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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Following on from chameleons thread whats best what do you like to see a lady that dresses for her size and shape or to let it all hang out now im a big girl and there are some big girls at chams who just love to show their curves. Power to the curves or cover up. |
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By *dam147Man
over a year ago
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"Following on from chameleons thread whats best what do you like to see a lady that dresses for her size and shape or to let it all hang out now im a big girl and there are some big girls at chams who just love to show their curves. Power to the curves or cover up."
Power to the curves!!
Some Bigger girls can look really sexy in their gear.
But at the end of the day you have to be happy with what your wearing and some people don't like showing their body off |
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"Following on from chameleons thread whats best what do you like to see a lady that dresses for her size and shape or to let it all hang out now im a big girl and there are some big girls at chams who just love to show their curves. Power to the curves or cover up."
well you looked just so gorgeous shaz when i saw you in the tv rom last week!,hmm just great!. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As diamond says, i'll wear what I'm comfortable in. That way I feel comfortable and confident and if it happens to show off my curves then that's great too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sexy dress such as basque and stockings is much nicer in my view, no matter what body type the lady happens to be.
Obviously, if you are in and out of the jacuzzi you will feel better in a towel.
You'll still get shagged though, so I wouldn't be too worried  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People should dress to flatter their size and shape... that doesn't mean cover up.... but it does mean accepting just because you can get one in your size it doesn't mean you should wear it."
Very good point, and if it doesnt come in the right size either a) don't squeeze into it or b) wear a something designed as 'fitted' all baggy.
Above all though, wear a smile and be comfortable and happy whether that is covered up or hanging free  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sexy dress such as basque and stockings is much nicer in my view, no matter what body type the lady happens to be.
Obviously, if you are in and out of the jacuzzi you will feel better in a towel.
You'll still get shagged though, so I wouldn't be too worried "
thats the problem i find, i dont like to just go and put a towel on, i always try to look my best and make an effort, but i do love the jacuzzi, makes me wonder sometimes why i bother spending so long doing my hair, make up, looking for nice stuff to wear when i go home looking like the dogs dinner at the end of the night lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can't exactly cover up when going into the jacuzzi!
However, I would wear what I feel comfortable, that usually means bearing a bit of flesh but not too much to be arrested for indecency! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think people should wear what the hell they like and sod anyone else.
I always wear lingerie to clubs as thats what works for me. I feel sexy in it and thats all that matters.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wear what your comfortable with/out and be proud of the skin you're in.
I went to a club last month and there was a very big sexy blonde in just a black chiffon drape and hold up stockings dancing.
She oozed sexuality and confidence.
In the jaquzi I was lucky enough to join in as she entertained her man and another in softplay (her rules).
Later she put on such a full performance with her man you'd of thought she was a porn star.
I guess what I'm trying to say here ladies is that there are a lot of factors other than size that make a woman attractive.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I feel sexy when I dress up for meets in things that make me look and feel good, to me, that is a real confidence booster. "
this to me is spot on, i feel confident in gorgeous underwear and ok i have a flabby tummy and I dont even wanna think about my backside, but if ive got a sexy corset on then i feel a million dollars and it gives me confidence to enjoy myself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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when i go clubsi feel concious of my tummy etc so i wear a floaty kaftan type thing (looks better than it sounds, emphasises my breasts and is slightly see through, wearing it with sexy heels, makes me feel good.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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People should dress to flatter themselves and also have consideration that maybe not everyone wants to see what they have.
While it's important to be happy with yourself, it's also important to understand that not everyone may agree with you. Shoving it in people's faces, so to speak can be both rude and unwanted.
And yes that's to the women. *and* men. |
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"People should dress to flatter themselves and also have consideration that maybe not everyone wants to see what they have.
While it's important to be happy with yourself, it's also important to understand that not everyone may agree with you. Shoving it in people's faces, so to speak can be both rude and unwanted.
And yes that's to the women. *and* men."
I don't agree....I think people should wear/not wear whatever they themselves are most comfortable with. If someone doesn't like what they see...they can look at something/someone else. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't agree....I think people should wear/not wear whatever they themselves are most comfortable with. If someone doesn't like what they see...they can look at something/someone else."
Without social consideration where would we be? You can't go through life with a "screw you, I'll do what I want" attitude. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"People should dress to flatter themselves and also have consideration that maybe not everyone wants to see what they have.
