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By *ackspop OP   Couple  over a year ago

Wymondham

Anyone look at profiles and think that the other people are perhaps too "good" for them? Whether its looks, body shape, cock size, whatever; do you do this? And so following on from that, have you ever gone for it anyway? Punched well above your weight and had a meet with someone you thought was well out of your league. Curious to hear your stories. Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I try not to think that way. Not out of arrogance but out of respect for the people I do message. Might sound silly but I'd hate to think I was only chatting because someone better was out of my league.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I try not to think that way. Not out of arrogance but out of respect for the people I do message. Might sound silly but I'd hate to think I was only chatting because someone better was out of my league."

*anyone to think.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

All my life i've always thought everyone was out of my league. Had proper gorgeous guys ask me out and thought they were taking the piss or something (was worse when i was at school actually, even if not gorgeous guys asked me out i thought they were taking the piss). I don't think i was normal though?

Eventually i ended up with a dickhead, thought he was good enough for me, put up with his crap, had kids with him, realised i was better than him for sure and left him. Never looked at another guy for about 18 months, and even when i met my next partner i wasn't looking or sure i wanted to be with anyone. He was very patient, he boosted me up with real love, he made me feel good about myself and that it was ok to be me.

I don't think anyone is out of anyones league, sure they might not fancy you from first sight but you never know. It's not just looks that make people attractive, it's the whole package. I definitely don't have a type, when it comes to looks, some guys i like them more once we've been chatting a while and some guys i like less. And this is just for sex, never mind anything long term.

And that is my life story...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Yes all the time, I look at guys daily and think...he'd never like me...I don't mail guys I don't think would be interested in me

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Wtf is "out of someone's league"? What is punching above your weight ffs?

How shallow...there really is no such thing....just people's preferences.

If you or anyone has such a low opinion of yourself then why are you here?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Wtf is "out of someone's league"? What is punching above your weight ffs?

How shallow...there really is no such thing....just people's preferences.

If you or anyone has such a low opinion of yourself then why are you here?"

Does not mean I have a low opinion of myself just because I can look at a guy and know he can do better than me, its about being realistic, if a guy is good looking with a good body and can clearly get good looking women why would he reply to me

I think you need a chill pill

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Yes a few times I've had messages off guys I thought would be too hot for me but after sending face pics they still chatted. So on that basis I've carried on chatting with them. Not all resulted in meets as good looks is no guarantee of good personality. But a couple turned into very hot meets

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Wtf is "out of someone's league"? What is punching above your weight ffs?

How shallow...there really is no such thing....just people's preferences.

If you or anyone has such a low opinion of yourself then why are you here?"

Just a bit harsh, just ppls opinion !!!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Same here I look at womens profile daily and think no she wouldn't like me neither she no daubt cos by a having a 6pack lol That's why I am single

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

nope,

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Wtf is "out of someone's league"? What is punching above your weight ffs?

How shallow...there really is no such thing....just people's preferences.

If you or anyone has such a low opinion of yourself then why are you here?"

yes there is,thats life

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By *thletic Fella!!Man  over a year ago

Wigan

Yes I've felt that loads have been out of my league. Messaged them anyway, turns out I was right lol.

On the flip side, I messaged lots that I thought where 'in' my league, turns out I wasn't in theirs apparently lol.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I'm becoming more confident. Slowly.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

We look at some profiles and go wow Jesus they won't be interested in us, then we have a think a say stuff it let's have go anyway and send a message and guess what?......

They are NOT interested in us

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Yes I've felt that loads have been out of my league. Messaged them anyway, turns out I was right lol.

On the flip side, I messaged lots that I thought where 'in' my league, turns out I wasn't in theirs apparently lol.

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Lol know the feeling, damned if you do and all that

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I have never had a reply to anyone I mailed first ever, from this I conclude that guys I like enough to mail first don't like me so there most deffinatly is such a thing as being out of someomes league

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Yes all the time, I look at guys daily and think...he'd never like me...I don't mail guys I don't think would be interested in me"

I think it happens quite a bit to both sexes. I'm not sure if it is that people are out of the league so to speak or stuck up themselves.. You shouldn't be having this problem cod you look top drawer anyway..

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

funny how you get called full of yerself n stuck up,if you say no thanks,,hey ho

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Ho hey.. I can see where you are coming from with that but that's how it can seem at times

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"funny how you get called full of yerself n stuck up,if you say no thanks,,hey ho "

I laugh at those. If only they knew.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"funny how you get called full of yerself n stuck up,if you say no thanks,,hey ho

I laugh at those. If only they knew. "

Touché

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Ho hey.. I can see where you are coming from with that but that's how it can seem at times "

you say ho hey I say hey ho,ho hey hey ho,,,lets call the whole thing off

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Ho hey.. I can see where you are coming from with that but that's how it can seem at times

you say ho hey I say hey ho,ho hey hey ho,,,lets call the whole thing off "

Oh it's off already.. You are dumped.. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Pretty much all the time... We constantly look at profiles and think "never in a million years would you even look twice at us..." And pass them by.

But sadly there's a lot of egos here too that have made us feel that way. We strictly don't go for certain profile types because of this fact.

But anybody that messages us is always considered we just don't feel like many people would even want to look out way when there's such stunners on here! C x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Ho hey.. I can see where you are coming from with that but that's how it can seem at times

you say ho hey I say hey ho,ho hey hey ho,,,lets call the whole thing off

Oh it's off already.. You are dumped.. Lol"

in yer dreams,,im just too good for ya

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Pretty much all the time... We constantly look at profiles and think "never in a million years would you even look twice at us..." And pass them by.

But sadly there's a lot of egos here too that have made us feel that way. We strictly don't go for certain profile types because of this fact.

But anybody that messages us is always considered we just don't feel like many people would even want to look out way when there's such stunners on here! C x"

Nowt uglier than the insides.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Haha

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Pretty much all the time... We constantly look at profiles and think "never in a million years would you even look twice at us..." And pass them by.

But sadly there's a lot of egos here too that have made us feel that way. We strictly don't go for certain profile types because of this fact.

But anybody that messages us is always considered we just don't feel like many people would even want to look out way when there's such stunners on here! C x"

I mean that towards the nasty up their arse shit heads.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I've had a glass of wine. ..Hic.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Pretty much all the time... We constantly look at profiles and think "never in a million years would you even look twice at us..." And pass them by.

But sadly there's a lot of egos here too that have made us feel that way. We strictly don't go for certain profile types because of this fact.

But anybody that messages us is always considered we just don't feel like many people would even want to look out way when there's such stunners on here! C x"

I looked at your pics and first thought was no point trying lol

Even though there's one women on here I went to message a few times, but never did. In the end I plucked up the courage to and sent a face pic. Her reply was "your yummy" so maybe it's just in my head, I'm not sure

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I've had a glass of wine. ..Hic. "

That figures

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I've had a glass of wine. ..Hic. "

keep drinking n everyone starts lookin gorgeous

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I've had a glass of wine. ..Hic.

That figures"

Oi...good lookin'

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I've had a glass of wine. ..Hic.

keep drinking n everyone starts lookin gorgeous"

Too late.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I've had a glass of wine. ..Hic.

That figures

Oi...good lookin'"

se what I mean

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

It all depends on the person I suppose. I think we all have a touch of "they will never meet with me" in us but if its for sex I will give it a go, though I don't if you are looking for a long mindful relationship that's different.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I've had a glass of wine. ..Hic.

That figures

Oi...good lookin'

se what I mean "

I know....hahaha.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I have never had a reply to anyone I mailed first ever, from this I conclude that guys I like enough to mail first don't like me so there most deffinatly is such a thing as being out of someomes league "

You obviously forgot to message me! I would message back no problem.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Pretty much all the time... We constantly look at profiles and think "never in a million years would you even look twice at us..." And pass them by.

