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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How come is it more acceptable for a married woman to play away from home? Where as men doing the same is frowned upon. I am married but my wife has gone off sex. I feel so frustrated with not being able to make love. We all have our needs. Women on here who are married seem to get away without being judged on their actions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How come is it more acceptable for a married woman to play away from home? Where as men doing the same is frowned upon. I am married but my wife has gone off sex. I feel so frustrated with not being able to make love. We all have our needs. Women on here who are married seem to get away without being judged on their actions."
I get the impression it's because lots of men seem to like to brag/moan in the forums about how they're not getting any from their wife and are looking for sex elsewhere.
Whereas lots of women seem to just get on with it rather than shouting from the rooftops in the forums about it. That means there is less opportunity for people to voice their opinion.
Unfortunately you've just added another citable example to my theory... |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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It's not more acceptable. Women tend to just get on with it though rather than feeling the need to post about it, debate it and try to justify it.
That's why men get more flak. They invite it rather than just getting on and doing it.
Plus, perhaps women have more sympathy for the women being cheated on whereas some men aren't so bothered. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I believe it may be the rule of fanny.
Some men really are not fussed about the background of the women they meet.
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It's all about the numbers. There are so many more single male profiles than single female ones that women can disregard any man who looks even vaguely like he's cheating (which often comes down purely to whether or not he can accommodate - if he can't, he must be married and cheating) and still have a huge pool of choices available.
If men applied the same criteria to women, there would be so many men chasing so few women that hardly any of them would get a look in. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"How come is it more acceptable for a married woman to play away from home? Where as men doing the same is frowned upon. I am married but my wife has gone off sex. I feel so frustrated with not being able to make love. We all have our needs. Women on here who are married seem to get away without being judged on their actions.
I get the impression it's because lots of men seem to like to brag/moan in the forums about how they're not getting any from their wife and are looking for sex elsewhere.
Whereas lots of women seem to just get on with it rather than shouting from the rooftops in the forums about it. That means there is less opportunity for people to voice their opinion.
Unfortunately you've just added another citable example to my theory..."
Yup! ^this
Men seem to feel they are entitled to sex and that it's entirely justified, if they aren't getting any/as much as they want to go looking elsewhere. And they feel the need to try to convince everyone else of this too. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"I believe it may be the rule of fanny.
Some men really are not fussed about the background of the women they meet.
It's all about the numbers. There are so many more single male profiles than single female ones that women can disregard any man who looks even vaguely like he's cheating (which often comes down purely to whether or not he can accommodate - if he can't, he must be married and cheating) and still have a huge pool of choices available.
If men applied the same criteria to women, there would be so many men chasing so few women that hardly any of them would get a look in. "
Nobody has to meet though. It is possible for men to decide not to meet someone that doesn't fit what they are looking for.
More women are, I think, willing not to meet rather than settle for other than what they want, whereas some men will take what they can get.
They make the decision whether to meet someone who is cheating or not, it's not forced upon them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nobody has to meet though. It is possible for men to decide not to meet someone that doesn't fit what they are looking for.
More women are, I think, willing not to meet rather than settle for other than what they want, whereas some men will take what they can get.
They make the decision whether to meet someone who is cheating or not, it's not forced upon them."
I agree that anyone can choose whether or not to meet. However, I don't think it's got anything to do with women having a fundamentally different attitude to men. If the ratios were reversed, I think that women would be far more willing to meet men they knew were cheating. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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Nobody has to meet though. It is possible for men to decide not to meet someone that doesn't fit what they are looking for.
More women are, I think, willing not to meet rather than settle for other than what they want, whereas some men will take what they can get.
They make the decision whether to meet someone who is cheating or not, it's not forced upon them.
I agree that anyone can choose whether or not to meet. However, I don't think it's got anything to do with women having a fundamentally different attitude to men. If the ratios were reversed, I think that women would be far more willing to meet men they knew were cheating. "
I can only speak for myself but I would rather not meet than meet cheats.
I think a lot of women do have very different attitudes to a lot of men.
I've noticed men (some, not all) tend to be willing to take the best they can get for the sake of meets whereas women won't.
There are plenty of other places to meet people and find sexual partners, so I'd look elsewhere before I felt compelled to compromise.
Then again, I'm quite capable of surviving for years without sex if I need to. |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
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I agree that anyone can choose whether or not to meet. However, I don't think it's got anything to do with women having a fundamentally different attitude to men. If the ratios were reversed, I think that women would be far more willing to meet men they knew were cheating. "
Very few women I know will knowingly meet a cheat, so I don't think a difference in ratios would matter.
On fab, I would never meet a guy who was cheating - its not worth the hassle. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Oh I didn't mean it to come over like that. Maybe you have a point. I would not brag about things on here though."
Is your desire for sex more important than your wife's feelings that she doesn't want sex? She has as much right not to want it as you do to want it.
