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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never had one but I was seeing someone ages ago regularly and I fell for him, he dumped me, nicely but he still left. Hurts a lot but you have to move on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have never had a fb, the most times I have had sex with a woman was 2 times lol  you're missing out there"
Yes I do, how I see it is that what I don't have I cant miss lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh god, guy I was shagging for 4 months dropped me like a hot turd but I told him I liked him and had feelings for him and he said he wasn't looking for anything serious. Hurts when you let your emotions run away with you, I've put my feelings down the back of my sofa for now, won't get them out for a while! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i may be new but im pretty sure i signed up to a swinging site not a dating site?
correct me if im wrong  "
Swingers still talk about regular stuff. I can't see how talking about fb's is dating only stuff.
If you don't like posts feel free to pass them by. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i may be new but im pretty sure i signed up to a swinging site not a dating site?
correct me if im wrong "
Actually technically speaking swingers are couples, singles use it for nsa. |
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By *ilberryMan
over a year ago
Scarborough |
Tricky one the fwb, the sex can be totally amazing, unfettered? But its very hard to keep it detached and purely down to just fucking! As long as you are both aware of the risks, which you must discuss before you start, a sort of keeping clinical?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ur right normal rules don't apply its a feckin bitch we should of stepped back long ago but didn't realy realise it had gone as far as it had "
Was thinking about this for when we get a regular (instead of randomers). .what if etc  |
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Hurts like hell especially when the feelings were from both sides but the reality of a real relationship wouldn't have worked. Over a year on there's still a part of me that yearns for him and he pops up and makes contact occasionally so it's still there for him too. Have to say the 2 years we had together was so worth the pain though!! |
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By *ickey40Man
over a year ago
Leicester |
I always think to treat the opposite sex like it's your sister or brother. I've never had a fuck buddy and wouldn't just fuck anyone but hopefully will find some fun on here and intend to treat her like my sister....well not literally but you know what I mean!! |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"i may be new but im pretty sure i signed up to a swinging site not a dating site?
correct me if im wrong "
Sex can bring out strong feelings between people, and sometimes there's a natural progression to getting together.
I've had a FB for 9 years now. Should I leave the site because I might see him for more than just the sex? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hurts like hell especially when the feelings were from both sides but the reality of a real relationship wouldn't have worked. Over a year on there's still a part of me that yearns for him and he pops up and makes contact occasionally so it's still there for him too. Have to say the 2 years we had together was so worth the pain though!!"
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By *ech2 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"ur right normal rules don't apply its a feckin bitch we should of stepped back long ago but didn't realy realise it had gone as far as it had
Was thinking about this for when we get a regular (instead of randomers). .what if etc "
keep it to randoms much simpar |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not an fb no but i did have someone admit they liked me more than they should on a first meet, was too much too soon and I didnt have those kind of feelings for them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not an fb no but i did have someone admit they liked me more than they should on a first meet, was too much too soon and I didnt have those kind of feelings for them"
On a first meet! That would be slightly unnerving. |
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When you find out that your FB of 18 months has been in a relationship with someone else all along and you were his bit on the side without even knowing it.....FUME. never get too envolved is my advice! |
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"Not an fb no but i did have someone admit they liked me more than they should on a first meet, was too much too soon and I didnt have those kind of feelings for them"
That seems rather intense. Had you been speaking for quite a while before you met? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree it hurts alot aspecialy iff you hold bk at the beginning as how you meet ect then both decide to take it further your feelings seem to be stronger when you let yourself get involved |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i may be new but im pretty sure i signed up to a swinging site not a dating site?
correct me if im wrong "
I didn't meet my buddies on here apart from one man and possibly one new man. I met my long term men on apps on Facebook,nothing to do with sex or dating |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not an fb no but i did have someone admit they liked me more than they should on a first meet, was too much too soon and I didnt have those kind of feelings for them
That seems rather intense. Had you been speaking for quite a while before you met?"
Talking yes but more has friends than anything having a laugh and joke! |
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I have and it hurts like he'll. I have learnt a lesson not to let my gard down I became cold over time. However I believe it's hampering my chances of meeting the special one because I detached my self from it all and it gives the vibe I am only in it for the sex far from the truth .... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Run!
Ive recently been hurt by a fwb, he broke the rules he set and couldnt understand when I got nasty about it. He now has a joint profile with the person! Karma is all I can say what goes around comes around and all that.
It's down to how you detach your feelings i will never let my wall down with anyone else from here again he shattered my trust and made me feel i wasn't worthy or good enough for him also lied which i can't stand i would rather be hurt by the truth.
On the other hand about 4 years ago i met a guy on a fishy dating site we had a bit of no string fun fwb kinda thing! And to this day that guy is my best friend, he's a stubborn sod but I love him with all my heart, things are just not in the right time or place for us to be together.
But rather than loose him which I don't think either of us could stand we remain friends!, and the sex lol the best I have ever had .