While it's important to be happy with yourself, it's also important to understand that not everyone may agree with you. Shoving it in people's faces, so to speak can be both rude and unwanted.
And yes that's to the women. *and* men."
I've never witnessed anyone who is over your beautiful proprotions 'shoving' anything in people's faces (well, not without consent and encouragement!)and although I prefer to cover up, I'd never tell anyone to do the same on that basis.
If someone doesn't like what they see, how about this for a concept ... don't look!!
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"People should dress to flatter themselves and also have consideration that maybe not everyone wants to see what they have.
While it's important to be happy with yourself, it's also important to understand that not everyone may agree with you. Shoving it in people's faces, so to speak can be both rude and unwanted.
And yes that's to the women. *and* men."
For someone that is into fetish I am surprised at your post, as you go to fetish clubs I thought you would have been more open minded and accepting of what people wear in clubs.
After all it doesn't come any more diverse than at fetish clubs..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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For someone that is into fetish I am surprised at your post, as you go to fetish clubs I thought you would have been more open minded and accepting of what people wear in clubs.
After all it doesn't come any more diverse than at fetish clubs....."
It's nothing to do with being open minded. I see plenty at clubs that disturbs me.
My post was aimed at the type of person who thinks they look a million dollars and craves attention for it, whether people want to give it or not. I've met these types in all walks of life and I have no doubt they exist in swingers clubs also.
There's nothing wrong with believing a healthy dose of consideration for others is a milestone for community.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't agree....I think people should wear/not wear whatever they themselves are most comfortable with. If someone doesn't like what they see...they can look at something/someone else.
Without social consideration where would we be? You can't go through life with a "screw you, I'll do what I want" attitude."
So you, being of smaller proportions, can walk around wearing whatever you want, exposing as much of you as you like, but anyone over your proscribed ideal has to cover up??
Get over yourself!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"People should dress to flatter themselves and also have consideration that maybe not everyone wants to see what they have.
While it's important to be happy with yourself, it's also important to understand that not everyone may agree with you. Shoving it in people's faces, so to speak can be both rude and unwanted.
And yes that's to the women. *and* men.
I've never witnessed anyone who is over your beautiful proprotions 'shoving' anything in people's faces (well, not without consent and encouragement!)and although I prefer to cover up, I'd never tell anyone to do the same on that basis.
If someone doesn't like what they see, how about this for a concept ... don't look!!
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How about if you disagree with me, don't reply.
It's the same concept, isn't it? But I'd not be that rude to assume you have to be the one to modify your behavior. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't agree....I think people should wear/not wear whatever they themselves are most comfortable with. If someone doesn't like what they see...they can look at something/someone else.
Without social consideration where would we be? You can't go through life with a "screw you, I'll do what I want" attitude.
So you, being of smaller proportions, can walk around wearing whatever you want, exposing as much of you as you like, but anyone over your proscribed ideal has to cover up??
Get over yourself!!"
At which point, can you tell me, did I say I expose myself?
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i do like to dress up and look sexy when i go to meets or to chams (hopefully i succeed ) i am still a bit too conscious of my wobbly bits to go completely naked lol
having only really been to chams on bbw nights i am a bit more worried about what to wear to the beach party - ideas to my inbox please |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't agree....I think people should wear/not wear whatever they themselves are most comfortable with. If someone doesn't like what they see...they can look at something/someone else.
Without social consideration where would we be? You can't go through life with a "screw you, I'll do what I want" attitude.
So you, being of smaller proportions, can walk around wearing whatever you want, exposing as much of you as you like, but anyone over your proscribed ideal has to cover up??
Get over yourself!!
At which point, can you tell me, did I say I expose myself?
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What you're saying is that anyone who doesn't fit a certain criteria should cover up ... who sets the criteria? Some people find big wobbly bums a turn on - some find them a turn off ... should a woman with a big wobbly bum cover up to suit the person who finds it a turn off or show it off to the one who likes it??
What's 'disturbing' to one is beautiful to another. It's what's known as subjectivity.
So how are people supposed to know what to cover up?
Surely the best policy is to let other people get on with what's comfortable for them - and if you find it disturbing or don't like what you see, turn your attention to something that appeals to your particular preferences. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't agree....I think people should wear/not wear whatever they themselves are most comfortable with. If someone doesn't like what they see...they can look at something/someone else.
Without social consideration where would we be? You can't go through life with a "screw you, I'll do what I want" attitude.