Sex is not a need. It's a desire, a want. It's possible to live without it.
You committed to be faithful. She has a right to expect that.
If the relationship no longer works for you, end it. You're trying to have your cake and eat it, at the risk of badly hurting someone you are supposed to love and cherish above all else.
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's quote possible I'm wrong, I'll happily admit that. However, I would say two things in defence of my position.
1) It's very easy to be morally superior when it doesn't cost you anything, which is exactly the position single women are in here.
2) The number of single female profiles I see which openly admit they're cheating suggests that women overall are just as happy with the idea as men are - unless you think they're hypocritical enough to think it only counts as cheating when it's a man doing it? |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
"It's quote possible I'm wrong, I'll happily admit that. However, I would say two things in defence of my position.
1) It's very easy to be morally superior when it doesn't cost you anything, which is exactly the position single women are in here.
2) The number of single female profiles I see which openly admit they're cheating suggests that women overall are just as happy with the idea as men are - unless you think they're hypocritical enough to think it only counts as cheating when it's a man doing it? "
The single females openly cheating - are open about it usually, and do not start threads justifying why they need to do it.
Its cheating either way.
I'm not morally superior, I just have my set of guidelines I work to, that suit me. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"It's quote possible I'm wrong, I'll happily admit that. However, I would say two things in defence of my position.
1) It's very easy to be morally superior when it doesn't cost you anything, which is exactly the position single women are in here.
2) The number of single female profiles I see which openly admit they're cheating suggests that women overall are just as happy with the idea as men are - unless you think they're hypocritical enough to think it only counts as cheating when it's a man doing it?
The single females openly cheating - are open about it usually, and do not start threads justifying why they need to do it.
Its cheating either way.
I'm not morally superior, I just have my set of guidelines I work to, that suit me. "
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"It's quote possible I'm wrong, I'll happily admit that. However, I would say two things in defence of my position.
1) It's very easy to be morally superior when it doesn't cost you anything, which is exactly the position single women are in here.
2) The number of single female profiles I see which openly admit they're cheating suggests that women overall are just as happy with the idea as men are - unless you think they're hypocritical enough to think it only counts as cheating when it's a man doing it? "
What would it cost men not to meet women who are cheating? Nothing but a shag.
That's the difference; a lot of men here are so desperate for a shag they'll overlook pretty much anything.
There may be a lot of men on here but it's probably still harder than you think for women to find and arrange suitable meets.
The funny thing is, if so many men weren't so desperate on here, there would probably be more women.
As for women being as happy about cheating as men, the ones that are cheating themselves may be, but they probably aren't the ones who judge male cheats and don't want to meet them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's quote possible I'm wrong, I'll happily admit that. However, I would say two things in defence of my position.
1) It's very easy to be morally superior when it doesn't cost you anything, which is exactly the position single women are in here.
2) The number of single female profiles I see which openly admit they're cheating suggests that women overall are just as happy with the idea as men are - unless you think they're hypocritical enough to think it only counts as cheating when it's a man doing it?
What would it cost men not to meet women who are cheating? Nothing but a shag.
That's the difference; a lot of men here are so desperate for a shag they'll overlook pretty much anything.
There may be a lot of men on here but it's probably still harder than you think for women to find and arrange suitable meets.
The funny thing is, if so many men weren't so desperate on here, there would probably be more women.
As for women being as happy about cheating as men, the ones that are cheating themselves may be, but they probably aren't the ones who judge male cheats and don't want to meet them."
The reason most men are desperate is because there's a severe lack of women. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Yes I agree, if a man does its not ok, but if a woman does it, its ok. I do like married milf tho playing away  "
Rubbish.
Men are more willing to meet anyway though.
In fact, some prefer female cheats because they think there's less chance they'll get attached. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's quote possible I'm wrong, I'll happily admit that. However, I would say two things in defence of my position.
1) It's very easy to be morally superior when it doesn't cost you anything, which is exactly the position single women are in here.
2) The number of single female profiles I see which openly admit they're cheating suggests that women overall are just as happy with the idea as men are - unless you think they're hypocritical enough to think it only counts as cheating when it's a man doing it? "
You say 'moral superiority' like it's a bad thing.
To declare that lying to someone you're supposed to love and cherish is somehow better than not lying to someone you're supposed to love and cherish is nothing short of self-righteousness. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's quote possible I'm wrong, I'll happily admit that. However, I would say two things in defence of my position.
1) It's very easy to be morally superior when it doesn't cost you anything, which is exactly the position single women are in here.
2) The number of single female profiles I see which openly admit they're cheating suggests that women overall are just as happy with the idea as men are - unless you think they're hypocritical enough to think it only counts as cheating when it's a man doing it?
What would it cost men not to meet women who are cheating? Nothing but a shag.
That's the difference; a lot of men here are so desperate for a shag they'll overlook pretty much anything.
There may be a lot of men on here but it's probably still harder than you think for women to find and arrange suitable meets.