But my feelings for my bestie are very much under control, the recent fwb might have taken me to the moon but he sure as hell pushed me off it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Omg
Im sorry but people who fall are too weak for this place .
People may say im cold but i can di NSA sex and move on !
As u may probaly tell ive had a couple of clingys who can't understand why i want to meet others in my free time and not regularly meet them .
I will never have feelings for people i meet on here .
Although i always have respect for previous people ive met . |
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"Omg
Im sorry but people who fall are too weak for this place .
People may say im cold but i can di NSA sex and move on !
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Pha, plenty of time to be cold when you're dead, I'd rather choose to be be a full-blooded, fully-functional fully-alive human being while I can!
Oh I will do nsa with most men but if I feel more for someone then so be it, as the song goes - 'I'd rather hurt than feel nothing at all' in the first place.
But you do have to communicate properly and find a place of agreement in my opinion, two adults can do whatever they like on here at whatever level they choose, but I think they must both be happy with arrangements.
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Yep. Fallen for him, and him for me. However, I am aware that it's a swinging relationship. It's difficult to share him but I'm getting better at it. There still has to be trust though. I'm happy as long as I know his plans. He's happy as long as I don't give details.
C'est la vie!
It's better to have lived and loved......
I know I'll have to deal with the hurt eventually. |
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I had a friend with benefits for eight years. We didn't meet often but spoke every day. A "proper" relationship wouldn't have worked as his family commitments meant he couldn't dedicate the time to me I needed.
I met loads of people he only had time for me and for eight years it was perfect, then I met someone on here who simply blew me away: totally unexpected, not what either of us were looking for and we now live together and planning our future.
I still talk to my friend: we'll always be friends. I miss our daily chats...and I know he does too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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me and P were best friends, we started messing around for a few months he was still seeing other girls. but now 5 years on and getting married soon couldnt be happier it works for some not for others but dont dismiss it just in case you get hurt you may lose out on the best thing that ever happened |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ur right normal rules don't apply its a feckin bitch we should of stepped back long ago but didn't realy realise it had gone as far as it had
Was thinking about this for when we get a regular (instead of randomers). .what if etc "
I have that concern too as i'd like somebody regular but would be concerned about feelings when it ends |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have and it hurt like hell and now after nearly a year of not having any contact it hurts. I find myself comparing other women to her. I don't really know how to move on? |
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"Oh god, guy I was shagging for 4 months dropped me like a hot turd but I told him I liked him and had feelings for him and he said he wasn't looking for anything serious. Hurts when you let your emotions run away with you, I've put my feelings down the back of my sofa for now, won't get them out for a while!"
He must be mental , your stunning . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a fb of coming up to 4/5 years. We clicked on every level. Speak, text everyday but we both knew a relationship would not work. Distance, age differences and kids did not make it easier either.
We are the best of friends, and very close to each other. She has recently met someone, so i'm keeping my distance. But i'm happy for her. Does feel weird and is rather difficult at times of not being able to be like we used to be.
Used to be some of the best times i've had, and amazing memories. Just have that thought whether i'd click and get on with someone else like i did with her. Is just rare that. Our connection with each other was genuine.
Miss our times together. Think that's what it is.
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By *ickey40Man
over a year ago
Leicester |
If anyone can help me get a fb then I wouldn't mind. Knowing what I'm commenting on would be ok. I don't even know how to read any replies to my post on here. All I know is that these things can rerely never lead to some emotional attachment but I guess if you just remember that you are with that other person for physical satisfaction only then you should be ok, but I guess mother nature was never happy for people to be JUST fb which is why she created love!! If anybody would message me and just let me know where to read any replies if there is any to this post as I've been on here since Nov and not had any messages and only started using this forum chartroom thing last night x |
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"Omg
Im sorry but people who fall are too weak for this place .
People may say im cold but i can di NSA sex and move on !
Pha, plenty of time to be cold when you're dead, I'd rather choose to be be a full-blooded, fully-functional fully-alive human being while I can!
Oh I will do nsa with most men but if I feel more for someone then so be it, as the song goes - 'I'd rather hurt than feel nothing at all' in the first place.
But you do have to communicate properly and find a place of agreement in my opinion, two adults can do whatever they like on here at whatever level they choose, but I think they must both be happy with arrangements.
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I have to agree here, but like this poster has pointed out, COMMUNICATION is paramount!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being human isn't a weakness...falling in love isn't either...running for the hills isn't always the best for everyone...dating swingles isn't a crime...chill out you negative nellies and let a bit of love into your lives!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being Fairly new to this and not had a FB before, I've often wondered about this... What happens when/if one likes the other?!
Seems like the consensus is, step back. If i ever find/get one, i think that's the advice id take. |
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I can't deny the fact that me & Vince only started off as FBs. I think it's all about knowing how to read the signs and just being honest with each other.