But sadly there's a lot of egos here too that have made us feel that way. We strictly don't go for certain profile types because of this fact.

But anybody that messages us is always considered we just don't feel like many people would even want to look out way when there's such stunners on here! C x

I mean that towards the nasty up their arse shit heads. "

We have received quite a few messages from men, couples, women and TVs telling us that we are ugly. Totally out of the blue with no prompt, no profile _iews, just some form of insult. Not too many thankfully.

But we have messaged people before feelig confident but knowing that really we don't stand a chance and have been told such lovely things as "haha, no chance" or "we go to the gym, give up the chips and maybe I'll pitty fuck you" or even the classic "fuck off no chance". I've got a looooong list of people who have just totally shot us down dead, after a nice polite, well written message was sent to them.

It's always to couples where the woman looks incredible and the guy is sporting a six pack... Make of that what you will. But because of that, we dont meet men with muscles or too much of a focus on being in shape. Sad C x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

A good quote from another thread was " why deny urself pleasure cos u can? " its so true that.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

when I was on another site someone very posh and good looking kept messaging me, I thought I wouldn't be good enough for him but I agreed to meet him in the end and was glad I did, he was very down to earth and not stuck up at all.

so most of the time I will meet them if they look good because they are nice people as well as attractive.

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By *lack nastyMan  over a year ago

Nuneaton/oxford

We are two of a kind I think that all the time maybe the reason why I always Mail the wrong ones

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By *nleashedCrakenMan  over a year ago

Widnes


"All my life i've always thought everyone was out of my league. Had proper gorgeous guys ask me out and thought they were taking the piss or something (was worse when i was at school actually, even if not gorgeous guys asked me out i thought they were taking the piss). I don't think i was normal though?

Eventually i ended up with a dickhead, thought he was good enough for me, put up with his crap, had kids with him, realised i was better than him for sure and left him. Never looked at another guy for about 18 months, and even when i met my next partner i wasn't looking or sure i wanted to be with anyone. He was very patient, he boosted me up with real love, he made me feel good about myself and that it was ok to be me.

I don't think anyone is out of anyones league, sure they might not fancy you from first sight but you never know. It's not just looks that make people attractive, it's the whole package. I definitely don't have a type, when it comes to looks, some guys i like them more once we've been chatting a while and some guys i like less. And this is just for sex, never mind anything long term.

And that is my life story... "

That's such a powerful contribution and so true to. It can take a lot to get over our won hang-ups some times. My admiration for you has gone up 100 times (even if, judging from other posts, we'll probably never agree about much else. )

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"A good quote from another thread was " why deny urself pleasure cos u can? " its so true that."

Eh shag you're getting all deep.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

And as for punching out of weight class no such thing. Look at rocky! He fought Ivan Drago and won. Aim for the moon people and if you miss you can just as easily hit a star! If you dont think your good enough just try and be a bit confident and you never know where you will end up.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"And as for punching out of weight class no such thing. Look at rocky! He fought Ivan Drago and won. Aim for the moon people and if you miss you can just as easily hit a star! If you dont think your good enough just try and be a bit confident and you never know where you will end up. "

I like that.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"A good quote from another thread was " why deny urself pleasure cos u can? " its so true that.

Eh shag you're getting all deep."

Yes I am there abit, but good saying tho x.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"And as for punching out of weight class no such thing. Look at rocky! He fought Ivan Drago and won. Aim for the moon people and if you miss you can just as easily hit a star! If you dont think your good enough just try and be a bit confident and you never know where you will end up. "

Knocked out?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"A good quote from another thread was " why deny urself pleasure cos u can? " its so true that.

Eh shag you're getting all deep.Yes I am there abit, but good saying tho x."

It is.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"And as for punching out of weight class no such thing. Look at rocky! He fought Ivan Drago and won. Aim for the moon people and if you miss you can just as easily hit a star! If you dont think your good enough just try and be a bit confident and you never know where you will end up.

Knocked out? "

Ha.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"All my life i've always thought everyone was out of my league. Had proper gorgeous guys ask me out and thought they were taking the piss or something (was worse when i was at school actually, even if not gorgeous guys asked me out i thought they were taking the piss). I don't think i was normal though?

Eventually i ended up with a dickhead, thought he was good enough for me, put up with his crap, had kids with him, realised i was better than him for sure and left him. Never looked at another guy for about 18 months, and even when i met my next partner i wasn't looking or sure i wanted to be with anyone. He was very patient, he boosted me up with real love, he made me feel good about myself and that it was ok to be me.

I don't think anyone is out of anyones league, sure they might not fancy you from first sight but you never know. It's not just looks that make people attractive, it's the whole package. I definitely don't have a type, when it comes to looks, some guys i like them more once we've been chatting a while and some guys i like less. And this is just for sex, never mind anything long term.

And that is my life story... "

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By *nleashedCrakenMan  over a year ago

Widnes


"Wtf is "out of someone's league"? What is punching above your weight ffs?

How shallow...there really is no such thing....just people's preferences.

If you or anyone has such a low opinion of yourself then why are you here?

Does not mean I have a low opinion of myself just because I can look at a guy and know he can do better than me, its about being realistic, if a guy is good looking with a good body and can clearly get good looking women why would he reply to me

"

Because you are actually pretty dam attractive. I've fabbed a few of your pics from looking before.

IF I saw you at any club or social I would definitely want to introduce myself and chat with you.


"

I think you need a chill pill "

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By *aul100Man  over a year ago

blackburn

I have an idea. We have fabswigers and fabguys. What about fab undateables lol

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Pretty much all the time... We constantly look at profiles and think "never in a million years would you even look twice at us..." And pass them by.

But sadly there's a lot of egos here too that have made us feel that way. We strictly don't go for certain profile types because of this fact.

But anybody that messages us is always considered we just don't feel like many people would even want to look out way when there's such stunners on here! C x"

I was at telford town centre last week and looked at yours as you were a couple of miles away..

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Wtf is "out of someone's league"? What is punching above your weight ffs?

How shallow...there really is no such thing....just people's preferences.

If you or anyone has such a low opinion of yourself then why are you here?

Does not mean I have a low opinion of myself just because I can look at a guy and know he can do better than me, its about being realistic, if a guy is good looking with a good body and can clearly get good looking women why would he reply to me

Because you are actually pretty dam attractive. I've fabbed a few of your pics from looking before.

IF I saw you at any club or social I would definitely want to introduce myself and chat with you.

I think you need a chill pill

"

Oh gawd.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"And as for punching out of weight class no such thing. Look at rocky! He fought Ivan Drago and won. Aim for the moon people and if you miss you can just as easily hit a star! If you dont think your good enough just try and be a bit confident and you never know where you will end up.

Knocked out? "

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"A good quote from another thread was " why deny urself pleasure cos u can? " its so true that.

Eh shag you're getting all deep.Yes I am there abit, but good saying tho x.

It is. "

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Pretty much all the time... We constantly look at profiles and think "never in a million years would you even look twice at us..." And pass them by.

But sadly there's a lot of egos here too that have made us feel that way. We strictly don't go for certain profile types because of this fact.

But anybody that messages us is always considered we just don't feel like many people would even want to look out way when there's such stunners on here! C x

I mean that towards the nasty up their arse shit heads.

We have received quite a few messages from men, couples, women and TVs telling us that we are ugly. Totally out of the blue with no prompt, no profile _iews, just some form of insult. Not too many thankfully.

