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Can't cum through oral alone.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just wondering if anyone else finds it hard to come from just oral. Don't get me wrong I'm absolutely loving every second of it but unless there is some other stimulant I cant cum from just someone's mouth.
And no this isn't me trying to get people to have a go - you're welcome to try - but more just seeing if anyone else has found this |
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By *eknownMan
over a year ago
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I'm the same, never ever cum when given a blow job! Neither my ex wife or my last attachment enjoyed blow jobs so I rather missed out for a very long time.
Though I've played with one or two couples and a few women during the last 5 years, apart from the initial sensation and excitement soon wears off when I get a blow job now! |
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Same, the only way I've cummed in mouths is by pulling out of a pussy just before.
It's not for everyone I suppose.
Mrs has tried really hard and got very good at them nevertheless, still enjoy a blowjob though! |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Just wondering if anyone else finds it hard to come from just oral. Don't get me wrong I'm absolutely loving every second of it but unless there is some other stimulant I cant cum from just someone's mouth.
And no this isn't me trying to get people to have a go - you're welcome to try - but more just seeing if anyone else has found this "
Nope. No problem here.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have made my husband cum through oral but that's with moving his foreskin back and forth while in my mouth and twisting skin as I go down  "
Always a chance I just need someone who is better at the task at hand |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I cum pretty quickly and easily with sex, and sometimes with oral. But i find you have to be really relaxed, not tired, not have things on your mind, because if someone is giving you oral you can be 'just lied there' and there's nothing for you to do. Which this is nice to be the centre of the sexual attention but if your mind starts wandering to something else it will mess it up.
Also it can be quite intimidating being on show and exposed when someone's giving you oral, unlike with sex where both your bodies are closer and covering each other up.
I wouldn't be offended if someone didn't cum from oral with me, doesn't bother me at all. I'm not bothered if i cum at all either, so long as the sex was good and they tried to make sure i enjoyed it (and i will enjoy it just for the bodily contact alone and the passion). |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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See I'm not a small guy but I'm always relaxed when it comes to that. Definitely not body conscious either, if anything I find it more comfortable. I will always repay the favour though and do what I can to make my partner have a great time. I get off more when she's enjoying herself x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have too much control ...well been accused of it, waiting until I'm ready to blow, I put mine down to that...however ONE meet did it completely caught me of guard, knees trembling like Bambi...
To this day don't know how she did it....?? |
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I've never had that problem. 'Till now. I'm on drugs for nerve problems (as in nerves in the body, not being nervous!) and it's almost impossible to cum from oral at the mo.
In fact, cumming at all is pretty damn hard work right now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I take FOREVER to cum anyway but whether it be by hand or tongue, mental stimulation has the biggest impact on my ability to cum. If I'm in "the zone" then there's no stopping me but if I'm just nit feeling it then hours of oral aren't going to achieve anything. I guess it's the same for everybody but particularly women who aren't as visually stimulated as men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can count on one hand the number of times I've cum from a blow job and half of those times were after other stimulation beforehand. Have to be super aroused!
Like the OP, I love receiving them! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Btw I think women need to do the whole seduction thing..looking into a guys eyes, moaning just generally looking like theyre loving it rather than a chore."
This is fantastic when it happens, having a lady be turned on and excited turns me on and excite me.
that's definitely going to help things |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Well that's just it. If I know a women is enjoying sucking on my cock it turns me on a lot more. I did have one girl just put it in her mouth and that was all she thought she had to do. Needless to say that night wasn't very fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Btw I think women need to do the whole seduction thing..looking into a guys eyes, moaning just generally looking like theyre loving it rather than a chore."
This certainly makes a difference! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was the same until I met the OH. A lot of it is finding out the buttons to push and not just about the mouth on cock. It's the stroking the cupping a little gentle humming while it's in. They all contribute and now she can make me cum in an ad break. Where as before I was just used to seem to hang on the edge for ages trembling.