So you, being of smaller proportions, can walk around wearing whatever you want, exposing as much of you as you like, but anyone over your proscribed ideal has to cover up??
Get over yourself!!
At which point, can you tell me, did I say I expose myself?
What you're saying is that anyone who doesn't fit a certain criteria should cover up ... who sets the criteria? Some people find big wobbly bums a turn on - some find them a turn off ... should a woman with a big wobbly bum cover up to suit the person who finds it a turn off or show it off to the one who likes it??
What's 'disturbing' to one is beautiful to another. It's what's known as subjectivity.
So how are people supposed to know what to cover up?
Surely the best policy is to let other people get on with what's comfortable for them - and if you find it disturbing or don't like what you see, turn your attention to something that appeals to your particular preferences."
To be perfectly honest, after you accusations of me being sizest (unfounded), assumptions that I expose myself due to my body type and accusations that I believe only "slim" people should be allowed to dress sexily - none of which I add can be backed up by anything I have said, I see no reason to even answer you further. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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To be perfectly honest, after you accusations of me being sizest (unfounded), assumptions that I expose myself due to my body type and accusations that I believe only "slim" people should be allowed to dress sexily - none of which I add can be backed up by anything I have said, I see no reason to even answer you further."
So what is it you find so disturbing that you feel it should be covered up? Birth marks? Birth defects? Scars?
As the thread was started with the aim of talking about larger women and whether they cover up or let it all hang out, I think it's safe to assume that's the subject matter and that you meant overweight people 'should understand' that that others may not want to see what they have on show. That makes you sizeist.
That's not a problem - if you don't like the look of fat bits, that's your preference (which is fine) but why the hell should overweight people cover up to appease your sensibilities? Don't like it? Then just look away.
And if you weren't referring to fat body parts perhaps you could enlighten us all as to what exactly it is you find so offensive that it shouldn't be on show? |
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I don't agree....I think people should wear/not wear whatever they themselves are most comfortable with. If someone doesn't like what they see...they can look at something/someone else.
Without social consideration where would we be? You can't go through life with a "screw you, I'll do what I want" attitude."
How on earth does what someone is wearing/not wearing constitute a lack of social consideration?....and I certainly don't go through life with a "screw you" attitude.
I think there are a lot of people who have issues over some parts of their bodies...I just feel that they should wear whatever makes them feel the most comfortable.....in a swinging club or elsewhere for that matter. As I said ealier...if someone doesn't find what they are lookinbg at attractive, then look elsewhere. For me oneof the best things about swinging is there are people to suit everyone....long live diversity and the freedom to cover up or display as one chooses. |
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I don't agree....I think people should wear/not wear whatever they themselves are most comfortable with. If someone doesn't like what they see...they can look at something/someone else.
Without social consideration where would we be? You can't go through life with a "screw you, I'll do what I want" attitude."
ain't that the truth, but so many do.  |
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I don't agree....I think people should wear/not wear whatever they themselves are most comfortable with. If someone doesn't like what they see...they can look at something/someone else.
Without social consideration where would we be? You can't go through life with a "screw you, I'll do what I want" attitude.
ain't that the truth, but so many do. "
I do not see how wearing/not wearing what makes you feel comfortable can be interpretated as a "screw you I'll do what I want" attitude......or every single person is guilty of it surely |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't agree....I think people should wear/not wear whatever they themselves are most comfortable with. If someone doesn't like what they see...they can look at something/someone else.
Without social consideration where would we be? You can't go through life with a "screw you, I'll do what I want" attitude."
Ay the end of the day if you feel sexy, you look sexy, because confidance shines tho and that in itself is sexy
If i was at a club and someone said to me, you look crap in that does that mean i should go get changed because someone dont like it? is that what social consideration is? and if i choose not to because i feel good it in does that mean i have a fuck you attitude? 
