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MEN WHO CANNOT ACCOMADATE
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By *un4three OP Couple
over a year ago
Waterford |
Are we naeve, but when we see men who cannot accommodate, usually means, they are playing away, which we would not entertain...would we be right or wrong? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some, not all men. It's a sweeping generalisation to be honest. |
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"Some, not all men. It's a sweeping generalisation to be honest. "
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Definitely not all men, all you have to do is ask  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So if women cannot accommodate what do you think? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not always,some live with family and housemates. Some don't want to carry out their sexual activities with strangers in their own bed |
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But purely from a numbers point of _iew, if you exclude those that can't accomodate then you will be getting rid of a vast majority of the attached guys so it is a good filter. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Woman as well not just men |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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could it be as simple as not wanting to have virtual strangers in your own home. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is narrow minded to think folk who can't accommodate are playing away. I find most who cannot accommodate either have kids or house share  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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some could have left due to ex
or could even be a single parent
its kinda unfair to those that are truly single to class them as liars or cheats due to that they cannot accommodate |
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I can see where you're coming from .... What with all the non single people and people with kids at home .... But as for me I can't as I'm fairly newly separated and am in lodgings and it's not possible for me too accomadate so not all are dodgy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some couples/attached people don't even live together so they can accommodate.
I know a few single dads on here, they can't accom, and that's fine coz i can';t travel. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not always, people living in a shared house would find it difficult. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are we naeve, but when we see men who cannot accommodate, usually means, they are playing away, which we would not entertain...would we be right or wrong?"
Then what would you think if a woman told you she cant accommodate?... .. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The op is generalizing they cant accept they might still live at home with parents, all I say is open your minds and don't think they are all married lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ooh, i forgot attached people who do live together but sneak people in while their other half is at work... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe get a new filter named 'won't accommodate'  |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"Are we naeve, but when we see men who cannot accommodate, usually means, they are playing away, which we would not entertain...would we be right or wrong?"
They may not be but it is a good indication that they are
Since there are so many men to choose from here, I simply avoid the headache of trying to figure out who is lying and who is not and only reply to those who can. For if I were to meet someone several times, then I would eventually want to start meeting them in their home |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yay! Another "lets pick apart every aspect of a single males profile and turn it into a negative" thread!!! I never, ever get tired of those.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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WHY ARE YOU SHOUTING!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer hotel room meets for first occasions |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But purely from a numbers point of _iew, if you exclude those that can't accomodate then you will be getting rid of a vast majority of the attached guys so it is a good filter. "
And throw out a lot of perfectly decent men along with them. And people wonder why single blokes get so frustrated on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We all know tis ok for couples and women not be able to accommodate lol. |
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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago
Nr Manchester |
We have been married for almost 28 years and together for nearly 33. We can't accommodate because we have adult offspring who live with us.
Him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only accommodate when my lodger is away. I meet socially before i invite anyone in. I have noticed a lot of couples and single fem profiles that can't accommodate as well. There are genuine reasons, although a small minority of men cheat, just as women on the site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Perhaps it's a safety thing same as it is for ladies. |
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"Are we naeve, but when we see men who cannot accommodate, usually means, they are playing away, which we would not entertain...would we be right or wrong?"
Not necessarily, might just be too lazy to get the hoover out and clear up all the porn mags!
(Ooh, did I just give away a brief glimpse of my pre-marital days )
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"Are we naeve, but when we see men who cannot accommodate, usually means, they are playing away, which we would not entertain...would we be right or wrong?"
Says the couple who cant accommodate, very nieve to tar every bloke with the same brush, as it happens i can and i do, hence genuine |
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I can accommodate with notice, not because I need to get rid of a wife or a girl friend, but more so my housemate can find something else to do for the night. |
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"But purely from a numbers point of _iew, if you exclude those that can't accomodate then you will be getting rid of a vast majority of the attached guys so it is a good filter.
And throw out a lot of perfectly decent men along with them. And people wonder why single blokes get so frustrated on here."
Like I said, a numbers game. There are plenty of perfectly decent guys that can accommodate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I accommodate in the North but not when I'm away during the week. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are we naeve, but when we see men who cannot accommodate, usually means, they are playing away, which we would not entertain...would we be right or wrong?
Says the couple who cant accommodate, very nieve to tar every bloke with the same brush, as it happens i can and i do, hence genuine"
Well spotted.../  |
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"Are we naeve, but when we see men who cannot accommodate, usually means, they are playing away, which we would not entertain...would we be right or wrong?
Says the couple who cant accommodate, very nieve to tar every bloke with the same brush, as it happens i can and i do, hence genuine
Well spotted.../ "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are we naeve, but when we see men who cannot accommodate, usually means, they are playing away, which we would not entertain...would we be right or wrong?
Says the couple who cant accommodate, very nieve to tar every bloke with the same brush, as it happens i can and i do, hence genuine"
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"could it be as simple as not wanting to have virtual strangers in your own home."
That's my reason. It's fine if we get to know people well and become good friends, but until then my home is off limits |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But purely from a numbers point of _iew, if you exclude those that can't accomodate then you will be getting rid of a vast majority of the attached guys so it is a good filter.