It's quite funny seeing her work on another guy as she has to be told to stop what's she's doing as they don't want to pop too soon.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find reaching the big "o" hard all the time, have only ever cum twice through oral and through sex is rare as well. As long as the sex is great tho then I'm happy |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well that's just it. If I know a women is enjoying sucking on my cock it turns me on a lot more. I did have one girl just put it in her mouth and that was all she thought she had to do. Needless to say that night wasn't very fun "
Hahahaha |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well I'm sure you'll have no shortage of offers for subjects if you want to study more
Everyday's a school day ha ha"
Ring the bell and we can start. I am a tricky student mind x |
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"Well I'm sure you'll have no shortage of offers for subjects if you want to study more
Everyday's a school day ha ha
Ring the bell and we can start. I am a tricky student mind x"
Extra time in detention then..just you and I  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find reaching the big "o" hard all the time, have only ever cum twice through oral and through sex is rare as well. As long as the sex is great tho then I'm happy
So to u what makes great sex"
At the end of a session I like to feel like I've been had good and hard but I enjoy all the foreplay and then sex, if I cum then great but if I don't it's not the end of the world.
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"I find reaching the big "o" hard all the time, have only ever cum twice through oral and through sex is rare as well. As long as the sex is great tho then I'm happy
So to u what makes great sex
At the end of a session I like to feel like I've been had good and hard but I enjoy all the foreplay and then sex, if I cum then great but if I don't it's not the end of the world.
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So do u like your pussy to feel as if it's still got cock deep inside and aching for more |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i have a theory about this, when a guy thinks hes getting penetration then he knows the BJ is just the starter, he thinks about whats coming next instead of whats happening now.
If you specifically say no sex at the beginning, they cum. x |
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See my Bj at the end of a session as my reward for having good stating power,n satisfying my partner.If anything I pefer it to vaginal.but then she's good at it.
mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm m nice! |
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"i have a theory about this, when a guy thinks hes getting penetration then he knows the BJ is just the starter, he thinks about whats coming next instead of whats happening now.
If you specifically say no sex at the beginning, they cum. x "
This is true. All the selfish guys that ive had the misfortune to meet that just lie back and expect a bj with no intention of sex always cum easily  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"i have a theory about this, when a guy thinks hes getting penetration then he knows the BJ is just the starter, he thinks about whats coming next instead of whats happening now.
If you specifically say no sex at the beginning, they cum. x
This is true. All the selfish guys that ive had the misfortune to meet that just lie back and expect a bj with no intention of sex always cum easily "
See even when I've been told it's just going to be a BJ ive still never cum. I also always try and make sure I return the favour in some way |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just wondering if anyone else finds it hard to come from just oral. Don't get me wrong I'm absolutely loving every second of it but unless there is some other stimulant I cant cum from just someone's mouth.
And no this isn't me trying to get people to have a go - you're welcome to try - but more just seeing if anyone else has found this "
I've only ever cummed once whilst getting sucked off !!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i have a theory about this, when a guy thinks hes getting penetration then he knows the BJ is just the starter, he thinks about whats coming next instead of whats happening now.
If you specifically say no sex at the beginning, they cum. x
This is true. All the selfish guys that ive had the misfortune to meet that just lie back and expect a bj with no intention of sex always cum easily
See even when I've been told it's just going to be a BJ ive still never cum. I also always try and make sure I return the favour in some way "
Do you get off on that? I know some guys do. Maybe let the other person cum first and then lie back and be selfish.  |
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By *horltzMan
over a year ago
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"i have a theory about this, when a guy thinks hes getting penetration then he knows the BJ is just the starter, he thinks about whats coming next instead of whats happening now.
