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Oh the shame and shock horror of it, but, well I have known for a long time that I am the reason we struggle to get meets.
Despite not being a BBW, a lot of people would like to meet Sasha, and I say that with all sincerity, BBW ladies are far more popular and get a lot more offers than those in the 6-10 category.
Younger people struggle more, black guys have a huge following, that's all down to preference, we all seem to accept that very easily, but there are a few, often those that start moaning threads that seems to forget all about people having preferences and blame everyone else for thier inability to get meets.
Me it's because I am an old git and a smoker, the number of people wanting to meet a couple where the guy is over 50 is far less than those wanting to meet people in the 30-50 group. The younger lads have the same problem and even some of the younger ladies and couples.
Add to that, I have a much younger partner, so a lot of the people my age don't want to meet us because Sasha is too young for them and a lot of people Sasha's age don't want the "old git" to come along.
I accept that, it is very understandable.
So why can't some others realise that it is, though no fault of thier own, something about them that limits the number of people wanting to meet them.
Too young, too slim, too tall, too large, too hairy, too bald, long hair, short hair, boobs too big, boobs too small, no pictures, boring profile, too far away ....................
The competition is stiff (damn that kamagra) we can't all be successfull, you have baggage, no babysitters, parents always popping round, can't drive, funny working hours, live with other people, the wife wants you home early ..................
It is not always the fault of others, it is rarely the fault of the site and all the moaning in the world won't help, some things you can't change, I can only act like an 18 year old I can't actually be one but somethings you can change, so before you waste your time moaning about it, see if you can shift the balance yourself, perhaps with your profile or the way you approach others or the way you approach the whole scene ?
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"An awfie lot of threads popping up about people being unable to get meets, couples, single men and yes even single women. The reason appears to be too many timewasters too many with preferences too many with "isms" and "ists" like ageist too many single men not enough couples and a 1000 other reasons. But have you stopped to think that maybe, just maybe it is you that people don't want - god forbid it could be that. Well in our case the reason is ME
Oh the shame and shock horror of it, but, well I have known for a long time that I am the reason we struggle to get meets.
Despite not being a BBW, a lot of people would like to meet Sasha, and I say that with all sincerity, BBW ladies are far more popular and get a lot more offers than those in the 6-10 category.
Younger people struggle more, black guys have a huge following, that's all down to preference, we all seem to accept that very easily, but there are a few, often those that start moaning threads that seems to forget all about people having preferences and blame everyone else for thier inability to get meets.
Me it's because I am an old git and a smoker, the number of people wanting to meet a couple where the guy is over 50 is far less than those wanting to meet people in the 30-50 group. The younger lads have the same problem and even some of the younger ladies and couples.
Add to that, I have a much younger partner, so a lot of the people my age don't want to meet us because Sasha is too young for them and a lot of people Sasha's age don't want the "old git" to come along.
I accept that, it is very understandable.
So why can't some others realise that it is, though no fault of thier own, something about them that limits the number of people wanting to meet them.
Too young, too slim, too tall, too large, too hairy, too bald, long hair, short hair, boobs too big, boobs too small, no pictures, boring profile, too far away ....................
The competition is stiff (damn that kamagra) we can't all be successfull, you have baggage, no babysitters, parents always popping round, can't drive, funny working hours, live with other people, the wife wants you home early ..................
It is not always the fault of others, it is rarely the fault of the site and all the moaning in the world won't help, some things you can't change, I can only act like an 18 year old I can't actually be one but somethings you can change, so before you waste your time moaning about it, see if you can shift the balance yourself, perhaps with your profile or the way you approach others or the way you approach the whole scene ?
Just a thought "Some very good points there Jed....how is the lovely Sasha? Gis a shag  | |||
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Not a popular thread, could it be some people are realising they have a problem and are relcutant to admit it or are many people still living the dream | |||
"aaaaah no, I have always known our own shortcomings and problems it's everyone else's I get wrong
Not a popular thread, could it be some people are realising they have a problem and are relcutant to admit it or are many people still living the dream "i'm going to argue that it is not you that have a problem....but others. you guys are solid and happy with your relationship and that is not a problem at all....if someone cannot find in you all that they want, then it's they that have a problem. | |||
trust me on that one......
it is an interesting thread because in the club I was in last night a the wife of a couple i have known for a long while now made the admission that the 1st time she met me she didn't think much of me.... now we get on really wall and it actually made me laugh....
I know I am not ya atypical black guy, and because of my upbringing, what I have been thru in my past, and where I have always wanted to get to in my life, I know I am going to be different...
