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female off limits to males ...?

By *iggeroooo OP Couple over a year ago

Conwy

This may hit a nerve with some here ... couples that state the female is off limits to the guys in the other couple ... Always get the impression that there is some insecurity on the guys part? I understand some women wont want other guys, just the female of the couple ... But I'm guessing a lot is due to the guy being a little insecure?

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By *ovejay711Couple over a year ago

Birmingham

"This may hit a nerve with some here ... couples that state the female is off limits to the guys in the other couple ... Always get the impression that there is some insecurity on the guys part?

I understand some women wont want other guys, just the female of the couple ... But I'm guessing a lot is due to the guy being a little insecure? "

my thoughts exactly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Could say the same about couples that only share with single men....insecuritys on the woman's part? Happy to sleep with another man but not happy for their man to sleep with another woman......obviously I know insecuritys are not the only reason....everyones just different lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This may hit a nerve with some here ... couples that state the female is off limits to the guys in the other couple ... Always get the impression that there is some insecurity on the guys part?

I understand some women wont want other guys, just the female of the couple ... But I'm guessing a lot is due to the guy being a little insecure? "

Everyone has their preferences. You knew that was coming, didn't you? When we see a preference that does not match ours, we simply do not contact the person. It is life.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This may hit a nerve with some here ... couples that state the female is off limits to the guys in the other couple ... Always get the impression that there is some insecurity on the guys part?

I understand some women wont want other guys, just the female of the couple ... But I'm guessing a lot is due to the guy being a little insecure?

Everyone has their preferences. You knew that was coming, didn't you? When we see a preference that does not match ours, we simply do not contact the person. It is life."
same

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Certainly does make you wonder doesn't it...

I would of though in my very humble opinion that if there were any insecurities by any partner, male or female, then swinging is probably not for you!

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By *obbytupperMan over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

"This may hit a nerve with some here ... couples that state the female is off limits to the guys in the other couple ... Always get the impression that there is some insecurity on the guys part?

I understand some women wont want other guys, just the female of the couple ... But I'm guessing a lot is due to the guy being a little insecure? "

......and yet the insecure male expects to be able to play with other women.

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By *adybee77Woman over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Be a dull old world if we all wanted the same.

I have played with a few couples where it has been female to female only play when I had a fella that was into swinging with me. Have to say, I much prefer full swap, but everyone is different.

Obviously playing as a single female now, if I play with a couple, I only meet for full play with both as I find putting on a fem-fem show a little like performing and that doesn't float my boat.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This may hit a nerve with some here ... couples that state the female is off limits to the guys in the other couple ... Always get the impression that there is some insecurity on the guys part?

I understand some women wont want other guys, just the female of the couple ... But I'm guessing a lot is due to the guy being a little insecure? "

Ofcourse there's a possibility that's the case sometimes but not for us. I (fem) just am not interested in playing with other blokes, it doesn't turn me on or interest me at all. If I wanted to then Jay would be fine about it, I actually tried it once or twice but it did nothing for me. It is most definitely my choice not to & has nothing to do with any insecurities from either of us. Juicy x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This may hit a nerve with some here ... couples that state the female is off limits to the guys in the other couple ... Always get the impression that there is some insecurity on the guys part?

I understand some women wont want other guys, just the female of the couple ... But I'm guessing a lot is due to the guy being a little insecure? "

Possibly. Or maybe the woman just wants female play and has had issues with disrespectful men in the past.

There's a lot of people that disrespect the way that other people play.... and try to get what they want while saying the other people's wishes are dumb....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Exactly how I feel...xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Could say the same about couples that only share with single men....insecuritys on the woman's part? Happy to sleep with another man but not happy for their man to sleep with another woman......obviously I know insecuritys are not the only reason....everyones just different lol"

This is more often a "cuckold" scenario.....much more frequent than some think. Doesn't often work the other way tho.

I love it! (Not as a cuck lol.....just taking advantage of opportunities )

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe they just dont wanna fuck the male

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"This may hit a nerve with some here ... couples that state the female is off limits to the guys in the other couple ... Always get the impression that there is some insecurity on the guys part?

