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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just man up and say it. No point pussying about with it. You'll look a wally if you dance around it for hours when it's easier to just lay your cards on the table and see what happens. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Are you confident that the person you have feelings for likes you back?
Telling someone you have feelings for them can sometimes scare people off if they aren't looking for the same thing. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Are you confident that the person you have feelings for likes you back?
Telling someone you have feelings for them can sometimes scare people off if they aren't looking for the same thing. "
Agree with this! I've been on the opposite side and I ran for the hills! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are you confident that the person you have feelings for likes you back?
Telling someone you have feelings for them can sometimes scare people off if they aren't looking for the same thing. "
Sometimes you have to take a leap of faith and go for it. 
Just make sure you have an exit plan....  |
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
West Wales and Cardiff |
"Are you confident that the person you have feelings for likes you back?
Telling someone you have feelings for them can sometimes scare people off if they aren't looking for the same thing. "
Yeah, that's often the case.
I've actually told a couple of women when I was 99.9% certain they didn't share my feelings. It was the only way I could think to get those intense thoughts out of my head.
Luckily, they understood and are still friends |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are you confident that the person you have feelings for likes you back?
Telling someone you have feelings for them can sometimes scare people off if they aren't looking for the same thing.
Agree with this! I've been on the opposite side and I ran for the hills!"
Surely that isn't such a bad thing? At least he will know one way or another how the other person feels. No point pussy footing about. Life is too short. If they don't feel the same then you can stop wasting your energy on them and move on. If they do feel the same, great. |
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"Are you confident that the person you have feelings for likes you back?
Telling someone you have feelings for them can sometimes scare people off if they aren't looking for the same thing.
Agree with this! I've been on the opposite side and I ran for the hills!
Surely that isn't such a bad thing? At least he will know one way or another how the other person feels. No point pussy footing about. Life is too short. If they don't feel the same then you can stop wasting your energy on them and move on. If they do feel the same, great. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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Without sounding harsh , man up and say how you feel .
Reason I say this , is I made the mistake of not telling someone once . I pranced around them as I didn't have the balls to say anything . Before I knew it , it was too late .
We are still friends 6 yrs later . After a d*unken chat she did ask why I never came onto her . I did tell her that I chickened out and so wanted to . If it wasn't the fact she had now married and had children with a now friend of mine it could of been different all those years ago .
Bite the bullet and go for it bud. Why not go for the ' out for a meal ' and see what happens . Don't just jump in there onto one knee then ram your tongue down her throat . Don't think that's be with me material .
Good luck in whatever you decide . |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"Are you confident that the person you have feelings for likes you back?
Telling someone you have feelings for them can sometimes scare people off if they aren't looking for the same thing.
Agree with this! I've been on the opposite side and I ran for the hills!
Surely that isn't such a bad thing? At least he will know one way or another how the other person feels. No point pussy footing about. Life is too short. If they don't feel the same then you can stop wasting your energy on them and move on. If they do feel the same, great. "
No it's not, it's good to be honest and see if the other feels the same but if they don't, don't follow up with umpteen phonecalls to both home and mobiles phones and then send texts asking why aren't you answering  |
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
West Wales and Cardiff |
"Without sounding harsh , man up and say how you feel .
Reason I say this , is I made the mistake of not telling someone once . I pranced around them as I didn't have the balls to say anything . Before I knew it , it was too late .
We are still friends 6 yrs later . After a d*unken chat she did ask why I never came onto her . I did tell her that I chickened out and so wanted to . If it wasn't the fact she had now married and had children with a now friend of mine it could of been different all those years ago .
Bite the bullet and go for it bud. Why not go for the ' out for a meal ' and see what happens . Don't just jump in there onto one knee then ram your tongue down her throat . Don't think that's be with me material .
Good luck in whatever you decide . "
This.
I'm still trying to cope with a hideous dose of unrequited love (not easy in your 40s!) , but it'd have been ten times worse if I hadn't at least owned up to my feelings.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are you confident that the person you have feelings for likes you back?
Telling someone you have feelings for them can sometimes scare people off if they aren't looking for the same thing.
Agree with this! I've been on the opposite side and I ran for the hills!"
I would kick the tyres first too.
And me personally, I don't believe a word the man says within the first three months of getting to know each other. And neither should he! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are you confident that the person you have feelings for likes you back?
Telling someone you have feelings for them can sometimes scare people off if they aren't looking for the same thing.
Agree with this! I've been on the opposite side and I ran for the hills!
I would kick the tyres first too.
And me personally, I don't believe a word the man says within the first three months of getting to know each other. And neither should he!"
Ps.
Haven't you just broke your own rule about writing to strangers online? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Always attach a recent cock pic with any gushing outpouring of emotion. Maybe even try and write the message on your cock...Might be tight for space though. |
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If you can't do it on a swinging website. I doubt where you find such opportunity elsewhere .failure is not a crime. If there's rejection move on.
Remember this is not a dating site. Say your mind. Most people here are mature decent human being. Be a man. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Always attach a recent cock pic with any gushing outpouring of emotion. Maybe even try and write the message on your cock...Might be tight for space though."
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By (user no longer on site)
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Its never been something I'm good at, but personally I'd try to make them realise my feelings slowly, spend more time with them, chat more often, make them laugh, see if I can gradually assert myself as a positive in their life who they enjoy being around. Ok, so you could still end up getting 'friend zoned', but your chances of being more to them are going to be so much greater if you can encourage them to associate happiness with you. |
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I said: something unexpected has happened. He asked what. I said I know you're married and that it's breaking all the swinging rules but I think I love you. He said: I absolutely adore you. Can't you tell? I said I just had to get it off my chest. All was good 
So now it's out in the open it's lovely, cosy but also so much more difficult because neither of is are free to do anything about it.
Just come out with it.
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
I had to tell a fwb that my real feelings were creeping into things. He told me that if he didn't feel the same he wouldn't be able to do the things we do together. Made me feel so much better |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ps.
Haven't you just broke your own rule about writing to strangers online?"
Dang! *Facepalm* I have!
MUST abstain from forum discussions...
Okay, just ONE more comment and then I will abstain!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its never been something I'm good at, but personally I'd try to make them realise my feelings slowly, spend more time with them, chat more often, make them laugh, see if I can gradually assert myself as a positive in their life who they enjoy being around. Ok, so you could still end up getting 'friend zoned', but your chances of being more to them are going to be so much greater if you can encourage them to associate happiness with you."
I like this!
A lot! |
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