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Is it rude to ask how big a woman is?
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We've recently been sent a message by a couple who seem keen to meet us, on paper they seem to meet our requirements. The only possible objection for want of a better word is the ladies size. Neither of us are slim & much prefer cuddly or similar size people to us, however we have lower & upper size body types that we both prefer.
On the profile the lady is listed as large, they have sent us a picture of them both but from her photo it's impossible to tell if she's too big for us. Is it rude to ask how large is large, or even what size she is, obviously don't want to upset but without asking how are we going to know unless we meet? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We've recently been sent a message by a couple who seem keen to meet us, on paper they seem to meet our requirements. The only possible objection for want of a better word is the ladies size. Neither of us are slim & much prefer cuddly or similar size people to us, however we have lower & upper size body types that we both prefer.
On the profile the lady is listed as large, they have sent us a picture of them both but from her photo it's impossible to tell if she's too big for us. Is it rude to ask how large is large, or even what size she is, obviously don't want to upset but without asking how are we going to know unless we meet?"
Ask her if it's ok to ask her size. |
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over a year ago
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This is actually quite a tough one,
I must say though, I've been asked a few times what size I am, and it actually makes me feel better being able to lay all the cards on the table.
It's this dreaded sense of worrying that your size isn't going to be what the other person expected and you may get rejected or judged based on this. Don't like to false advertise basically!!!
Other ladies may not feel the same way as I do on the subject though. They may be insulted by it. 
I'd personally ask.. Fuck it. |
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"We've recently been sent a message by a couple who seem keen to meet us, on paper they seem to meet our requirements. The only possible objection for want of a better word is the ladies size. Neither of us are slim & much prefer cuddly or similar size people to us, however we have lower & upper size body types that we both prefer.
On the profile the lady is listed as large, they have sent us a picture of them both but from her photo it's impossible to tell if she's too big for us. Is it rude to ask how large is large, or even what size she is, obviously don't want to upset but without asking how are we going to know unless we meet?
Ask her if it's ok to ask her size."
if you're going to want to be comfortable enough to play, you should be comfortable to ask....as larger woaman i wouldnt be offended to be asked...rather be asked than have someone run for the hills when they saw me! |
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This is where one the many hypocrisies of fab comes into play. It is fine for many to ask, judge, and reject a man based on the size of his cock but is it okay to ask a woman what dress size she is and base your decision on her answer? |
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So a polite are you size 20 for example is not the right thing to do, for all they know she could be too small for us they don't know our preferences? We could lie & say we only play with ladies over a certain size but if it turns out she is over that we'd have to find another excuse to reject them!! |
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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago
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For u its a make or break for a meet for depending on her size so yes ask. Its a preference. I tell ppl me dress size and bust size which is fine and real. Lol my weight on the other hand no 1 knows lol |
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Ultimately we're all entitled to our prefences & in the real world or when swinging people choose who they play with based on this. Just wish her picture was clearer then we wouldn't have this dilemma. |
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over a year ago
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I think it would be just to politely ask her dress size and not spin any webs that can trap you.
Just tell her that you want to paint a picture in your head of what she looks like.
If she isn't the right size for you, just again, be polite and tell them that they're not for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think it's rude. I don't show body pics but when asked I tell them I'm a size 18/20,whichever I am at the time. I've been told sorry too big. I don't cry about it. I have an upper size limit myself. |
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Balls, just seen they haven't shown you proper body pics. I'd say she's trying to hide it then?
Doubt she'll be comfortable being asked any questions about her size if she is hiding it. |
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"Oh but for the love of god, please don't ask how 'big' she is!
Compliment her at the same time as you very politely and causally ask....
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But would it be ok to ask how small she is lol?!!
For heavens sake it's high time Fab changed the body size options, how about skinny, petite, or bbw, the ones at the moment are so ambiguous. |
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"Balls, just seen they haven't shown you proper body pics. I'd say she's trying to hide it then?
Doubt she'll be comfortable being asked any questions about her size if she is hiding it."
Lord knows how awkward she'd be naked then....
it's a shame that people can't just accept themselves and embrace it.  |
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"Balls, just seen they haven't shown you proper body pics. I'd say she's trying to hide it then?
Doubt she'll be comfortable being asked any questions about her size if she is hiding it.
Lord knows how awkward she'd be naked then....
it's a shame that people can't just accept themselves and embrace it. "
You talk sense and I like it!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I would say just ask. My gf is a big lass and a few people ask how big she is and ask for dress size. We don't get offended at that and neither should anyone on a site like this. Surely it would be more rude not to ask and then get there and not want to fuck them cos of how big they are. Everyone lines different things. |
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If the balls on the other foot we'd have no problems answering folks queries, we've never been asked the same question probably cus we've given peeps a good idea what size we are from our photo's. |
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My dress size on my profile plus I have a deliberately less than flattering realistic full body nude pic in private gallery. Would rather know if I'm not for them before meeting. Rarely get turned down due to my size I think because they know already. Not that I'm everyone's cuppa |
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I don't have full body shots purely cos I don't think they get me across in the best light!
If I'm going to meet someone I usually will only meet for a social first, perhaps you guys could suggest this?
I don't get any negativity in what you are saying just that perhaps you want to know a bit more about who you are meeting! |
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For me personally i would not be offended if i was asked my dress size. This would give me more confidence in the guy asking as that would come across as he has preferences and not that desperate that he would just fuck anybody. I think most people if they are confident and happy with their size surely would not be offended. |
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"So a polite are you size 20 for example is not the right thing to do, for all they know she could be too small for us they don't know our preferences? We could lie & say we only play with ladies over a certain size but if it turns out she is over that we'd have to find another excuse to reject them!!"
Tell her you've just remembered you've given up sex for Lent. |
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"Balls, just seen they haven't shown you proper body pics. I'd say she's trying to hide it then?
Doubt she'll be comfortable being asked any questions about her size if she is hiding it.
Lord knows how awkward she'd be naked then....
it's a shame that people can't just accept themselves and embrace it. "
Exactly this yeah. Everyone has body types they find appealing, if someone loves your body type then they really will love it.
