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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What are your thoughts on this? Is it double standards or back to the old rule of personal preference? I personally find it a bit odd that a bisexual/curious female would turn a guy down purely on the basis that he has similar tendencies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I guess its down to the idea that bi men are less masculine than straight men. Its an attitude some people will always have and youll never change Im afraid. Jane is bi, loves getting it on with guys or girls and will play with a bi guy, but would never want to see guy on guy play. Does that make her a hypocrite? The end of the day people like what they like, dont like what they dont like and the world keeps turning  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I can fully understand if a woman doesn't want to watch 2 guys get it on, likewise i could understand if a straight mf couple don't want bi guys out of fear the bi guy might be 'too comfortable' around the straight guy. But i guess its like you say everyone has personal preferance and that will never change |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The world would be a very dull place if we all like the same things!
Personal preference. I like it when everyone in the scene you are in is touching everyone. I know it doesn't work for everyone so I don't specify it on my profile  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The world would be a very dull place if we all like the same things!
Personal preference. I like it when everyone in the scene you are in is touching everyone. I know it doesn't work for everyone so I don't specify it on my profile "
Exactly we are in the very same situation as the OP describes and for us it's simply because that's the way we want to play. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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This is the point i was getting at, i personally don't see why a female would turn down a guy who ticks all of her boxes but happens to not mind a bit of touching with the same sex.... especially when shes bi too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is the point i was getting at, i personally don't see why a female would turn down a guy who ticks all of her boxes but happens to not mind a bit of touching with the same sex.... especially when shes bi too"
Because they don't want to? |
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Don't think it's double standards at all.
I remember the question being asked on another site, and someone gave what I thought was an unbelievably stereotypical reply that really shocked me. Then two days later there was a report in the paper, can't even remember the specifics, but it was enough to make us reconsider our previously laid-back attitude.
Sorry
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I fully respect others boundaries and preferances, was just wondering what other peoples thoughts on the subject were. If someone turned me down, for what ever reason it was i fully accept that decision. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Don't think it's double standards at all.
I remember the question being asked on another site, and someone gave what I thought was an unbelievably stereotypical reply that really shocked me. Then two days later there was a report in the paper, can't even remember the specifics, but it was enough to make us reconsider our previously laid-back attitude.
Sorry
Mr ddc"
Out of curiosity can you remember what the reply given was? |
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Out of curiosity can you remember what the reply given was?"
Something I felt at the time was bordering on the homophobic.
I've been trying to google the newspaper article too, but can't remember enough to get a hit I'm afraid. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What are your thoughts on this? Is it double standards or back to the old rule of personal preference? I personally find it a bit odd that a bisexual/curious female would turn a guy down purely on the basis that he has similar tendencies."
How is it similar tendencies?
Bi women like FF and MF.
Bi men like MM and MF.
Not the same at all. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"What are your thoughts on this? Is it double standards or back to the old rule of personal preference? I personally find it a bit odd that a bisexual/curious female would turn a guy down purely on the basis that he has similar tendencies.
How is it similar tendencies?
Bi women like FF and MF.
Bi men like MM and MF.
Not the same at all. "
By similar tendencies i meant enjoying fun with the same sex, granted probably wasn't the correct wording to use but im sure most knew what i meant |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What are your thoughts on this? Is it double standards or back to the old rule of personal preference? I personally find it a bit odd that a bisexual/curious female would turn a guy down purely on the basis that he has similar tendencies.
How is it similar tendencies?
Bi women like FF and MF.
Bi men like MM and MF.
Not the same at all.
By similar tendencies i meant enjoying fun with the same sex, granted probably wasn't the correct wording to use but im sure most knew what i meant"
I know what you meant, sorry. I'm shit at explaining what I'm thinking.
My point was I don't see how it's double standards as it's not the same thing (in my opinion). |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"What are your thoughts on this? Is it double standards or back to the old rule of personal preference? I personally find it a bit odd that a bisexual/curious female would turn a guy down purely on the basis that he has similar tendencies.
How is it similar tendencies?
Bi women like FF and MF.
Bi men like MM and MF.
Not the same at all.
By similar tendencies i meant enjoying fun with the same sex, granted probably wasn't the correct wording to use but im sure most knew what i meant
I know what you meant, sorry. I'm shit at explaining what I'm thinking.
My point was I don't see how it's double standards as it's not the same thing (in my opinion). "
I agree that the act of it is completely different i.e. 2 women having sex is different to 2 men having sex, but in my opinion being bi in theory is the same for males or females as in being interested in the same sex and the opposite sex is the same weather your male or female |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I completely get what you're saying, OP. I personally find it baffling when women say "No bi guys!". OK, I get that you don't like seeing two guys getting it on, but if it's one-on-one, it's not likely he's gonna be necking a dick right there and then, is it? |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
I don't knowingly meet bi men, and don't play with them.
There are things that matter to me that sleeping with bisexual men stops - like giving blood. NHS guidelines state - no donations within 12 months if you have sex with a man who has had oral or anal sex with another man (if you are female) But I also choose not to meet oil workers (a fair issue up in this area) who have sex abroad, and commercial sex workers for this reason.
