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By *usterMan
over a year ago
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Sometimes I send a message just because I appreciate the effort the person has put into their profile. I want them to know that I think they are on the right track. OMS - makes me sound like a theatre critic! It's not speculative: I wear contact lenses. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"On the back of the "no thanks" thread :
Just wondering (especially single guys) How many speculative messages, winks do you send out per week ?
NONE  "
LOL !!!! You got to be in it to win it !!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"On the back of the "no thanks" thread :
Just wondering (especially single guys) How many speculative messages, winks do you send out per week ?
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LOL !!!! You got to be in it to win it !!! "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Sometimes I send a message just because I appreciate the effort the person has put into their profile. I want them to know that I think they are on the right track. OMS - makes me sound like a theatre critic! It's not speculative: I wear contact lenses."
Yeah ive done that, if ive been impressed but we clearly dont match !! always got a nice reply as well |
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I don't bother with winks as most people say they simply ignore/delete them.
However, I quite like the idea of knowing whether making contact is a non-starter or not.
It's never easy knowing exactly how to pitch your opening message to someone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't bother with winks as most people say they simply ignore/delete them.
However, I quite like the idea of knowing whether making contact is a non-starter or not.
It's never easy knowing exactly how to pitch your opening message to someone."
I agree, it all depends on who your messaging and equally important when you message them. Iam a firm believer that its all about the timing on here |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't bother with winks as most people say they simply ignore/delete them.
However, I quite like the idea of knowing whether making contact is a non-starter or not.
It's never easy knowing exactly how to pitch your opening message to someone.
I agree, it all depends on who your messaging and equally important when you message them. Iam a firm believer that its all about the timing on here "
Agreed winks are a bit LAZY and if your lazy there then....  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't bother with winks as most people say they simply ignore/delete them.
However, I quite like the idea of knowing whether making contact is a non-starter or not.
It's never easy knowing exactly how to pitch your opening message to someone."
know what you mean, but usually you can tell from the tone/feel of a profile what sort of person/couple they are and speak/pitch on that same level. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't bother with winks as most people say they simply ignore/delete them.
However, I quite like the idea of knowing whether making contact is a non-starter or not.
It's never easy knowing exactly how to pitch your opening message to someone.
I agree, it all depends on who your messaging and equally important when you message them. Iam a firm believer that its all about the timing on here
Agreed winks are a bit LAZY and if your lazy there then.... "
depeds how you use the winks. I have previous meets that often leave winks just to let me know they're on or don't have time to talk and don't want to appear rude. I'm not offended by winks, if I don't want to know, 'll just ignore them...as the chap above said, it is defo about timing. Some lady might be sat there one day and check them out and someone catches their eye....they're not going to ignore a man who catches their eye just because he sent a wink. (not speaking for all ladies, some don't even check them) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"On the back of the "no thanks" thread :
Just wondering (especially single guys) How many speculative messages, winks do you send out per week ?"
I would say less than 15 per week but that is more due to the fact i prefer specific people and am looking for a certain quality in someone not quantity of meets. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"i never send out messages first, i just reply to the hundreds i get every week lol
And i never send winks, cant see the point in them"
oooooooowww Miss Popular !!! (joke)
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"On the back of the "no thanks" thread :
Just wondering (especially single guys) How many speculative messages, winks do you send out per week ?
I would say less than 15 per week but that is more due to the fact i prefer specific people and am looking for a certain quality in someone not quantity of meets."
I think ive sent about 5-6 since joining
i enjoy "quality",those i play with know that ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"On the back of the "no thanks" thread :
Just wondering (especially single guys) How many speculative messages, winks do you send out per week ?
I would say less than 15 per week but that is more due to the fact i prefer specific people and am looking for a certain quality in someone not quantity of meets.
I think ive sent about 5-6 since joining
i enjoy "quality",those i play with know that ! "
If you bring something different to the party people will find you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i never send out messages first, i just reply to the hundreds i get every week lol
And i never send winks, cant see the point in them
oooooooowww Miss Popular !!! (joke)
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well *sigh* you know how it is lol |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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Actual speculative messages to profiles I've had no interaction with...maybe 1 a month these days, although inevitably I used to send about a dozen a month when I first started.
I don't know why I even bother with it at all, as I've never met any of them, as far as I remember. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Actual speculative messages to profiles I've had no interaction with...maybe 1 a month these days, although inevitably I used to send about a dozen a month when I first started.
I don't know why I even bother with it at all, as I've never met any of them, as far as I remember."
as a single woman, i can say in all honestly, i cant blame you!
the forums give an indication of the volumes of mail that single ladies get on a daily basis and in the face of that you have to write something that is tailored to her profile, matches it to yours, is neither pushy, full on or crude, doesn't look like a copy and paste an has certainly more than one line and has to stand out amongst all the other messages they get....with the knowledge that it may just get deleted because, even with your very best of intentions, depending on the day she's having, you might not get further than the delete button....you may even get blocked...though you may never know why.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Actual speculative messages to profiles I've had no interaction with...maybe 1 a month these days, although inevitably I used to send about a dozen a month when I first started.
I don't know why I even bother with it at all, as I've never met any of them, as far as I remember."
Hiya Sharpie !!
Good point, i think/hope, myself that my messages arent really speculative, in the sense that ive messaged someone who is highly likely to be interested in me according to their profile..unless they think im a minger !!  .......bastards lol1 |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't bother with winks as most people say they simply ignore/delete them.
However, I quite like the idea of knowing whether making contact is a non-starter or not.
It's never easy knowing exactly how to pitch your opening message to someone."
i actually like winks especially if there is a nice picture must admit i do have a penchant for a nice bum 
on the other side though, it breaks the ice, saves someone composing a long message (even worse though copying and pasting from their profile ) and it means i can go and peak at them, if i like, i wink back or send a message |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"On the back of the "no thanks" thread :
Just wondering (especially single guys) How many speculative messages, winks do you send out per week ?
I would say less than 15 per week but that is more due to the fact i prefer specific people and am looking for a certain quality in someone not quantity of meets.
I think ive sent about 5-6 since joining
i enjoy "quality",those i play with know that ! "
Absolutely agree, quality rather than quantity, i actually broke the ice with a message to someone new and its definitely quality time with him |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"Good point, i think/hope, myself that my messages arent really speculative, in the sense that ive messaged someone who is highly likely to be interested in me according to their profile..unless they think im a minger !! .......bastards lol1"
If it's a "cold call" message, it's speculative in my view, however well you've followed Ms Dances Alone's template, which I'm sure we both tried to.
Ps I'm sure you are a minger, but don't worry, there are ladies who like mingers. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Good point, i think/hope, myself that my messages arent really speculative, in the sense that ive messaged someone who is highly likely to be interested in me according to their profile..unless they think im a minger !! .......bastards lol1
If it's a "cold call" message, it's speculative in my view, however well you've followed Ms Dances Alone's template, which I'm sure we both tried to.
Ps I'm sure you are a minger, but don't worry, there are ladies who like mingers. "
Lol !! I would not be so presumptious as to "cold call" Ms Dances Alone,i seem to remember she doesnt entertain smokers 
Ps being a minger makes me stick out from the crowd !!mingers rule
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Strangely the winks I get (have had)tend to be from couples, I think it's mainly the men who send these mails.
I too have sent mails to people where I've thought 'they sound lovely', really like the look of their profile/attitude etc but specifically where I know we're a mismatch - that way they know I've nothing to gain and so aren't defensive. I've normally got nice mails back. Besides which you never really know who knows who and a bit of respect is not difficult to show.
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