The funny thing is, if so many men weren't so desperate on here, there would probably be more women.
As for women being as happy about cheating as men, the ones that are cheating themselves may be, but they probably aren't the ones who judge male cheats and don't want to meet them."
i cant see a diference from being desperate than super horne tho, maibe some like sex more than othrrs so it looks like bding desperate but isnt. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"It's quote possible I'm wrong, I'll happily admit that. However, I would say two things in defence of my position.
1) It's very easy to be morally superior when it doesn't cost you anything, which is exactly the position single women are in here.
2) The number of single female profiles I see which openly admit they're cheating suggests that women overall are just as happy with the idea as men are - unless you think they're hypocritical enough to think it only counts as cheating when it's a man doing it?
What would it cost men not to meet women who are cheating? Nothing but a shag.
That's the difference; a lot of men here are so desperate for a shag they'll overlook pretty much anything.
There may be a lot of men on here but it's probably still harder than you think for women to find and arrange suitable meets.
The funny thing is, if so many men weren't so desperate on here, there would probably be more women.
As for women being as happy about cheating as men, the ones that are cheating themselves may be, but they probably aren't the ones who judge male cheats and don't want to meet them.
The reason most men are desperate is because there's a severe lack of women."
So why do they persist in trying to drive those that are here away? And why, if they want meets so badly, do so many make no effort and insist on presenting themselves in an unattractive way?
A lot bring their lack of success and desperation on themselves.
This is not the only place to meet people and find sex. Any man that relies on this place for their sexual satisfaction is likely to be disappointed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i cant see a diference from being desperate than super horne tho, maibe some like sex more than othrrs so it looks like bding desperate but isnt."
I like sex FUCKING LOADS. I mean, I really like sex. I usually have sex two-three times a day.
But when my nesting partner is away on business for two weeks I'm not so fixated on it that I have to go out and have it with random people two-three times a day.
You can go without sex. Trust me. You won't die or anything, even if you really enjoy it. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"It's quote possible I'm wrong, I'll happily admit that. However, I would say two things in defence of my position.
1) It's very easy to be morally superior when it doesn't cost you anything, which is exactly the position single women are in here.
2) The number of single female profiles I see which openly admit they're cheating suggests that women overall are just as happy with the idea as men are - unless you think they're hypocritical enough to think it only counts as cheating when it's a man doing it?
What would it cost men not to meet women who are cheating? Nothing but a shag.
That's the difference; a lot of men here are so desperate for a shag they'll overlook pretty much anything.
There may be a lot of men on here but it's probably still harder than you think for women to find and arrange suitable meets.
The funny thing is, if so many men weren't so desperate on here, there would probably be more women.
As for women being as happy about cheating as men, the ones that are cheating themselves may be, but they probably aren't the ones who judge male cheats and don't want to meet them.i cant see a diference from being desperate than super horne tho, maibe some like sex more than othrrs so it looks like bding desperate but isnt."
I can be super horny without feeling the need to message every man within 100 miles with photos of my fanny and being willing to meet anyone that replies.
It's possible to be super horny without behaving desperately.
Desperation is obvious a mile off and is a major turn off. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"i cant see a diference from being desperate than super horne tho, maibe some like sex more than othrrs so it looks like bding desperate but isnt.
I like sex FUCKING LOADS. I mean, I really like sex. I usually have sex two-three times a day.
But when my nesting partner is away on business for two weeks I'm not so fixated on it that I have to go out and have it with random people two-three times a day.
You can go without sex. Trust me. You won't die or anything, even if you really enjoy it."
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"It's quote possible I'm wrong, I'll happily admit that. However, I would say two things in defence of my position.
1) It's very easy to be morally superior when it doesn't cost you anything, which is exactly the position single women are in here.
2) The number of single female profiles I see which openly admit they're cheating suggests that women overall are just as happy with the idea as men are - unless you think they're hypocritical enough to think it only counts as cheating when it's a man doing it?
What would it cost men not to meet women who are cheating? Nothing but a shag.
That's the difference; a lot of men here are so desperate for a shag they'll overlook pretty much anything.
There may be a lot of men on here but it's probably still harder than you think for women to find and arrange suitable meets.
The funny thing is, if so many men weren't so desperate on here, there would probably be more women.
As for women being as happy about cheating as men, the ones that are cheating themselves may be, but they probably aren't the ones who judge male cheats and don't want to meet them."
I think you've hit the nail on the head! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's quote possible I'm wrong, I'll happily admit that. However, I would say two things in defence of my position.
1) It's very easy to be morally superior when it doesn't cost you anything, which is exactly the position single women are in here.
2) The number of single female profiles I see which openly admit they're cheating suggests that women overall are just as happy with the idea as men are - unless you think they're hypocritical enough to think it only counts as cheating when it's a man doing it?
You say 'moral superiority' like it's a bad thing.