And throw out a lot of perfectly decent men along with them. And people wonder why single blokes get so frustrated on here.
Like I said, a numbers game. There are plenty of perfectly decent guys that can accommodate."
And there's plenty of perfectly decent men that can't....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People can't accomodate for all sorts of reasons  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can't accom and to be honest even if I could I wouldn't. People can read into that whatever they wish....Personally I couldn't give a flying....... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But purely from a numbers point of _iew, if you exclude those that can't accomodate then you will be getting rid of a vast majority of the attached guys so it is a good filter.
And throw out a lot of perfectly decent men along with them. And people wonder why single blokes get so frustrated on here.
Like I said, a numbers game. There are plenty of perfectly decent guys that can accommodate."
In other words, you're happy to make judgements without any evidence or any attempt to get any, because you know you can get away with it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never question why a man can't accommodate,I wouldn't have strangers from a sex site in my house,why should anyone else? |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
It doesn't on its own mean they are attached but if combined with daytime meets only,discreet all over profile and no pics it may do |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are we naeve, but when we see men who cannot accommodate, usually means, they are playing away, which we would not entertain...would we be right or wrong?"
Seems a bit odd coming from a "couple" who've been on here 9 weeks and verified by someone whose been on here 9 weeks and doesn't accommodate. Suspicions could be aimed your way?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are we naeve, but when we see men who cannot accommodate, usually means, they are playing away, which we would not entertain...would we be right or wrong?
Seems a bit odd coming from a "couple" who've been on here 9 weeks and verified by someone whose been on here 9 weeks and doesn't accommodate. Suspicions could be aimed your way?
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Ooohh nice spot |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Possibly they share a flat, lodge with someone or live with family. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh ffs lets all bash the marrieds shall we ? I get so peed off with the sanctimonious cherry picking morality of other swingers.. yes, SWINGERS who frankly are all on here to yet their rocks off..yet believe they have the right to stand in judgement.  |
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"I never question why a man can't accommodate,I wouldn't have strangers from a sex site in my house,why should anyone else?"
This... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never question why a man can't accommodate,I wouldn't have strangers from a sex site in my house,why should anyone else?
This... "
quite! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is narrow minded to think folk who can't accommodate are playing away. I find most who cannot accommodate either have kids or house share "
This |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I put cannot accommodate as some people then just assume you will allow people to your home, truth is I would never allow anyone to my home unless I'd met them a number of times and trusted them. This is my private residence is the reason I say I cannot and will not accommodate |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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He who lasts laugh, cast the first stone.
Or something! |
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By *eithoWoman
over a year ago
Chatham |
Very often that is the case in my experience but I look at other factors too, like availability, communication, openness to ascertain whether someone is a cheat. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What about single dads? Or living with others? Dont mean they are playing away.
Her |
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By *eithoWoman
over a year ago
Chatham |
I find it weird when people who house share say they can't bring a date home. Who are they living with, monks?!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it weird when people who house share say they can't bring a date home. Who are they living with, monks?!
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Friends probably. I wouldn't like to come face to face with a 28 yr old as I'm coming out of the bathroom half dressed, having to explain I'm just here to fuck his mate,or brother even. Although I have visited a man a few times while his brother was at work |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I live in a shared house so can it can be difficult to have people over. I might be friends with the people I live with but the does not mean that they are accepting of the way I choose to have fun or that I want them to know let alone be confronted with it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it weird when people who house share say they can't bring a date home. Who are they living with, monks?!
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Bringing a date home, and bringing a swinger home are two different things.
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Were a married couple here and we don't accommodate its just a preference we have we live in a very small estate you'd fart and the neighbours would know
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"I find it weird when people who house share say they can't bring a date home. Who are they living with, monks?!
Bringing a date home, and bringing a swinger home are two different things.
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I am curious; why? If a guy has met a woman from this site and they have met each other a few times, then why it it different after that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It doesn't on its own mean they are attached but if combined with daytime meets only,discreet all over profile and no pics it may do "
Not necessarily I split from my wife but we still live in the same house for ease of arrrangements (thanks to the recession!) hence I choose to meet in the day and not in my home!! I prefer not to shit on my doorstep hence the generally private pictures |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can't accommodate because I have family living with me. But when I lived alone and was on another site, I only even invited one person to my home. As I'm not really interesting in inviting randoms into my home. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I split from my ex and moved back in with my Mom, not ideal but finances dictate, thus can't accommodate!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it weird when people who house share say they can't bring a date home. Who are they living with, monks?!
Bringing a date home, and bringing a swinger home are two different things.
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I am curious; why? If a guy has met a woman from this site and they have met each other a few times, then why it it different after that?"
Its not all one on ones though,some people meet couples too |
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"I find it weird when people who house share say they can't bring a date home. Who are they living with, monks?!
Bringing a date home, and bringing a swinger home are two different things.
