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By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
I Am single male so I do not exactly get many messages. But when on the off chance I do get messages I swear that only a few of of the peoples who messaged me have actually read what I have written. Is this the same for most people? |
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I would say that 90% of the messages we get are from people that have never read through our profile. The thing that bugs me more is the amount of single guys that reply to our couple profile but address their message to me (the female) |
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By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
I take it those men get an instant delte or block.
I probably only get a message once ever 6 Days or something but ones I do are reply to me messages or people with no Profile pic saying "you want to fuck today?" and I think No fuck off you clearly have not read what my profile says 1/2 way down. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Had I read your profile in isolation I'd say it was a single females.
People don't read profiles. Majority messages I get are gay men. Something I ask not to message me.
Be happy you are getting messages and get on with it |
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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago
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Unfortunately this happens all the time. Most of my messages are from single men and because of how my profile is written it is clear that they either haven't read or at least not understood some of it but I suspect couples and women would be as bad in other circumstances. |
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"I Am single male so I do not exactly get many messages. But when on the off chance I do get messages I swear that only a few of of the peoples who messaged me have actually read what I have written. Is this the same for most people? "
I think people read fine they just don't respond in relation to it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bambi in what way to you does it sound like a single females? "
Lots of rules and regulations, deleted or blocked if you don't comply etc etc.
Sounds like half the demanding females on here. No wonder you don't get many messages |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I Am single male so I do not exactly get many messages. But when on the off chance I do get messages I swear that only a few of of the peoples who messaged me have actually read what I have written. Is this the same for most people? "
if i send a message i read the profile
on getting messages about 80/20 80 that people dont x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I Am single male so I do not exactly get many messages. But when on the off chance I do get messages I swear that only a few of of the peoples who messaged me have actually read what I have written. Is this the same for most people? "
 I had this couple harrasing me for a face pic. Pretty sure they hadn't read my profile.
I'm not into couples, I don't arrange to meet online - why on Earth had they come to the conclusion that I owed them the favour of sending my face pic?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm pretty sure most guys do read my profile, but sometimes after a bit of conversation i realise they haven't always. I just stop talking to them then, if i bothered speaking to them in the first place.
Same for people who didn't read it in the first place. I don't bother talking to them.
If they don't give a shit what i want then i don't see why i should speak to them. Can imagine them being vwery selfish in bed tbf. I always read profiles from anyone who messages me, to see what they want and that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I message someone it's because I find them interesting so I usually reference something from their profile (or use the secret word!), I think a basic message, or a copy & paste that bears no relation to the profile is obvious to everyone and isn't worth sending let alone replying to. |
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By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
"If I message someone it's because I find them interesting so I usually reference something from their profile (or use the secret word!), I think a basic message, or a copy & paste that bears no relation to the profile is obvious to everyone and isn't worth sending let alone replying to."
Thats a good idea Jessie |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Had I read your profile in isolation I'd say it was a single females.
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I agree, you sound like a right diva, I wouldn't message women that was so demanding, so think about if one would message you, bearing in mind the ratio on here. |
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By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
"I Am single male so I do not exactly get many messages. But when on the off chance I do get messages I swear that only a few of of the peoples who messaged me have actually read what I have written. Is this the same for most people? I had this couple harrasing me for a face pic. Pretty sure they hadn't read my profile.
I'm not into couples, I don't arrange to meet online - why on Earth had they come to the conclusion that I owed them the favour of sending my face pic?
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There is a reason why I don't send face pics out and I can understand why people want them as veri but surly it is better to skype someone as you can physically see them or if you are happy sendig face pics out and one with a fab swingers link drawn on paper that way we ca veri for defo. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree, you sound like a right diva, I wouldn't message women that was so demanding, so think about if one would message you, bearing in mind the ratio on here."
In defense. I couldn't care less what he writes in his profile text on a random website.
It's the person I eventually bump in to in real life, in a club, I value. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think quite a few don't or choose to ignore it as I have had some men keep asking me what I like or when I meet them keep trying to get me to do things I say I don't like, not too many though fortunately. |
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By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
"Had I read your profile in isolation I'd say it was a single females.
I agree, you sound like a right diva, I wouldn't message women that was so demanding, so think about if one would message you, bearing in mind the ratio on here."
Whats your perfect guide to writing the single male profile. |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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Oh yes!
Part n parcel of the site, unfortunately. It doesn't bother us that much but have to agree with the earlier poster about only addressing one half of a couple, that grates a little, we find that a bit rude tbh but not enough to lose any sleep. Speaking of which....................... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Whats your perfect guide to writing the single male profile. "
I doubt there is one as everybody is different and looking for different things, but I would say that a list of do's and don'ts, shouty capitals or rants would be very off-putting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I Am single male so I do not exactly get many messages. But when on the off chance I do get messages I swear that only a few of of the peoples who messaged me have actually read what I have written. Is this the same for most people? I had this couple harrasing me for a face pic. Pretty sure they hadn't read my profile.
I'm not into couples, I don't arrange to meet online - why on Earth had they come to the conclusion that I owed them the favour of sending my face pic?