I know people go on about the 'any holes a goal' guys but most guys really do appreciate ladies as they are, they have their favourite things about people (as do us girls) but i doubt most people would fuck anything if they didn't find it attractive.
We have been manipulated though to look for flaws in our physical appearance and fix them so it's to be expected that many people do have hangups. |
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"Balls, just seen they haven't shown you proper body pics. I'd say she's trying to hide it then?
Doubt she'll be comfortable being asked any questions about her size if she is hiding it.
Lord knows how awkward she'd be naked then....
it's a shame that people can't just accept themselves and embrace it.
Exactly this yeah. Everyone has body types they find appealing, if someone loves your body type then they really will love it.
I know people go on about the 'any holes a goal' guys but most guys really do appreciate ladies as they are, they have their favourite things about people (as do us girls) but i doubt most people would fuck anything if they didn't find it attractive.
We have been manipulated though to look for flaws in our physical appearance and fix them so it's to be expected that many people do have hangups."
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"My dress size on my profile plus I have a deliberately less than flattering realistic full body nude pic in private gallery. Would rather know if I'm not for them before meeting. Rarely get turned down due to my size I think because they know already. Not that I'm everyone's cuppa"
If only her photo was as good as yours we'd know exactly what we were getting & how nice to see a dress size in a profile. Now without giving our preferences away you look lovely & with all the curves in the right places why could you not have messaged us!! You are too far away though so probably just as well you didn't, at least we're halfway there already with these as they are local. I'm not frightened to ask & can handle the risk of offence, we're not actively seeking new friends but she's pretty so has caught our eye, just want advice on the best way to show our diplomacy card. |
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"My dress size on my profile plus I have a deliberately less than flattering realistic full body nude pic in private gallery. Would rather know if I'm not for them before meeting. Rarely get turned down due to my size I think because they know already. Not that I'm everyone's cuppa
If only her photo was as good as yours we'd know exactly what we were getting & how nice to see a dress size in a profile. Now without giving our preferences away you look lovely & with all the curves in the right places why could you not have messaged us!! You are too far away though so probably just as well you didn't, at least we're halfway there already with these as they are local. I'm not frightened to ask & can handle the risk of offence, we're not actively seeking new friends but she's pretty so has caught our eye, just want advice on the best way to show our diplomacy card. "
Chances are you're either going to offend or not! One of those suck it and see things... |
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If anyone asked me for my size
I'd probably reply
Why
Are you going to buy me something lovely to wear
Followed by
Mind your own bleeding business
That's just my opinion
Other opinions are freely available |
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"If anyone asked me for my size
I'd probably reply
Why
Are you going to buy me something lovely to wear
Followed by
Mind your own bleeding business
That's just my opinion
Other opinions are freely available "
We're all entitled to our prefences & I could hazard a guess what size you are from your pictures so have no need to ask you, but what's the big deal if somebody did? |
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"If anyone asked me for my size
I'd probably reply
Why
Are you going to buy me something lovely to wear
Followed by
Mind your own bleeding business
That's just my opinion
Other opinions are freely available
We're all entitled to our prefences & I could hazard a guess what size you are from your pictures so have no need to ask you, but what's the big deal if somebody did? "
A If you can guess, you'd not need to ask
B it's actually stated on my profile
C I'm guessing from your original message that you'd use the information to refuse a meet with someone regardless of the fact that you clearly like them
And that's quite sad really I think |
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over a year ago
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Op ...what size are you .?...I'm asking because you've put curvy and although you have some clear full body pics you've not mentioned your size; so it still leaveseme, for one guessing. ..and I would guess at size 18?...but you could be size 20 or size 16 ... |
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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago
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I have never been asked my size but I do have quite a few full length and not overly flattering pictures so everyone can see (fat rolls included) just what I look like.....same for my OH so people can see him, his buffness and muscles 
I don't think it would be rude to ask for a full body shot.........  |
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I dont think it is rude to ask. You need to be aware of as much info as possible before playing.
Personally we always like to meet for a drink first and wont play unless there is compatibility, both physical and mentally on all sides. But if there is we will play on a first meet which has always happened as we like tto be as sue as we can be before meeting. |
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By *BW100Couple
over a year ago
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"So a polite are you size 20 for example is not the right thing to do, for all they know she could be too small for us they don't know our preferences? We could lie & say we only play with ladies over a certain size but if it turns out she is over that we'd have to find another excuse to reject them!!"
I've not looked at your profile but you say you ask for a certain type/size, start by asking if they have read your profile & go from there, explain your likes & dislikes & then get into size preference.
I always check with guys to make sure they like the larger lady & I have details on our profile but at two meets now it's been clear the guys only wanted to see my boobs so now go into detail with questions, it's a self preservation thing. Be honest & ask x |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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If you like what you see and she caught your eye because she's pretty, why not just meet up for a quick social.
Far better than going on just a dress size as women carry weight differently. One size something can look completely different to another.
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I think the least offensive things to do are ask for further photos of her as it's important all parties are attracted to each other and offer to provide more of yourselves?
And/or ask for a social meet before deciding whether to play. |
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"We've recently been sent a message by a couple who seem keen to meet us, on paper they seem to meet our requirements. The only possible objection for want of a better word is the ladies size. Neither of us are slim & much prefer cuddly or similar size people to us, however we have lower & upper size body types that we both prefer.
On the profile the lady is listed as large, they have sent us a picture of them both but from her photo it's impossible to tell if she's too big for us. Is it rude to ask how large is large, or even what size she is, obviously don't want to upset but without asking how are we going to know unless we meet?"
You are obviously bothered about her size so it would be best on this occasion to make your excuses and move on rather than upset her.
The last thing you want to do is ask her size...swinging suicide lol.
Me and Kim meet people all ages/sizes as its their personalities that make them sexy but if you have size limits avoid any that are too big or could be too big. |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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A good friend of mine told me that he isn't into "fat chicks". I asked him what is a "fat chick"; he told me that I was one
It is all relative. Ask for UK, US and European dress sizes, just to be on the safe side 
Seriously, just state your preferences to them and see if they write back. If they do, then it is because they meet your criteria |
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This is precisely the reason I put my dress size on my profile. The only thing I don't show is my stomach because I hate it. I do tell meets about it and usually keep it covered anyway. 3 surgery scars and wobbly overhang. Yuck. |
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If the couple use the forums they will either contact you telling you the ladies size or decide that you aren't for them.
