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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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hey all,
just feeling frustrated as i've had no luck on here for a while.
i wouldnt say im picky at all but just no one is willing to meet.
i travel all over the uk, and have the luxury of time of etc but still nothing.
i interact alot on forums, in chat, and dont come across as a timewaster or creep.
please help or advice. many thanks  |
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Nice profile, nice photos, good looking guy.
Its hard for people on here, I don't know what your messages say to people but you have to make them eye catching as there is nothing wrong with your profile
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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its long for me and ive been trying, but having a dry spell.
im just very honest and not pushy in msgs.
people like me, but then always an excuse.
i need real genuine people |
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Even though I'm straight and don't have a couples account, I can see that you have a decent and well-mannered profile.
And your photos show a well toned and muscled body. So, if you're having trouble finding meets, then I'm screwed!
Best of luck... |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
South West London / Surrey |
"its long for me and ive been trying, but having a dry spell.
im just very honest and not pushy in msgs.
people like me, but then always an excuse.
i need real genuine people "
How do you know it's an excuse? Some people just led busy lives and can't meet quickly. |
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Yeah us for instance, we both works shifts. So it would be very tricky to meet anyone, as it has been already lol.
The profile looks fine to me (male) you take care of yourself and don't come across badly at all.
The only issue I could see is the intimidation factor discussed by another couple here the other day? Where people might be put off by someone they thought was outta their league. For us personally, N doesn't find muscly men attractive, but that's certainly nothing wrong with your profile!
Keep at it 
B |
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You say you get excuses which may be politeness if they should just say no thanks instead or because there's something amiss with them. Both could mean fine tuning of who you seek out.
Not being pushy is right but could also be like a sales person not closing the deal when the buyer is ready to buy.
If messages get too drawn out, some people will run for the hills, as they're already in message overload from a bulging inbox. It's about having the sensitivity to know what to say and when to say it.
A smiling face pic is inviting, so review your pics. As others say, its still fairly early days. Goo luck! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't know how you operate on here but sometimes I feel a little rushed by men who I chat to. I might like the look of them and we chat but within a very short space of time they ask when can you meet. It can put my brain into a panic sometimes because I had a lot going on in my life with sporadic times I was free. So,I said I can't yet sorry. Some see this is an excuse,but it's just me not being in a frame of mind to make that decision. I have to be ready mentally and be sure the person is what I want. You say you aren't picky,other people are. |
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"Yeah us for instance, we both works shifts. So it would be very tricky to meet anyone, as it has been already lol.
The profile looks fine to me (male) you take care of yourself and don't come across badly at all.
The only issue I could see is the intimidation factor discussed by another couple here the other day? Where people might be put off by someone they thought was outta their league. For us personally, N doesn't find muscly men attractive, but that's certainly nothing wrong with your profile!
Keep at it
B"
Some women are also see the pic you have of you with a very sexy but also slim lady and be intimidated by that. You say that you like all types of ladies so if that's really the case consider moving that pic to your friends only.
It's not rational but a lot of women have a strange relationship with their looks and weight and make all kinds of judgements and decisions in their heads without telling anyone why. |
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"Yeah us for instance, we both works shifts. So it would be very tricky to meet anyone, as it has been already lol.
The profile looks fine to me (male) you take care of yourself and don't come across badly at all.
The only issue I could see is the intimidation factor discussed by another couple here the other day? Where people might be put off by someone they thought was outta their league. For us personally, N doesn't find muscly men attractive, but that's certainly nothing wrong with your profile!
Keep at it
B
Some women are also see the pic you have of you with a very sexy but also slim lady and be intimidated by that. You say that you like all types of ladies so if that's really the case consider moving that pic to your friends only.
It's not rational but a lot of women have a strange relationship with their looks and weight and make all kinds of judgements and decisions in their heads without telling anyone why."
. They well said. I have issues with my size. I know a lot of men love a BBw but I still have hang ups and when a guy who is muscular and really good looking I keep thinking why are you picking me!!!!! When you can have anybody that you want!!!! |
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"Yeah us for instance, we both works shifts. So it would be very tricky to meet anyone, as it has been already lol.
The profile looks fine to me (male) you take care of yourself and don't come across badly at all.
The only issue I could see is the intimidation factor discussed by another couple here the other day? Where people might be put off by someone they thought was outta their league. For us personally, N doesn't find muscly men attractive, but that's certainly nothing wrong with your profile!
Keep at it
B
Some women are also see the pic you have of you with a very sexy but also slim lady and be intimidated by that. You say that you like all types of ladies so if that's really the case consider moving that pic to your friends only.
It's not rational but a lot of women have a strange relationship with their looks and weight and make all kinds of judgements and decisions in their heads without telling anyone why.. They well said. I have issues with my size. I know a lot of men love a BBw but I still have hang ups and when a guy who is muscular and really good looking I keep thinking why are you picking me!!!!! When you can have anybody that you want!!!!"
There have been posts on here from ladies who have compared themselves to a guys previous meet and if they think they don't match up they've turned him down. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's impossible to say why men do or don't get meets. I'm a 45 year old bloke in fair shape but I'm not sporting a six pack and I don't work out to the extent that many guys here do. I've had numerous meets from this site but of course, like you I've also had significant rejection! Having attended several clubs both within the UK and abroad it's clear that the buff guys get no more attention than the regular guys and age is no barrier. What is also clear is that humour goes a long way to getting a response whether that's in a club or in your initial message on here. |
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