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Bareback blocks?

By *lan43sum OP Man over a year ago

Leicester

If you saw a profile which says meets are to be bareback would you actively block any members who were verified by the bareback swinger? I guess you could even go further and block the others that they've been involved with.

Sounds logical but does anyone do this?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope. I assume everyone barebacks and take necessary action to reduce my risks accordingly. I don't have the time or patience to follow verification trails. what about those they don't display?

it's a pointless exercise in my mind.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Blimey mate u got too much time on your hands if u wanna go through someone's swinging family tree ! Lol

As long as your careful history doesn't matter

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wow! Is there that much time in the day????

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yea, i always play safe to avoid anything nasty such as HIV and HEP. I think it would be good to block people who actively bareback. I dont think that most swingers bareback here from my experiences anyway....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Look after your own sexual health and practices. Leave others to theirs whatever their choices.

Harmony n all that.

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By *edangel_2013Woman over a year ago

southend

I'll block anyone that states openly on their profile they bareback, but I can't be arsed to go through and block everyone they've come into contact with.

And if you think that most on here don't bareback then your naivety scares me!

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Nope. I assume everyone barebacks and take necessary action to reduce my risks accordingly. I don't have the time or patience to follow verification trails. what about those they don't display?

it's a pointless exercise in my mind."

This!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Doesn't bother me who barebacks ..I look after my own sexual health

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'll block anyone that states openly on their profile they bareback, but I can't be arsed to go through and block everyone they've come into contact with.

And if you think that most on here don't bareback then your naivety scares me!"

Thats the same for us

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i am not bothered if bb is their choice.but i wouldnt meet them.even if they get regular checkups

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By *ave HighlandMan over a year ago

Inverness

There's no need to block people who bareback. You should treat everyone as though they are a risk. If you use protection all the time then you'll minimise the risk.

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By *ilthygorgeous1Couple over a year ago

Oxford

Just like in the vannila world You have to look after/protect yourself as best you can and avoid unnecessary risk!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We have meet Cpls in clubs and said hi to them but did nothing, they have veri'd us the following day stating we have meet at the club, doesn't say on there if we played or not,

I know of at least one Cpl that openly say on their profile that they prefer bearback that this has happened with.

So would you block us?

We always play safe with others, and its not our fault that we are now connected with these Cpls, and quite frankly its none of our business what they prefer

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you saw a profile which says meets are to be bareback would you actively block any members who were verified by the bareback swinger? I guess you could even go further and block the others that they've been involved with.

Sounds logical but does anyone do this?"

Not at all...it's useful to see who our more notorious local barebackers have been meeting...private notes are a far more useful tool...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yea, i always play safe to avoid anything nasty such as HIV and HEP. I think it would be good to block people who actively bareback. I dont think that most swingers bareback here from my experiences anyway...."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sounds logical but does anyone do this?"

No.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sounds logical but does anyone do this?

Not at all...it's useful to see who our more notorious local barebackers have been meeting...private notes are a far more useful tool..."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I fancy them and we get on, I'd use a condom. Never have sex without anyway, I'm having fun, I'm not going to let carelessness spoil that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Look after your own sexual health and practices. Leave others to theirs whatever their choices.

Harmony n all that."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Would take forever....and you would end up blocking every single verified person on here. I might have met someone, who met someone, who met someone else, who once met someone, who.......you can see where this goes yes?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Makes me giggle the way people only think STD's can be caught from cock to pussy... So do you people who dont mind playing with people who do bare back because you "look after your own sexual health" not kiss, suck cock or lick pussy? ..... Amazing what can live in the back of a persons throat...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Makes me giggle the way people only think STD's can be caught from cock to pussy... So do you people who dont mind playing with people who do bare back because you "look after your own sexual health" not kiss, suck cock or lick pussy? ..... Amazing what can live in the back of a persons throat...

Yes of course we all know that. ...But we aren't naive enough to assume that it's only those that advertise they bareback are the only ones that do it. That's why it's pointless blocking those that advertise they do.

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By *opping_candyWoman over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Sounds logical but does anyone do this?

Not at all...it's useful to see who our more notorious local barebackers have been meeting...private notes are a far more useful tool..."

I use my hotlist for this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Would take forever....and you would end up blocking every single verified person on here. I might have met someone, who met someone, who met someone else, who once met someone, who.......you can see where this goes yes?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Wow! Is there that much time in the day????"