To declare that lying to someone you're supposed to love and cherish is somehow better than not lying to someone you're supposed to love and cherish is nothing short of self-righteousness. "
I'm not saying it's a bad thing at all. As far as I'm concerned, infidelity is unforgivable. What I'm saying is that for women looming for meets on here, who are by definition looking for actual partners, choosing to ignore those men who they suspect may be cheating costs them far fewer opportunities than is the case for men making the same decision. Because of that, the temptation to be more morally flexible in abetting infidelity is far lower for a woman, and therefore the choice is easier. If the numbers were more even, or there were more women than men, I think more women would be willing to be that flexible. The attitude seems to be that women are virtuous and men are dogs, and I think that's both insulting and factually wrong. |
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"It's quote possible I'm wrong, I'll happily admit that. However, I would say two things in defence of my position.
1) It's very easy to be morally superior when it doesn't cost you anything, which is exactly the position single women are in here.
2) The number of single female profiles I see which openly admit they're cheating suggests that women overall are just as happy with the idea as men are - unless you think they're hypocritical enough to think it only counts as cheating when it's a man doing it?
What would it cost men not to meet women who are cheating? Nothing but a shag.
That's the difference; a lot of men here are so desperate for a shag they'll overlook pretty much anything.
There may be a lot of men on here but it's probably still harder than you think for women to find and arrange suitable meets.
The funny thing is, if so many men weren't so desperate on here, there would probably be more women.
As for women being as happy about cheating as men, the ones that are cheating themselves may be, but they probably aren't the ones who judge male cheats and don't want to meet them.
The reason most men are desperate is because there's a severe lack of women.
So why do they persist in trying to drive those that are here away? And why, if they want meets so badly, do so many make no effort and insist on presenting themselves in an unattractive way?
A lot bring their lack of success and desperation on themselves.
This is not the only place to meet people and find sex. Any man that relies on this place for their sexual satisfaction is likely to be disappointed."
Because men are more 'primal' and resort to base instinct when seeking sexual gratification. Most won't even think about their approach or how they're coming across, just the same way no-one cares about how they come across when ordering fast food. For a lot of men, it's a similar feeling - the need to fill a hole. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"It's quote possible I'm wrong, I'll happily admit that. However, I would say two things in defence of my position.
1) It's very easy to be morally superior when it doesn't cost you anything, which is exactly the position single women are in here.
2) The number of single female profiles I see which openly admit they're cheating suggests that women overall are just as happy with the idea as men are - unless you think they're hypocritical enough to think it only counts as cheating when it's a man doing it?
You say 'moral superiority' like it's a bad thing.
To declare that lying to someone you're supposed to love and cherish is somehow better than not lying to someone you're supposed to love and cherish is nothing short of self-righteousness.
I'm not saying it's a bad thing at all. As far as I'm concerned, infidelity is unforgivable. What I'm saying is that for women looming for meets on here, who are by definition looking for actual partners, choosing to ignore those men who they suspect may be cheating costs them far fewer opportunities than is the case for men making the same decision. Because of that, the temptation to be more morally flexible in abetting infidelity is far lower for a woman, and therefore the choice is easier. If the numbers were more even, or there were more women than men, I think more women would be willing to be that flexible. The attitude seems to be that women are virtuous and men are dogs, and I think that's both insulting and factually wrong. "
It's not just about numbers though.
If there are 10 women and you only fancy one, it's no worse than there being 10 000 men but only fancying one.
More options does not necessarily mean more good options.
I didn't say men are dogs, just more willing to compromise on their standards whereas women tend to be less willing to do so. |
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" If the numbers were more even, or there were more women than men, I think more women would be willing to be that flexible. The attitude seems to be that women are virtuous and men are dogs, and I think that's both insulting and factually wrong. "
I'm not sure I want this debate at this time of the day, because I'm struggling to brain as it is... but...
I think you're right. If the last 4-600 years had been different, and patriarchy hadn't happened, and we'd lived in a matriarchal society where men were shamed for enjoy sex while women were considered studs when they got laid... where women cheating was considered normality (it has been in the past for men who often kept official mistresses) whereas men were burned for being witches...
Yes, we'd proberbly live in a very different society.
It's not as simple as 'if the situation changed tomorrow and there were five women for every man on this site', because we still carry with us hundreds of years of oppression about our sexual and relationship behaviour.
Maybe one day. Maybe. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"It's quote possible I'm wrong, I'll happily admit that. However, I would say two things in defence of my position.
1) It's very easy to be morally superior when it doesn't cost you anything, which is exactly the position single women are in here.
2) The number of single female profiles I see which openly admit they're cheating suggests that women overall are just as happy with the idea as men are - unless you think they're hypocritical enough to think it only counts as cheating when it's a man doing it?
What would it cost men not to meet women who are cheating? Nothing but a shag.
That's the difference; a lot of men here are so desperate for a shag they'll overlook pretty much anything.