At the end of the day you wear what you feel good in and what others think dont matter really, because your never going to please everyone, no matter what you wear there will always be someone who dont like |
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The reason i enjoy chams so much is because there is such a cross section of people. Big/small/old/young, i feel free when i go to chams whether its a bbw night or not to dress exactly how i want i dont do it because im an exibitionist i do it because im completley comfortable there. DOnt think i have ever seen anyone there who i thought shouldnt be dressed how they are in fact i rarely notice, the only time i comment is if someone has a particularly gorgeous outfit on and they i will compliment them. |
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"The reason i enjoy chams so much is because there is such a cross section of people. Big/small/old/young, i feel free when i go to chams whether its a bbw night or not to dress exactly how i want i dont do it because im an exibitionist i do it because im completley comfortable there. DOnt think i have ever seen anyone there who i thought shouldnt be dressed how they are in fact i rarely notice, the only time i comment is if someone has a particularly gorgeous outfit on and they i will compliment them. "
Me too, thats the reaosn i like chams because people from all walks of like go, no matter what size, age, colour you are all is welcome and made to feel welcome. i have been to clubs where ive felt very out of place because i dont look a certain way but people there are so much more accepting
If you feel good wear it, for every one person who dont like you theres another one who does and at the end of the day you cant get thro the whole club in a night, half is plenty lmao |
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"The reason i enjoy chams so much is because there is such a cross section of people. Big/small/old/young, i feel free when i go to chams whether its a bbw night or not to dress exactly how i want i dont do it because im an exibitionist i do it because im completley comfortable there. DOnt think i have ever seen anyone there who i thought shouldnt be dressed how they are in fact i rarely notice, the only time i comment is if someone has a particularly gorgeous outfit on and they i will compliment them.
Me too, thats the reaosn i like chams because people from all walks of like go, no matter what size, age, colour you are all is welcome and made to feel welcome. i have been to clubs where ive felt very out of place because i dont look a certain way but people there are so much more accepting
If you feel good wear it, for every one person who dont like you theres another one who does and at the end of the day you cant get thro the whole club in a night, half is plenty lmao"
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I don't agree....I think people should wear/not wear whatever they themselves are most comfortable with. If someone doesn't like what they see...they can look at something/someone else.
Without social consideration where would we be? You can't go through life with a "screw you, I'll do what I want" attitude.
ain't that the truth, but so many do.
I do not see how wearing/not wearing what makes you feel comfortable can be interpretated as a "screw you I'll do what I want" attitude......or every single person is guilty of it surely"
well im guilty of it lol
When i buy underwear i buy what i like and what i feel good in
When i go to clubs i wear what i feel comfy in
If people dont like me they dont have to look, because im not running my life round looking how others think i should
And if that means i have a fuck you attitude, im happy to have it, because i dont judge others on their looks and if other are sad enough to do so to me thats their problem not mine |
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As I've already commented, I love to see ladies dressed in basque and stockings, no matter what their body type. I think its both sexy and in keeping with the lifestyle 
As a bloke, I feel a little self concious of my body and prefer to cover up if the dress code allows.
Tell me though ladies, at clubs like Chams, who have a specific dress code for guys, what do you think sexy dress is for a guy like me. Are shorts or towel sexy? Not to me they're not |
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"As I've already commented, I love to see ladies dressed in basque and stockings, no matter what their body type. I think its both sexy and in keeping with the lifestyle
As a bloke, I feel a little self concious of my body and prefer to cover up if the dress code allows.
Tell me though ladies, at clubs like Chams, who have a specific dress code for guys, what do you think sexy dress is for a guy like me. Are shorts or towel sexy? Not to me they're not "
This is a difficult one for me, in general women are not as visual as guys. I dont think guys are sexy i think guys are horny and for me that isnt anything to do with what there dressed in in a club. If your talking about in the normal street then there are certain things that guys are dressed in that appeal to me, but i personally cant think of anything a guy could be dressed in in a club for me to think he was dressed sexily. But that of casue is just me |
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Tell me though ladies, at clubs like Chams, who have a specific dress code for guys, what do you think sexy dress is for a guy like me. Are shorts or towel sexy? Not to me they're not "
While I've never been I can have an opinion (I hope) and I have to say that the thought of you (being the man, not *you* in particular) being restricted to a towel / shorts is just insulting to your individuality and you desire to dress how you want. To me it turns a roomfull of individuals into a roomfull of identikit meat. Even worse woman are given free reign to dress to impress.
But that's just me, and it was also a different thread so I won't bang on. And don't bother flaming me either, I won't bite this time.
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You know what i cant understand, all clubs have websites. Surely if your going to be trying a new club you check the website out. If you dont like something about the club whether its dress code or anything else surely you would find a club suitable to what your looking for. The first club i ever went to i hated, for many reasons one being the dress code but other reasons as well, it wasnt what i was looking for so i never went back |
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"I have seen some guys there with some very sexy shorts on very sexy indeed Mmmmm"
Which is of course good.