I make time to check people I am thinking of meeting for sex, better be safe than sorry.

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

so u think everyone that barebacks has it on their profile ..thats just not the case im afraid .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"so u think everyone that barebacks has it on their profile ..thats just not the case im afraid ."

NO of course I don't, as I have said before, it just makes me more aware of who to possibly avoid, so the more careful and less chances I take the better it is. I don't see the point of taking chances if I don't have too.

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By *L RogueMan over a year ago

London

Sounds logical but does anyone do this?"

I remember someone openly admitting to doing this. Where is that thread??!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, the chances are these people will not contact me anyway so why block them? And if they did a simple no thanks is all that's needed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I only meet people that I like and trust. If I establish that we are like minded, they're unlikely to take risks, in any event, I will not have unprotected sex regardless

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By *lan43sum OP Man over a year ago

Leicester

In the end we all take our own responsibilities as grown ups. Condoms only lead to safer sex anyway.

I've read many posts on bareback and never yet heard of a fellow fabber catching any sort of STI. Perhaps the whole thing is over-hyped but like most posts I'd still go with the safer sex route.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just putting it out there but id say 90% of my meets have tried to go bareback and when ive refused said they never have before but thought they would ask... Yeah right!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No I wouldn't block them, I would take the chance and ask her, if she fancied an creampie lol and a nice clean up

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Just putting it out there but id say 90% of my meets have tried to go bareback and when ive refused said they never have before but thought they would ask... Yeah right!"

Yeah...like the ones who say they always play safe but don't bring condoms and their stiffy disappears the moment you produce one!"

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By *ovetolickpussy69Man over a year ago

south east

I really dont understand why you would risk bareback with someone you don't know, makes no sense to me!

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

Sounds logical but does anyone do this?"

use a condom and do something useful with the time you will save

by the way, I do bareback with my strap-on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sounds logical but does anyone do this?"
We block anyone who states they bareback, but can't be bothered with going through their veris.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sounds logical but does anyone do this?

use a condom and do something useful with the time you will save

by the way, I do bareback with my strap-on

Good point... I always use condoms on my strap on. I have seen many people using toys in clubs with no condoms on them.

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

Sounds logical but does anyone do this?

use a condom and do something useful with the time you will save

by the way, I do bareback with my strap-on

Good point... I always use condoms on my strap on. I have seen many people using toys in clubs with no condoms on them.

Lucky you. I only ever get to use it once in an evening, if at that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sounds logical but does anyone do this?

use a condom and do something useful with the time you will save

by the way, I do bareback with my strap-on

Good point... I always use condoms on my strap on. I have seen many people using toys in clubs with no condoms on them.

Lucky you. I only ever get to use it once in an evening, if at that

Even if it's just used once I still always put a condom on it.

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

Sounds logical but does anyone do this?

use a condom and do something useful with the time you will save

by the way, I do bareback with my strap-on

Good point... I always use condoms on my strap on. I have seen many people using toys in clubs with no condoms on them.

Lucky you. I only ever get to use it once in an evening, if at that

Even if it's just used once I still always put a condom on it."

Why? Does it catch STIs otherwise?

I just wash it with a antibacterial soap. So far, it has been disease free

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By *ust RachelTV/TS over a year ago

Horsham

What if the verification is about meeting in a pub for a drink, would you still block them?

Sounds logical but does anyone do this?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just putting it out there but id say 90% of my meets have tried to go bareback and when ive refused said they never have before but thought they would ask... Yeah right!"

90% is a lot, maybe you are meeting the wrong ones. just saying.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Ain't nobody got time for that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What if the verification is about meeting in a pub for a drink, would you still block them?

Sounds logical but does anyone do this?"

I doubt I would want to meet them, somehow.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'll block anyone that states openly on their profile they bareback, but I can't be arsed to go through and block everyone they've come into contact with.

And if you think that most on here don't bareback then your naivety scares me!"

Ditto!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

seems pretty obvious who does go bareback just reading these posts on it. which is useful.

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By *lan43sum OP Man over a year ago

Leicester

"I'll block anyone that states openly on their profile they bareback, but I can't be arsed to go through and block everyone they've come into contact with.

And if you think that most on here don't bareback then your naivety scares me!