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Well grounded logic imo.. but everyone has their own take on friends/neighbours. I think most folk on fab don't get much time for meets so want to get the most fun and relaxation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Again taking a regular boyfriend/ girlfriend home is one thing, the thought of your flatmates knowing you have a swinger in the house to some may not go down too well, if they dont have open minds.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it weird when people who house share say they can't bring a date home. Who are they living with, monks?!
Bringing a date home, and bringing a swinger home are two different things.
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Well grounded logic imo.. but everyone has their own take on friends/neighbours. I think most folk on fab don't get much time for meets so want to get the most fun and relaxation."
I agree here too
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By *eithoWoman
over a year ago
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"Again taking a regular boyfriend/ girlfriend home is one thing, the thought of your flatmates knowing you have a swinger in the house to some may not go down too well, if they dont have open minds.
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Wasn't on about a regular bf/gf. But I don't see much of a difference in a date where we go for a drink and back to his or a meet where we go for a drink and back to his. I'm the same person and our intentions appear the same in either scenario. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Again taking a regular boyfriend/ girlfriend home is one thing, the thought of your flatmates knowing you have a swinger in the house to some may not go down too well, if they dont have open minds.
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Wasn't on about a regular bf/gf. But I don't see much of a difference in a date where we go for a drink and back to his or a meet where we go for a drink and back to his. I'm the same person and our intentions appear the same in either scenario. "
Discretion on swinging, taking a potential boyfriend/ girlfriend home one thing, using the place as a shagging den quiet another.
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"But purely from a numbers point of _iew, if you exclude those that can't accomodate then you will be getting rid of a vast majority of the attached guys so it is a good filter.
And throw out a lot of perfectly decent men along with them. And people wonder why single blokes get so frustrated on here.
Like I said, a numbers game. There are plenty of perfectly decent guys that can accommodate.
In other words, you're happy to make judgements without any evidence or any attempt to get any, because you know you can get away with it. "
Where have we made any judgements? I think you are confusing "married so can't accommodate" with "can't accommodate so must be married"
That's a bit like saying all mothers are women so all women must be mothers.
And what exactly are we getting away with?
Maybe you should read what I actually wrote instead of what you think I wrote |
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"Are we naeve, but when we see men who cannot accommodate, usually means, they are playing away, which we would not entertain...would we be right or wrong?"
Not naive but maybe quick to judge. What do you think when you see a woman with the same accommodation status? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The double standards here can be quite annoying sometimes... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So if women cannot accommodate what do you think?"
Excellent point! |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"So if women cannot accommodate what do you think?
Excellent point!"
Not really because the OP aren't looking to meet women so probably don't care what they do. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"Are we naeve, but when we see men who cannot accommodate, usually means, they are playing away, which we would not entertain...would we be right or wrong?
Says the couple who cant accommodate, very nieve to tar every bloke with the same brush, as it happens i can and i do, hence genuine"
Hang on a second, that you can accommodate means you are genuine? So anyone who can't, or won't, accommodate is now not genuine?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The single men ive met .either house share or still live at home or in college.. so no i dont assume "oh look he cant acomm hes a cheating pig " i dont accom and its often been asked are u single are u cheating ...
I am fully single i just choose not to have strangers in my home..my family home .my house is my kids house before mine . |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"Are we naeve, but when we see men who cannot accommodate, usually means, they are playing away, which we would not entertain...would we be right or wrong?"
Certainly a lot of the men (and women) that can't accommodate are cheating. However, there are a lot of reasons someone wouldn't be able to, or wouldn't want to accommodate so it's unfair to just assume they are playing away. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm separated with a kid and can only accom when he's not staying over and that goes against me believe me.
I've had messages asking for his photo to prove he's real
Those peeps have all been told to do one by the way as there ain't a cat in hells chance I'm ever associating him with my fab life |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm separated with a kid and can only accom when he's not staying over and that goes against me believe me.
I've had messages asking for his photo to prove he's real
Those peeps have all been told to do one by the way as there ain't a cat in hells chance I'm ever associating him with my fab life"
Wow, that's a bit much! Do they want to see his birth certificate too in case it's a photo of you with a nephew or a friend's child?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can acc the only problem is getting the ladys to turn up. |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex |
Some "facts" in the world of swinging:
Men who can't accomodate = Married.
Wimen who can't accomodate = choice.
Men who play at clubs = indiscrete.
Women who play at clubs = liberated.
Men with no face pics = ugly munter
Women with no face pics = privacy.
Men who rate venues/parties negatively = sour grapes at not having played.
Women who rate venues/parties negatively = truth.
The double standards are mind boggling. This is 2015 not 1915. |
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"The double standards here can be quite annoying sometimes..."
Newsflash: Men and women are different!
Why shouldn't different preferences apply? |
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I've had messages asking for his photo to prove he's real
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That's just creepy |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex |
"Are we naeve, but when we see men who cannot accommodate, usually means, they are playing away, which we would not entertain...would we be right or wrong?
Says the couple who cant accommodate, very nieve to tar every bloke with the same brush, as it happens i can and i do, hence genuine
Hang on a second, that you can accommodate means you are genuine? So anyone who can't, or won't, accommodate is now not genuine?
