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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It's happened to me a couple of times so I'm assuming it's happened to others. You meet people for a social, all get along fine and are all happy to arrange a play meet at a later date, but then they're never off your profile. I'm talking about constant views throughout the day, sometime on the hour, every hour.
It creeps me out and unsettles me and really puts me off meeting up with them again.
Creepy, normal or not something that would bother you?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's happened to me a couple of times so I'm assuming it's happened to others. You meet people for a social, all get along fine and are all happy to arrange a play meet at a later date, but then they're never off your profile. I'm talking about constant views throughout the day, sometime on the hour, every hour.
It creeps me out and unsettles me and really puts me off meeting up with them again.
Creepy, normal or not something that would bother you?
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To be fair....I can't blame him  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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as a single guy in defence id say its not creepy they probably want to hav a look at a certain pic or to see if youve posted a new one or a heading or even a meet has now become open as your planned one didnt happen if youve already met em i cant see it being anything other than harmless! hope the guy doesnt read this bit of a downer you saying creepy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get it with a guy I chat with but I think he does it to check if I'm online when he's messaging, maybe it's that? As well as a bit of looking at your photos? |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"It's happened to me a couple of times so I'm assuming it's happened to others. You meet people for a social, all get along fine and are all happy to arrange a play meet at a later date, but then they're never off your profile. I'm talking about constant views throughout the day, sometime on the hour, every hour.
It creeps me out and unsettles me and really puts me off meeting up with them again.
Creepy, normal or not something that would bother you?
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Debs, I'm with you on this!
I thought I had met someone who might become regular but apart from some other stuff, he was looking at my profile about 3 times every hour! For days. Made me back off straight away 
His last ditch attempt to get my attention was to verify me after about 4 months after meeting! Saying finally got round to verify (not showing on my profile!)
So Yes, I know where you are coming from x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we have had to slow people down sometimes - they come across as desperate to see us and we say sorry we cant just meet like that - as soon as we log on they message - ignore them and if they they ask why you not replied we block - yes can be a bit creepy but flattering too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get it with a guy I chat with but I think he does it to check if I'm online when he's messaging, maybe it's that? As well as a bit of looking at your photos? "
I just had a look and can't say I blame him for looking. Would it be less creepy if he had turned off view in his privacy and was looking without you knowing? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't think it's creepy. I think it just means that the person likes what they see
I think I would prefer that than seeing them looking about 24 times in a day! "
I think it's just too full on for me - much prefer chilled out people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had it before we have met where he would look 30+ times a day and Evertime I logged on he would message me within a minute of me being online
It got so bad I was avoiding logging on and ended up blocking him, if he was that obsessive before I met him I was getting worried of how he would be after or if I said no to play time  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think it's creepy. I think it just means that the person likes what they see
I think I would prefer that than seeing them looking about 24 times in a day!
I think it's just too full on for me - much prefer chilled out people."
ok limited ourselves to a wink and one pic fabbed -
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've had it before we have met where he would look 30+ times a day and Evertime I logged on he would message me within a minute of me being online
It got so bad I was avoiding logging on and ended up blocking him, if he was that obsessive before I met him I was getting worried of how he would be after or if I said no to play time "
 I wish we could select some option that hides the fact if we're online or not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've had it before we have met where he would look 30+ times a day and Evertime I logged on he would message me within a minute of me being online
It got so bad I was avoiding logging on and ended up blocking him, if he was that obsessive before I met him I was getting worried of how he would be after or if I said no to play time
I wish we could select some option that hides the fact if we're online or not."
this was one of the suggestions on the site changes thread the other day - |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Based on your profile (which we would fuck lol) can't see your issue, you attract attention and then it creeps you out cos their probably winking over your pictures.....
We all love to wink lol  |
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"I think it's creepy. I'll stop doing it now Debs lol.
Cute ladies get by  "
I'm in stealth mode 
I have blocked guys who were doing similar but for days abd days and days. Had never met them and declined all offers.
If it makes you feel uncomfortable there is nothing wrong with that. Can't help how you feel x |
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It doesn't bother me how many times they look but a bit curious what they keep looking at. Had one guy over a period of a week keep looking at me more and more finally he looked at my profile 19 times in an hour so I messaged him to say hello as I was really curious and he ignored me so I blocked him
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The guys just having a perv at your Pics .if u dont like it take your pics down .
Save your body for when u have a meet "
I've no trouble with people having a perv, I do it enough myself, it's just the frequency I find creepy. If he's having a wank every time he looks he's just had his 11th in an hour. Not a bad recovery rate, I'll give him that much! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I regularly look at peoples profiles, see what they say, see if I am a match to their criteria or because I think wow they have a nice avatar.