There may be a lot of men on here but it's probably still harder than you think for women to find and arrange suitable meets.
The funny thing is, if so many men weren't so desperate on here, there would probably be more women.
As for women being as happy about cheating as men, the ones that are cheating themselves may be, but they probably aren't the ones who judge male cheats and don't want to meet them.
The reason most men are desperate is because there's a severe lack of women.
So why do they persist in trying to drive those that are here away? And why, if they want meets so badly, do so many make no effort and insist on presenting themselves in an unattractive way?
A lot bring their lack of success and desperation on themselves.
This is not the only place to meet people and find sex. Any man that relies on this place for their sexual satisfaction is likely to be disappointed.
Because men are more 'primal' and resort to base instinct when seeking sexual gratification. Most won't even think about their approach or how they're coming across, just the same way no-one cares about how they come across when ordering fast food. For a lot of men, it's a similar feeling - the need to fill a hole."
And that is exactly why they struggle to find a hole.
And that is why they become desperate.
There could be millions of women on here and a lot still couldn't get meets due to the way they behave. So, they're not desperate due to the lack of women. They're desperate because they don't know how to behave (or can't be bothered to) in order to get what they want. |
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" If the numbers were more even, or there were more women than men, I think more women would be willing to be that flexible. The attitude seems to be that women are virtuous and men are dogs, and I think that's both insulting and factually wrong.
I'm not sure I want this debate at this time of the day, because I'm struggling to brain as it is... but...
I think you're right. If the last 4-600 years had been different, and patriarchy hadn't happened, and we'd lived in a matriarchal society where men were shamed for enjoy sex while women were considered studs when they got laid... where women cheating was considered normality (it has been in the past for men who often kept official mistresses) whereas men were burned for being witches...
Yes, we'd proberbly live in a very different society.
It's not as simple as 'if the situation changed tomorrow and there were five women for every man on this site', because we still carry with us hundreds of years of oppression about our sexual and relationship behaviour.
Maybe one day. Maybe."
Let's just hope that some day soon, the only decision acts that are consisted shameful are those that harm others - including infidelity. |
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"It's quote possible I'm wrong, I'll happily admit that. However, I would say two things in defence of my position.
1) It's very easy to be morally superior when it doesn't cost you anything, which is exactly the position single women are in here.
2) The number of single female profiles I see which openly admit they're cheating suggests that women overall are just as happy with the idea as men are - unless you think they're hypocritical enough to think it only counts as cheating when it's a man doing it?
What would it cost men not to meet women who are cheating? Nothing but a shag.
That's the difference; a lot of men here are so desperate for a shag they'll overlook pretty much anything.
There may be a lot of men on here but it's probably still harder than you think for women to find and arrange suitable meets.
The funny thing is, if so many men weren't so desperate on here, there would probably be more women.
As for women being as happy about cheating as men, the ones that are cheating themselves may be, but they probably aren't the ones who judge male cheats and don't want to meet them.
The reason most men are desperate is because there's a severe lack of women.
So why do they persist in trying to drive those that are here away? And why, if they want meets so badly, do so many make no effort and insist on presenting themselves in an unattractive way?
A lot bring their lack of success and desperation on themselves.
This is not the only place to meet people and find sex. Any man that relies on this place for their sexual satisfaction is likely to be disappointed.
Because men are more 'primal' and resort to base instinct when seeking sexual gratification. Most won't even think about their approach or how they're coming across, just the same way no-one cares about how they come across when ordering fast food. For a lot of men, it's a similar feeling - the need to fill a hole.
And that is exactly why they struggle to find a hole.
And that is why they become desperate.
There could be millions of women on here and a lot still couldn't get meets due to the way they behave. So, they're not desperate due to the lack of women. They're desperate because they don't know how to behave (or can't be bothered to) in order to get what they want."
I watch male behaviour and I notice the 'desperation' subsides when they receive attention from females. So a lot of it is down to basically a struggle to gain the interest of females. The more they struggle, the more desperate they become. |
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men seem to want acceptance and someone to say " you aren't cheating your swinging"
Sadly you are cheating if your partner/wife/gf is not aware
Women seem to not care and just do it, i dont see as many posts about it from women |
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Basically, in short, men act the way they do because women don't act the same way. If women had more of a 'fancy a fuck?' mentality, I think you'd be surprised at the difference in approach from men. There would be less of a need to chase and pursue, hence probably more relaxed and not as fixated on instant sexual gratification. Not saying women SHOULD act this way, by the way. Just saying IF they did, you'd see a difference in male pattern behaviour. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"It's quote possible I'm wrong, I'll happily admit that. However, I would say two things in defence of my position.
1) It's very easy to be morally superior when it doesn't cost you anything, which is exactly the position single women are in here.
2) The number of single female profiles I see which openly admit they're cheating suggests that women overall are just as happy with the idea as men are - unless you think they're hypocritical enough to think it only counts as cheating when it's a man doing it?