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This is exactly the point of the thread:
Men who can't accomodate = not genuine as cheating. According to the OP. Hence the alternative points raised by others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Perhaps it's a safety thing same as it is for ladies. "
After a meet from elsewhere where this gorgeous, sexy, lithe bodied hottie turned into the spawn of Satan after 2 glasses of wine.....
I like having windows in my house thank you! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can see why most would assume this !
I spend 2 nights tops a week in my home , sometimes weeks without being home , I work all over the country and have to stay in hotels mostly so don't arrange meets when im home , that's my time , plus I'd rather not give out my address to someone when they know my house will be empty for days and days
The last 2 meets I had on here was a couple who chose not to acomodate and a single woman who couldn't , neutral hotels are the way forward ? |
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"The double standards here can be quite annoying sometimes...
Newsflash: Men and women are different!
Why shouldn't different preferences apply?"
So why is a single woman that cannot accom any different to a single guy that can't accom? |
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(i)Married usually equals can't accommodate
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(ii)can't accommodate doesn't always equal married.
The problem on here is that as soon as someone says (i) people assume they are saying (ii) and just dive in |
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"The double standards here can be quite annoying sometimes...
Newsflash: Men and women are different!
Why shouldn't different preferences apply?
So why is a single woman that cannot accom any different to a single guy that can't accom?"
They're not, but a married woman playing away is a different prospect to a man playing away. |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex |
I feel its safe to say gone are the days when the ability to accommodate was the distinguishing factor between who is genuine from who isn't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its far to simplistic to assume anything like this.
We know several guys who are married that play in their home while their partner is working their profiles state they can accomodate, a d if you met them you would be entertaining meeting attached guys.
There isnt a fool proof method |
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Yes you are wrong, yes there are a lot of cheats on hear but also, a lot who may still be living with family, are separated, but have kids at home or other reasons, and even some who have permission of their spouse. Me and wife swung together and play solo we choose not to accom as have family at home so travel or play at clubs,we also have nosey neighbours,a lot of meets never take place because people assume if they can't accom they are cheating,just think of fun you may be missing |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"The double standards here can be quite annoying sometimes...
Newsflash: Men and women are different!
Why shouldn't different preferences apply?
So why is a single woman that cannot accom any different to a single guy that can't accom?"
They aren't but the OP doesn't want to meet women.
I don't expect they bother too much what people they don't want to meet do.
Equally wrong, but one potentially affects them and one doesn't. |
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"Its far to simplistic to assume anything like this.
We know several guys who are married that play in their home while their partner is working their profiles state they can accomodate, a d if you met them you would be entertaining meeting attached guys.
There isnt a fool proof method"
Ahh but if you met them in their own home you are less likely end up with a deranged bunny-boiler on your doorstep accusing you of leading their poor innocent husband astray |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex |
"The double standards here can be quite annoying sometimes...
Newsflash: Men and women are different!
Why shouldn't different preferences apply?
So why is a single woman that cannot accom any different to a single guy that can't accom?
They're not, but a married woman playing away is a different prospect to a man playing away."
Just look at the number of couples that receive messages suggesting the female half to play away... sometimes from other couples! |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Are we naeve, but when we see men who cannot accommodate, usually means, they are playing away, which we would not entertain...would we be right or wrong?
Says the couple who cant accommodate, very nieve to tar every bloke with the same brush, as it happens i can and i do, hence genuine
Hang on a second, that you can accommodate means you are genuine? So anyone who can't, or won't, accommodate is now not genuine?
This is exactly the point of the thread:
Men who can't accomodate = not genuine as cheating. According to the OP. Hence the alternative points raised by others."
Not genuinely single certainly but genuinely meeting.
I suppose it depends on the definition of genuine which is a word chucked around too liberally on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being a single parent, I don't want people turning up at my house all the time, what If my little one gets up in night etc, there are no crb checks done on here, don't really want some one I've just met to have access to my house ( extreme I know) but just because I can't all the time doesent mean I'm a time waster, that's what's so annoying about this site some people forget there is a life off here ..... Rant over |
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Could assume that 'couples' that won't accommodate aren't actually proper couples but just fb's that are both cheating on their spouses and therefore can't accommodate.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Perhaps it's a safety thing same as it is for ladies.
After a meet from elsewhere where this gorgeous, sexy, lithe bodied hottie turned into the spawn of Satan after 2 glasses of wine.....
I like having windows in my house thank you!"
Oh there's no pleasing you single men....
*tongue firmly in cheek! |
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"The double standards here can be quite annoying sometimes...
Newsflash: Men and women are different!
Why shouldn't different preferences apply?
So why is a single woman that cannot accom any different to a single guy that can't accom?
They're not, but a married woman playing away is a different prospect to a man playing away."
I don't accom out of safety reasons, I also won't have a first meet in someone's home for the same safety reasons. As a result I ask why people don't acco. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Think it's a bit unfair to presume every guy who can't accommodate is married/cheating. There are probably loads of guys on here who are married but could accommodate due to their wife's work patterns etc, not accusing just stating a fact. |
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I accommodate occasionally. It depends on whether my kids are here. It also depends on whether I know the lady or couple. I will not blind meet at mine unless I feel that it is right, which is vary rarely judged on a couple of emails. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definately wrong .