I think this thread is more likely to be considered rude than asking to clarify her size privately |
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"I think the least offensive things to do are ask for further photos of her as it's important all parties are attracted to each other and offer to provide more of yourselves?
And/or ask for a social meet before deciding whether to play."
I'd go down this road. Then she won't be offended, and if you don't fancy her you can get out of it easily enough. |
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"Oh but for the love of god, please don't ask how 'big' she is!
Compliment her at the same time as you very politely and causally ask....
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Yes I'd say it's probably in how you ask the question. But then size in itself can be a bit meaningless, I'm an 18 but have been told it's ok because I'm the 'right' kind of big, whatever that means. |
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"Oh but for the love of god, please don't ask how 'big' she is!
Compliment her at the same time as you very politely and causally ask....
Yes I'd say it's probably in how you ask the question. But then size in itself can be a bit meaningless, I'm an 18 but have been told it's ok because I'm the 'right' kind of big, whatever that means. "
Lol I'm a 12 and get contact from people asking for BBW only. |
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I think it is a fair question to ask anybody as long as it is asked in a respectful way. I have been asked many times and haven't ever felt offended, you need to know whether you will find this person attractive or not as attraction plays a huge part! Go for it |
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We never ask to see pics. We take the view that anyone serious and considerate will voluntarily show appropriate photos. If they don't, it goes no further. |
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"We've recently been sent a message by a couple who seem keen to meet us, on paper they seem to meet our requirements. The only possible objection for want of a better word is the ladies size. Neither of us are slim & much prefer cuddly or similar size people to us, however we have lower & upper size body types that we both prefer.
On the profile the lady is listed as large, they have sent us a picture of them both but from her photo it's impossible to tell if she's too big for us. Is it rude to ask how large is large, or even what size she is, obviously don't want to upset but without asking how are we going to know unless we meet?"
Instead of steaming in there... Why dont you meet for a social drink first. That way you can find out without possibly offending. |
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2 years ago we had a party..invited some newbies..two days before the party the lady who was a curvy voluptuous type asked if she could bring a lady friend instead of her hubby..I said ok ..can I ask what's she like ,tall /short /slim etc ?
I got lots of abuse calling me shallow etc.. 
You can't win whatever you say ? But just tell the truth and how you feel ? Be nice though..good luck x |
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By starting a thread on here as opposed to speaking to the lady in question directly I would say you have been very rude. She might not have minded you asking but I'm sure she'd mind having the forum debating the ins and outs of it all.
If you find someone attractive does it matter if they are a size in either direction of what you think they are? |
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Perhaps do a social meet? See her face to face - sometimes her personality will outweigh her size - as it were haha, thats what we would do  at least that way you can make a proper decision having seen her |
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"We've recently been sent a message by a couple who seem keen to meet us, on paper they seem to meet our requirements. The only possible objection for want of a better word is the ladies size. Neither of us are slim & much prefer cuddly or similar size people to us, however we have lower & upper size body types that we both prefer.
On the profile the lady is listed as large, they have sent us a picture of them both but from her photo it's impossible to tell if she's too big for us. Is it rude to ask how large is large, or even what size she is, obviously don't want to upset but without asking how are we going to know unless we meet?"
I would just ask them for a body shot pic
No need to ask them |
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"By starting a thread on here as opposed to speaking to the lady in question directly I would say you have been very rude. She might not have minded you asking but I'm sure she'd mind having the forum debating the ins and outs of it all.
If you find someone attractive does it matter if they are a size in either direction of what you think they are?"
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We chose to put my size in our profile from early on, we all know that photos can show or hide a multitude of things so we wanted to avoid awkward questions. When I felt more confident full body pics and tummy pics went on our profile.
In all honesty I only think dress size gives you a small idea, you won't know if you're attracted to someone physically unless you have a social meet. You're obviously getting on well in other aspects, so if you have a social meet and nothing else, at least you've come away with a friendship |
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I usualy think that if they ask me about my size then they aren't worth bothering with, iv put on a stone since a few of my older pics were taken but the last few men I met didn't seem bothered and said I looked nice.
I can understand why some people don't want to meet others who are overweight though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I took my full length body pic off because men were wrongly guessing at a 14/16. Either they don't have a clue about dress sizes or my mirror makes me look thinner than the 18/20 it is. I put on weight very easily too,just after Christmas I was a loose 18. Being incapacitated for a couple of months I'm now a tight 20. Ask,and you will find out how people react,then go from there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If you find someone attractive does it matter if they are a size in either direction of what you think they are?"
For me yes
I can find someones face attractive but not their body
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Wow what a difference of opinion. We're not here to play with everybody on Fab & yes we like the social side as much, so why should we be criticised for having sizest preferences? Some people don't like black people, hairy people etc etc so if we're going to spend our precious time organising a meet why are we not allowed to be fussy? After all we have a great sex life & swinging is just an added extra when time permits.
Will send a carefully worded message, it's very early stages they haven't seen our mugshots so it might all fall flat. Some people only like big people would the smaller people say we had a problem in not wanting to meet them I'm not so sure, it's called choice!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't think its rude to want to know, I have asked men before if their pictures were recent ones. if their verifications were from all skinny people then it is more likely to be important to them what size you are. |
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"This is where one the many hypocrisies of fab comes into play. It is fine for many to ask, judge, and reject a man based on the size of his cock but is it okay to ask a woman what dress size she is and base your decision on her answer?"
i never ask about cock sizes |
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"This is where one the many hypocrisies of fab comes into play. It is fine for many to ask, judge, and reject a man based on the size of his cock but is it okay to ask a woman what dress size she is and base your decision on her answer?
i never ask about cock sizes"
I said "many", not all |
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"This is where one the many hypocrisies of fab comes into play. It is fine for many to ask, judge, and reject a man based on the size of his cock but is it okay to ask a woman what dress size she is and base your decision on her answer?