We didn't even realise it to begin with but we were spending more and more time together outside of sex (purely because we were on each other's wave-length).
He admitted one night that he was starting to develop feelings for me and although I was starting to feel the same way, I didn't admit it until a few days later.
We've now been together 4 years and have a baby.
Don't dismiss it altogether but don't throw it in their face if you already know 100% it's not what they want.
- Amy. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Had an FB for about 4 years, great friends, text and spoke regularly, weekends away etc but I always knew I didn't want anything more with him.
There wasn't that extra spark for a full on relationship even if circumstances were right
He fell for me but I met someone else who was very special and my FB was hurt
Isn't easy...... |
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By *ickey40Man
over a year ago
Leicester |
You are always going to get one or the other party developing feelings sooner or later, I don't think human beings of the opposite sex are meant to be just fb, but seeing as we are basically animals underneath then we are governed by our sexual urges and desires.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I nearly did once
I met a guy regular for a while, never had any intentions of falling for anyone and surprised me more than anyone when I started getting feeling for him but I knew it was wrong so I just stopped meeting him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"who has fallen for there fuck buddy and how much does it hurt wen you brake up"
Don't know if it is a good thing to do, but sometimes you can't control your feelings.... either you try and eventually you get hurt or you don't and keep dwelling on what could have happened between you and him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can someone just clarify that my profile on this forum says I am looking for a woman, cos it says my username and then the word...man. Not looking for a man"
lol the man bit means that you are a man.
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By *iceduoCouple (FF)
over a year ago
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"My advice dont! Run away fast. Hurts like hell cos normal rules dont apply. (even after 2 yrs)"
yes because this is not real life its figment of someone's imagination. NSA always made me lol, what it really means in NSA unless i like you. jen xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My advice dont! Run away fast. Hurts like hell cos normal rules dont apply. (even after 2 yrs)
yes because this is not real life its figment of someone's imagination. NSA always made me lol, what it really means in NSA unless i like you. jen xx "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Better to love and lost, them never love at all.
With each relationship there is always a chance of getting hurt. What happens between fb can happen in vanilla life.
Take a chance what do you have to loose, and if they walk away, it wasn't meant to be...
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I fell for my fb but there was no way I would have said anything to him. In fact I was going to try dating sites and leave here instead. Fortunately he felt the same way as I did and me saying I was going to try dating spurred him into action! We have been together over 2 years now and as soon as circumstances allow we will be moving in together.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Had an FB on here but she said those 3 words and I already have that being married, she did understand but it still wasn't nice as I did care for her and still do, but emotions can be funny things and happen to the most stalwart of people when they least expect it . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Had an FB on here but she said those 3 words and I already have that being married, she did understand but it still wasn't nice as I did care for her and still do, but emotions can be funny things and happen to the most stalwart of people when they least expect it . "
I became fond of mine but,kept an invisible barrier up so no one got hurt. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I did..knowing we would never be more than fb's..I got jealous..we talked..he gave me a different perspective..I understood and we are still fb's. He's been doing this for a looong time..he is my first fb so I took his advice on board and I have learned from it and am happy with the outcome.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Had an FB on here but she said those 3 words and I already have that being married, she did understand but it still wasn't nice as I did care for her and still do, but emotions can be funny things and happen to the most stalwart of people when they least expect it .
I became fond of mine but,kept an invisible barrier up so no one got hurt."
Not always easy to do |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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God yes as a sub I fell badly for my FB after 2 years he turned really nasty but I took it and all the bullshit, even when he opened another profile....it hurt a lot.
Gone through it now and learnt a big lesson....shan't ever fall like that again! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a fab for 2 years we would meet in a regular basis go out socialising together until one day he said he couldn't be GB anymore by this time I had feelings for him and even thought I was in love we are friends now have tried to distance myself but it's really hard. |
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By *itzhallMan
over a year ago
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Hell I had a fwb for a while.. we both fell hard for each other, or rather I did.. we had the talk and decided to date but take a break from swinging for a year so that we could build our relationship first then decide what way we wanted our swinging lives to go..... all was seemingly perfect and we were seemingly a perfect couple right up until the moment she mistakenly copied me into an email re galing one of her friends of all the dogging she had been doing while i was at work ..... I was devastated.... it wasn't so much the sex (I'd have happily gone along dogging.. she was the one that first suggested stopping).. it was the lies and deception.. that was 8 years ago  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was on as a couple and met a guy from here as a purely social meet.
We stayed chatting and flirting while I separated from my partner.
Started playing together, purely as fb's however we would often talk about things happening in our lives and go out for dates.
At Christmas he told me he loved me and wanted more. I had tried to hide my own feelings up till then but luckily the feeling was mutual.
10 months on and although it's not been perfect we're still together and he recently met my children.
Neither of us planned this, both of us have had fb's before where there was great friendship and respect but no feelings. But sometimes love can blossom from unconventional beginnings! |
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