Sibling with a disability
Means it is a family matter of an extreme personal nature & quite frankly a f*@king insult of the most Immature kind .
Why people are so Lazy in their attitudes to other peoples circumstance is beyond me ! |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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well I can't accom, due to office at home.. don't think my 2 employees would be too impressed with me getting it on with somebody whilst they are working... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can't accom but I am single .I live with family .I have nothing to hide |
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"Some, not all men. It's a sweeping generalisation to be honest. "
well said |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was speaking on here to a lady who owned a large chain of hotels. We planned to meet but she said she couldn't accommodate......
The cheek! |
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"Are we naeve, but when we see men who cannot accommodate, usually means, they are playing away, which we would not entertain...would we be right or wrong?"
Change 'Usually means' to 'may mean' and its a fair comment.
Sorry if this has been mentioned before |
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"Are we naeve, but when we see men who cannot accommodate, usually means, they are playing away, which we would not entertain...would we be right or wrong?"
in our experience, yes, but we have found an aweful lot of wasters |
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Does it matter?????? Want to fuck them not live with them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm married so can't accommodate. Even if I was single, I wouldn't invite anyone here unless I'd met them a few times |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But purely from a numbers point of _iew, if you exclude those that can't accomodate then you will be getting rid of a vast majority of the attached guys so it is a good filter.
And throw out a lot of perfectly decent men along with them. And people wonder why single blokes get so frustrated on here.
Like I said, a numbers game. There are plenty of perfectly decent guys that can accommodate.
In other words, you're happy to make judgements without any evidence or any attempt to get any, because you know you can get away with it.
Where have we made any judgements? I think you are confusing "married so can't accommodate" with "can't accommodate so must be married"
That's a bit like saying all mothers are women so all women must be mothers.
And what exactly are we getting away with?
Maybe you should read what I actually wrote instead of what you think I wrote "
No, just quoted the wrong comment  I apologise. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm married so can't accommodate. Even if I was single, I wouldn't invite anyone here unless I'd met them a few times "
Likewise.
Maybe Fab should have a simple 'Playing Away' field and it would be crystal clear to all and make filtering easier. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Being a single parent, I don't want people turning up at my house all the time, what If my little one gets up in night etc, there are no crb checks done on here, don't really want some one I've just met to have access to my house ( extreme I know) but just because I can't all the time doesent mean I'm a time waster, that's what's so annoying about this site some people forget there is a life off here ..... Rant over "
The above relates to my situation like you single female parents, we single parent men do have emphasis on safety for our children so when not at work we like our home to be our home for family not just some sex den whilst the young ones are at school or in bed hence the reason why I don't accom
By the way I have tomorrow off work which one of you lovely females wants to meet up |
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Really? What about women who don't accommodate. ...poor judgement. Just another thread to bash single guys. Very sad |
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"I'm married so can't accommodate. Even if I was single, I wouldn't invite anyone here unless I'd met them a few times
Likewise.
Maybe Fab should have a simple 'Playing Away' field and it would be crystal clear to all and make filtering easier. "
The people that would tick that box are probably honest enough to have it in their profile anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"could it be as simple as not wanting to have virtual strangers in your own home."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Perhaps it's a safety thing same as it is for ladies.
After a meet from elsewhere where this gorgeous, sexy, lithe bodied hottie turned into the spawn of Satan after 2 glasses of wine.....
I like having windows in my house thank you!
Oh there's no pleasing you single men....
*tongue firmly in cheek!"
Yeh - well the difference is I could just tie you up to keep you quiet ;-P |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dont make any fuckn diffrence if ye can accomodate or not ye gotta b able to cast spells like jesus to get a meet with a woman on here |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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wow....
I "could" accomodate if i wanted to.... I choose not to and prefer to meet at clubs.....
I made that decision when I was burgled.. and my home is my safe space for me...
so where on earth does that leave me....
my god i must be vermin!!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find it odd that the subject is normally about men that don't accommodate, women and couples rarely have their reasons questioned....in fact, most folk jump to the defense of a lady's right to not accommodate, they are rarely burned over it and never told they should have a note in their profiles as to why other wise it looks like they're cheating blah blah blah...
Men have precisely the same rights not to be prodded and poked and made to explain why the can't accommodate, just as anyone else...yet they still get grief for it....
I don't accommodate...I don't want to, for reasons I don't have to explain...and I sure as shit ain't cheating, and the same goes for many men...
Sure, some are playing away but I reckon the couples and single ladies who don't accommodate have just as high a proportion of who are cheating so why single out the males? Because we're the easiest targets to have a go at quite simply....we're the highest in number so can be treat with less reverence than the precious couples and ladies....