i never ask about cock sizes
I said "many", not all"
being honest if they have a cock photo on cool if they dont they dont. long as they are trimmed and its not bushy ill be happy. its not the size its what u do with it  |
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To be honest I don't get offended by much. I don't see the problem in wanting to know the size of the person you are potentially going to meet. I think if the pictures that I had seen weren't all that clear, I would ask if they had a clear recent pic rather than asking what size. There is nothing wrong with having to find the person you are meeting attractive.....I don't want to meet a guy with a huge beer gut, so why shouldn't a guy be a bit picky? |
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"This is where one the many hypocrisies of fab comes into play. It is fine for many to ask, judge, and reject a man based on the size of his cock but is it okay to ask a woman what dress size she is and base your decision on her answer?
i never ask about cock sizes
I said "many", not all
being honest if they have a cock photo on cool if they dont they dont. long as they are trimmed and its not bushy ill be happy. its not the size its what u do with it "
What about plaited? |
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"This is where one the many hypocrisies of fab comes into play. It is fine for many to ask, judge, and reject a man based on the size of his cock but is it okay to ask a woman what dress size she is and base your decision on her answer?
i never ask about cock sizes
I said "many", not all
being honest if they have a cock photo on cool if they dont they dont. long as they are trimmed and its not bushy ill be happy. its not the size its what u do with it
What about plaited?"
not for me unless you dont want it sucked |
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I wouldnt be offended to be asked my size i respect the fact im not for everyone being a size 18/20, having said that when meeting i have a good range of public pics showing my body as is amd i clearly state my size on my profile too so there should be no reason for me to be asked for it. I represent myself that way so people have the relevent info to make an informed decision based on their preferences if im worth taking an interest in |
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"To be honest I don't get offended by much. I don't see the problem in wanting to know the size of the person you are potentially going to meet. I think if the pictures that I had seen weren't all that clear, I would ask if they had a clear recent pic rather than asking what size. There is nothing wrong with having to find the person you are meeting attractive.....I don't want to meet a guy with a huge beer gut, so why shouldn't a guy be a bit picky?"
Oh Scarlet, don't you know you're wrong to take physical attraction into account? That it should all be about the meeting of minds, common interests and how lovely a personality the other person has? |
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"To be honest I don't get offended by much. I don't see the problem in wanting to know the size of the person you are potentially going to meet. I think if the pictures that I had seen weren't all that clear, I would ask if they had a clear recent pic rather than asking what size. There is nothing wrong with having to find the person you are meeting attractive.....I don't want to meet a guy with a huge beer gut, so why shouldn't a guy be a bit picky?
Oh Scarlet, don't you know you're wrong to take physical attraction into account? That it should all be about the meeting of minds, common interests and how lovely a personality the other person has?"
bollocks!!!! That is where I have been going wrong all these years..... |
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Ask away, in a polite manner....I'm a "bigger girl" and I always make it quite clear...that there is junk in my trunk and I'm all about the base baby! On the reverse I am not attracted to slim/athletic men....or short...life is about choices and preferences. . x Just be courteous and polite ....and enjoy! x |
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Meet for a social. Then you can make a proper decision. Clothes sizes are useless in my opinion. You could be a 16, firm and toned, a 12 and flabby, it's all relative. More so with women than men I think. Some women are different on top to bottom, different sizes in different shops etc...
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We always do a NSA social first. Granted we are pickier than many people, but in reality her body may be great but one of them may drool when they talk, or have bad body odour or laugh like a donkey.
If you are short on time though and tend to play on a first meet, then yes you should ask (dimplomatically), so that it isn't awkward if you just can't bring yourself to get naked with them.  |
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Of course you should, because everyone seems to mislead by the Athletic tag. Sumo wrestlers are athletes!
A lot of couples/women and single guys have a preference. Why don't you put on your profile no ladies over dress size ?? Even no guys with beer bellies or waist size?? (Follow with you may think us shallow, but it's our preference. It's the same for race and height) |
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"I've got clear body pics - what size do you reckon I am? 
I would argue that they aren't all that clear....you have used them well ...I recognise the tricks as I do it too For me a clear body pic is standing face showing entire body. That is a truer picture."
I was just about to say the same thing these tricks and camera angles dont give a true representation of the person as is. Than a full frontal naked show would |
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"Ultimately we're all entitled to our prefences & in the real world or when swinging people choose who they play with based on this. Just wish her picture was clearer then we wouldn't have this dilemma. "
Dress sizes don't really mean much, depends on height. I prefer to meet for a coffee first so people can see me and make a decision that way. I've been told I look different to my pics... bigger and smaller... different perceptions.
So my suggestion would be to meet for a drink. |
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"My dress size on my profile plus I have a deliberately less than flattering realistic full body nude pic in private gallery. Would rather know if I'm not for them before meeting. Rarely get turned down due to my size I think because they know already. Not that I'm everyone's cuppa"
Same here, I put my size on my profile because at the end of the day, what people are mainly looking for is physical attraction. I wouldn't want to sleep with anybody unless I felt they genuinely found me attractive. Rather than ask her size I'd suggest asking for some full length body pics. Better to find out now than at a later date when you'll feel obliged to continue. X |
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"Balls, just seen they haven't shown you proper body pics. I'd say she's trying to hide it then?
Doubt she'll be comfortable being asked any questions about her size if she is hiding it.
Lord knows how awkward she'd be naked then....
it's a shame that people can't just accept themselves and embrace it.
You talk sense and I like it! "
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"Balls, just seen they haven't shown you proper body pics. I'd say she's trying to hide it then?
Doubt she'll be comfortable being asked any questions about her size if she is hiding it.
Lord knows how awkward she'd be naked then....
it's a shame that people can't just accept themselves and embrace it.
You talk sense and I like it! "
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Its not rude but most women do not like being asked what size they are and most will drop a size or two if you do ask or put stuff like I'm a 18/20 when really they're just a 20 |
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Firstly if size is a deal breaker for you then surely easier to have your preference on your profile?
That way saves any hassles ,guessing and time wasting on both sides .
I personally don't feel asking dress size rude but starting a thread about another person is .
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"Of course you should, because everyone seems to mislead by the Athletic tag. Sumo wrestlers are athletes!
