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How hard is it to find local genuine normal single guys!!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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tried for a while to find a few localish, genuine hot single guys for Mrs H........ Turns out it's quite a challenge!!!
They either talk the talk and never follow it up or just completely disappear!!!!!..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't talk about it, all the ones wanting to chat about it don't actually want sex. They're after all the details so they can wank over them.
I've found many guys, don't think they're all single but they do turn up. I refuse to chat about what's gonna happen though, i just say i want normal sex and oral and leave it at that, if they push for more details i ignore them and look for someone else. |
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Do you get her to interact with them as well?
Speak on the phone early on, to help ascertain how genuine they appear, as you get more feedback by voice than just text on a screen. Post up meets, have social meets, so that you can help screen people for reliability. Consider getting together at a club too, so you've got a fall back fun option if guys don't turn up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"tried for a while to find a few localish, genuine hot single guys for Mrs H........ Turns out it's quite a challenge!!!
They either talk the talk and never follow it up or just completely disappear!!!!!....."
Often difficult to convince but when people do get to meet us genuine guys you realise it was worth it. Think a lot of people on here aren't genuine swingers but are fed up with some Internet dating sites lol |
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"tried for a while to find a few localish, genuine hot single guys for Mrs H........ Turns out it's quite a challenge!!!
They either talk the talk and never follow it up or just completely disappear!!!!!....."
We find the same with finding a bi male |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't talk about it, all the ones wanting to chat about it don't actually want sex. They're after all the details so they can wank over them.
I've found many guys, don't think they're all single but they do turn up. I refuse to chat about what's gonna happen though, i just say i want normal sex and oral and leave it at that, if they push for more details i ignore them and look for someone else."
This |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"if it sounds too good to be true then it's usually a fake, that includes couples and ladies.
you just have to prune the s out.
but genuine single guys, as we are a dime a dozen take the flak.
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That's right, its gotten so boring I stopped doing the searches to find one lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I must be one of the lucky ones. Iv met some lovely guys and had a lot of fun with them. I am very picky though. Iv spoken to a lot but only met with a very select few. Iv never been stood up and they have all been genuine  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Seems to be a bit of a two way street - I've been talking to a couple of local women/MF couples and we've both been into each other, but when push came to shove (pun not intended lol), they suddenly went quiet or did a u-turn and said I'm not their type |
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Also time encourages the changing of minds...
Distractions occur, time is scarce and people get disappointed when the shouldnt.
Learn to love rejection as something that gets you a step closer to what you really want.
Recently got rejected for the two jobs i most wanted in the world, one of them as close at my age as you can get to my dream job as a kid...
Disappointed? You fucking bet... A day moping about trying to figure out why and how to salvage it, but nothing is such a big deal. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Seems to be a bit of a two way street - I've been talking to a couple of local women/MF couples and we've both been into each other, but when push came to shove (pun not intended lol), they suddenly went quiet or did a u-turn and said I'm not their type"
Very true this...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I must be one of the lucky ones. Iv met some lovely guys and had a lot of fun with them. I am very picky though. Iv spoken to a lot but only met with a very select few. Iv never been stood up and they have all been genuine "
Got to be a fool to miss on that gorgeous body |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"tried for a while to find a few localish, genuine hot single guys for Mrs H........ Turns out it's quite a challenge!!!
They either talk the talk and never follow it up or just completely disappear!!!!!....."
Well just checked your profile and obviously some guy or guys are missing out on a lot of fun with you guys  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't talk about it, all the ones wanting to chat about it don't actually want sex. They're after all the details so they can wank over them.
I've found many guys, don't think they're all single but they do turn up. I refuse to chat about what's gonna happen though, i just say i want normal sex and oral and leave it at that, if they push for more details i ignore them and look for someone else."
Exactly this!! So frustrating. |
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By *onny bigMan
over a year ago
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Single women complaining about not getting meets on fab? Surely not?
I always thought it was easy for single women and couples?
I guess you learn something new everyday lol..
I'm Genuine by the way  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Far easier to meet guys in clubs and at large socials, than to arrange a meet via this site. Had some success, but as previously stated, a lot are just armchair wankers and fantasists and only interested in cyber stuff. |
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I am a normal guy who does ok on here. I am quite close to the OP as well, but am not to their taste.