And that's my tuppence worth. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dont make any fuckn diffrence if ye can accomodate or not ye gotta b able to cast spells like jesus to get a meet with a woman on here"
No ya don't.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dont make any fuckn diffrence if ye can accomodate or not ye gotta b able to cast spells like jesus to get a meet with a woman on here"
Sounds like someone isn't getting things their own way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not all men play away there could be a few different reasons why they cant accommodate. Just like women. For example kids dont want anyone to know we're they live. Flat mates who doesnt fancy seeing a orgy infront of them.
For me its kids. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can't accomadate...when I seperated I moved back to my mums...lost my business and lots of money....and my mums ill...old ...so I have a live in carer too...tho I don't do the care work I oversee everything...money..bills..that the carers are doing things properly....but I've had women just assume I'm cheating all the time....none of what I do is remotely sexy...but care for family is important...even if it fucks your fuck life up somewhat....! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer not to accommodate as I had a bad meet who turned out to be a stalker so I prefer to meet elsewhere at first until there is a mutual trust |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it odd that the subject is normally about men that don't accommodate, women and couples rarely have their reasons questioned....in fact, most folk jump to the defense of a lady's right to not accommodate, they are rarely burned over it and never told they should have a note in their profiles as to why other wise it looks like they're cheating blah blah blah...
Men have precisely the same rights not to be prodded and poked and made to explain why the can't accommodate, just as anyone else...yet they still get grief for it....
I don't accommodate...I don't want to, for reasons I don't have to explain...and I sure as shit ain't cheating, and the same goes for many men...
Sure, some are playing away but I reckon the couples and single ladies who don't accommodate have just as high a proportion of who are cheating so why single out the males? Because we're the easiest targets to have a go at quite simply....we're the highest in number so can be treat with less reverence than the precious couples and ladies....
And that's my tuppence worth. "
Wtf am I on?
I'm no longer single, just don't have a couples profile....but my post still stands for single guys.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I accommodate, but only when I want to. Hence my profile preference shows unable to.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are we naeve, but when we see men who cannot accommodate, usually means, they are playing away, which we would not entertain...would we be right or wrong?
Change 'Usually means' to 'may mean' and its a fair comment.
Sorry if this has been mentioned before"
And change the word 'men' to the word 'people' |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
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Have you thought that they may still live at home.
Or live in a Student flat. |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
or shared accommodation |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"or shared accommodation "
Or with relatives, or have had previous bad experience of a stranger at home, or have kids, or have nosey neighbours and want to be discreet, or just don't want to accommodate, or run a business from home, or prefer to know someone before taking them home, or a myriad of other reasons that they don't actually need to explain....why should a man pass a series of questions about his circumstances more than anyone else?
Again, it's rare for a couple or a fem to be asked to explain why they don't....they aren't expected to have a little footnote explaining why.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm married so can't accommodate. Even if I was single, I wouldn't invite anyone here unless I'd met them a few times
Likewise.
Maybe Fab should have a simple 'Playing Away' field and it would be crystal clear to all and make filtering easier.
The people that would tick that box are probably honest enough to have it in their profile anyway."
I normally do have my marital status in my profile but think I deleted it when I deleted some text. Will go check now. I hate being mislead and don't do it myself |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not all! I've met and know guys who say cannot accommodate, they sometimes house share or are lodgers doesn't always mean they are attached |
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I dont and havent accomodated.
Im a single parent and my flat isnt the best.
I would be worried of a press on the buzzer and some bunny boiler or pissed up woman wants to come in when I havent invited her.
Its happened before to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can usually accomadate but choose not to bring strangers home !
I can easily afford a hotel room and so why not make an occasion of it and let someone else wash the bedding ....
Why is this just aimed at Guys ?? |
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"The double standards here can be quite annoying sometimes...
Newsflash: Men and women are different!
Why shouldn't different preferences apply?
So why is a single woman that cannot accom any different to a single guy that can't accom?
They're not, but a married woman playing away is a different prospect to a man playing away."
Why? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The double standards here can be quite annoying sometimes...
Newsflash: Men and women are different!
Why shouldn't different preferences apply?
So why is a single woman that cannot accom any different to a single guy that can't accom?
They're not, but a married woman playing away is a different prospect to a man playing away.
Why?"
Why exactly ??
What a load of shite |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are we naeve, but when we see men who cannot accommodate, usually means, they are playing away, which we would not entertain...would we be right or wrong?"
I live on a military base so not able to accom. I think the question should be asked why not just incase tho it might just be living on a base, parents or housemates x |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
Gosh, this is getting so heated
Nobody HAS to accommodate in their home
Some men do and some men don't; it is their choice
I will only meet those who can; it is my choice |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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I don't care why they can't accommodate because I'm not giving my address out to anyone, and they could be thinking the same. My meets tend to be at hotels and clubs, so they could have 8 kids for all I know. |
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"But purely from a numbers point of _iew, if you exclude those that can't accomodate then you will be getting rid of a vast majority of the attached guys so it is a good filter.
And throw out a lot of perfectly decent men along with them. And people wonder why single blokes get so frustrated on here.
Like I said, a numbers game. There are plenty of perfectly decent guys that can accommodate.
And there's plenty of perfectly decent men that can't.... "
Thank you!