A lot of couples/women and single guys have a preference. Why don't you put on your profile no ladies over dress size ?? Even no guys with beer bellies or waist size?? (Follow with you may think us shallow, but it's our preference. It's the same for race and height)"
that's a better idea, no ladies over a certain dress size and no guys with beer bellies. |
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"Firstly if size is a deal breaker for you then surely easier to have your preference on your profile?
That way saves any hassles ,guessing and time wasting on both sides .
I personally don't feel asking dress size rude but starting a thread about another person is .
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Wouldn't work for me as it's the distribution that's all important.
As an example, there are many size 20s I wouldn't contemplate but quite a few I would.
And guessing would be eliminated if people had truly representative pics up. |
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"We've recently been sent a message by a couple who seem keen to meet us, on paper they seem to meet our requirements. The only possible objection for want of a better word is the ladies size. Neither of us are slim & much prefer cuddly or similar size people to us, however we have lower & upper size body types that we both prefer.
On the profile the lady is listed as large, they have sent us a picture of them both but from her photo it's impossible to tell if she's too big for us. Is it rude to ask how large is large, or even what size she is, obviously don't want to upset but without asking how are we going to know unless we meet?"
There is a good reason why you can't tell from the pics you were sent .
Leave it and find a more suitable lady .
Not only would the meet be uncomfortable for you , but for her too so what's the point of putting you all through that ?
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"I've got clear body pics - what size do you reckon I am?
I would argue that they aren't all that clear....you have used them well ...I recognise the tricks as I do it too For me a clear body pic is standing face showing entire body. That is a truer picture."
What's face showing got to do with how clear a body pic is? Or is it size of head, for an idea of scale? |
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"I've got clear body pics - what size do you reckon I am?
I would argue that they aren't all that clear....you have used them well ...I recognise the tricks as I do it too For me a clear body pic is standing face showing entire body. That is a truer picture.
What's face showing got to do with how clear a body pic is? Or is it size of head, for an idea of scale? "
Wait, screw that, you meant facing the camera. |
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"I've got clear body pics - what size do you reckon I am?
I would argue that they aren't all that clear....you have used them well ...I recognise the tricks as I do it too For me a clear body pic is standing face showing entire body. That is a truer picture.
What's face showing got to do with how clear a body pic is? Or is it size of head, for an idea of scale? "
Crying laughing at the head scale hahaha maybe this should be the new sky remote pmsl
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I wouldn't feel comfortable asking (and would consider it rude), nor would I wish to. But, I don't objectify people on 'dress size' and such like.
Would a social meet clear everything up without the need for any (potentially) embarrassing questions? |
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"I've got clear body pics - what size do you reckon I am?
I would argue that they aren't all that clear....you have used them well ...I recognise the tricks as I do it too For me a clear body pic is standing face showing entire body. That is a truer picture.
What's face showing got to do with how clear a body pic is? Or is it size of head, for an idea of scale?
Wait, screw that, you meant facing the camera. "
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"I've got clear body pics - what size do you reckon I am?
I would argue that they aren't all that clear....you have used them well ...I recognise the tricks as I do it too For me a clear body pic is standing face showing entire body. That is a truer picture.
What's face showing got to do with how clear a body pic is? Or is it size of head, for an idea of scale?
Crying laughing at the head scale hahaha maybe this should be the new sky remote pmsl
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Well I do often make my hair massive to make the rest of me look smaller |
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"I've got clear body pics - what size do you reckon I am?
I would argue that they aren't all that clear....you have used them well ...I recognise the tricks as I do it too For me a clear body pic is standing face showing entire body. That is a truer picture.
What's face showing got to do with how clear a body pic is? Or is it size of head, for an idea of scale?
Wait, screw that, you meant facing the camera.
Yeah... I meant face-on to the camera "
I know, I'm an idiot, I realised about a minute after posting |
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"I've got clear body pics - what size do you reckon I am?
I would argue that they aren't all that clear....you have used them well ...I recognise the tricks as I do it too For me a clear body pic is standing face showing entire body. That is a truer picture.
What's face showing got to do with how clear a body pic is? Or is it size of head, for an idea of scale?
Crying laughing at the head scale hahaha maybe this should be the new sky remote pmsl
Well I do often make my hair massive to make the rest of me look smaller "
Big hair big bag |
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Be better all round if the size was dress size for women and weight size for men
After all interprutation as to small average cuddley or large is in the eye of the beholder
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"I've got clear body pics - what size do you reckon I am?
I would argue that they aren't all that clear....you have used them well ...I recognise the tricks as I do it too For me a clear body pic is standing face showing entire body. That is a truer picture.
What's face showing got to do with how clear a body pic is? Or is it size of head, for an idea of scale?
Crying laughing at the head scale hahaha maybe this should be the new sky remote pmsl
Well I do often make my hair massive to make the rest of me look smaller
Big hair big bag "
The Cheryl Cole theory of relativity. Although her hair's not that big at the moment. |
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"Its not rude but most women do not like being asked what size they are and most will drop a size or two if you do ask or put stuff like I'm a 18/20 when really they're just a 20 "
I can fluctuate from month to month but never go above or below 18-20. I wear both sizes,sometimes the 18 is a bit loose,sometimes the 20 fits ok,it does depend on the shop they come from too. For most of the year I'm usually an 18 |
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"Its not rude but most women do not like being asked what size they are and most will drop a size or two if you do ask or put stuff like I'm a 18/20 when really they're just a 20
I can fluctuate from month to month but never go above or below 18-20. I wear both sizes,sometimes the 18 is a bit loose,sometimes the 20 fits ok,it does depend on the shop they come from too. For most of the year I'm usually an 18 "
I've got clothes ranging from 12 to 20, maybe I should use that as the descriptor |
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"We've recently been sent a message by a couple who seem keen to meet us, on paper they seem to meet our requirements. The only possible objection for want of a better word is the ladies size. Neither of us are slim & much prefer cuddly or similar size people to us, however we have lower & upper size body types that we both prefer.
On the profile the lady is listed as large, they have sent us a picture of them both but from her photo it's impossible to tell if she's too big for us. Is it rude to ask how large is large, or even what size she is, obviously don't want to upset but without asking how are we going to know unless we meet?"