There is a reason why I don't send face pics out and I can understand why people want them as veri but surly it is better to skype someone as you can physically see them or if you are happy sendig face pics out and one with a fab swingers link drawn on paper that way we ca veri for defo. "
We like to see a face pic. Because if there is no attraction and the first view you get is Skype, it's going to be a strained embarrassing conversation.
And since the ratio of males to couples is massively one sided. We can move on if there is no face pic there are thousands who will send it.
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"I would say that 90% of the messages we get are from people that have never read through our profile. The thing that bugs me more is the amount of single guys that reply to our couple profile but address their message to me (the female)"
Totally agree same happens to us all the time. Very rude and very annoying xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I Am single male so I do not exactly get many messages. But when on the off chance I do get messages I swear that only a few of of the peoples who messaged me have actually read what I have written. Is this the same for most people? "
I would agree that this in my experience is the norm, I have experience this on both this profile and my couples one and at a guesstimate I would say around 70% of people who have messaged have not read through the profile in its entirety. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find that the majority of people who message me have read my profile and send a decent message in response. I don't get loads of messages but the ones I do get tend to be quality ones. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Had I read your profile in isolation I'd say it was a single females.
I agree, you sound like a right diva, I wouldn't message women that was so demanding, so think about if one would message you, bearing in mind the ratio on here."
Totally disagree, when I was meeting I preferred a profile that stated what he wanted and liked (as others say demands!) But its not demanding it shows you have boundaries, standards, personal preferences, a brain!! Otherwise you might as well just write I'll fuck anything! I certainly want somebody who I believed wanted me because we have similar desires and not just because I have a pussy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I Am single male so I do not exactly get many messages. But when on the off chance I do get messages I swear that only a few of of the peoples who messaged me have actually read what I have written. Is this the same for most people? "
Maybe a lot read and choose not to message, I've certainly seen a dramatic decline in messages since I'm not meeting. However, I still get around 20 messages a day asking for a meet so I'd say 100% of them haven't bothered to read. When I was meeting I think possibly 10% read, or the 90% that appeared not to have read did and thought fuck it I'll message her anyway regardless of what she says she wants!! Either way the 90% got ignored. And the 10% that had clearly read, the majority of them decided to ignore anyway...saying things like "I see you only want local, I'm not local but can travel" or "you requested pics but I won't send them"!!! So why message I just don't get it! I've been on here 3 years in total and have received thousands of messages, and I swear on my daughters life I can count on my fingers how many of those have been what I consider a good opening message  rant over sorry!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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pfff- got better things to do with my time than read fab profiles.
too many of them blabber on for ages like anyone cares. quickly skip to the bottom for any keyword, then send a copy+pasted message.
its a meat market- no one goes through the shop reading labels
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By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
"I Am single male so I do not exactly get many messages. But when on the off chance I do get messages I swear that only a few of of the peoples who messaged me have actually read what I have written. Is this the same for most people?
Maybe a lot read and choose not to message, I've certainly seen a dramatic decline in messages since I'm not meeting. However, I still get around 20 messages a day asking for a meet so I'd say 100% of them haven't bothered to read. When I was meeting I think possibly 10% read, or the 90% that appeared not to have read did and thought fuck it I'll message her anyway regardless of what she says she wants!! Either way the 90% got ignored. And the 10% that had clearly read, the majority of them decided to ignore anyway...saying things like "I see you only want local, I'm not local but can travel" or "you requested pics but I won't send them"!!! So why message I just don't get it! I've been on here 3 years in total and have received thousands of messages, and I swear on my daughters life I can count on my fingers how many of those have been what I consider a good opening message rant over sorry! "
Its because men think glass 1/2 full. If i message i might have an outside chance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If they can't read my profile I cant imagine they would make an effort on a meet. I do both. "
Totally agree. I see it as selfish, self centered and just looking for anyone who'll say yes, regardless of what that person wants, they'll just choose to ignore.
I wanted somebody to look at my profile and think she looks nice and we appear compatible, I'll message. Not....she's got a fanny I'll message and chance my luck!! |
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By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
"If they can't read my profile I cant imagine they would make an effort on a meet. I do both.
Totally agree. I see it as selfish, self centered and just looking for anyone who'll say yes, regardless of what that person wants, they'll just choose to ignore.
I wanted somebody to look at my profile and think she looks nice and we appear compatible, I'll message. Not....she's got a fanny I'll message and chance my luck!!"
I could not agree more i would not want some to look at my profile and think slab meat. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"pfff- got better things to do with my time than read fab profiles.
too many of them blabber on for ages like anyone cares. quickly skip to the bottom for any keyword, then send a copy+pasted message.
its a meat market- no one goes through the shop reading labels
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I've taken this as a joke....I hope I'm right  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Recently one or two haven't read my profile. I don't reply to their messages "
Good idea and don't meet anyone until you know they have read it properly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Recently one or two haven't read my profile. I don't reply to their messages
Good idea and don't meet anyone until you know they have read it properly."
I won't. Thank you |
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