We met a guy a couple of months ago for a social which went very well, J was very taken with him. Anyway it was her birthday earlier this week so I arranged a hotel meet with him two weeks ago which he accepted. So as the date (tomorrow) approached I started to firm up arrangements, I suggested meeting in the bar 19.30 for a drink before moving to the room. He replied oh I was thinking more like 22.00. We thought this was a bit late and asked why so late. He replied saying he had another date beforehand, but it was only a first date so he would be available by 10. J wasn't happy with this as it all felt a bit disrespectful to both parties so we cancelled. J is thoughoutly pissed off and disappointed and to be fair it's just another in a long list of f***ing let downs. So I guess what I'm asking is how would you feel in this situation? |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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"We met a guy a couple of months ago for a social which went very well, J was very taken with him. Anyway it was her birthday earlier this week so I arranged a hotel meet with him two weeks ago which he accepted. So as the date (tomorrow) approached I started to firm up arrangements, I suggested meeting in the bar 19.30 for a drink before moving to the room. He replied oh I was thinking more like 22.00. We thought this was a bit late and asked why so late. He replied saying he had another date beforehand, but it was only a first date so he would be available by 10. J wasn't happy with this as it all felt a bit disrespectful to both parties so we cancelled. J is thoughoutly pissed off and disappointed and to be fair it's just another in a long list of f***ing let downs. So I guess what I'm asking is how would you feel in this situation?"
Can understand you feel frustrated and disappointed, but effectively you were using this man as a commodity, ie a birthday present for your partner. Unfortunately he is a real person with his own agenda, and you really have to accept this. We don't think he has been disrespectful - simply trying to accommodate you despite his own schedule.
We have been in an almost identical situation, grateful that the man could make it all, and all of us had a great time.
Hope her Birthday wasn't spoiled too much
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"We met a guy a couple of months ago for a social which went very well, J was very taken with him. Anyway it was her birthday earlier this week so I arranged a hotel meet with him two weeks ago which he accepted. So as the date (tomorrow) approached I started to firm up arrangements, I suggested meeting in the bar 19.30 for a drink before moving to the room. He replied oh I was thinking more like 22.00. We thought this was a bit late and asked why so late. He replied saying he had another date beforehand, but it was only a first date so he would be available by 10. J wasn't happy with this as it all felt a bit disrespectful to both parties so we cancelled. J is thoughoutly pissed off and disappointed and to be fair it's just another in a long list of f***ing let downs. So I guess what I'm asking is how would you feel in this situation?
Can understand you feel frustrated and disappointed, but effectively you were using this man as a commodity, ie a birthday present for your partner. Unfortunately he is a real person with his own agenda, and you really have to accept this. We don't think he has been disrespectful - simply trying to accommodate you despite his own schedule.
We have been in an almost identical situation, grateful that the man could make it all, and all of us had a great time.
Hope her Birthday wasn't spoiled too much
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Not strictly true, we were going to meet this guy at some point anyway, it just happened to be her birthday.
Just felt he could've said when we invited him if he already had a date rather than do us a favour and squeeze us in. |
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