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why blocking or deleting is kinder
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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ok I will give you the gist...
Fab1: Hello you look nice would you like to talk and possibly meet?
I go and duly look at the profile of the sender.
Me: Hello, thank you for your message but you live in Wales (160 miles away) so I can't see that this will happen but thank you for you for contacting me.
Fab1: Ah but my head offices are in Suffolk pass you sometimes in my Lorry.
Me: Wow that's some journey you have to do but I'm sorry It wont work
anyway a few more messages pass and I log off...
First time I come back on
Fab1: I've sent you a friends request I want to talk to you on the phone are you ignoring me.
Me: No I'm not ignoring you I just don't think this is going to happen.
Fab1: Please talk to me
A few more messages past and then, the coward I am I log off... come back on later and make sure that Fab1 is logged off then delete messages and block him...
Poor chap I know it's not nice of me but in the first message exchange I explained that it wasn't going to happen and my reasons why but then I get a whole raft of messages ignoring the basic facts we live 160 miles from each other... I thought I would try to be a nicer me  instead I end up feeling like the Devil  ... In future I think it is far easier to block the sender and delete the message... Any thoughts? |
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Dunno why you think you've not been nice? You politely declined the chap and he wouldn't take no for an answer. We'd block without a thought and it's one of the reasons the block button is there xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dunno why you think you've not been nice? You politely declined the chap and he wouldn't take no for an answer. We'd block without a thought and it's one of the reasons the block button is there xx"
We would have said no and blocked him if he letters us after the first time of saying no |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not sure you're allowed to put up the content of private messages. Say thanks but no thanks then block, end of conversation."
Lol that wasn't the real message and that wasn't his name it was just to give you a flavour of the conversation... I'm really really not that evil !!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd say the guy isn't my type, sorry.
If you're telling him the reason you won't meet is distance, he will try to overcome it. But he can't suddenly become another "type".
And then block after that.
I've just blocked a guy who has messaged me several times. I've ignored and finally said he's not my type. He took it well and thanked me for my honesty.
Two weeks later he sends another message saying he can see we chatted but can't remember what about and can we meet up on x day?
And... BLOCK. |
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You made a rookie mistake by giving a reason for turning him down. A straightforward "thanks for your interest but no thanks" with no explanations works better cos they can't argue with that.
Then if they push for why just say that you don't fancy them. None of this is rude or mean and everything can stay on friendly terms. Unless of course they get arsey about it... Then report and block!
Don't forget to keep a private note (if you're a site supporter) of who you've turned down. |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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"You made a rookie mistake by giving a reason for turning him down. A straightforward "thanks for your interest but no thanks" with no explanations works better cos they can't argue with that.
Then if they push for why just say that you don't fancy them. None of this is rude or mean and everything can stay on friendly terms. Unless of course they get arsey about it... Then report and block!
Don't forget to keep a private note (if you're a site supporter) of who you've turned down."
Agree with all of this, except for responding to someone who is pushing for a reason.
A polite thanks but no thanks is all you ever need to tell someone. Any more than that and you are inviting unwanted contact. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You made a rookie mistake by giving a reason for turning him down. A straightforward "thanks for your interest but no thanks" with no explanations works better cos they can't argue with that.
Then if they push for why just say that you don't fancy them. None of this is rude or mean and everything can stay on friendly terms. Unless of course they get arsey about it... Then report and block!
Don't forget to keep a private note (if you're a site supporter) of who you've turned down."
I've done the thanks but no thanks on previous stays on here... And I've done the straight block and delete however... this new me thought hell let's try and be kinder... Seems there really is no right or wrong way to say no thanks xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't engage in any further conversation after the initial refusal. If you have said "no" there really is nothing more to be said.
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Exactly this. No point wasting your time or theirs conversing when you're not interested. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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If you've said no, don't get involved in further conversation.
Him - hello, I'm interested
You - sorry, you're too far away
Him - but I can travel/I pass by regularly
You - thank you for your interest but I am not interested in meeting or chatting further.
Either block then or block if he messages again.
A block just means you don't want contact/further contact (or you don't want to see that person's photos on the local update list etc.) It's nothing to feel mean about.
Pestering people who have said no is not cool and it should be him feeling bad, not you. |
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