Not at all, most females above a size 12 to me are not females I would care to have a relationship with and definately not have sex with, large females simply turn me off big style, best to find that out before meet rather than vomit when having sex.
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"We've recently been sent a message by a couple who seem keen to meet us, on paper they seem to meet our requirements. The only possible objection for want of a better word is the ladies size. Neither of us are slim & much prefer cuddly or similar size people to us, however we have lower & upper size body types that we both prefer.
On the profile the lady is listed as large, they have sent us a picture of them both but from her photo it's impossible to tell if she's too big for us. Is it rude to ask how large is large, or even what size she is, obviously don't want to upset but without asking how are we going to know unless we meet?
Not at all, most females above a size 12 to me are not females I would care to have a relationship with and definately not have sex with, large females simply turn me off big style, best to find that out before meet rather than vomit when having sex.
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its fine to have preferences but not fine to be rude. Why on earth would you go ahead and have sex with someone you didn't find attractive anyway?
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"We've recently been sent a message by a couple who seem keen to meet us, on paper they seem to meet our requirements. The only possible objection for want of a better word is the ladies size. Neither of us are slim & much prefer cuddly or similar size people to us, however we have lower & upper size body types that we both prefer.
On the profile the lady is listed as large, they have sent us a picture of them both but from her photo it's impossible to tell if she's too big for us. Is it rude to ask how large is large, or even what size she is, obviously don't want to upset but without asking how are we going to know unless we meet?
Not at all, most females above a size 12 to me are not females I would care to have a relationship with and definately not have sex with, large females simply turn me off big style, best to find that out before meet rather than vomit when having sex.
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Gutted, I'm fat AND under 32. |
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"We've recently been sent a message by a couple who seem keen to meet us, on paper they seem to meet our requirements. The only possible objection for want of a better word is the ladies size. Neither of us are slim & much prefer cuddly or similar size people to us, however we have lower & upper size body types that we both prefer.
On the profile the lady is listed as large, they have sent us a picture of them both but from her photo it's impossible to tell if she's too big for us. Is it rude to ask how large is large, or even what size she is, obviously don't want to upset but without asking how are we going to know unless we meet?
Not at all, most females above a size 12 to me are not females I would care to have a relationship with and definately not have sex with, large females simply turn me off big style, best to find that out before meet rather than vomit when having sex.
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Why would you vomint while having sex surely if you met a woman who was to fat for you surely you would tell her not shag her anyway  |
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"We've recently been sent a message by a couple who seem keen to meet us, on paper they seem to meet our requirements. The only possible objection for want of a better word is the ladies size. Neither of us are slim & much prefer cuddly or similar size people to us, however we have lower & upper size body types that we both prefer.
On the profile the lady is listed as large, they have sent us a picture of them both but from her photo it's impossible to tell if she's too big for us. Is it rude to ask how large is large, or even what size she is, obviously don't want to upset but without asking how are we going to know unless we meet?
Not at all, most females above a size 12 to me are not females I would care to have a relationship with and definately not have sex with, large females simply turn me off big style, best to find that out before meet rather than vomit when having sex.
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Gutted, I'm fat AND under 32. "
Stop showing off about your age |
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"I've got clear body pics - what size do you reckon I am?
I would argue that they aren't all that clear....you have used them well ...I recognise the tricks as I do it too For me a clear body pic is standing face showing entire body. That is a truer picture.
What's face showing got to do with how clear a body pic is? Or is it size of head, for an idea of scale?
Crying laughing at the head scale hahaha maybe this should be the new sky remote pmsl
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Oh good Lord, I think I have a massive face and head so I always make Hubby lean forward in photos to compensate! LOLOLOL |
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"We've recently been sent a message by a couple who seem keen to meet us, on paper they seem to meet our requirements. The only possible objection for want of a better word is the ladies size. Neither of us are slim & much prefer cuddly or similar size people to us, however we have lower & upper size body types that we both prefer.
On the profile the lady is listed as large, they have sent us a picture of them both but from her photo it's impossible to tell if she's too big for us. Is it rude to ask how large is large, or even what size she is, obviously don't want to upset but without asking how are we going to know unless we meet?
Not at all, most females above a size 12 to me are not females I would care to have a relationship with and definately not have sex with, large females simply turn me off big style, best to find that out before meet rather than vomit when having sex.
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Gutted, I'm fat AND under 32.
Stop showing off about your age "
I'm fat and under 30 certainly not gutted though haha
To basically save this argument I have my dress and bra size on our profile. If someone doesn't know how big I am before a meet and run for the hills, they didnt read our profile properly anyway lol |
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"I've got clear body pics - what size do you reckon I am?
I would argue that they aren't all that clear....you have used them well ...I recognise the tricks as I do it too For me a clear body pic is standing face showing entire body. That is a truer picture.
What's face showing got to do with how clear a body pic is? Or is it size of head, for an idea of scale?
Crying laughing at the head scale hahaha maybe this should be the new sky remote pmsl
Oh good Lord, I think I have a massive face and head so I always make Hubby lean forward in photos to compensate! LOLOLOL"
Hahaha I do too, my face looks ginormous next to some people |
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"I've got clear body pics - what size do you reckon I am?
I would argue that they aren't all that clear....you have used them well ...I recognise the tricks as I do it too For me a clear body pic is standing face showing entire body. That is a truer picture.
What's face showing got to do with how clear a body pic is? Or is it size of head, for an idea of scale?
Crying laughing at the head scale hahaha maybe this should be the new sky remote pmsl
Oh good Lord, I think I have a massive face and head so I always make Hubby lean forward in photos to compensate! LOLOLOL
Hahaha I do too, my face looks ginormous next to some people "
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"This is actually quite a tough one,
I must say though, I've been asked a few times what size I am, and it actually makes me feel better being able to lay all the cards on the table.
It's this dreaded sense of worrying that your size isn't going to be what the other person expected and you may get rejected or judged based on this. Don't like to false advertise basically!!!
Other ladies may not feel the same way as I do on the subject though. They may be insulted by it.
I'd personally ask.. Fuck it."
I think being a bbw is a plus on thus site. I have had issues with not being big enough |
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"Oh .... so shes pretty .... does that make a difference ?????