I understand some women wont want other guys, just the female of the couple ... But I'm guessing a lot is due to the guy being a little insecure? "

Possibly but lots of people think that the dynamic subs and their partners shows insecurity on one of their parts too....it takes all sorts and in this sort of activity nobody plays better than someone else just because their preferences are different.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

that should have said "dynamic between"

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By *uckandbunnyCouple over a year ago

In your bed

It's a mighty assumption you've made. I live watching the Mrs fuck men and women.

On the whole she finde women more appealing.

How dare I force her to fuck a man she doesn't want

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We are a very secure couple but we have our own way of playing, hubby likes to see me with another guy and enjoys joing in at some point, he isn't bothered about playing with another woman and neither am I, we would love to meet another couple where she is straight and enjoys watching her man with another woman and then joining in with her own partner.

Its just the way we enjoy things.

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"This may hit a nerve with some here ... couples that state the female is off limits to the guys in the other couple ... Always get the impression that there is some insecurity on the guys part?

I understand some women wont want other guys, just the female of the couple ... But I'm guessing a lot is due to the guy being a little insecure? "

I get that a lot of couples will want single guys and single girls.... and that i fully understand.....

i don't always get the "well we are a couple, advising for another couple, but in fact we only want half of that couple".........that can on occasions feel like "we just want the extra body!"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This may hit a nerve with some here ... couples that state the female is off limits to the guys in the other couple ... Always get the impression that there is some insecurity on the guys part?

I understand some women wont want other guys, just the female of the couple ... But I'm guessing a lot is due to the guy being a little insecure?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When I first started swinging with my ex I didn't want to fuck other men. We were only into single fems. That evolved to other couples but it was not because of anyones insecurities. Just our preferences.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Obviously playing as a single female now, if I play with a couple, I only meet for full play with both as I find putting on a fem-fem show a little like performing and that doesn't float my boat."

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By *adybee77Woman over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

"This may hit a nerve with some here ... couples that state the female is off limits to the guys in the other couple ... Always get the impression that there is some insecurity on the guys part?

I understand some women wont want other guys, just the female of the couple ... But I'm guessing a lot is due to the guy being a little insecure?

I get that a lot of couples will want single guys and single girls.... and that i fully understand.....

i don't always get the "well we are a couple, advising for another couple, but in fact we only want half of that couple".........that can on occasions feel like "we just want the extra body!""

Prior to finding fab, a good few years ago, an ex and I met a couple who had said they wished to swap. Actually what happened... she was allowed both the guys, and I had to sit and watch, waiting until she had finished with my fella, and then I was allowed to touch him only... needless to say the second meet was declined. They really should have looked for a single guy to join in as I got absolutely nothing out of the meet, and then subjected to a homophobic rant about bisexual women just pestering her, and never understanding her boundaries!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This may hit a nerve with some here ... couples that state the female is off limits to the guys in the other couple ... Always get the impression that there is some insecurity on the guys part?

I understand some women wont want other guys, just the female of the couple ... But I'm guessing a lot is due to the guy being a little insecure?

I get that a lot of couples will want single guys and single girls.... and that i fully understand.....

i don't always get the "well we are a couple, advising for another couple, but in fact we only want half of that couple".........that can on occasions feel like "we just want the extra body!"

Why did you stay? I would have walked out.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do think that for some couples they only actually want the other female to fulfil their girl/girl fantasies or to try mff, but as single females are not as easy to find they settle with meeting a couple. Not condemning anyone for this, each to their own but we swing to enjoy things together not just sit back and watch.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"I do think that for some couples they only actually want the other female to fulfil their girl/girl fantasies or to try mff, but as single females are not as easy to find they settle with meeting a couple. Not condemning anyone for this, each to their own but we swing to enjoy things together not just sit back and watch. "

we have met with a couple and through naivety (our own) we didn't pick up on the signals that he was a voyeur only and they ignored the fact that I am straight despite it being on our profile and us telling them. It didn't work out too well

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"It's a mighty assumption you've made. I live watching the Mrs fuck men and women.

On the whole she finde women more appealing.

How dare I force her to fuck a man she doesn't want"

if I read the Opening post right... I think they are musing "why advertise for a couple, when you only want one half of that couple".... when it would be easier to advertise for a single guy or girl.....

i'd be interested to hear the reaction of anyone who has had the "We like you both, but only want to play with your partner" e-mail.... because I know what my reaction would likely be....

two words, 7 letters, 3 F's.....

or if a couple has been ballsy enough to send that email......