If you specifically say no sex at the beginning, they cum. x
This is true. All the selfish guys that ive had the misfortune to meet that just lie back and expect a bj with no intention of sex always cum easily
See even when I've been told it's just going to be a BJ ive still never cum. I also always try and make sure I return the favour in some way
Do you get off on that? I know some guys do. Maybe let the other person cum first and then lie back and be selfish. "
Sound advice |
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Its a very common "problem" in most men. The reason I put problem in air quotes is that I dont see why men make such a big fuss over climaxing from one. I mean if shes doing it right you still enjoy it, do you not? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never usually able to cum through a bj either but this girl, a couple of weeks ago, oh my, I couldn't control myself twice with her, she must have had skills! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh don't get me wrong I enjoy every second of it. I've had one girl I met give me head for over an hour and it was great. Just I didn't cum. "
Jeez her mouth must have ached!  I've never come through oral alone - and though I enjoy it - it's just prep for the main event for me - i'm a major penetration fan!! Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have made my husband cum through oral but that's with moving his foreskin back and forth while in my mouth and twisting skin as I go down "
That's how it's done ladies and gents |
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Every time ive had a guy come from just oral he said he was just enjoying it that much he felt fully relaxed and was thinking about nothing but how good it was. Whereas before that he admitted if it was feeling good he statted thinking hed be able to cum and willing himself to do so. I find its a lot of mens problem that they want it too much and therefore mentally block themselves from doing so, so just relax and enjoy boys |
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Not a problem here,although I once dated a girl who didn't give head!lol..that didn't last long as a relationship..can you imagine never having a BJ again?...i can't believe they still make people like that,and they actually stay in long term relationships!.some idiot married her!..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I struggle too - I think _urvymama's right, being relaxed helps but I have to admit that, in my limited experience, men tend to give better bj's than women. It's not always the case but I guess knowing how it feels to receive a bj must help a bit.
"Every time ive had a guy come from just oral he said he was just enjoying it that much he felt fully relaxed and was thinking about nothing but how good it was. Whereas before that he admitted if it was feeling good he statted thinking hed be able to cum and willing himself to do so. I find its a lot of mens problem that they want it too much and therefore mentally block themselves from doing so, so just relax and enjoy boys "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have made my husband cum through oral but that's with moving his foreskin back and forth while in my mouth and twisting skin as I go down "
That is the secret to blowing your load for sure!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Btw I think women need to do the whole seduction thing..looking into a guys eyes, moaning just generally looking like theyre loving it rather than a chore."
That is spot on!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ive only ever cum once from oral and once from penetration in 14yrs of having sex :/
The only way i can cum is if i play with my clit during sex, if a guy plays with it does nothing and toys dont do anything either!
Got sick of the amount of guys who tell me to cum when im playing, its hard enough without that pressure! Think I am about ready to give up on orgasms all together now |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"i have a theory about this, when a guy thinks hes getting penetration then he knows the BJ is just the starter, he thinks about whats coming next instead of whats happening now.
If you specifically say no sex at the beginning, they cum. x
This is true. All the selfish guys that ive had the misfortune to meet that just lie back and expect a bj with no intention of sex always cum easily
See even when I've been told it's just going to be a BJ ive still never cum. I also always try and make sure I return the favour in some way
Do you get off on that? I know some guys do. Maybe let the other person cum first and then lie back and be selfish. "
I really get off on pleasuring a woman |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You just haven't met the right woman yet. If men can use that line so can I,apologies to anyone if they said it already "
You are welcome to try haha |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Its a very common "problem" in most men. The reason I put problem in air quotes is that I dont see why men make such a big fuss over climaxing from one. I mean if shes doing it right you still enjoy it, do you not? "
For what it's worth I never said it was a problem |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are you a control freak by any chance honey flower "
I have slight ocd, i would say its because i worry about how i look but i was the same even when i was a size 12 |
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"Just wondering if anyone else finds it hard to come from just oral. Don't get me wrong I'm absolutely loving every second of it but unless there is some other stimulant I cant cum from just someone's mouth.
And no this isn't me trying to get people to have a go - you're welcome to try - but more just seeing if anyone else has found this "
Best blow job in Hampshire here lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Just wondering if anyone else finds it hard to come from just oral. Don't get me wrong I'm absolutely loving every second of it but unless there is some other stimulant I cant cum from just someone's mouth.
And no this isn't me trying to get people to have a go - you're welcome to try - but more just seeing if anyone else has found this
Best blow job in Hampshire here lol"
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"Just wondering if anyone else finds it hard to come from just oral. Don't get me wrong I'm absolutely loving every second of it but unless there is some other stimulant I cant cum from just someone's mouth.
And no this isn't me trying to get people to have a go - you're welcome to try - but more just seeing if anyone else has found this "
Me too. I think it's a mind thing - one of the earliest people I used to meet regularly hated the taste of cum - so I guess I learned to control it. Now it is very infrequently I do - and I really, really have to try and concentrate on it - and it still rarely happens. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Met one lady some time ago who had the knack at it and bordered on obsessed with making me cum from oral, yet despite her obvious delight when she succeeded I can't say it had half as much delight for me.  |
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