Ditto!"

Anyone care to say if they've ever caught anything as a result of a casual meet on here? The whole safe thing could be a lot of scary hype designed to keep GUM clinics and drug makers busy. Or is it russian roulette folk play for the added thrill? I know people burn their hands taking food out of a hot oven and I tell myself to use oven gloves each time it happens to me.

I'm really not preaching on this as its surely a free country. Maybe Fab folk are wise enough to be bare with people who are also very wise in their choice of partners so STI's don't happen?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'll block anyone that states openly on their profile they bareback, but I can't be arsed to go through and block everyone they've come into contact with.

And if you think that most on here don't bareback then your naivety scares me!

Ditto!

I'm really not preaching on this as its surely a free country. Maybe Fab folk are wise enough to be bare with people who are also very wise in their choice of partners so STI's don't happen?"

Seems a lot of people like to take risks and nobody is likely to admit to catching anything, and a lot of people have got HIV and don't even know they have it.

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By *ratty_DamselWoman over a year ago

London.

HIV is a LOT easier to treat and harder to catch than Hep B which is what you should all be more concerned about, especially if you have families living with you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Here comes the STD police lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'll block anyone that states openly on their profile they bareback, but I can't be arsed to go through and block everyone they've come into contact with.

And if you think that most on here don't bareback then your naivety scares me!

Ditto!

I'm really not preaching on this as its surely a free country. Maybe Fab folk are wise enough to be bare with people who are also very wise in their choice of partners so STI's don't happen?"

Its a matter of being as safe as you can be, with some people you get a feeling they havnt got anything because of who they are but I would still use condoms because it only takes one person. some people havnt cought anything yet because they have just been lucky, I was told by a nurse at the GUM clinic that women are more at risk of catching something than men are.

My biggest worry is HIV, I think some people are worried about it too that's why they get a bit defensive when its mentioned.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"HIV is a LOT easier to treat and harder to catch than Hep B which is what you should all be more concerned about, especially if you have families living with you.

HIV is incurable though, I have had all the Hep B jabs anyway.

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

"HIV is a LOT easier to treat and harder to catch than Hep B which is what you should all be more concerned about, especially if you have families living with you.

What????? There is NO treatment for HIV. Only drugs which relieve the symtoms of AIDS!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Here comes the STD police lol

You need a police escort.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"HIV is a LOT easier to treat and harder to catch than Hep B which is what you should all be more concerned about, especially if you have families living with you.

What????? There is NO treatment for HIV. Only drugs which relieve the symtoms of AIDS!!"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Here comes the STD police lol

You need a police escort.

"
lol yes, few women cops

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I see many with oral without pics here, it can be cought as easy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

when I go to the GUM clinic they always say, have you had sex with any foreigners, bi sexuals or drug users.

how would you know if someone was a drug user? I suppose they mean the ones who use needles.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I see many with oral without pics here, it can be cought as easy

Yes, that's why I like to be careful who I meet, as careful as I can be that is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How many ladies Give Oral and have the guy wear a condom ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How many ladies Give Oral and have the guy wear a condom ?"

Whenever I have been to the GUM clinic the first thing they always said was always use condoms for penetrive sex also you should use them for oral sex.

although not quite as risky, if someone has been having a lot of unsafe sex its more risky to preform oral on them.

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By *an_WoodMan over a year ago

Stafford

Think of swapping swinging for dominoes after reading this. Wise advice about doing some research if only to spit obvious contradictions and getting tested at GUM clinic.

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By *lan43sum OP Man over a year ago

Leicester

Plenty of gallows humour in this thread but still nobody has said that they have caught anything from a meet. Or...have heard later that a sex partner found they were a risk and how they felt waiting for the test results to come back.

It would be great to find that fabbers are somehow more immune from the other sexually active adults

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

I will be honest I would always use a condom when playing.....

I suppose the way I see it if the other person is not using a condom with me, how many others are they not

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just putting it out there but id say 90% of my meets have tried to go bareback and when ive refused said they never have before but thought they would ask... Yeah right!

90% is a lot, maybe you are meeting the wrong ones. just saying."

Or maybe a high percentage of men on here talk shite... Just saying

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By *rnortholtMan over a year ago

Waveney Valley

"Just putting it out there but id say 90% of my meets have tried to go bareback and when ive refused said they never have before but thought they would ask... Yeah right!"