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Yes it does for us, I know beauty is skin deep & you may call us shallow but if we aren't attracted to him or her it ain't going to happen & why should it? If she wasn't pretty it would be an easy decision we'd just say thanks but no thanks. Maybe other people have different criteria but for our meets we both have to have physical attraction towards the F & Rascal must like M&F as this is more about her exploring her bi-side. Yes Rascal is curvy but think it's quite clear what she's like from our pics but wouldn't be offended if we were asked. Yes size is just a number & a 6ft tall size 18 woman carries her weight differently to some one who's 5ft hence we don't put an upper or lower limit on our profile, Rascal also goes from size 14-18 depending on what shop she's in so until clothes manufacturers standardise their sizes it's meaningless. A decent picture is much more relevant providing it's recent. We'd love to meet socially everybody who messaged winked or sent us pictures but haven't got the time. |
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"Op ...what size are you .?...I'm asking because you've put curvy and although you have some clear full body pics you've not mentioned your size; so it still leaveseme, for one guessing. ..and I would guess at size 18?...but you could be size 20 or size 16 ..."
See I was going to ask this - then spotted it had already been asked - then trawled through the rest of the thread to see if there'd been a response from the OP.
And it hasn't.
So OP - if you say it's time the site adopted more clear definitions and descriptions of 'size' - a simple answer is to give a clear description in your profile text. I wouldn't want to guess anyone's size from a picture - but then I've never been worried particularly about size.
If you are - have you mentioned it to them at all. Would you ask everyone you swap messages with, or just those you think might be larger than their pics portray? If asked yourself how would you respond?
At the end of the day everyone has their preferences. There's nothing wrong with that. But not asking won't get you an answer. Asking might not either - but it's better than arranging a meet and then having to find an excuse.
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"If you like what you see and she caught your eye because she's pretty, why not just meet up for a quick social.
Far better than going on just a dress size as women carry weight differently. One size something can look completely different to another.
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"Oh but for the love of god, please don't ask how 'big' she is!
Compliment her at the same time as you very politely and causally ask....
Yes I'd say it's probably in how you ask the question. But then size in itself can be a bit meaningless, I'm an 18 but have been told it's ok because I'm the 'right' kind of big, whatever that means. "
Size 18 - really, WOW!
All women are sexy, 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder'. I must say your choice of sexy lingerie and camera angles must be deceiving!!
An underhand compliment lol
One sexy minx, not just physically but mentally too - comes as a package! Just like a man - noted the 'sky remote' analogy!!
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What a load of nonsense. Ofcourse dress size does matter a lot
A large woman trying to squeeze into a size 12 PVC skirt will split it. And if she doesn't right there and then, will end up looking like an overdone sausage
How on Earth can the same person fit perfectly in a size 12 and also perfectly into a size 18? That is impossible; either the size 18 will look like a sack or the size 12 will burst at the seams |
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"What a load of nonsense. Ofcourse dress size does matter a lot
A large woman trying to squeeze into a size 12 PVC skirt will split it. And if she doesn't right there and then, will end up looking like an overdone sausage
How on Earth can the same person fit perfectly in a size 12 and also perfectly into a size 18? That is impossible; either the size 18 will look like a sack or the size 12 will burst at the seams"
No word of a lie, I have a size 12 dress in my wardrobe. Granted it's a stretchy fabric, but it fits. Then I've got size 20 trousers that are really fucking tight. Different shops, different types of items, different levels of vanity sizing. Obviously those are the extremes and I'm generally an 18, but it isn't nonsense at all. |
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Of course its not rude, youre on here to fuck the woman and what she she looks like is going to dictate that. Do whatever u have to do to determine if shes for you or not. Its a no brainer of a question |
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"What a load of nonsense. Ofcourse dress size does matter a lot
A large woman trying to squeeze into a size 12 PVC skirt will split it. And if she doesn't right there and then, will end up looking like an overdone sausage
How on Earth can the same person fit perfectly in a size 12 and also perfectly into a size 18? That is impossible; either the size 18 will look like a sack or the size 12 will burst at the seams
No word of a lie, I have a size 12 dress in my wardrobe. Granted it's a stretchy fabric, but it fits. Then I've got size 20 trousers that are really fucking tight. Different shops, different types of items, different levels of vanity sizing. Obviously those are the extremes and I'm generally an 18, but it isn't nonsense at all."
This is true. I have size 14 jeans that are hardly worn but too baggy around the middle somehow. I couldn't get my size 16 skirt off last night coz it was so tight i couldn't unfasten the zip.
I can fit into size 10 lycra stuff coz it stretches. I'm usually a szie 14, have gone up to a 16 some days and maybe bigger judging by last night.