I think this factor is the most important one. They have met some very hot couples and may be finding the single guys less appetising.
Well, there has to be a reason we are still single, right? 
Those of us who are genuinely single that is  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't talk about it, all the ones wanting to chat about it don't actually want sex. They're after all the details so they can wank over them.
I've found many guys, don't think they're all single but they do turn up. I refuse to chat about what's gonna happen though, i just say i want normal sex and oral and leave it at that, if they push for more details i ignore them and look for someone else."
I get this I call them ''fab voyeurs'' guys that get off on hearing everybody else's juicy details and pictures
A) because they are married/in a relationship and have no intentions of meeting
B) They just talk the talk
It's a case of sorting the wheat from the chafe.
I have been lucky enough to find some genuine single guys on here though  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Easy to get meets if you want just anyone but difficult to get meets that you want x"
I'm fussy, still manage to get meets every day, often more than one.
It's down to timing for being on here, spare time available to actually meet, the amount of interest people give you, the people in your area, and people who are prepared to travel to you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The more times someone states they're genuine is inversely proportional to their genuineness...
Johnsoda0204's second law of Fab. "
How about if a site states it tho and why would they need to state it, hmmmmm. |
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By *ilbobsMan
over a year ago
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Most of the time it's just a fantasy wank. I think a lot of guys get worried if they turn up. Get too excited and don't last....... A lot of pressure if you've never met anyone before and your worried that you might not meet there expectations. I personally would be nervous but would always show. As it's not everyday you get to try a fantasy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm local, normal, not looking for a fantasy wank... but must not meet your criteria in some other way, as you chose not to reply when I mailed you six months ago. Fair enough, I thought, and didn't pester.
I think the problem isn't that any one sub-set of people on here are less reliable than the others, just that if you have specific wants (as we all do, to some degree or other) it's just hard to find people who are properly compatible with what we're looking for. good luck in your hunt xx |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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the topic infuriates me.. because it implies and i lot of people have done it in this thread, that if they can't find someone specific to their taste.... people are somehow "less genuine"....
total poppycock.....
if you are that specific about your tastes.... go out and find those people who are what you are after.... don't want on the mountains to come to you.... get off your arses and be the hunters as opposed to the hunted...
i think the mindset of some is skewed so far wrong (well i am a single woman/ couple... the men must come to me!) that it smells almost of some god given entitlement....
I am betting the people you are after are already having a blast, so why should they have to do all the chasing....
be the hunters!!!
show people why you they should pick you (and you picked them.... 2 way street)
give people a reason to think "wow i must meet that person!"
so people like to drive a big old bus over others because they aren't what they are after, doesn't mean they are any less genuine.....
done.... furious! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"tried for a while to find a few localish, genuine hot single guys for Mrs H........ Turns out it's quite a challenge!!!
They either talk the talk and never follow it up or just completely disappear!!!!!....."
We are quite successful but we do sympathise with the post... It's a challenge... the other issue that happens is some guys say they are happy to meet a couple then when it comes the time they start explaining that they really only want to meet the fem alone... Play as couple stay as a couple! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To date I've had 4 married woman on there own 4 cples all regular and very enjoyable experiences
Just not on here and while back as my profile States
I don't want to run away with them know there relatives or tell the world about them
Just relaxed NSA fun as I have done in the past don't want every woman /couple on site either
Have fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i have never had a problem meeting local people It is easier for women tho cos of the huge male to female ratio."
i know plenty of single men on here who have not had no issues with meeting either |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i have never had a problem meeting local people It is easier for women tho cos of the huge male to female ratio.
i know plenty of single men on here who have not had no issues with meeting either"
Ah yea and that's good x. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"tried for a while to find a few localish, genuine hot single guys for Mrs H........ Turns out it's quite a challenge!!!
They either talk the talk and never follow it up or just completely disappear!!!!!....."
My own, personal survey says there's a 50% change of me getting laid when I go to a club.
It once used to be 66%
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not that single guys are not genuine.
Granted SOME are.
Last week I was supposed to be meeting someone who I REALLY, REALLY WANTED to meet.
Life just got in the way.
It happens.
9/10 it has nothing to do with you, it's just life.