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By *adybee77Woman over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

"This may hit a nerve with some here ... couples that state the female is off limits to the guys in the other couple ... Always get the impression that there is some insecurity on the guys part?

I understand some women wont want other guys, just the female of the couple ... But I'm guessing a lot is due to the guy being a little insecure?

I get that a lot of couples will want single guys and single girls.... and that i fully understand.....

i don't always get the "well we are a couple, advising for another couple, but in fact we only want half of that couple".........that can on occasions feel like "we just want the extra body!"

Why did you stay? I would have walked out."

Sadly we were in the middle of nowhere, I wasn't the driver that evening, and the ex refused to leave in case it made a scene

(major part of why he became an ex)

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"It's a mighty assumption you've made. I live watching the Mrs fuck men and women.

On the whole she finde women more appealing.

How dare I force her to fuck a man she doesn't want

i'd be interested to hear the reaction of anyone who has had the "We like you both, but only want to play with your partner" e-mail.... because I know what my reaction would likely be....

two words, 7 letters, 3 F's.....

or if a couple has been ballsy enough to send that email......"

You read that into the first post? Blimey! I read that they think that couples who play a certain way have an insecure male.

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

You read that into the first post? Blimey! I read that they think that couples who play a certain way have an insecure male."

okay... i may have expanded it a bit... but it I suppose its a logical expansion in terms of swinging in general (I am not going to go down the calling people insecure route!!! lol)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This may hit a nerve with some here ... couples that state the female is off limits to the guys in the other couple ... Always get the impression that there is some insecurity on the guys part?

I understand some women wont want other guys, just the female of the couple ... But I'm guessing a lot is due to the guy being a little insecure? "

In some instances there will be insecurity, but I would guess that this is the minority rather than the majority, some women genuinely don't want to play with other men. Many advertise for soft play only, and to me this is like an extension of that. Some enjoy the voyeuristic side of watching two women together making this an ideal way to play for them. So long as they put this in the profile though so you can make an informed decision about whether to contact them I don't see the issue. I can understand the frustration if you are on a meet and during play these rules come out, but then surely such boundaries would be checked beforehand?

We're all on here to fulfill our own wants and fantasies, just look for those that overlap with yours instead of making assumptions about the relationships of other people.

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By *airy_HettyWoman over a year ago

Greater London

"It's a mighty assumption you've made. I live watching the Mrs fuck men and women.

On the whole she finde women more appealing.

How dare I force her to fuck a man she doesn't want

i'd be interested to hear the reaction of anyone who has had the "We like you both, but only want to play with your partner" e-mail.... because I know what my reaction would likely be....

two words, 7 letters, 3 F's.....

or if a couple has been ballsy enough to send that email......"

Well I sent a reply along those lines to some silly woman who never read my profile and saw my orientation but invited me to play with both of them.

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By *D40Couple over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"This may hit a nerve with some here ... couples that state the female is off limits to the guys in the other couple ... Always get the impression that there is some insecurity on the guys part?

I understand some women wont want other guys, just the female of the couple ... But I'm guessing a lot is due to the guy being a little insecure? "

Not every couple. If me and my partner meet a couple & we all want to play then we play. If one doesn't want to then nobody plays.

However if we are at Chams and one of us gets lucky then go enjoy

Nobody likes selfish people.

Mrs WD40

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We are a couple where I am the Mrs and I want FF and hubby would watch. Also looking for same room /soft swap. Some find this quite tame lol but hubby says he's happy to share me but wants to keep full penetration to just him. No insecurities here, we've been together over 25 years lol.

He doesn't want to fuck another woman either btw...both happy with ff/same room/soft swap.

I reckon the world would be a boring place if everyone is the same

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By *D40Couple over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"We are a couple where I am the Mrs and I want FF and hubby would watch. Also looking for same room /soft swap. Some find this quite tame lol but hubby says he's happy to share me but wants to keep full penetration to just him. No insecurities here, we've been together over 25 years lol.

He doesn't want to fuck another woman either btw...both happy with ff/same room/soft swap.