Also, 2 guys getting it on does not appeal to me in the slightest.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I completely get what you're saying, OP. I personally find it baffling when women say "No bi guys!". OK, I get that you don't like seeing two guys getting it on, but if it's one-on-one, it's not likely he's gonna be necking a dick right there and then, is it?"
Im sure most bi guys could play straight in a mmf too, i know i deffinatly can |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"What are your thoughts on this? Is it double standards or back to the old rule of personal preference? I personally find it a bit odd that a bisexual/curious female would turn a guy down purely on the basis that he has similar tendencies."
I try not to exclude anyone based on their sexuality (barring gay men or straight women, because it would be pointless meeting them)
However, I would not want to watch two guys play in front of me mainly because it does not turn me on |
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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago
Shropshire/Midlands |
"I don't knowingly meet bi men, and don't play with them.
There are things that matter to me that sleeping with bisexual men stops - like giving blood. NHS guidelines state - no donations within 12 months if you have sex with a man who has had oral or anal sex with another man (if you are female) But I also choose not to meet oil workers (a fair issue up in this area) who have sex abroad, and commercial sex workers for this reason.
Also, 2 guys getting it on does not appeal to me in the slightest.
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By (user no longer on site)
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im a bi woman but two men together does nothing for me at all (have been in this situation and wasnt over happy) - W is totally straight so we choose not to meet couples where the men are bi - thats us take it or leave it - all free to make our own choices - we dont condemn others for theirs so long as all happy and having sexy fun Sx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't knowingly meet bi men, and don't play with them.
There are things that matter to me that sleeping with bisexual men stops - like giving blood. NHS guidelines state - no donations within 12 months if you have sex with a man who has had oral or anal sex with another man (if you are female) But I also choose not to meet oil workers (a fair issue up in this area) who have sex abroad, and commercial sex workers for this reason.
Also, 2 guys getting it on does not appeal to me in the slightest.
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Thats a very good point raised, i didn't realise that was the situation for things like giving blood. Reasons like that might well be why some women say no to bi men. I appreciate watching 2 guys might do nothing for you, but say for arguments sake the giving blood issue didn't exist and you met a bi guy who ticked all of your boxes (apart from being bi) would that stop you meeting him for a 1-1 meet? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"im a bi woman but two men together does nothing for me at all (have been in this situation and wasnt over happy) - W is totally straight so we choose not to meet couples where the men are bi - thats us take it or leave it - all free to make our own choices - we dont condemn others for theirs so long as all happy and having sexy fun Sx"
That i can fully understand. Its the single bi women who wont meet a guy for a 1-1 meet simply because he's bi is what i'm stumped on |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
"I don't knowingly meet bi men, and don't play with them.
There are things that matter to me that sleeping with bisexual men stops - like giving blood. NHS guidelines state - no donations within 12 months if you have sex with a man who has had oral or anal sex with another man (if you are female) But I also choose not to meet oil workers (a fair issue up in this area) who have sex abroad, and commercial sex workers for this reason.
Also, 2 guys getting it on does not appeal to me in the slightest.
Thats a very good point raised, i didn't realise that was the situation for things like giving blood. Reasons like that might well be why some women say no to bi men. I appreciate watching 2 guys might do nothing for you, but say for arguments sake the giving blood issue didn't exist and you met a bi guy who ticked all of your boxes (apart from being bi) would that stop you meeting him for a 1-1 meet? "
Yes, it would still stop me - but I don't meet people who like watersports and the rest, nor do I meet dominant or sub men on here - its not what I want out of a meet, so I don't meet them. It does nothing for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"im a bi woman but two men together does nothing for me at all (have been in this situation and wasnt over happy) - W is totally straight so we choose not to meet couples where the men are bi - thats us take it or leave it - all free to make our own choices - we dont condemn others for theirs so long as all happy and having sexy fun Sx
That i can fully understand. Its the single bi women who wont meet a guy for a 1-1 meet simply because he's bi is what i'm stumped on"
What if a single straight woman wouldn't meet a bi guy? |
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For me personally I find other women attractive hence me being bi but I like my men straight. So for me we would only entertain couples or guys where the male was straight. Just my personal preference. X |
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We've met several bi gents and it's never bothered us. Hubby isn't fazed by bi guys (or straight guys for that matter) in close proximity. We've met many homophobic straight guys who really don't 'get' the whole mfm thing. They think their meeting a couple but expect my hubby to just sit there and watch and not join in. Oh silly silly them  They soon find themselves turfed out of the room.
Hubby does not want, expect or hope to touched by the other guy as he's straight, but he knows if I'm to have my DP, DV or give a double BJ he has to be in close proximity to the other guy. Bi guys are, or seem, more comfortable in that situation. A homophobic guy is no good to us at those times. Thankfully, there are plenty of straight guys who are also non fazed by the closeness of another willy so we have never have a problem finding guys when we want them.
I'm also not keen on watching bi guys getting it on, not a fantasy I've ever considered. I like anal sex but I wouldn't want to sit there and watch 2 bi guys having anal. I like giving BJ's but I also don't want to watch 2 bi guys sucking away. Does that make me a hypocrite? To be honest I don't care if it does 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't knowingly meet bi men, and don't play with them.