I am outspoken and forthright.... especially on subjects where it is going to put up up against the convention...
be that people playing up to stereotypes,
or views on black/white socials
or even calling out people who I think opinions blow from side to side depending on which way they think it makes they look popular
if people are real with me, I will be absolutely real with them... what you see if what you get.... be that a devil with a heart of gold, or a super nice guy with a hell of a devilish streak...
I am a black guy, I am a large guy... I am not going to be everyones cup of tea, heck I could say hello to people in a mail and there reply to that may be to block me... do I care.... no! that is me being me....
As long as I am true to myself and my convictions and be the best person that I can be, to my friends or to others, then that is all that I ask of myself... that is all i ask of others.....
in the mean time I am having a blast meeting people along the way of where I am getting to....... 
interest thread jed...... | |||
" Despite not being a BBW, a lot of people would like to meet Sasha, and I say that with all sincerity, BBW ladies are far more popular and get a lot more offers than those in the 6-10 category. " Sorry but i can not agree with that, i know shocking that we could not agree on something isnt it? lol Now i first met you....what, god got to be about 8 years ago now so you have know me thro verious sizes lol I used to be a size 22/24 ish at one point as im sure you can remember, till i went to weight watcher and lost over 9 stone, i went down to a size 10, ok ive put some back on now but i can honestly say, i got LOADS more offers and attention at a size 10 then i did at a size 24 Now i cant speak for everyone and im sure there are some guys who prefure a size 24 and some a size 10 but i found that i was far more popular after i lost weight P.S i think your lovely | |||
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cos you aint an old git, and you dont look it  | |||
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"aaaaah no, I have always known our own shortcomings and problems it's everyone else's I get wrong
Not a popular thread, could it be some people are realising they have a problem and are relcutant to admit it or are many people still living the dream "Oooh, just seen this thread!
Couldn't agree more.
Sadly, some people have a talking mirror that tells them "they're the fairest in the land" so struggle to accept the "thanks but no thanks" messages" | |||
"aaaaah no, I have always known our own shortcomings and problems it's everyone else's I get wrong
Not a popular thread, could it be some people are realising they have a problem and are relcutant to admit it or are many people still living the dream
i'm going to argue that it is not you that have a problem....but others. you guys are solid and happy with your relationship and that is not a problem at all....if someone cannot find in you all that they want, then it's they that have a problem."...and I have to disagree with you. If someone doesn't want to meet someone for whatever reason they don't have a problem at all - they're exercising their preference. It's not to say there's anything wrong with the couple they don't want to meet: it's just not for them! | |||
" I used to be a size 22/24 ish at one point as im sure you can remember, till i went to weight watcher and lost over 9 stone, i went down to a size 10 " Nothing to do with the thread but nice one and well done. Thats hard work and commitment. Takes some doing. | |||
"aaaaah no, I have always known our own shortcomings and problems it's everyone else's I get wrong
Not a popular thread, could it be some people are realising they have a problem and are relcutant to admit it or are many people still living the dream
i'm going to argue that it is not you that have a problem....but others. you guys are solid and happy with your relationship and that is not a problem at all....if someone cannot find in you all that they want, then it's they that have a problem.
...and I have to disagree with you.
If someone doesn't want to meet someone for whatever reason they don't have a problem at all - they're exercising their preference. It's not to say there's anything wrong with the couple they don't want to meet: it's just not for them!"]] Yea ok I get that, but what I said originally is "why do some people complain because others don't want to meet them, as you said and I said there are many reasons for not wanting to meet and it is not always the fault of the other person" | |||
"aaaaah no, I have always known our own shortcomings and problems it's everyone else's I get wrong
Not a popular thread, could it be some people are realising they have a problem and are relcutant to admit it or are many people still living the dream
i'm going to argue that it is not you that have a problem....but others. you guys are solid and happy with your relationship and that is not a problem at all....if someone cannot find in you all that they want, then it's they that have a problem.
...and I have to disagree with you.
If someone doesn't want to meet someone for whatever reason they don't have a problem at all - they're exercising their preference. It's not to say there's anything wrong with the couple they don't want to meet: it's just not for them!]]
Yea ok I get that, but what I said originally is "why do some people complain because others don't want to meet them, as you said and I said there are many reasons for not wanting to meet and it is not always the fault of the other person""Why does there have to be 'fault'? If 'I' don't want to meet 'YOU' (whoever I or you happens to be) that's nobody's fault - it just a matter of choice. | |||
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