But we have messaged people before feelig confident but knowing that really we don't stand a chance and have been told such lovely things as "haha, no chance" or "we go to the gym, give up the chips and maybe I'll pitty fuck you" or even the classic "fuck off no chance". I've got a looooong list of people who have just totally shot us down dead, after a nice polite, well written message was sent to them.

It's always to couples where the woman looks incredible and the guy is sporting a six pack... Make of that what you will. But because of that, we dont meet men with muscles or too much of a focus on being in shape. Sad C x"

We don't pull gym bunnies and don't have much interest in them, perhaps we are generalising but find them self absorbed, selfish and vain, such great character traits for swinging....not

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Pretty much all the time... We constantly look at profiles and think "never in a million years would you even look twice at us..." And pass them by.

But sadly there's a lot of egos here too that have made us feel that way. We strictly don't go for certain profile types because of this fact.

But anybody that messages us is always considered we just don't feel like many people would even want to look out way when there's such stunners on here! C x

I mean that towards the nasty up their arse shit heads.

We have received quite a few messages from men, couples, women and TVs telling us that we are ugly. Totally out of the blue with no prompt, no profile _iews, just some form of insult. Not too many thankfully.

But we have messaged people before feelig confident but knowing that really we don't stand a chance and have been told such lovely things as "haha, no chance" or "we go to the gym, give up the chips and maybe I'll pitty fuck you" or even the classic "fuck off no chance". I've got a looooong list of people who have just totally shot us down dead, after a nice polite, well written message was sent to them.

It's always to couples where the woman looks incredible and the guy is sporting a six pack... Make of that what you will. But because of that, we dont meet men with muscles or too much of a focus on being in shape. Sad C x

We don't pull gym bunnies and don't have much interest in them, perhaps we are generalising but find them self absorbed, selfish and vain, such great character traits for swinging....not"

Yes just generalising there as its not ur cup of tea, any peeps in any shape are swingers no matter if they got a 6pack or not lol.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Everybody I message with the intention of meeting, I think is above me in the Fab League table. That's why I'm in awe during my meets and make sure everyone involved has an awesome time.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"That's such a powerful contribution and so true to. It can take a lot to get over our won hang-ups some times. My admiration for you has gone up 100 times (even if, judging from other posts, we'll probably never agree about much else. ) "

Thanks. Wouldn't have got over anything if it wasn't for the that next guy i got with. All it took was for one person to show me i was lovable, and for me to understand that the way other people are isn't because of you it's because of them. He never said a bad word against me in all the time i've known him, even after we split up and he's always got my back (i have his too).

Having kids helped a lot as well, i realised i had to show my kids it's not ok to be treated like shit, i stopped that cycle of abuse and really proud of myself for doing so.

I never take debates or opinions seriously btw, i understand people don't agree on stuff and it's ok not to.

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By *L RogueMan  over a year ago

London

I don't think like that and I don't take any offence or get disheartened if someone doesn't want to know.

On a site like this, it's easy to think someone is amazing...until you meet them. Then it can go either way. You were exactly right or horribly wrong! A profile only show's you what that person wants you to see and you'll only take in what takes your fancy.

Keep an open mind and be happy and confident when approaching and being approached.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Hids was out of mine when I met her and she still is 14 years later

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

This has never happened to me

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I don't think like that and I don't take any offence or get disheartened if someone doesn't want to know.

On a site like this, it's easy to think someone is amazing...until you meet them. Then it can go either way. You were exactly right or horribly wrong! A profile only show's you what that person wants you to see and you'll only take in what takes your fancy.

Keep an open mind and be happy and confident when approaching and being approached. "

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

There are only so many no thanks, not a chance, straight deletes and blocks that people get before they start to put 2 and 2 together.

Even worse if all is going good on messages, then when pics are exchanged its a "sorry, no attraction"

Rejection of any kind is painful.

No one is obliged to reply or explain, I get that. But in the absence of any feedback, people will look to their own insecurities and draw conclusions.

Not everyone is comfortable in their own skin, or believe they are attractive. Some women (and men) may have had the confidence beaten out of them.

Some are at the beginning of their journey, so won't be confident. To say if you aren't confident, what are you doing here? I would argue that some are maybe seeking to gain confidence in a relatively safe and apparently non judgemental community.

Lots of people have a multitude of issues to deal with at home or in their heads. Some may have chosen here to try and sort it on some manner.

Leagues exist because of personal preferences. People choose to play with those they find attractive. When you are rejected by someone who percieve to be out of your league, it reaffirms the existence of leagues and helps to cement your position in the lower leagues.

A complex issue with no cleat cut answer.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

You have nothing to lose by sending a message, other than the time it took to type. There are some less fortunate than others in the looks department, but their personality more than makes up for that. Personally, I'd rather be meeting with average looking people than the gorgeous ones. My own experience is that a lot of them are too into themselves and their looks to give a hoot about anyone else, far too shallow to hold a halfway decent conversation and while I am here for some adult fun, the social side, for me anyway, is important. If it was a quick shag I wanted, there are far easier ways of going about it than being on Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"This has never happened to me "

I bet it hasn't..

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple  over a year ago

Brighton

Dont think anyone is out of our league, it's a bit of a crap way to approach things.

Many people not to our taste, but that's a different thing altogether and I wonder if it's getting mixed up here.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Yes definitely...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

We think this too regularly "omg why are they messaging us they'd get much better ect." And when you see a party list and think wow I can't go to that look at us compared to them hotties....but once you overcome that and get chatting or meet them it's less of an issue cos some are really not for you anyway and some are fantastic people who don't judge by what they see on here but what kind of person you are as a whole x

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By *nleashedCrakenMan  over a year ago

Widnes


"Pretty much all the time... We constantly look at profiles and think "never in a million years would you even look twice at us..." And pass them by.

But sadly there's a lot of egos here too that have made us feel that way. We strictly don't go for certain profile types because of this fact.

But anybody that messages us is always considered we just don't feel like many people would even want to look out way when there's such stunners on here! C x

I mean that towards the nasty up their arse shit heads.

We have received quite a few messages from men, couples, women and TVs telling us that we are ugly. Totally out of the blue with no prompt, no profile _iews, just some form of insult. Not too many thankfully.

But we have messaged people before feelig confident but knowing that really we don't stand a chance and have been told such lovely things as "haha, no chance" or "we go to the gym, give up the chips and maybe I'll pitty fuck you" or even the classic "fuck off no chance". I've got a looooong list of people who have just totally shot us down dead, after a nice polite, well written message was sent to them.

It's always to couples where the woman looks incredible and the guy is sporting a six pack... Make of that what you will. But because of that, we dont meet men with muscles or too much of a focus on being in shape. Sad C x"

I have to say I'm totally staggered by this. Did you tell them they need to go to spec savers when they sent those replies. I don't believe it. You sure you're not just making this up to get us guys to go look at your profile and then tell you how bloody hot, gorgeous and totally sexy you really look. LOL

The world has gone totally mad!!!

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By *iewMan  over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

No

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"This has never happened to me

I bet it hasn't.. "

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By *andybeachWoman  over a year ago

In the middle

I get mail off some seriously hot sexy young guys but I just have this thing in my head that stops me meeting anyone who wouldn't give me 2 glances in the real world

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Pretty much all the time... We constantly look at profiles and think "never in a million years would you even look twice at us..." And pass them by.

But sadly there's a lot of egos here too that have made us feel that way. We strictly don't go for certain profile types because of this fact.

But anybody that messages us is always considered we just don't feel like many people would even want to look out way when there's such stunners on here! C x

I mean that towards the nasty up their arse shit heads.

We have received quite a few messages from men, couples, women and TVs telling us that we are ugly. Totally out of the blue with no prompt, no profile _iews, just some form of insult. Not too many thankfully.