What would it cost men not to meet women who are cheating? Nothing but a shag.
That's the difference; a lot of men here are so desperate for a shag they'll overlook pretty much anything.
There may be a lot of men on here but it's probably still harder than you think for women to find and arrange suitable meets.
The funny thing is, if so many men weren't so desperate on here, there would probably be more women.
As for women being as happy about cheating as men, the ones that are cheating themselves may be, but they probably aren't the ones who judge male cheats and don't want to meet them.
The reason most men are desperate is because there's a severe lack of women.
So why do they persist in trying to drive those that are here away? And why, if they want meets so badly, do so many make no effort and insist on presenting themselves in an unattractive way?
A lot bring their lack of success and desperation on themselves.
This is not the only place to meet people and find sex. Any man that relies on this place for their sexual satisfaction is likely to be disappointed.
Because men are more 'primal' and resort to base instinct when seeking sexual gratification. Most won't even think about their approach or how they're coming across, just the same way no-one cares about how they come across when ordering fast food. For a lot of men, it's a similar feeling - the need to fill a hole.
And that is exactly why they struggle to find a hole.
And that is why they become desperate.
There could be millions of women on here and a lot still couldn't get meets due to the way they behave. So, they're not desperate due to the lack of women. They're desperate because they don't know how to behave (or can't be bothered to) in order to get what they want.
I watch male behaviour and I notice the 'desperation' subsides when they receive attention from females. So a lot of it is down to basically a struggle to gain the interest of females. The more they struggle, the more desperate they become."
But that lack of attention is often due to poor presentation and behaviour. It's their own flippin' fault.
Are women supposed to flock round men in the hope they'll behave better?
That's rather like saying you should give your kid sweets so he doesn't act up when you're shopping.
No effort and wanky behaviour = ignored. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"Basically, in short, men act the way they do because women don't act the same way. If women had more of a 'fancy a fuck?' mentality, I think you'd be surprised at the difference in approach from men. There would be less of a need to chase and pursue, hence probably more relaxed and not as fixated on instant sexual gratification. Not saying women SHOULD act this way, by the way. Just saying IF they did, you'd see a difference in male pattern behaviour."
The reverse is true too. Women would give men more attention if the men made the effort to appeal. As it is, many seem to think it's a case of flopping out 10 pictures of their cock, taken from slightly different angles, sending a hi message to every woman within 100 miles and waiting for the queue to form.
If men aren't getting the results they want, it's up to them to change rather than expecting the women to change. |
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"Basically, in short, men act the way they do because women don't act the same way. If women had more of a 'fancy a fuck?' mentality, I think you'd be surprised at the difference in approach from men. There would be less of a need to chase and pursue, hence probably more relaxed and not as fixated on instant sexual gratification. Not saying women SHOULD act this way, by the way. Just saying IF they did, you'd see a difference in male pattern behaviour.
The reverse is true too. Women would give men more attention if the men made the effort to appeal. As it is, many seem to think it's a case of flopping out 10 pictures of their cock, taken from slightly different angles, sending a hi message to every woman within 100 miles and waiting for the queue to form.
If men aren't getting the results they want, it's up to them to change rather than expecting the women to change."
You could easily say the same the other way around, women who aren't getting the results they want could change rather than expecting men to change. There's no gender that's right or wrong, we are both just wired completely differently. |
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over a year ago
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"Basically, in short, men act the way they do because women don't act the same way. If women had more of a 'fancy a fuck?' mentality, I think you'd be surprised at the difference in approach from men. There would be less of a need to chase and pursue, hence probably more relaxed and not as fixated on instant sexual gratification. Not saying women SHOULD act this way, by the way. Just saying IF they did, you'd see a difference in male pattern behaviour.
The reverse is true too. Women would give men more attention if the men made the effort to appeal. As it is, many seem to think it's a case of flopping out 10 pictures of their cock, taken from slightly different angles, sending a hi message to every woman within 100 miles and waiting for the queue to form.
If men aren't getting the results they want, it's up to them to change rather than expecting the women to change.
You could easily say the same the other way around, women who aren't getting the results they want could change rather than expecting men to change. There's no gender that's right or wrong, we are both just wired completely differently. "
It's the men who aren't getting what they want though and are moaning about not getting laid and acting increasingly desperate.
It's no skin off our nose if blokes expect waving their willies about will get them laid and are disappointed. |
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You could easily say the same the other way around, women who aren't getting the results they want could change rather than expecting men to change. There's no gender that's right or wrong, we are both just wired completely differently. "
But women are generally getting what they want - so why would they change?
Also - 'gender' doesn't mean a fixed behaviour. You don't have to do things just because your 'gender' says you have to. |
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"Basically, in short, men act the way they do because women don't act the same way. If women had more of a 'fancy a fuck?' mentality, I think you'd be surprised at the difference in approach from men. There would be less of a need to chase and pursue, hence probably more relaxed and not as fixated on instant sexual gratification. Not saying women SHOULD act this way, by the way. Just saying IF they did, you'd see a difference in male pattern behaviour.