But is it good to force those shorts on someone who'd love to attend, but is too body concious to wear them? |
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"As I've already commented, I love to see ladies dressed in basque and stockings, no matter what their body type. I think its both sexy and in keeping with the lifestyle
As a bloke, I feel a little self concious of my body and prefer to cover up if the dress code allows.
Tell me though ladies, at clubs like Chams, who have a specific dress code for guys, what do you think sexy dress is for a guy like me. Are shorts or towel sexy? Not to me they're not
This is a difficult one for me, in general women are not as visual as guys. I dont think guys are sexy i think guys are horny and for me that isnt anything to do with what there dressed in in a club. If your talking about in the normal street then there are certain things that guys are dressed in that appeal to me, but i personally cant think of anything a guy could be dressed in in a club for me to think he was dressed sexily. But that of casue is just me"
Think I know where you're coming from here Diamond.
In everyday life ladies have the choice and/or opportunity to dress how they feel, ie, sexily, formally, frumpy, lol, liesurely etc etc. Us blokes can either be formal or casual.
So perhaps it's just socially acceptable that ladies are sexy are just blokes, lol.
I think we'd have to venture into the fetish world to explore "other choices". |
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"As I've already commented, I love to see ladies dressed in basque and stockings, no matter what their body type. I think its both sexy and in keeping with the lifestyle
As a bloke, I feel a little self concious of my body and prefer to cover up if the dress code allows.
Tell me though ladies, at clubs like Chams, who have a specific dress code for guys, what do you think sexy dress is for a guy like me. Are shorts or towel sexy? Not to me they're not
This is a difficult one for me, in general women are not as visual as guys. I dont think guys are sexy i think guys are horny and for me that isnt anything to do with what there dressed in in a club. If your talking about in the normal street then there are certain things that guys are dressed in that appeal to me, but i personally cant think of anything a guy could be dressed in in a club for me to think he was dressed sexily. But that of casue is just me
Think I know where you're coming from here Diamond.
In everyday life ladies have the choice and/or opportunity to dress how they feel, ie, sexily, formally, frumpy, lol, liesurely etc etc. Us blokes can either be formal or casual.
So perhaps it's just socially acceptable that ladies are sexy are just blokes, lol.
I think we'd have to venture into the fetish world to explore "other choices"."
so what do you think would make you feel good and look good. |
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"I have seen some guys there with some very sexy shorts on very sexy indeed Mmmmm
Which is of course good.
But is it good to force those shorts on someone who'd love to attend, but is too body concious to wear them?"
I dont mind wearing shorts as 90% of the guys will also be wearing shorts. It's not the shorts thing that I'm really bothered about. I would prefer to wear a top |
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"As I've already commented, I love to see ladies dressed in basque and stockings, no matter what their body type. I think its both sexy and in keeping with the lifestyle
As a bloke, I feel a little self concious of my body and prefer to cover up if the dress code allows.
Tell me though ladies, at clubs like Chams, who have a specific dress code for guys, what do you think sexy dress is for a guy like me. Are shorts or towel sexy? Not to me they're not
This is a difficult one for me, in general women are not as visual as guys. I dont think guys are sexy i think guys are horny and for me that isnt anything to do with what there dressed in in a club. If your talking about in the normal street then there are certain things that guys are dressed in that appeal to me, but i personally cant think of anything a guy could be dressed in in a club for me to think he was dressed sexily. But that of casue is just me
Think I know where you're coming from here Diamond.
In everyday life ladies have the choice and/or opportunity to dress how they feel, ie, sexily, formally, frumpy, lol, liesurely etc etc. Us blokes can either be formal or casual.
So perhaps it's just socially acceptable that ladies are sexy are just blokes, lol.
I think we'd have to venture into the fetish world to explore "other choices".
so what do you think would make you feel good and look good."
I prefer not to be bare chested 
Don't get me wrong, I'm not in bad shape for an old bloke, I'm not too lardy, lol, but would prefer to cover up. |
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"I have seen some guys there with some very sexy shorts on very sexy indeed Mmmmm
Which is of course good.
But is it good to force those shorts on someone who'd love to attend, but is too body concious to wear them?
I dont mind wearing shorts as 90% of the guys will also be wearing shorts. It's not the shorts thing that I'm really bothered about. I would prefer to wear a top"
You can wear a top, quite a few guys wear tops, you could wear some kind of a vest one of these trendy string vests or something. I think the general rule is non street wear, something you wouldnt necessarily where out on the street |
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Ooh love a good pair of man boobs. But really its funny you see all the guys walking round breathing in and pushing their chests out so guys are just as insecure as the ladies do get allsorts and the hairy gorillas. |
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"Ooh love a good pair of man boobs. But really its funny you see all the guys walking round breathing in and pushing their chests out so guys are just as insecure as the ladies do get allsorts and the hairy gorillas."
