them. If i really didn't want kids then i shouldn't have wanted sex with people who could give me them? Idk, i know i don't make a lot of sense but sometimes i do in my head."
I think you're onto something.
I also think that it's to do with a shamefulness about being bisexual. One of my partners is about 40 and bisexual, but he doesn't tell people openly that he is. He was basically shamed at school that being gay and bisexual is wrong.
Now we're more open as a society to gay relationships, but there is still a massive amount of biphobia from both the straight and gay communities. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The labels on here are difficult. I've put straight, but I have had sex with women in threesome situations and enjoyed it. I'm not bi-curious because I know I like it, but I'm not bisexual because I wouldn't meet a woman alone without a man there as well. I think curious only really applies while you're finding out you like something, so straight curious could absolutely be a thing as well. "
See this is where I like the term hetexible... I'm like you... I enjoy playing witht women in a group situation. I don't do it for my partner but part of my pleasure comes from the exhibitionist side of it. I don't really look at a woman and think mmmmm I want her, its just a part of the whole experience when I play in a group.
I think to many people worry about labels |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've met guys who want to play with a cock but have no attraction to men whatsoever.
I've also met straight women who love watching two guys together.
The social stigma about being less of a man if you are gay or bi still holds true, hence this tends to get suppressed.
At some point in evolution, labels and behaviour were applied. The ancient Greeks and Romans had the glory days of pan sexuality.
Personally I have been through stages in my life where I thought I was straight, then gay, then bi curious then straight curious.
I've now decided I'm just human with an attraction to other sexy folk.
What type of plumbing they have is immaterial if the chemistry is there. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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At some point in evolution, labels and behaviour were applied. The ancient Greeks and Romans had the glory days of pan sexuality. "
Actually that's not true. They had a completely different system of sexuality to us. Most of their gay encounters were based around the fact that powerful people had sex with people who weren't powerful. So powerful men had sex with women, slaves, and less powerful men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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At some point in evolution, labels and behaviour were applied. The ancient Greeks and Romans had the glory days of pan sexuality.
Actually that's not true. They had a completely different system of sexuality to us. Most of their gay encounters were based around the fact that powerful people had sex with people who weren't powerful. So powerful men had sex with women, slaves, and less powerful men."
Fair point. I'd still like to have been part of it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think you're onto something.
I also think that it's to do with a shamefulness about being bisexual. One of my partners is about 40 and bisexual, but he doesn't tell people openly that he is. He was basically shamed at school that being gay and bisexual is wrong.
Now we're more open as a society to gay relationships, but there is still a massive amount of biphobia from both the straight and gay communities."
I did try to make a topic about it, but my debating skills have got low quality since i stopped discussing stuff over a year ago and couldn't really get all my ideas together, am sure with a little practice i could get back to that level though.
I've never found women sexually attractive tbh, despite how sexualised they had become in the media. But i was brought up in a household where all the family members where in heterosexual relationships, and my mum and dad both think homosexual relationships are wrong, my dad is homophobic as well. But i did realise that my dad had something wrong with him so his ideas never stuck in my head as true or correct, plus i'm good at observing so didn't see anything to back him up either. I do agree shame is one of the worst things to do to anyone, especially when it's how they feel about themselves. Our minds can be more fragile and more complicated than we think, and we can break them.
I'll start a proper topic on it some time, when i feel i can discuss stuff properly and gather info to back it up.
Didn't know there was biphobia in gay communities, that's sad to hear. |
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I'd consider myself straight, but in a chat we had about fantasies, N mentioned wanting an mmf. Something I intend on making happen. Then curiosity crept in and made me wonder what it would be like. So I wouldn't say I find men attractive, though every guy is allowed a man crush right? Though in the right situation, I may just go with the flow.
Too many labels, just label me horny haha!
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I don't advertise my bi sexuality..i grew up in the welsh valleys where they look at you weird if you don't wear a dirty tracksuit or pjs everywhere,and you'll get a pasting just for being English.
I'd say a lot of the negative attitudes concerning sexuality stem from our judeo christian heritage where gayness is considered such an abomination that you'll burn in hell for all eternity.... |
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I (male here)think Fab could do with another option to describe your sexuality, I'm down as bi-curious on our profile but I'd say I'm more sexually bi (I've tried it and know I like it!), as opposed to bisexual in that I can't ever imagine being in a relationship with a man, actually I can't imagine kissing a bloke. Whereas S is bisexual in that she has had full on relationships with women. |
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To me to be either bi-curious or straight-curious, you find the sex you don't have experience of attractive but have yet to experience it.
I (Mrs) would have described myself as straight until the last year or two. Despite having always found women attractive it simply never occurred to me that it was in a sexual way. No idea why but it sort of gradually dawned on me. I branded myself as bi-curious on here for a while after enjoying sex with women, simply because I can't see myself in a relationship with another women.
At the end of the day it is just a label after all |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Bi-curious = exploring your feelings as you're not sure of them (I.e. Is it a sexual/romantic attraction, or do you just enjoy someone playing with your bits regardless of gender).
Bisexual = you're sure and comfortable with your bisexuality. "
Plus as others have said, some bi people just have sex with both men and women. Some bi people have relationships with both men and women. |
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