The reverse is true too. Women would give men more attention if the men made the effort to appeal. As it is, many seem to think it's a case of flopping out 10 pictures of their cock, taken from slightly different angles, sending a hi message to every woman within 100 miles and waiting for the queue to form.
If men aren't getting the results they want, it's up to them to change rather than expecting the women to change.
You could easily say the same the other way around, women who aren't getting the results they want could change rather than expecting men to change. There's no gender that's right or wrong, we are both just wired completely differently.
It's the men who aren't getting what they want though and are moaning about not getting laid and acting increasingly desperate.
It's no skin off our nose if blokes expect waving their willies about will get them laid and are disappointed."
Not true, I've seen many women on here moaning that they haven't had sex in such a long time and that they find it tough on here. |
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"Basically, in short, men act the way they do because women don't act the same way. If women had more of a 'fancy a fuck?' mentality, I think you'd be surprised at the difference in approach from men. There would be less of a need to chase and pursue, hence probably more relaxed and not as fixated on instant sexual gratification. Not saying women SHOULD act this way, by the way. Just saying IF they did, you'd see a difference in male pattern behaviour.
The reverse is true too. Women would give men more attention if the men made the effort to appeal. As it is, many seem to think it's a case of flopping out 10 pictures of their cock, taken from slightly different angles, sending a hi message to every woman within 100 miles and waiting for the queue to form.
If men aren't getting the results they want, it's up to them to change rather than expecting the women to change.
You could easily say the same the other way around, women who aren't getting the results they want could change rather than expecting men to change. There's no gender that's right or wrong, we are both just wired completely differently.
It's the men who aren't getting what they want though and are moaning about not getting laid and acting increasingly desperate.
It's no skin off our nose if blokes expect waving their willies about will get them laid and are disappointed."
Yes you're right, but these guys are the ones that get increasingly desperate and insult, abuse or act like entitled assholes. Then that does wind you up! |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"Basically, in short, men act the way they do because women don't act the same way. If women had more of a 'fancy a fuck?' mentality, I think you'd be surprised at the difference in approach from men. There would be less of a need to chase and pursue, hence probably more relaxed and not as fixated on instant sexual gratification. Not saying women SHOULD act this way, by the way. Just saying IF they did, you'd see a difference in male pattern behaviour.
The reverse is true too. Women would give men more attention if the men made the effort to appeal. As it is, many seem to think it's a case of flopping out 10 pictures of their cock, taken from slightly different angles, sending a hi message to every woman within 100 miles and waiting for the queue to form.
If men aren't getting the results they want, it's up to them to change rather than expecting the women to change.
You could easily say the same the other way around, women who aren't getting the results they want could change rather than expecting men to change. There's no gender that's right or wrong, we are both just wired completely differently.
It's the men who aren't getting what they want though and are moaning about not getting laid and acting increasingly desperate.
It's no skin off our nose if blokes expect waving their willies about will get them laid and are disappointed.
Not true, I've seen many women on here moaning that they haven't had sex in such a long time and that they find it tough on here."
Then they shouldn't rely solely on here for their sex life.
It may also be that they find it tough to find meets they can fit around their home life, or similar. It's not necessarily that they're not getting messages from people who interest them.
If you're suggesting they lower their standards to get that sex, I couldn't disagree more. |
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over a year ago
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"Basically, in short, men act the way they do because women don't act the same way. If women had more of a 'fancy a fuck?' mentality, I think you'd be surprised at the difference in approach from men. There would be less of a need to chase and pursue, hence probably more relaxed and not as fixated on instant sexual gratification. Not saying women SHOULD act this way, by the way. Just saying IF they did, you'd see a difference in male pattern behaviour.
The reverse is true too. Women would give men more attention if the men made the effort to appeal. As it is, many seem to think it's a case of flopping out 10 pictures of their cock, taken from slightly different angles, sending a hi message to every woman within 100 miles and waiting for the queue to form.
If men aren't getting the results they want, it's up to them to change rather than expecting the women to change.
You could easily say the same the other way around, women who aren't getting the results they want could change rather than expecting men to change. There's no gender that's right or wrong, we are both just wired completely differently.
It's the men who aren't getting what they want though and are moaning about not getting laid and acting increasingly desperate.
It's no skin off our nose if blokes expect waving their willies about will get them laid and are disappointed.
Yes you're right, but these guys are the ones that get increasingly desperate and insult, abuse or act like entitled assholes. Then that does wind you up!"
So we should fuck them even though they've made no effort to appeal to us, just so they don't behave worse and wind us up?