But we have messaged people before feelig confident but knowing that really we don't stand a chance and have been told such lovely things as "haha, no chance" or "we go to the gym, give up the chips and maybe I'll pitty fuck you" or even the classic "fuck off no chance". I've got a looooong list of people who have just totally shot us down dead, after a nice polite, well written message was sent to them.

It's always to couples where the woman looks incredible and the guy is sporting a six pack... Make of that what you will. But because of that, we dont meet men with muscles or too much of a focus on being in shape. Sad C x

I have to say I'm totally staggered by this. Did you tell them they need to go to spec savers when they sent those replies. I don't believe it. You sure you're not just making this up to get us guys to go look at your profile and then tell you how bloody hot, gorgeous and totally sexy you really look. LOL

The world has gone totally mad!!! "

Our thoughts too!!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Pretty much all the time... We constantly look at profiles and think "never in a million years would you even look twice at us..." And pass them by.

But sadly there's a lot of egos here too that have made us feel that way. We strictly don't go for certain profile types because of this fact.

But anybody that messages us is always considered we just don't feel like many people would even want to look out way when there's such stunners on here! C x

I mean that towards the nasty up their arse shit heads.

We have received quite a few messages from men, couples, women and TVs telling us that we are ugly. Totally out of the blue with no prompt, no profile _iews, just some form of insult. Not too many thankfully.

But we have messaged people before feelig confident but knowing that really we don't stand a chance and have been told such lovely things as "haha, no chance" or "we go to the gym, give up the chips and maybe I'll pitty fuck you" or even the classic "fuck off no chance". I've got a looooong list of people who have just totally shot us down dead, after a nice polite, well written message was sent to them.

It's always to couples where the woman looks incredible and the guy is sporting a six pack... Make of that what you will. But because of that, we dont meet men with muscles or too much of a focus on being in shape. Sad C x

I have to say I'm totally staggered by this. Did you tell them they need to go to spec savers when they sent those replies. I don't believe it. You sure you're not just making this up to get us guys to go look at your profile and then tell you how bloody hot, gorgeous and totally sexy you really look. LOL

The world has gone totally mad!!! "

I have this sort of message all the time,, not sure why if people think these things they can't just pass you by, but I guess it makes some feel good to put others down, ive never been told to give up chips though, more eat chips,, to who you have replied, I block and think, would I have really anyway ,, I'm sure you do fine with out the knob heads anyway x

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By *nleashedCrakenMan  over a year ago

Widnes


"This has never happened to me "

A lot of people might think you were out of their league. Personally I don't. It's just that I'm out of your age range. LOL

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By *ngelsdevilWoman  over a year ago

Merseyside

I don't generally send 1st messages as I'm aware bbw's aren't everyone's cup of tea, so yeah I suppose I do hold back!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"This has never happened to me

A lot of people might think you were out of their league. Personally I don't. It's just that I'm out of your age range. LOL "

Haha age is but a number ,, it's the cock size that matters to me,, ,,

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By *nleashedCrakenMan  over a year ago

Widnes


"You have nothing to lose by sending a message, other than the time it took to type. There are some less fortunate than others in the looks department, but their personality more than makes up for that. Personally, I'd rather be meeting with average looking people than the gorgeous ones. My own experience is that a lot of them are too into themselves and their looks to give a hoot about anyone else, far too shallow to hold a halfway decent conversation and while I am here for some adult fun, the social side, for me anyway, is important. If it was a quick shag I wanted, there are far easier ways of going about it than being on Fab."

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By *nleashedCrakenMan  over a year ago

Widnes


"This has never happened to me

A lot of people might think you were out of their league. Personally I don't. It's just that I'm out of your age range. LOL

Haha age is but a number ,, it's the cock size that matters to me,, ,, "

Well I couldn't possibly show you that in the forums but if you asked me nicely in a message I might be able to help.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I'm very aware of this, particularly when I get approached by guys who are very handsome AND physically fit and muscular.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"This has never happened to me

A lot of people might think you were out of their league. Personally I don't. It's just that I'm out of your age range. LOL

Haha age is but a number ,, it's the cock size that matters to me,, ,,

Well I couldn't possibly show you that in the forums but if you asked me nicely in a message I might be able to help. "

Anyways I didn't think any of us were in a league,, , we are all here for fun, and I'm sure everyone gets that after trawling through the fake and time wasters,, the way I see it every hole is a goal,, and if you don't ask you certainly can't expect to get

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"This has never happened to me

A lot of people might think you were out of their league. Personally I don't. It's just that I'm out of your age range. LOL

Haha age is but a number ,, it's the cock size that matters to me,, ,,

Well I couldn't possibly show you that in the forums but if you asked me nicely in a message I might be able to help.

Anyways I didn't think any of us were in a league,, , we are all here for fun, and I'm sure everyone gets that after trawling through the fake and time wasters,, the way I see it every hole is a goal,, and if you don't ask you certainly can't expect to get"

Every hole is a goal?

Oh my.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"This has never happened to me

A lot of people might think you were out of their league. Personally I don't. It's just that I'm out of your age range. LOL

Haha age is but a number ,, it's the cock size that matters to me,, ,,

Well I couldn't possibly show you that in the forums but if you asked me nicely in a message I might be able to help.

Anyways I didn't think any of us were in a league,, , we are all here for fun, and I'm sure everyone gets that after trawling through the fake and time wasters,, the way I see it every hole is a goal,, and if you don't ask you certainly can't expect to get

Every hole is a goal?

Oh my.

"

Don't you fancy trying my strap on ??

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"This has never happened to me

A lot of people might think you were out of their league. Personally I don't. It's just that I'm out of your age range. LOL

Haha age is but a number ,, it's the cock size that matters to me,, ,,

Well I couldn't possibly show you that in the forums but if you asked me nicely in a message I might be able to help.

Anyways I didn't think any of us were in a league,, , we are all here for fun, and I'm sure everyone gets that after trawling through the fake and time wasters,, the way I see it every hole is a goal,, and if you don't ask you certainly can't expect to get

Every hole is a goal?

Oh my.

Don't you fancy trying my strap on ?? "

Hahaha. Erm

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By *nleashedCrakenMan  over a year ago

Widnes


"This has never happened to me

A lot of people might think you were out of their league. Personally I don't. It's just that I'm out of your age range. LOL

Haha age is but a number ,, it's the cock size that matters to me,, ,,

Well I couldn't possibly show you that in the forums but if you asked me nicely in a message I might be able to help.

Anyways I didn't think any of us were in a league,, , we are all here for fun, and I'm sure everyone gets that after trawling through the fake and time wasters,, the way I see it every hole is a goal,, and if you don't ask you certainly can't expect to get

Every hole is a goal?

Oh my.

"

xxxx xxxx

Nothing more to say really. !!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"This has never happened to me

A lot of people might think you were out of their league. Personally I don't. It's just that I'm out of your age range. LOL

Haha age is but a number ,, it's the cock size that matters to me,, ,,

Well I couldn't possibly show you that in the forums but if you asked me nicely in a message I might be able to help.

Anyways I didn't think any of us were in a league,, , we are all here for fun, and I'm sure everyone gets that after trawling through the fake and time wasters,, the way I see it every hole is a goal,, and if you don't ask you certainly can't expect to get

Every hole is a goal?

Oh my.

xxxx xxxx

Nothing more to say really. !!"

Hush you.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"This has never happened to me

A lot of people might think you were out of their league. Personally I don't. It's just that I'm out of your age range. LOL

Haha age is but a number ,, it's the cock size that matters to me,, ,,

Well I couldn't possibly show you that in the forums but if you asked me nicely in a message I might be able to help.