The thing about playing the numbers games is that it's useless stats that will decrease and increase dependant on certain factors.
"to assume makes an ASS of U and ME"
Besides, there's plenty who cheat and accommodate. It usually happens when people work nights.
Another factor for the "numbers game!" |
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"The double standards here can be quite annoying sometimes...
Newsflash: Men and women are different!
Why shouldn't different preferences apply?
So why is a single woman that cannot accom any different to a single guy that can't accom?
They're not, but a married woman playing away is a different prospect to a man playing away.
Why?"
Because of the differences between the way men and women react to being cheated on. A man will generally blame the cheating partner, women will blame whoever he cheated with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The double standards here can be quite annoying sometimes...
Newsflash: Men and women are different!
Why shouldn't different preferences apply?
So why is a single woman that cannot accom any different to a single guy that can't accom?
They're not, but a married woman playing away is a different prospect to a man playing away.
Why?
Because of the differences between the way men and women react to being cheated on. A man will generally blame the cheating partner, women will blame whoever he cheated with. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The double standards here can be quite annoying sometimes...
Newsflash: Men and women are different!
Why shouldn't different preferences apply?
So why is a single woman that cannot accom any different to a single guy that can't accom?
They're not, but a married woman playing away is a different prospect to a man playing away.
Why?
Because of the differences between the way men and women react to being cheated on. A man will generally blame the cheating partner, women will blame whoever he cheated with. "
Give me strength!
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"The double standards here can be quite annoying sometimes...
Newsflash: Men and women are different!
Why shouldn't different preferences apply?
So why is a single woman that cannot accom any different to a single guy that can't accom?
They're not, but a married woman playing away is a different prospect to a man playing away.
Why?
Because of the differences between the way men and women react to being cheated on. A man will generally blame the cheating partner, women will blame whoever he cheated with.
Another generalisation "
Of course it is, that's why I said 'generally' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never assume
And why targeted at men |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"Never assume
And why targeted at men"
They're looking for men.
They aren't looking for women so they won't see profiles to know how many say they can't accommodate and since they don't want to meet them, it probably doesn't matter to them personally if women cheat.
It matters to them if men do because they don't want to meet those playing away. |
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Blimey this is getting heated! Our 2p:
1. There are singles and couples who cant accommodate.
2. There are singles and couples who can accommodate
3. There are singles and couples who can travel
4. There are singles and couples who can't travel
5. There are singles and couples who cheat and are honest about it
6. There are singles and couples who cheat and lie about it
7. All singles and couples have their own moral compass as to wether cheating is ok (if applicable)
8. Some singles and couples treat each situation on a case by case basis and work out if they are compatible with the other party accordingly
9. Some singles and couples don't treat each situation on a case by case basis and maybe display signs of baggage/issues/insecurities etc
10. None of the above points are mutually intwined
Apologies to any scenarios or genders or situations forgotten in the above.
To us (personal opinion only) we are interested in those who fall into point 8. as they are well suited to the swinging lifestyle and mindset, whereas those in 9. do not (again in our opinion) .....
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex |
"Blimey this is getting heated! Our 2p:
1. There are singles and couples who cant accommodate.
2. There are singles and couples who can accommodate
3. There are singles and couples who can travel
4. There are singles and couples who can't travel
5. There are singles and couples who cheat and are honest about it
6. There are singles and couples who cheat and lie about it
7. All singles and couples have their own moral compass as to wether cheating is ok (if applicable)
8. Some singles and couples treat each situation on a case by case basis and work out if they are compatible with the other party accordingly
9. Some singles and couples don't treat each situation on a case by case basis and maybe display signs of baggage/issues/insecurities etc
10. None of the above points are mutually intwined
Apologies to any scenarios or genders or situations forgotten in the above.
To us (personal opinion only) we are interested in those who fall into point 8. as they are well suited to the swinging lifestyle and mindset, whereas those in 9. do not (again in our opinion) .....
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By *un4three OP Couple
over a year ago
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There is no offense meant to anyone, but when we have asked if they are attached, their profile always has, Can't accomodate.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can't accom and to be honest even if I could I wouldn't. People can read into that whatever they wish....Personally I couldn't give a flying......."
I won't accom, not can't. Don't care what anyone else thinks. |
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By *astpoetMan
over a year ago
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Living in london makes it incredibly hard to get personal space, the rents in this city are stupid and nearly everyone i know (that's single and some that aren't) live in house shares.
Add to that that some of us want to keep our kinks to ourselves and i think it's pretty understandable why we don't (always) accomodate.
Nothing iffy, dodgy or cynical just the sad fact of living in one of the most expensive cities in the world! |
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"Living in london makes it incredibly hard to get personal space, the rents in this city are stupid and nearly everyone i know (that's single and some that aren't) live in house shares.
Add to that that some of us want to keep our kinks to ourselves and i think it's pretty understandable why we don't (always) accomodate.
Nothing iffy, dodgy or cynical just the sad fact of living in one of the most expensive cities in the world!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" I won't accom, not can't. Don't care what anyone else thinks. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are we naeve, but when we see men who cannot accommodate, usually means, they are playing away, which we would not entertain...would we be right or wrong?"