Er, no. I think I'll stick with the block button, thanks all the same! |
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"Basically, in short, men act the way they do because women don't act the same way. If women had more of a 'fancy a fuck?' mentality, I think you'd be surprised at the difference in approach from men. There would be less of a need to chase and pursue, hence probably more relaxed and not as fixated on instant sexual gratification. Not saying women SHOULD act this way, by the way. Just saying IF they did, you'd see a difference in male pattern behaviour.
The reverse is true too. Women would give men more attention if the men made the effort to appeal. As it is, many seem to think it's a case of flopping out 10 pictures of their cock, taken from slightly different angles, sending a hi message to every woman within 100 miles and waiting for the queue to form.
If men aren't getting the results they want, it's up to them to change rather than expecting the women to change.
You could easily say the same the other way around, women who aren't getting the results they want could change rather than expecting men to change. There's no gender that's right or wrong, we are both just wired completely differently.
It's the men who aren't getting what they want though and are moaning about not getting laid and acting increasingly desperate.
It's no skin off our nose if blokes expect waving their willies about will get them laid and are disappointed.
Not true, I've seen many women on here moaning that they haven't had sex in such a long time and that they find it tough on here.
Then they shouldn't rely solely on here for their sex life.
It may also be that they find it tough to find meets they can fit around their home life, or similar. It's not necessarily that they're not getting messages from people who interest them.
If you're suggesting they lower their standards to get that sex, I couldn't disagree more."
Not suggesting anything, I'm just saying women find it just as frustrating on this site as men do. |
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"Basically, in short, men act the way they do because women don't act the same way. If women had more of a 'fancy a fuck?' mentality, I think you'd be surprised at the difference in approach from men. There would be less of a need to chase and pursue, hence probably more relaxed and not as fixated on instant sexual gratification. Not saying women SHOULD act this way, by the way. Just saying IF they did, you'd see a difference in male pattern behaviour.
The reverse is true too. Women would give men more attention if the men made the effort to appeal. As it is, many seem to think it's a case of flopping out 10 pictures of their cock, taken from slightly different angles, sending a hi message to every woman within 100 miles and waiting for the queue to form.
If men aren't getting the results they want, it's up to them to change rather than expecting the women to change.
You could easily say the same the other way around, women who aren't getting the results they want could change rather than expecting men to change. There's no gender that's right or wrong, we are both just wired completely differently.
It's the men who aren't getting what they want though and are moaning about not getting laid and acting increasingly desperate.
It's no skin off our nose if blokes expect waving their willies about will get them laid and are disappointed.
Yes you're right, but these guys are the ones that get increasingly desperate and insult, abuse or act like entitled assholes. Then that does wind you up!
So we should fuck them even though they've made no effort to appeal to us, just so they don't behave worse and wind us up?
Er, no. I think I'll stick with the block button, thanks all the same!"
I'm not saying that, just that its precisely these guts that behave that way. You should ignore them, hopefully they'll piss off and leave the site |
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Not suggesting anything, I'm just saying women find it just as frustrating on this site as men do."
The forums on this site suggest a general trend to the contrary. |
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Simple numbers. A certain percentage of either will play with married. If only 5 % of men will play with married women....then there are still multiple men to each woman.
If 100% of women would play with married men...then there would still be many men to each woman.
There is a different attitude also....but that's not the biggest difference,
One of my most regular playmates is married and playing as a single. But her hubby knows and is fine with it. Has even waved us off when I have taken her to clubs etc... |
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"i cant see a diference from being desperate than super horne tho, maibe some like sex more than othrrs so it looks like bding desperate but isnt.
I like sex FUCKING LOADS. I mean, I really like sex. I usually have sex two-three times a day.
But when my nesting partner is away on business for two weeks I'm not so fixated on it that I have to go out and have it with random people two-three times a day.
You can go without sex. Trust me. You won't die or anything, even if you really enjoy it."
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"It's quote possible I'm wrong, I'll happily admit that. However, I would say two things in defence of my position.
1) It's very easy to be morally superior when it doesn't cost you anything, which is exactly the position single women are in here.
2) The number of single female profiles I see which openly admit they're cheating suggests that women overall are just as happy with the idea as men are - unless you think they're hypocritical enough to think it only counts as cheating when it's a man doing it?
What would it cost men not to meet women who are cheating? Nothing but a shag.
That's the difference; a lot of men here are so desperate for a shag they'll overlook pretty much anything.
There may be a lot of men on here but it's probably still harder than you think for women to find and arrange suitable meets.
The funny thing is, if so many men weren't so desperate on here, there would probably be more women.
As for women being as happy about cheating as men, the ones that are cheating themselves may be, but they probably aren't the ones who judge male cheats and don't want to meet them.i cant see a diference from being desperate than super horne tho, maibe some like sex more than othrrs so it looks like bding desperate but isnt.
I can be super horny without feeling the need to message every man within 100 miles with photos of my fanny and being willing to meet anyone that replies.
It's possible to be super horny without behaving desperately.
Desperation is obvious a mile off and is a major turn off."
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