Anyways I didn't think any of us were in a league,, , we are all here for fun, and I'm sure everyone gets that after trawling through the fake and time wasters,, the way I see it every hole is a goal,, and if you don't ask you certainly can't expect to get

Every hole is a goal?

Oh my.

xxxx xxxx

Nothing more to say really. !!

Hush you."

Hehe,,, well can't say I didn't ask,,

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I have to say I'm totally staggered by this. Did you tell them they need to go to spec savers when they sent those replies. I don't believe it. You sure you're not just making this up to get us guys to go look at your profile and then tell you how bloody hot, gorgeous and totally sexy you really look. LOL

The world has gone totally mad!!! "

No totally serious, feel free to NOT check our profile people!

As was said just now, theres just some people here (and if life really) who only feel good about themselves when they think they are "better" than you. Its totally sad C x

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By *nleashedCrakenMan  over a year ago

Widnes


"This has never happened to me

A lot of people might think you were out of their league. Personally I don't. It's just that I'm out of your age range. LOL

Haha age is but a number ,, it's the cock size that matters to me,, ,,

Well I couldn't possibly show you that in the forums but if you asked me nicely in a message I might be able to help.

Anyways I didn't think any of us were in a league,, , we are all here for fun, and I'm sure everyone gets that after trawling through the fake and time wasters,, the way I see it every hole is a goal,, and if you don't ask you certainly can't expect to get

Every hole is a goal?

Oh my.

xxxx xxxx

Nothing more to say really. !!

Hush you."

I've just discovered something and I'm really, really upset by it.

Sorry. I didn't realize.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

WE Think that all the time , we sort of think we know our limits , we don't e-mail them as we think we will get a "NOT WHAT WERE LOOKING FOR " E-mail

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By *ipsTeaserCouple  over a year ago

here and there, thereabouts

Both bugs and I feel that there are people who would be out of our 'league' in as much as we would not be what they look for.

Some we wouldnt approach, others we may do only if there was a common interest as nothing ventured nothing gained.

It has taken me a very long time to learn to love myself and accept compliments people pay me, after some bad experienceso in my past.I am still learning to be confident in my body and in my sexual 'ability'. Bugs has played a massive part in building that confidence.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman  over a year ago

little house on the praire

I don't really message guys first, I have no idea why think its to do with my upbringing as its not fear of rejection.

But if a guy messages me I don't question it as I've always got up-to-date photos on and if he didn't like the look of me he wouldn't message me and I've met some lovely guys

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By *oxy_minxWoman  over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I find it hard finding men I want to message first mainly very little text and no pics.

If I found someone, I wouldn't hesitate to message them, the worst they can say is no

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I used to.

Now I've more self-confidence after meeting and chatting with some of the sexiest and most attractive people on Fab.

Now I just relax, don't pretend, and if we like each other; then that's just great.

I tend to chat in the forums anyway, which is a great leveller for everyone.

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By *ethnmelvCouple  over a year ago

Cardiff

We were a bag of nerves when we started and expected nothing and nobody, but once we got used to Clubs and saying no when we wanted to & giving it a go otherwise, we realised that attraction varies so much. Now we go and have fun together and if we click with somebody, then we play. Its much easier when you meet people and see real smiles and sexy eyes!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

B here. Yes, I feel as if I'm fighting a losing battle sometimes - with myself.

I was a bigger lady but have lost 4 stone but still see myself as a bigger woman. Even though my clothes say otherwise. Therefore if I'm reading a profile and it says 'no fatties' for example, that instantly stops me there. For 2 reasons though. First although I'm not fat (size 12) my head says I still am so they wouldn't meet us. Then the other bit of my brain kicks in and says 'shallow gits' about them. If they wouldn't meet us because of my size then, why would we be interested in meeting them now I'm thinner. If we weren't good enough then, tough.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Dont think anyone is out of our league, it's a bit of a crap way to approach things.

Many people not to our taste, but that's a different thing altogether and I wonder if it's getting mixed up here."

I don't mail people that I know I won't be their type. Clubs are different as it's easy to read body language.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I struggle with the age thing. I just can't figure why a young couple/bi woman would go for an older woman rather than someone of their own age.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

We look at profiles and think they are way out of our league, we know we are not everybody's cup of tea, and it's usually obvious when your batting above your avarage

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I struggle with the age thing. I just can't figure why a young couple/bi woman would go for an older woman rather than someone of their own age. "

Because you're stunning...? From what I can see anyway! C x

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By *B9 QueenWoman  over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Anyone look at profiles and think that the other people are perhaps too "good" for them? Whether its looks, body shape, cock size, whatever; do you do this? And so following on from that, have you ever gone for it anyway? Punched well above your weight and had a meet with someone you thought was well out of your league. Curious to hear your stories. Thank you."

No. I go for people I'm interested in. If they're not interested in me then I just move on. I never think they were too good for me. The question actually puzzles me.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I struggle with the age thing. I just can't figure why a young couple/bi woman would go for an older woman rather than someone of their own age. "

when i was young(er) i always went for older guys. they were better in bed for a start, plus more interesting to chat with and go out with.

i know you're not a guy but i can understand it because i was the same way.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Age for me be between 18 to 97 and your fine

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I always think this too

But I guess its just peoples preferences. The guys/couples that blatantly think they are in some sort of 'elite league' aren't for us anyway.....

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I don't have the _iew that anyone's out of my league, they might not fancy me but that's a different concept.

On here I think it's pretty much a level playing field,if you like the look of someone message them, you have nothing to lose.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Yes all the time, I look at guys daily and think...he'd never like me...I don't mail guys I don't think would be interested in me"

Nor do I and when I look at the guys in my age range that have looked at me, I realise why they haven't messaged me. I'm out of theirs

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Stunning....grr.

Fucks me off.

Fecking shh.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I do sometimes and feel a little inadequate especially when you send a face pic and your ignored or blocked. A polite no thank you works wonders. Still my nickname is galenx

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I reckon most women would enjoy sex with me were I given the chance, however, there are obviously plenty of boxes you have to tick prior to getting into bed with someone, and sadly I'm not compatible with a lot of people (or them me) in that way.

For example, a girl could be a real party lover and socialiser who's all about interacting with many people at once and craves excitement and wild times. In terms of our characters I very much doubt someone like that would ever enjoy my heavy and intense company, even if she might enjoy what it feels like sexually - we just wouldn't get that far.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I reckon most women would enjoy sex with me were I given the chance, however, there are obviously plenty of boxes you have to tick prior to getting into bed with someone, and sadly I'm not compatible with a lot of people (or them me) in that way.

For example, a girl could be a real party lover and socialiser who's all about interacting with many people at once and craves excitement and wild times. In terms of our characters I very much doubt someone like that would ever enjoy my heavy and intense company, even if she might enjoy what it feels like sexually - we just wouldn't get that far."

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I don't really message guys first, I have no idea why think its to do with my upbringing as its not fear of rejection.

But if a guy messages me I don't question it as I've always got up-to-date photos on and if he didn't like the look of me he wouldn't message me and I've met some lovely guys"

I never message guys first....probably my warped _iew but I think if a guy messages me then I know that they are genuinely interested. If I sent one first and he replied, I'd think he was only being polite and didn't really like me.

Is that weird?!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I get mail off some seriously hot sexy young guys but I just have this thing in my head that stops me meeting anyone who wouldn't give me 2 glances in the real world "

why should you not enjoy the moment of looking at some hot young guy on top of you. It's only sex get out of it what turns you on. Sod the real world. Get them messages answered girl have fun be confident and enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I don't really message guys first, I have no idea why think its to do with my upbringing as its not fear of rejection.