I reckon the world would be a boring place if everyone is the same "

I have to say i agree with you on most stuff there. But i find oral sex to be more personal (if the guy ejaculates in your mouth) than penetration with a condom, but that's my feelings on the matter.

I bet he'll have a lot of fun watching, i quite like watching my man with a woman so see where he's coming from

Enjoy x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This may hit a nerve with some here ... couples that state the female is off limits to the guys in the other couple ... Always get the impression that there is some insecurity on the guys part?

I understand some women wont want other guys, just the female of the couple ... But I'm guessing a lot is due to the guy being a little insecure?

I get that a lot of couples will want single guys and single girls.... and that i fully understand.....

i don't always get the "well we are a couple, advising for another couple, but in fact we only want half of that couple".........that can on occasions feel like "we just want the extra body!"

Why did you stay? I would have walked out.

Sadly we were in the middle of nowhere, I wasn't the driver that evening, and the ex refused to leave in case it made a scene

(major part of why he became an ex)"

Good for you for getting rid. x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

mildred is off limits to guys having penetration of her choice not mine, mildred is free to have any guy she wants for penetration but she choses not too, much to my disappointment

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By *iggeroooo OP Couple over a year ago

Conwy

Sorry guys, I was not fully clear in post but ... I mean couples where the female is off limits, but the male fully expects the other to not play with his partner. That to me is very selfish and very insecure. Its not exactly happened to us, just from a previous conversation where I was told I cannot under any circumstances have any contact with his partner ... Then went on to ask me what my partner likes and how he cannot wait to have fun with both his partner and mine

... Yeah, ill just sit and watch shall I?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry guys, I was not fully clear in post but ... I mean couples where the female is off limits, but the male fully expects the other to not play with his partner.

That to me is very selfish and very insecure.

Its not exactly happened to us, just from a previous conversation where I was told I cannot under any circumstances have any contact with his partner ... Then went on to ask me what my partner likes and how he cannot wait to have fun with both his partner and mine

... Yeah, ill just sit and watch shall I?

They're clearly looking for a single female rather than a couple where the man is excluded? Unless man is just happy to sit back and watch the proceedings lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you don't understand someone's limits, then ask them about it - no point just asking everybody else...

If you can't accept their limits, then move on - it's up to them what limits they set, not you...!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry guys, I was not fully clear in post but ... I mean couples where the female is off limits, but the male fully expects the other to not play with his partner.

That to me is very selfish and very insecure.

... Yeah, ill just sit and watch shall I?

What the heck are you supposed to do while the other 3 play? In that case I'd just tell them to fuck off. They are looking for a MFF but can't get a single female. If you were cuckold or voyeur fair enough.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple over a year ago

In your bed

"Sorry guys, I was not fully clear in post but ... I mean couples where the female is off limits, but the male fully expects the other to not play with his partner.

That to me is very selfish and very insecure.

... Yeah, ill just sit and watch shall I?

I assume you said that would not work for you. They can ask you don't have to agree.

We have no commitment to full sex it may or may not happen. But if full swap is another's requirement we would be clear.

It's all about communication and everyone being clear. If you settle for a lesser experience then that's up to you.

I could insist on calling everyone tart but insist everyone else use proper names. It does not mean you have to meet us. It will just restrict our matches.

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By *iggeroooo OP Couple over a year ago

Conwy

Well it only bothered me so much as the guy couldn't understand why we wouldn't be interested as they are "hot" ... Which to be fair, they are. But still, being hot does not mean you get what you want lol

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple over a year ago

Leicestershire

"Sorry guys, I was not fully clear in post but ... I mean couples where the female is off limits, but the male fully expects the other to not play with his partner.

That to me is very selfish and very insecure.

... Yeah, ill just sit and watch shall I?

They're clearly looking for a single female rather than a couple where the man is excluded? Unless man is just happy to sit back and watch the proceedings lol"

Definitely this. Seen it loads. Can't find a single girl to play with so advertise for a couple and exclude the male.

Yeah.... Right lol.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple over a year ago

In your bed

"Well it only bothered me so much as the guy couldn't understand why we wouldn't be interested as they are "hot" ... Which to be fair, they are.

But still, being hot does not mean you get what you want lol "

Well maybe he just thinks he's too fab for school.

Sounds like you avoid a potential bad meeting. Which in a way is a good result.

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