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

"I will be honest I would always use a condom when playing.....

I suppose the way I see it if the other person is not using a condom with me, how many others are they not

Probably with no one else either. Unless you have been singled out by them as an exceptional specimen of maledom for whom they are willing to risk their life

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Plenty of gallows humour in this thread but still nobody has said that they have caught anything from a meet. Or...have heard later that a sex partner found they were a risk and how they felt waiting for the test results to come back.

It would be great to find that fabbers are somehow more immune from the other sexually active adults"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sounds logical but does anyone do this?"
No, too much wasted time. I do not bareback so it isn't an issue for me. When ask I turn them down.

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By *ust2guysCouple (MM) over a year ago

South Yorks

I'm intrigued at all these statements about the risks of HIV from bareback sex but nobody seems concerned about oral sex. Most STI's (around 1/2 million cases) are caught thro oral sex - something that in excess of 95% of the population do! However the percentage of people believed to have HIV is 0.36% (2013 figures).

Keep it in perspective.

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

"...

oral sex - something that in excess of 95% of the population do!

...

I am intrigued as to how they found this out

And is this 95% of the entire population of the UK?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Doesn't bother me who barebacks ..I look after my own sexual health

But would you give an uncovered blowjob to someone that practices bareback?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Doesn't bother me who barebacks ..I look after my own sexual health

But would you give an uncovered blowjob to someone that practices bareback?"

I'm sure we all have many times, all because they say they always practice safe sex does not mean they do

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Doesn't bother me who barebacks ..I look after my own sexual health

But would you give an uncovered blowjob to someone that practices bareback?

I'm sure we all have many times, all because they say they always practice safe sex does not mean they do"

That's my point, there's are people saying it's ok because they practice safe sexual health but giving a blow job to someone who may or may not fuck bareback is still unsafe

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By *cotbbtopMan over a year ago

Glasgow

Sounds logical but does anyone do this?"

I block anyone who only plays "safe". Condom sex isn't real sex.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think its good to be as careful as you can in who you meet, I don't always block them though, unless they keep messaging me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ive had a few meets were the male has said ill bring condoms but when ive turnrd up its oh haven't GOt any just give me a bj instead

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I quit fab the first time I joined as I'd used condoms for penetrative sex but not oral sex. I contracted Chlamydia.

A healthcare professional quoted an estimate that one in seven under 25's locally are expected to have it. It's scary.

Especially as I've never yet encountered someone using oral dams for oral sex on a woman.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ive had a few meets were the male has said ill bring condoms but when ive turnrd up its oh haven't GOt any just give me a bj instead

I always have my own anyway, get loads of free one from gum clinic.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Look after your own sexual health and practices. Leave others to theirs whatever their choices.

Harmony n all that."

this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No however I did have someone on my hotlist who I removed when I noticed his status was looking forward to bare back meet, shame as he was hot but am so not risking it

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By *ig BrendanMan over a year ago

Sheffield

Sounds logical but does anyone do this?"

So many lie about it anyway but I might not block but would take note and not entertain meeting.

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By *nvictusMan over a year ago

Beeston

What is the point? You can't block people who lie about it also many couples play bareback together and you never know if they cheat bareback... it's all pointless.

Concentrate on what you put on your cock and leave others to it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago
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"Ive had a few meets were the male has said ill bring condoms but when ive turnrd up its oh haven't GOt any just give me a bj instead

I would tell him to sod off

End of meet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I see you're not verified.

In my experience, most are prepared to bareback.

Matt

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By *dventuroususCouple over a year ago

sunderland

naive springs to mind.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

naive springs to mind."

Naive and never done any swinging comes to mind!

I haven't had a huge number of lovers as I've been in relationships for most of the time, but in ten years of swinging, I have only known one woman who was categorical about using condoms. Just one!

The 'block' brigade make me laugh. As do those who assert BB is rare in the swinging world! Get real!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Look after yourself and worry about what you do. Don't worry about everyone else.

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By *ynecplCouple over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We have a simple rule wear a condom or no play. Been to parties where everybody has gone bareback and then we just played on our own. Does that make us boring and killjoys probably but better safe than sorry.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I see you're not verified.

In my experience, most are prepared to bareback.

Matt"

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