But if a guy messages me I don't question it as I've always got up-to-date photos on and if he didn't like the look of me he wouldn't message me and I've met some lovely guys

I never message guys first....probably my warped _iew but I think if a guy messages me then I know that they are genuinely interested. If I sent one first and he replied, I'd think he was only being polite and didn't really like me.

Is that weird?!"

I Message men all the time. Mostly to challenge them.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I struggle with the age thing. I just can't figure why a young couple/bi woman would go for an older woman rather than someone of their own age. "

Because you are stunning.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Anyone look at profiles and think that the other people are perhaps too "good" for them? Whether its looks, body shape, cock size, whatever; do you do this? And so following on from that, have you ever gone for it anyway? Punched well above your weight and had a meet with someone you thought was well out of your league. Curious to hear your stories. Thank you."

No, never.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I struggle with the age thing. I just can't figure why a young couple/bi woman would go for an older woman rather than someone of their own age.

Because you are stunning."

Christ. This use of stunning.

It's tiresome. I

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By *ancs MinxWoman  over a year ago

Burnley


"I don't really message guys first, I have no idea why think its to do with my upbringing as its not fear of rejection.

But if a guy messages me I don't question it as I've always got up-to-date photos on and if he didn't like the look of me he wouldn't message me and I've met some lovely guys

I never message guys first....probably my warped _iew but I think if a guy messages me then I know that they are genuinely interested. If I sent one first and he replied, I'd think he was only being polite and didn't really like me.

Is that weird?!"

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

No offence to the recipient.

It's lame.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Feral, I would actually say your arse is stunning in those pics. Can't see much of anything else though so can't comment! But you saying it like that sound sound a bit jelly! C x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Feral, I would actually say your arse is stunning in those pics. Can't see much of anything else though so can't comment! But you saying it like that sound sound a bit jelly! C x"

I'm a cantankerous arse.

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By *igeiaWoman  over a year ago

Bristol


"Anyone look at profiles and think that the other people are perhaps too "good" for them? Whether its looks, body shape, cock size, whatever; do you do this? And so following on from that, have you ever gone for it anyway? Punched well above your weight and had a meet with someone you thought was well out of your league. Curious to hear your stories. Thank you."

Once. And it taught me that leagues are bollocks and only exist in my own mind since he thought exactly the same about me.

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By *reedy_for_funCouple  over a year ago

My House


"Anyone look at profiles and think that the other people are perhaps too "good" for them? Whether its looks, body shape, cock size, whatever; do you do this? And so following on from that, have you ever gone for it anyway? Punched well above your weight and had a meet with someone you thought was well out of your league. Curious to hear your stories. Thank you."

Yes, every time. Whenever I get a message from some hunk I can't help thinking that they must be messaging the wrong one.

As for messaging others, well just look above. At no point do I think the ones I like the look of would ever want to be messaged by me, let alone want to meet. So, I never message first. Hubby pretty well feels the same on our couples profile whenever he likes the look of another couple.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"No offence to the recipient.

It's lame. "

So what word / phrase would you prefer to see used?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"No offence to the recipient.

It's lame.

So what word / phrase would you prefer to see used?"

Stunning is ludicrous when one canot see the entire being.

I suggest talking normally.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I don't really message guys first, I have no idea why think its to do with my upbringing as its not fear of rejection.

But if a guy messages me I don't question it as I've always got up-to-date photos on and if he didn't like the look of me he wouldn't message me and I've met some lovely guys

I never message guys first....probably my warped _iew but I think if a guy messages me then I know that they are genuinely interested. If I sent one first and he replied, I'd think he was only being polite and didn't really like me.

Is that weird?!

I Message men all the time. Mostly to challenge them."

A dual at dawn it is my lady.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I don't really message guys first, I have no idea why think its to do with my upbringing as its not fear of rejection.

But if a guy messages me I don't question it as I've always got up-to-date photos on and if he didn't like the look of me he wouldn't message me and I've met some lovely guys

I never message guys first....probably my warped _iew but I think if a guy messages me then I know that they are genuinely interested. If I sent one first and he replied, I'd think he was only being polite and didn't really like me.

Is that weird?!

I Message men all the time. Mostly to challenge them.

A dual at dawn it is my lady. "

Bring it onnn.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I don't really message guys first, I have no idea why think its to do with my upbringing as its not fear of rejection.

But if a guy messages me I don't question it as I've always got up-to-date photos on and if he didn't like the look of me he wouldn't message me and I've met some lovely guys

I never message guys first....probably my warped _iew but I think if a guy messages me then I know that they are genuinely interested. If I sent one first and he replied, I'd think he was only being polite and didn't really like me.

Is that weird?!

I Message men all the time. Mostly to challenge them.

A dual at dawn it is my lady.

Bring it onnn. "

pistols swords or strapons. My ladies choice

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I don't really message guys first, I have no idea why think its to do with my upbringing as its not fear of rejection.

But if a guy messages me I don't question it as I've always got up-to-date photos on and if he didn't like the look of me he wouldn't message me and I've met some lovely guys

I never message guys first....probably my warped _iew but I think if a guy messages me then I know that they are genuinely interested. If I sent one first and he replied, I'd think he was only being polite and didn't really like me.

Is that weird?!

I Message men all the time. Mostly to challenge them.

A dual at dawn it is my lady.

Bring it onnn.

pistols swords or strapons. My ladies choice "

Both.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"No offence to the recipient.

It's lame.

So what word / phrase would you prefer to see used?

Stunning is ludicrous when one canot see the entire being.

I suggest talking normally. "

Who's to say they haven't seen the entire being?

Anyhoo.....I'll let you get back to the normal conversation of strapon V pistols....

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"No offence to the recipient.

It's lame.

So what word / phrase would you prefer to see used?

Stunning is ludicrous when one canot see the entire being.

I suggest talking normally.

Who's to say they haven't seen the entire being?

Anyhoo.....I'll let you get back to the normal conversation of strapon V pistols.... "

Aw thanks. What a sweetie.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Well I just think you've got to be in it to win it! I send nice polite messages with face pics. Sometimes I get a reply sometimes I dont. Had some really good chats with people I thought were out of my league.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Stunning is ludicrous when one canot see the entire being.

I suggest talking normally. "

She is very striking. Stunning, in fact.

Nothing abnormal about that language. Especially when her pics are so stunning

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Stunning is ludicrous when one canot see the entire being.

I suggest talking normally.

She is very striking. Stunning, in fact.

Nothing abnormal about that language. Especially when her pics are so stunning "

Wahey. Good on you.

You stand out.

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By *oxy_minxWoman  over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Stunning is ludicrous when one canot see the entire being.

I suggest talking normally.

She is very striking. Stunning, in fact.

Nothing abnormal about that language. Especially when her pics are so stunning "

This gets me as well, not one of my pics show my face and I get that a lot of the time

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By *ackspop OP   Couple  over a year ago

Wymondham

Have enjoyed reading the responses to the original question. The overwhelming response seems to be "Ignore 'em, you go for it!" Which on the face of it, is very good advice.

Yet still, there is the accumulated years of self doubt and insecurity that have a tendency to tap you on the shoulder and whisper in your ear "What on earth makes you think they'll be interested in you?"

Anyway, keep replying, it's good to know what people think.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Stunning is ludicrous when one canot see the entire being.

I suggest talking normally.

She is very striking. Stunning, in fact.

Nothing abnormal about that language. Especially when her pics are so stunning

This gets me as well, not one of my pics show my face and I get that a lot of the time "

Ah but he may have seen her dial.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

So a person can not be stunning, unless you see the whole person, including face? And a single feature can not stand out? Riiight...

Stunning, by its very definition, means extremely impressive or attractive.

I could understand people getting upset about "fit" or something, but stunning...?