There are things that matter to me that sleeping with bisexual men stops - like giving blood. NHS guidelines state - no donations within 12 months if you have sex with a man who has had oral or anal sex with another man (if you are female) But I also choose not to meet oil workers (a fair issue up in this area) who have sex abroad, and commercial sex workers for this reason.
Also, 2 guys getting it on does not appeal to me in the slightest.
Thats a very good point raised, i didn't realise that was the situation for things like giving blood. Reasons like that might well be why some women say no to bi men. I appreciate watching 2 guys might do nothing for you, but say for arguments sake the giving blood issue didn't exist and you met a bi guy who ticked all of your boxes (apart from being bi) would that stop you meeting him for a 1-1 meet?
Yes, it would still stop me - but I don't meet people who like watersports and the rest, nor do I meet dominant or sub men on here - its not what I want out of a meet, so I don't meet them. It does nothing for me."
I like that you said that you don't "knowingly" meet bi men. So many others think by saying "no bi men" that they actually manage to avoid us.
We're EVERYWHERE  mwhaahahahaha |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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Even if it was the same thing, which it isn't, the suggestion that like MUST agree to meet like, otherwise it's double standards, hypocrisy, blah blah blah.
Bi women should be expected to meet bi men.
Fat women should be forced to meet fat men.
Average looking people should never want to meet attractive people.
Seriously, concentrate on the people who are interested and stop wasting energy on those who aren't.
Who would want anyone to meet them just because they thought they ought to rather than because they want to? No thanks! |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
"I don't knowingly meet bi men, and don't play with them.
There are things that matter to me that sleeping with bisexual men stops - like giving blood. NHS guidelines state - no donations within 12 months if you have sex with a man who has had oral or anal sex with another man (if you are female) But I also choose not to meet oil workers (a fair issue up in this area) who have sex abroad, and commercial sex workers for this reason.
Also, 2 guys getting it on does not appeal to me in the slightest.
Thats a very good point raised, i didn't realise that was the situation for things like giving blood. Reasons like that might well be why some women say no to bi men. I appreciate watching 2 guys might do nothing for you, but say for arguments sake the giving blood issue didn't exist and you met a bi guy who ticked all of your boxes (apart from being bi) would that stop you meeting him for a 1-1 meet?
Yes, it would still stop me - but I don't meet people who like watersports and the rest, nor do I meet dominant or sub men on here - its not what I want out of a meet, so I don't meet them. It does nothing for me.
I like that you said that you don't "knowingly" meet bi men. So many others think by saying "no bi men" that they actually manage to avoid us.
We're EVERYWHERE mwhaahahahaha "
I'm very good at sussing out bi men... have met a few who fibbed but caught them out at socials... no more meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't knowingly meet bi men, and don't play with them.
There are things that matter to me that sleeping with bisexual men stops - like giving blood. NHS guidelines state - no donations within 12 months if you have sex with a man who has had oral or anal sex with another man (if you are female) But I also choose not to meet oil workers (a fair issue up in this area) who have sex abroad, and commercial sex workers for this reason.
Also, 2 guys getting it on does not appeal to me in the slightest.
Thats a very good point raised, i didn't realise that was the situation for things like giving blood. Reasons like that might well be why some women say no to bi men. I appreciate watching 2 guys might do nothing for you, but say for arguments sake the giving blood issue didn't exist and you met a bi guy who ticked all of your boxes (apart from being bi) would that stop you meeting him for a 1-1 meet?
Yes, it would still stop me - but I don't meet people who like watersports and the rest, nor do I meet dominant or sub men on here - its not what I want out of a meet, so I don't meet them. It does nothing for me.
I like that you said that you don't "knowingly" meet bi men. So many others think by saying "no bi men" that they actually manage to avoid us.
We're EVERYWHERE mwhaahahahaha
I'm very good at sussing out bi men... have met a few who fibbed but caught them out at socials... no more meets."
Even my own mother and my wife didn't know until I told them. The tattoos and belly piercing are a bit of a giveaway now
Oh and the attire |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I guess its down to the idea that bi men are less masculine than straight men. Its an attitude some people will always have and youll never change Im afraid. Jane is bi, loves getting it on with guys or girls and will play with a bi guy, but would never want to see guy on guy play. Does that make her a hypocrite? The end of the day people like what they like, dont like what they dont like and the world keeps turning "
Wrong. Bi men are more masculine |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Even if it was the same thing, which it isn't, the suggestion that like MUST agree to meet like, otherwise it's double standards, hypocrisy, blah blah blah.
Bi women should be expected to meet bi men.
Fat women should be forced to meet fat men.
Average looking people should never want to meet attractive people.
Seriously, concentrate on the people who are interested and stop wasting energy on those who aren't.
Who would want anyone to meet them just because they thought they ought to rather than because they want to? No thanks!"
I wasn't trying to say that i think all bi women should meet bi men at all. Like ive said in previous posts on this thread i agree that its down to the individual who they meet and for what ever reasons they want, i was just getting other peoples opinions on the topic aswell. |
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