And as frustrating as it fucking was for me, it was just life and it was out of my control at the time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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single guys always seem to get the bad press on here ... thing is some people look for fun as if they are looking for boyfriend/perfection in guys ..swinging over the years has changed so much used to be about fun and fun only...we pick meets with guys whom we think will be fun not lover /boyfriend material I have hubby for that ..I not saying you should shag anyone oh no lol never |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i have never had a problem meeting local people It is easier for women tho cos of the huge male to female ratio.
i know plenty of single men on here who have not had no issues with meeting either"
i honestly think it's down to how attractive other members perceive you as. the ratio is an excuse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i have never had a problem meeting local people It is easier for women tho cos of the huge male to female ratio.
i know plenty of single men on here who have not had no issues with meeting either
i honestly think it's down to how attractive other members perceive you as. the ratio is an excuse."
Yes or on the flip side if we are too attractive for them as well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"tried for a while to find a few localish, genuine hot single guys for Mrs H........ Turns out it's quite a challenge!!!
They either talk the talk and never follow it up or just completely disappear!!!!!....."
I'm not local enough for you....but I'm sure there must be plenty near you. If you are still struggling you are welcome to travel over to me.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i have never had a problem meeting local people It is easier for women tho cos of the huge male to female ratio.
i know plenty of single men on here who have not had no issues with meeting either
i honestly think it's down to how attractive other members perceive you as. the ratio is an excuse."
very true x |
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By *roken77Man
over a year ago
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Unfortunately us genuine guys, often get lost in the avalanche of fake guys, despite usually writing personalised messages.
As a single male looking for reliable couples who regularly, respectfully emails single females and couples and rarely gets even a no thanks reply, I can honestly say it gets very demoralising.
Yes ok I do send the odd "wanna meet up?" type message - usually when I've read a status that's only just gone up saying "Meet Tonight, Mail quickly" but even then is not just "Hi, fancy fucking me tonight?"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i have never had a problem meeting local people It is easier for women tho cos of the huge male to female ratio.
i know plenty of single men on here who have not had no issues with meeting either
i honestly think it's down to how attractive other members perceive you as. the ratio is an excuse.Yes or on the flip side if we are too attractive for them as well. "
nobody is too attractive for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i have never had a problem meeting local people It is easier for women tho cos of the huge male to female ratio.
i know plenty of single men on here who have not had no issues with meeting either
i honestly think it's down to how attractive other members perceive you as. the ratio is an excuse.Yes or on the flip side if we are too attractive for them as well.
nobody is too attractive for me. "
Same for me as I like everyone X |
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"the topic infuriates me.. because it implies and i lot of people have done it in this thread, that if they can't find someone specific to their taste.... people are somehow "less genuine"....
total poppycock.....
if you are that specific about your tastes.... go out and find those people who are what you are after.... don't want on the mountains to come to you.... get off your arses and be the hunters as opposed to the hunted...
i think the mindset of some is skewed so far wrong (well i am a single woman/ couple... the men must come to me!) that it smells almost of some god given entitlement....
I am betting the people you are after are already having a blast, so why should they have to do all the chasing....
be the hunters!!!
show people why you they should pick you (and you picked them.... 2 way street)
give people a reason to think "wow i must meet that person!"
so people like to drive a big old bus over others because they aren't what they are after, doesn't mean they are any less genuine.....
done.... furious!"
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Yep I get this too... As a single guy I change like the wind...
Usually the longer we talk the more likely it is that someone in the real world will ask me to do something interesting.
Oppotunities to do cool things come up every day, learning experiences or cool people you think you should be around (not just sexually).
Then there's the whole going silent thing, most of the time if contact is made, then unless something is happening or either of us just want to chat, I will never reconnect out of the blue.
That's not going silent, that not wasting anyone's time.
I have friends all over the planet, who I don't contact from one year to the next, but if I'm in the same local, I will hit them up... |
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"tried for a while to find a few localish, genuine hot single guys for Mrs H........ Turns out it's quite a challenge!!!
They either talk the talk and never follow it up or just completely disappear!!!!!....."
Hi OP, I'm localish (in west midlands) and often go to xtasia and now chams aswel, reading your profile i see you visit clubs so would be happy to meet up with you at either. If i'm not your type then good luck in your search. |
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