Wow... How insane... C x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"So a person can not be stunning, unless you see the whole person, including face? And a single feature can not stand out? Riiight...

Stunning, by its very definition, means extremely impressive or attractive.

I could understand people getting upset about "fit" or something, but stunning...?

Wow... How insane... C x"

It's bandied about like the cocks on here.

Loses its meaning.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I don't think I've ever read something reek of jealousy more on here...

You want to see something that thrown around? Try cock size threads, sky remotes, why cant single men get meets or people begging for attention.

But to say a compliment is bandied around to a person who I have never spoken to or even seen before is totally crazy.

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By *oxy_minxWoman  over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"So a person can not be stunning, unless you see the whole person, including face? And a single feature can not stand out? Riiight...

Stunning, by its very definition, means extremely impressive or attractive.

I could understand people getting upset about "fit" or something, but stunning...?

Wow... How insane... C x

It's bandied about like the cocks on here.

Loses its meaning. "

exactly, if I had a face like an arse chewing a wasp once it was revealed, I wonder how many would continue to chat and try to meet?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I don't think I've ever read something reek of jealousy more on here...

You want to see something that thrown around? Try cock size threads, sky remotes, why cant single men get meets or people begging for attention.

But to say a compliment is bandied around to a person who I have never spoken to or even seen before is totally crazy."

Haha. I'm not jealous. Not at all.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I don't think I've ever read something reek of jealousy more on here...

You want to see something that thrown around? Try cock size threads, sky remotes, why cant single men get meets or people begging for attention.

But to say a compliment is bandied around to a person who I have never spoken to or even seen before is totally crazy."

THE cock and size type poster is usually attached to a compliment thrower.

True. Serious.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

But you're saying that a person cannot have any redeeming quality that can appear attractive to somebody else, unless that whole person in every way, is attractive. People have nice bums, nice tits, beautful faces and bodies... Then you have people who are the full package. You can have a stunning pair of legs, or you can just be, as a whole, stunning...

To take the stand you have, its just childish?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"So a person can not be stunning, unless you see the whole person, including face? And a single feature can not stand out? Riiight...

Stunning, by its very definition, means extremely impressive or attractive.

I could understand people getting upset about "fit" or something, but stunning...?

Wow... How insane... C x

It's bandied about like the cocks on here.

Loses its meaning.

exactly, if I had a face like an arse chewing a wasp once it was revealed, I wonder how many would continue to chat and try to meet? "

They'd still call ya stunning.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"But you're saying that a person cannot have any redeeming quality that can appear attractive to somebody else, unless that whole person in every way, is attractive. People have nice bums, nice tits, beautful faces and bodies... Then you have people who are the full package. You can have a stunning pair of legs, or you can just be, as a whole, stunning...

To take the stand you have, its just childish?"

No.

Remember women get called stunning on here even when their pussy is the only photo.

It's mental. I don't wanna fall out with you but seriously it's crazy.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I wouldn't necessarily call your arse stunning Feral, well not unless you rendered me unconscious by face sitting then it might merit that description

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"But you're saying that a person cannot have any redeeming quality that can appear attractive to somebody else, unless that whole person in every way, is attractive. People have nice bums, nice tits, beautful faces and bodies... Then you have people who are the full package. You can have a stunning pair of legs, or you can just be, as a whole, stunning...

To take the stand you have, its just childish?"

Childish is not reasonable.

It's a relevant opinion .

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Stunning, by its very definition, means extremely impressive or attractive.

I could understand people getting upset about "fit" or something, but stunning...?

Wow... How insane... C x"

Hey, C, your pics are extremely impressive and attractive... If only I could nicely sum that up in one word for you...

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By *nleashedCrakenMan  over a year ago

Widnes


"Stunning is ludicrous when one canot see the entire being.

I suggest talking normally.

She is very striking. Stunning, in fact.

Nothing abnormal about that language. Especially when her pics are so stunning

This gets me as well, not one of my pics show my face and I get that a lot of the time "

As I'm out of your age range and live over 200 miles away from you, you can assume I'm not saying this for any other reason than I think it's true.

You don't have to see a woman's face to think she's stunning. A great arse, nice figure or just a very sexy pose can all be seen as stunning. A face is more about being pretty rather than being stunning.

So I've looked at your pics and, in my opinion, you are quite stunning. If I ever get to see your face I'll let you know if your pretty as well. I'll put money on it you probably are.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Stunning, by its very definition, means extremely impressive or attractive.

I could understand people getting upset about "fit" or something, but stunning...?

Wow... How insane... C x

Hey, C, your pics are extremely impressive and attractive... If only I could nicely sum that up in one word for you... "

It won't be difficult I'm sure.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Stunning is ludicrous when one canot see the entire being.

I suggest talking normally.

She is very striking. Stunning, in fact.

Nothing abnormal about that language. Especially when her pics are so stunning

This gets me as well, not one of my pics show my face and I get that a lot of the time

As I'm out of your age range and live over 200 miles away from you, you can assume I'm not saying this for any other reason than I think it's true.

You don't have to see a woman's face to think she's stunning. A great arse, nice figure or just a very sexy pose can all be seen as stunning. A face is more about being pretty rather than being stunning.

So I've looked at your pics and, in my opinion, you are quite stunning. If I ever get to see your face I'll let you know if your pretty as well. I'll put money on it you probably are. "

You make me want to headbutt a pebble dashed wall.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Stunning, by its very definition, means extremely impressive or attractive.

I could understand people getting upset about "fit" or something, but stunning...?

Wow... How insane... C x

Hey, C, your pics are extremely impressive and attractive... If only I could nicely sum that up in one word for you...

It won't be difficult I'm sure.

"

...delightful

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Stunning, by its very definition, means extremely impressive or attractive.

I could understand people getting upset about "fit" or something, but stunning...?

Wow... How insane... C x

Hey, C, your pics are extremely impressive and attractive... If only I could nicely sum that up in one word for you...

It won't be difficult I'm sure.

...delightful "

Disaronno.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan  over a year ago

Widnes


"Stunning is ludicrous when one canot see the entire being.

I suggest talking normally.

She is very striking. Stunning, in fact.

Nothing abnormal about that language. Especially when her pics are so stunning

This gets me as well, not one of my pics show my face and I get that a lot of the time

As I'm out of your age range and live over 200 miles away from you, you can assume I'm not saying this for any other reason than I think it's true.

You don't have to see a woman's face to think she's stunning. A great arse, nice figure or just a very sexy pose can all be seen as stunning. A face is more about being pretty rather than being stunning.

So I've looked at your pics and, in my opinion, you are quite stunning. If I ever get to see your face I'll let you know if your pretty as well. I'll put money on it you probably are.

You make me want to headbutt a pebble dashed wall."

Knock yourself out girl. LOL

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Stunning is ludicrous when one canot see the entire being.

I suggest talking normally.

She is very striking. Stunning, in fact.

Nothing abnormal about that language. Especially when her pics are so stunning

This gets me as well, not one of my pics show my face and I get that a lot of the time

As I'm out of your age range and live over 200 miles away from you, you can assume I'm not saying this for any other reason than I think it's true.

You don't have to see a woman's face to think she's stunning. A great arse, nice figure or just a very sexy pose can all be seen as stunning. A face is more about being pretty rather than being stunning.

So I've looked at your pics and, in my opinion, you are quite stunning. If I ever get to see your face I'll let you know if your pretty as well. I'll put money on it you probably are.

You make me want to headbutt a pebble dashed wall.

Knock yourself out girl. LOL"

Might do.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Stunning is ludicrous when one canot see the entire being.

I suggest talking normally.

She is very striking. Stunning, in fact.