My body (boobs and belly) changes size throughout the day as well, or over several days, depending on what i've eaten and how much i've pooped. |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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I agree about 'vanity sizing'. But unless the tape measures are 'vanity sizing' too, a 36" belly isn't going to fit into jeans which measure 28" around the waist; they'll have to stretch like a catapult and then some more
I have size 10 jeans from my younger days and there is no way on this planet that I could squeeze into those now. And I am a size 12, although that is probably 'vanity sizing'; I think I must be a size 14 but I fit into what the labels describe as size 12. But 'vanity sizing' or not, no matter where I buy my clothes from, these are now size 12 |
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"I agree about 'vanity sizing'. But unless the tape measures are 'vanity sizing' too, a 36" belly isn't going to fit into jeans which measure 28" around the waist; they'll have to stretch like a catapult and then some more
I have size 10 jeans from my younger days and there is no way on this planet that I could squeeze into those now. And I am a size 12, although that is probably 'vanity sizing'; I think I must be a size 14 but I fit into what the labels describe as size 12. But 'vanity sizing' or not, no matter where I buy my clothes from, these are now size 12"
Well you must shop in a more consistently sized range of shops than me then. E.g. a H&M size 18 is in no way the same size as a Dorothy Perkins size 18. Obviously the tape measure is the same in every situation, but the jeans don't measure the same on that tape measure. I'd rather it was all the same size and then I wouldn't have to try things on, why would I make it up?!! |
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"I agree about 'vanity sizing'. But unless the tape measures are 'vanity sizing' too, a 36" belly isn't going to fit into jeans which measure 28" around the waist; they'll have to stretch like a catapult and then some more
I have size 10 jeans from my younger days and there is no way on this planet that I could squeeze into those now. And I am a size 12, although that is probably 'vanity sizing'; I think I must be a size 14 but I fit into what the labels describe as size 12. But 'vanity sizing' or not, no matter where I buy my clothes from, these are now size 12
Well you must shop in a more consistently sized range of shops than me then. E.g. a H&M size 18 is in no way the same size as a Dorothy Perkins size 18. Obviously the tape measure is the same in every situation, but the jeans don't measure the same on that tape measure. I'd rather it was all the same size and then I wouldn't have to try things on, why would I make it up?!! "
I am not suggesting that you are making it up. Just saying that my experience is very different. My size remains consistent throughout, not just across stores, but across countries
Most of what I purchase here is from NEXT and M&S where I am a size 12; and in German stores, I am a size 40
If stores in this country vary so much in their sizing then aren't they breaking regulations? |
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"I agree about 'vanity sizing'. But unless the tape measures are 'vanity sizing' too, a 36" belly isn't going to fit into jeans which measure 28" around the waist; they'll have to stretch like a catapult and then some more
I have size 10 jeans from my younger days and there is no way on this planet that I could squeeze into those now. And I am a size 12, although that is probably 'vanity sizing'; I think I must be a size 14 but I fit into what the labels describe as size 12. But 'vanity sizing' or not, no matter where I buy my clothes from, these are now size 12
Well you must shop in a more consistently sized range of shops than me then. E.g. a H&M size 18 is in no way the same size as a Dorothy Perkins size 18. Obviously the tape measure is the same in every situation, but the jeans don't measure the same on that tape measure. I'd rather it was all the same size and then I wouldn't have to try things on, why would I make it up?!! "
I have to agree with this. I often take a 12, 14 and 16 into the changing rooms to see which one is the right size. Sometimes a 16 is too small even and on the flip side I'm wearing a size 10 vest top atm and it fits perfectly yet look how much bigger than a ten I am. If one size consistently fits you then you are lucky. X |
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"This is actually quite a tough one,
I must say though, I've been asked a few times what size I am, and it actually makes me feel better being able to lay all the cards on the table.
It's this dreaded sense of worrying that your size isn't going to be what the other person expected and you may get rejected or judged based on this. Don't like to false advertise basically!!!
Other ladies may not feel the same way as I do on the subject though. They may be insulted by it.
I'd personally ask.. Fuck it."
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"I think the least offensive things to do are ask for further photos of her as it's important all parties are attracted to each other and offer to provide more of yourselves?
And/or ask for a social meet before deciding whether to play."
Play...what's play...? |
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"What a load of nonsense. Ofcourse dress size does matter a lot
A large woman trying to squeeze into a size 12 PVC skirt will split it. And if she doesn't right there and then, will end up looking like an overdone sausage
How on Earth can the same person fit perfectly in a size 12 and also perfectly into a size 18? That is impossible; either the size 18 will look like a sack or the size 12 will burst at the seams"
Why do you want to share dresses lol, I thought this was a swinging site.
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If stores in this country vary so much in their sizing then aren't they breaking regulations?
No idea. It's very annoying though!"
No they aren't, because three are none for size. Clothes used to be tailored to individuals, now they are tailored to certain cuts that are decided on the style of the dress and what shape of customer they're hoping to sell to (might be the average shape of person or aesthetically pleasing).
It's just a label, and if their size guide shows that something is a size 18 and that is 48-36-52 on their guide and the clothes are those measurements too it's labelled correctly (idk actual sizes).
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I've seen couples/men's profiles actually stating that they are not interested in women over a certain dress size! This to me at least lets me know I may or may not be for them! I have my dress size on my profile that way there are hopefully no surprises when I meet |
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over a year ago
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If stores in this country vary so much in their sizing then aren't they breaking regulations?
No idea. It's very annoying though!
No they aren't, because three are none for size. Clothes used to be tailored to individuals, now they are tailored to certain cuts that are decided on the style of the dress and what shape of customer they're hoping to sell to (might be the average shape of person or aesthetically pleasing).
It's just a label, and if their size guide shows that something is a size 18 and that is 48-36-52 on their guide and the clothes are those measurements too it's labelled correctly (idk actual sizes).
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Yes, you are correct. I somehow assumed that because we have sizing regulation in Germany, there must be something similar in this country too. I guess I shouldn't be surprised that there is none here |
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"Ultimately we're all entitled to our prefences & in the real world or when swinging people choose who they play with based on this. Just wish her picture was clearer then we wouldn't have this dilemma. "
ask for a full length picture !!
I think it's only being honest I state clearly I'm a size 18 in my profile and have clear pictures and I totally expect the same from male or female |
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Our profile states that I'm a size 18, and I don't have skinny thighs or a flat stomach.
This week we had a 'couple' reply to our message, saying we were too big for them. Then they asked if we were both there. When I replied we received a message asking if we were on kik or whatsapp.
Mr is on whatsapp and have his number. Once they established they were talking to him and not me, they cut communication. Stinks of a single bloke to me.
If it was a genuine couple and if we were too large for them, why would they want to chat to me? Bizarre behaviour. |
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Some people don't find overweight people attractive which is fine as long as they are polite about it.
I find it more of an issue of its a relationship site as it's more than just physical attraction then. But here people are here for sex and if you don't find the person attractive what's the point. I used to get offended by it but realised that I was being daft.
Hell I don't like short guys but that doesnt make me a bad person x |
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"Our profile states that I'm a size 18, and I don't have skinny thighs or a flat stomach.
This week we had a 'couple' reply to our message, saying we were too big for them. Then they asked if we were both there. When I replied we received a message asking if we were on kik or whatsapp.
Mr is on whatsapp and have his number. Once they established they were talking to him and not me, they cut communication. Stinks of a single bloke to me.
If it was a genuine couple and if we were too large for them, why would they want to chat to me? Bizarre behaviour. "
As soon as they said u was too big I would have cut commutation |
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