Not all of us....you can come to mine but I look after me dad and Dont want to finish him off yet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ooo! OP. Kettle. Pot. And stop fuckin shouting! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So if women cannot accommodate what do you think?"
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Angus & Findhorn |
I don't accom and I justify fuck all.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are we naeve, but when we see men who cannot accommodate, usually means, they are playing away, which we would not entertain...would we be right or wrong?
Seems a bit odd coming from a "couple" who've been on here 9 weeks and verified by someone whose been on here 9 weeks and doesn't accommodate. Suspicions could be aimed your way?
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Ooo! This just gets better and better. You've been rumbled OP! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is no offense meant to anyone, but when we have asked if they are attached, their profile always has, Can't accomodate.."
So why can't you accommodate ? And the 9 week thing........... Hmmmm |
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"The double standards here can be quite annoying sometimes...
Newsflash: Men and women are different!
Why shouldn't different preferences apply?
So why is a single woman that cannot accom any different to a single guy that can't accom?
They're not, but a married woman playing away is a different prospect to a man playing away.
Why?
Because of the differences between the way men and women react to being cheated on. A man will generally blame the cheating partner, women will blame whoever he cheated with. "
So it's ok for a woman to not be able to accommodate because she is cheating because the guy will blame her and not the people she fucked behind his back....That makes it A-ok in your book....gotcha |
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"And the 9 week thing........... Hmmmm"
Half a week away from an erotic film? |
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"The double standards here can be quite annoying sometimes...
Newsflash: Men and women are different!
Why shouldn't different preferences apply?
So why is a single woman that cannot accom any different to a single guy that can't accom?
They're not, but a married woman playing away is a different prospect to a man playing away.
Why?
Because of the differences between the way men and women react to being cheated on. A man will generally blame the cheating partner, women will blame whoever he cheated with.
So it's ok for a woman to not be able to accommodate because she is cheating because the guy will blame her and not the people she fucked behind his back....That makes it A-ok in your book....gotcha "
Of course, it's between her and her conscience. In a Utopian world it wouldn't happen but we live in the real world. |
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We can accommodate, but not at home. Home is a swinger free environment. Well, apart from ourselves, naturally. |
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"The double standards here can be quite annoying sometimes...
Newsflash: Men and women are different!
Why shouldn't different preferences apply?
So why is a single woman that cannot accom any different to a single guy that can't accom?
They're not, but a married woman playing away is a different prospect to a man playing away.
Why?
Because of the differences between the way men and women react to being cheated on. A man will generally blame the cheating partner, women will blame whoever he cheated with.
So it's ok for a woman to not be able to accommodate because she is cheating because the guy will blame her and not the people she fucked behind his back....That makes it A-ok in your book....gotcha
Of course, it's between her and her conscience. In a Utopian world it wouldn't happen but we live in the real world. "
In my real world there is no difference between a man that cheats and a woman that cheats.
The original statement about double standards was in regards to the jumping to conclusions about why a man can't accommodate and why a woman can't accommodate. All too often men are accused of being married but wonen are applauded for thinking of their safety. Are men not entitled to feel safe, are women who can't accommodate not cheaters? |
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I don't accommodate and if people don't like it - tough titties. I don't need to explain myself to anyone. |
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"I don't accommodate and if people don't like it - tough titties. I don't need to explain myself to anyone. "
What kind of selfish attitude is that! There'd be nothing on these forums if everyone started pleasing themselves! |
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"Some, not all men. It's a sweeping generalisation to be honest. "
But in 99% of cases you are bang on. Most of the rest probably living with mummy....is that any better? |
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"The double standards here can be quite annoying sometimes...
Newsflash: Men and women are different!
Why shouldn't different preferences apply?
So why is a single woman that cannot accom any different to a single guy that can't accom?
They're not, but a married woman playing away is a different prospect to a man playing away.
Why?
Because of the differences between the way men and women react to being cheated on. A man will generally blame the cheating partner, women will blame whoever he cheated with.
So it's ok for a woman to not be able to accommodate because she is cheating because the guy will blame her and not the people she fucked behind his back....That makes it A-ok in your book....gotcha
Of course, it's between her and her conscience. In a Utopian world it wouldn't happen but we live in the real world.
In my real world there is no difference between a man that cheats and a woman that cheats.
The original statement about double standards was in regards to the jumping to conclusions about why a man can't accommodate and why a woman can't accommodate. All too often men are accused of being married but wonen are applauded for thinking of their safety. Are men not entitled to feel safe, are women who can't accommodate not cheaters? "
I'm sure that women who cheat can't accommodate in the majority of cases but as with the men, that doesn't mean that anyone that can't accommodate is cheating. What it does mean, as we said regarding men, if you don't want to meet cheaters then filtering out people that can't accommodate will get rid of a vast majority. |
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Maybe we we should ask admin to add a 'cheating' box to tick under interests. Then everyone could be upfront and honest, and we'd all be happy bunnies! |
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Let's leave this thread to rest.
It's 'accommodate'..... |
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