Nothing abnormal about that language. Especially when her pics are so stunning

This gets me as well, not one of my pics show my face and I get that a lot of the time

As I'm out of your age range and live over 200 miles away from you, you can assume I'm not saying this for any other reason than I think it's true.

You don't have to see a woman's face to think she's stunning. A great arse, nice figure or just a very sexy pose can all be seen as stunning. A face is more about being pretty rather than being stunning.

So I've looked at your pics and, in my opinion, you are quite stunning. If I ever get to see your face I'll let you know if your pretty as well. I'll put money on it you probably are.

You make me want to headbutt a pebble dashed wall.

Knock yourself out girl. LOL

Might do."

Eh, that would be stunned not stunning

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Stunning is ludicrous when one canot see the entire being.

I suggest talking normally.

She is very striking. Stunning, in fact.

Nothing abnormal about that language. Especially when her pics are so stunning

This gets me as well, not one of my pics show my face and I get that a lot of the time

As I'm out of your age range and live over 200 miles away from you, you can assume I'm not saying this for any other reason than I think it's true.

You don't have to see a woman's face to think she's stunning. A great arse, nice figure or just a very sexy pose can all be seen as stunning. A face is more about being pretty rather than being stunning.

So I've looked at your pics and, in my opinion, you are quite stunning. If I ever get to see your face I'll let you know if your pretty as well. I'll put money on it you probably are.

You make me want to headbutt a pebble dashed wall.

Knock yourself out girl. LOL

Might do.

Eh, that would be stunned not stunning "

At least it'd be accurate.

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By *oxy_minxWoman  over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Stunning is ludicrous when one canot see the entire being.

I suggest talking normally.

She is very striking. Stunning, in fact.

Nothing abnormal about that language. Especially when her pics are so stunning

This gets me as well, not one of my pics show my face and I get that a lot of the time

As I'm out of your age range and live over 200 miles away from you, you can assume I'm not saying this for any other reason than I think it's true.

You don't have to see a woman's face to think she's stunning. A great arse, nice figure or just a very sexy pose can all be seen as stunning. A face is more about being pretty rather than being stunning.

So I've looked at your pics and, in my opinion, you are quite stunning. If I ever get to see your face I'll let you know if your pretty as well. I'll put money on it you probably are. "

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Feral, I would actually say your arse is stunning in those pics. Can't see much of anything else though so can't comment! But you saying it like that sound sound a bit jelly! C x

I'm a cantankerous arse."

We'd get along well! Honestly, we would.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan  over a year ago

Widnes


"Stunning is ludicrous when one canot see the entire being.

I suggest talking normally.

She is very striking. Stunning, in fact.

Nothing abnormal about that language. Especially when her pics are so stunning

This gets me as well, not one of my pics show my face and I get that a lot of the time

As I'm out of your age range and live over 200 miles away from you, you can assume I'm not saying this for any other reason than I think it's true.

You don't have to see a woman's face to think she's stunning. A great arse, nice figure or just a very sexy pose can all be seen as stunning. A face is more about being pretty rather than being stunning.

So I've looked at your pics and, in my opinion, you are quite stunning. If I ever get to see your face I'll let you know if your pretty as well. I'll put money on it you probably are.

You make me want to headbutt a pebble dashed wall.

Knock yourself out girl. LOL

Might do."

I hope not. Wouldn't want to see you hurt. Mean that!!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Feral, I would actually say your arse is stunning in those pics. Can't see much of anything else though so can't comment! But you saying it like that sound sound a bit jelly! C x

I'm a cantankerous arse.

We'd get along well! Honestly, we would. "

I'm sure. I'm a pussycat really.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

i'm always nervous with excitement when I message new people...I love a man who takes care of himself but at the end of the day if the sex is good then i'm happy x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Stunning is ludicrous when one canot see the entire being.

I suggest talking normally.

She is very striking. Stunning, in fact.

Nothing abnormal about that language. Especially when her pics are so stunning

This gets me as well, not one of my pics show my face and I get that a lot of the time

As I'm out of your age range and live over 200 miles away from you, you can assume I'm not saying this for any other reason than I think it's true.

You don't have to see a woman's face to think she's stunning. A great arse, nice figure or just a very sexy pose can all be seen as stunning. A face is more about being pretty rather than being stunning.

So I've looked at your pics and, in my opinion, you are quite stunning. If I ever get to see your face I'll let you know if your pretty as well. I'll put money on it you probably are.

You make me want to headbutt a pebble dashed wall.

Knock yourself out girl. LOL

Might do.

I hope not. Wouldn't want to see you hurt. Mean that!!"

Ah don't be soft man. Slap her hard on her stunning arse and send her on her way

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By *nleashedCrakenMan  over a year ago

Widnes


"Stunning is ludicrous when one canot see the entire being.

I suggest talking normally.

She is very striking. Stunning, in fact.

Nothing abnormal about that language. Especially when her pics are so stunning

This gets me as well, not one of my pics show my face and I get that a lot of the time

As I'm out of your age range and live over 200 miles away from you, you can assume I'm not saying this for any other reason than I think it's true.

You don't have to see a woman's face to think she's stunning. A great arse, nice figure or just a very sexy pose can all be seen as stunning. A face is more about being pretty rather than being stunning.

So I've looked at your pics and, in my opinion, you are quite stunning. If I ever get to see your face I'll let you know if your pretty as well. I'll put money on it you probably are.

You make me want to headbutt a pebble dashed wall.

Knock yourself out girl. LOL

Might do.

I hope not. Wouldn't want to see you hurt. Mean that!!

Ah don't be soft man. Slap her hard on her stunning arse and send her on her way "

A bit of spanking, now that's different. LOL

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Stunning is ludicrous when one canot see the entire being.

I suggest talking normally.

She is very striking. Stunning, in fact.

Nothing abnormal about that language. Especially when her pics are so stunning

This gets me as well, not one of my pics show my face and I get that a lot of the time

As I'm out of your age range and live over 200 miles away from you, you can assume I'm not saying this for any other reason than I think it's true.

You don't have to see a woman's face to think she's stunning. A great arse, nice figure or just a very sexy pose can all be seen as stunning. A face is more about being pretty rather than being stunning.

So I've looked at your pics and, in my opinion, you are quite stunning. If I ever get to see your face I'll let you know if your pretty as well. I'll put money on it you probably are.

You make me want to headbutt a pebble dashed wall.

Knock yourself out girl. LOL

Might do.

I hope not. Wouldn't want to see you hurt. Mean that!!

Ah don't be soft man. Slap her hard on her stunning arse and send her on her way

A bit of spanking, now that's different. LOL"

You ok with the right cheek if I take the left. I think that's fair, can't see her complaining about that.

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By *igertigerCouple (MM)  over a year ago

nr Letterkenny

never rule out a straight guy more often than not they're up for it

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I struggle with the age thing. I just can't figure why a young couple/bi woman would go for an older woman rather than someone of their own age.

Because you are stunning.

Christ. This use of stunning.

It's tiresome. I "

Sometimes, just sometimes, they might actually mean it. And then it's a compliment like any other... Jeez it must be horrible being told how stunning you are all the time...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"A good quote from another thread was " why deny urself pleasure cos u can? " its so true that.

Eh shag you're getting all deep."

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Anyone look at profiles and think that the other people are perhaps too "good" for them? Whether its looks, body shape, cock size, whatever; do you do this? And so following on from that, have you ever gone for it anyway? Punched well above your weight and had a meet with someone you thought was well out of your league. Curious to hear your stories. Thank you."

I've thought this plenty of times, sometimes based on the people they've met being much better than me, and not wanting to put myself up for the negative comparison. If it's going to make me feel insecure, I back away.

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"Jeez it must be horrible being told how stunning you are all the time..."

...well you must know

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