Perhaps a week later, I will see a new pic, think oooh that looks nice... will be the same profile.
I may not have met their criteria or they may be too far away in which case its just an appreciation of a great pic. If i have looked at your profile several times without messaging, that is why |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The guys just having a perv at your Pics .if u dont like it take your pics down .
Save your body for when u have a meet
I've no trouble with people having a perv, I do it enough myself, it's just the frequency I find creepy. If he's having a wank every time he looks he's just had his 11th in an hour. Not a bad recovery rate, I'll give him that much! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The guys just having a perv at your Pics .if u dont like it take your pics down .
Save your body for when u have a meet
I've no trouble with people having a perv, I do it enough myself, it's just the frequency I find creepy. If he's having a wank every time he looks he's just had his 11th in an hour. Not a bad recovery rate, I'll give him that much! "
It does sound a bit much but some guys are desperate on here .
He's certainly keen |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I met a guy a couple of times, one socially then another for a bit of car fun. Then it all went sour after he got pissed off because I was meeting other people lol!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've had it before we have met where he would look 30+ times a day and Evertime I logged on he would message me within a minute of me being online
It got so bad I was avoiding logging on and ended up blocking him, if he was that obsessive before I met him I was getting worried of how he would be after or if I said no to play time
I wish we could select some option that hides the fact if we're online or not."
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
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Debs
I can completely see how you might think like that.
I think a lot of it has to do with being a bloke on here. Quite rightly, a lot of effort has to go in to establishing a connection with someone and getting a message, let alone meeting someone socially, was really exciting.
I remember that excitement and I might have been guilty of looking a few tunes myself as a result. It was really nothing more than being bored and fed up at work and thinking "Mmmm, that woman who's been in touch looks amazing, I'll just have a quick look to brighten up my day" (repeat....)
The person you've encountered this situation with is probably fine and just, well, a bit knocked out. I would ge if I was him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Creepy, normal or not something that would bother you?
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Depends how you thought the social went
Personally I know it should be flattering, but I do hate when people get too intense, scares me off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The guys just having a perv at your Pics .if u dont like it take your pics down .
Save your body for when u have a meet
I've no trouble with people having a perv, I do it enough myself, it's just the frequency I find creepy. If he's having a wank every time he looks he's just had his 11th in an hour. Not a bad recovery rate, I'll give him that much!
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could be a good meet then  |
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I had someone who I had no interaction with look at my profile 10-15 times a day. This carried on for several weeks, so in the end I messaged him. UNLOS 10 minutes later.
Although creepy? Someone messaged me asking to meet now, I explained I was working nights, and going home to bed. He asked if I could sleep at his house, and he would just watch me sleeping! That creep'd me out!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yesterday I had a couple keep viewing my profile even though they're miles away, don't meet single guys nor want anything to do with bi guys. Creeped me out a little |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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no not just looking, the ones who look at my profile a lot are the ones who are keen and turn up on time.
if they keep messaging me all the time when I have said no, that's creepy.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's happened to me a couple of times so I'm assuming it's happened to others. You meet people for a social, all get along fine and are all happy to arrange a play meet at a later date, but then they're never off your profile. I'm talking about constant views throughout the day, sometime on the hour, every hour.
It creeps me out and unsettles me and really puts me off meeting up with them again.
Creepy, normal or not something that would bother you?
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They probably do it because they're excited and can't believe their luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I regularly look at peoples profiles, see what they say, see if I am a match to their criteria or because I think wow they have a nice avatar.
Perhaps a week later, I will see a new pic, think oooh that looks nice... will be the same profile.
I may not have met their criteria or they may be too far away in which case its just an appreciation of a great pic. If i have looked at your profile several times without messaging, that is why"
yes..me too..like some profiles but I am told old or far away etc ...but like the girls pics and perhaps her updates so check back periodically.....tho not obsessively...or hourly just no and then.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had one couple appearing on my 'looked at you' almost every day.....
Then they winked me....so I messaged....they read it and didn't reply....how very odd. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's happened to me a couple of times so I'm assuming it's happened to others. You meet people for a social, all get along fine and are all happy to arrange a play meet at a later date, but then they're never off your profile. I'm talking about constant views throughout the day, sometime on the hour, every hour.
It creeps me out and unsettles me and really puts me off meeting up with them again.
Creepy, normal or not something that would bother you?
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iv just looked at your picks and don't blame him for looking a lot lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's happened to me a couple of times so I'm assuming it's happened to others. You meet people for a social, all get along fine and are all happy to arrange a play meet at a later date, but then they're never off your profile. I'm talking about constant views throughout the day, sometime on the hour, every hour.
It creeps me out and unsettles me and really puts me off meeting up with them again.
Creepy, normal or not something that would bother you?
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Smacks of stalking to me |
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