I got my man boobs in the gym, but advancing years have added a bit too, lol. I get lots of attention from ladies who like my nips, lol, and I love it too, but am a bit self concious of it. |
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"Ooh love a good pair of man boobs. But really its funny you see all the guys walking round breathing in and pushing their chests out so guys are just as insecure as the ladies do get allsorts and the hairy gorillas.
I got my man boobs in the gym, but advancing years have added a bit too, lol. I get lots of attention from ladies who like my nips, lol, and I love it too, but am a bit self concious of it. "
Mind you jack, if your going to the beach party do really think the ladies are going to let you keep your top on for long anyway lol |
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"Ooh love a good pair of man boobs. But really its funny you see all the guys walking round breathing in and pushing their chests out so guys are just as insecure as the ladies do get allsorts and the hairy gorillas.
I got my man boobs in the gym, but advancing years have added a bit too, lol. I get lots of attention from ladies who like my nips, lol, and I love it too, but am a bit self concious of it.
Mind you jack, if your going to the beach party do really think the ladies are going to let you keep your top on for long anyway lol"
I'm nervous enough as it is without you putting extra thoughts in my head. |
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"Ooh love a good pair of man boobs. But really its funny you see all the guys walking round breathing in and pushing their chests out so guys are just as insecure as the ladies do get allsorts and the hairy gorillas.
I got my man boobs in the gym, but advancing years have added a bit too, lol. I get lots of attention from ladies who like my nips, lol, and I love it too, but am a bit self concious of it.
Mind you jack, if your going to the beach party do really think the ladies are going to let you keep your top on for long anyway lol
I'm nervous enough as it is without you putting extra thoughts in my head. "
soapy will look after you |
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"I attempted to wear a top over my bra and knickers at the last social. I did manage to get from the changing rooms to the smoking deck before someone disrobed me lol"
Just to clarify ... that would have been with your consent DS. I'd hate any nervous newcomers thinking you get stripped just walking between locations in Chams, whether you like it or not. I've never had anyone 'disrobe' me as I've just been walking round.
Good fun if you were happy with it though Diamond |
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"I attempted to wear a top over my bra and knickers at the last social. I did manage to get from the changing rooms to the smoking deck before someone disrobed me lol
Just to clarify ... that would have been with your consent DS. I'd hate any nervous newcomers thinking you get stripped just walking between locations in Chams, whether you like it or not. I've never had anyone 'disrobe' me as I've just been walking round.
Good fun if you were happy with it though Diamond "
Lol, yes of cause it was with my consent. I should of added that bit |
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By *avfavMan
over a year ago
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Ok here goes sexyness isn't what you look like or what you where its about how you carry yourself and how you feel with confidence etc.
I love a lady to take time to get ready and make the best of what they have and I do the same. literally you get out what you put in and I think of it like cinderella not every shoe fits every foot but keep trying and one will be a perfect fit lol |
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By *ayceeCouple
over a year ago
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"Ooh love a good pair of man boobs. But really its funny you see all the guys walking round breathing in and pushing their chests out so guys are just as insecure as the ladies do get allsorts and the hairy gorillas.
I got my man boobs in the gym, but advancing years have added a bit too, lol. I get lots of attention from ladies who like my nips, lol, and I love it too, but am a bit self concious of it.
Mind you jack, if your going to the beach party do really think the ladies are going to let you keep your top on for long anyway lol
I'm nervous enough as it is without you putting extra thoughts in my head. "
Aww Jack I will look after you babe  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"People should dress to flatter themselves and also have consideration that maybe not everyone wants to see what they have.
While it's important to be happy with yourself, it's also important to understand that not everyone may agree with you. Shoving it in people's faces, so to speak can be both rude and unwanted.
And yes that's to the women. *and* men."
We are on this planet for an average of eighty years
And we are what we are
We look like how we look
Why the hell we should do or look like other people think we should is beyond me
Life is for livin not for worrying what shallow minded bigoted people think xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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To be perfectly honest, after you accusations of me being sizest (unfounded), assumptions that I expose myself due to my body type and accusations that I believe only "slim" people should be allowed to dress sexily - none of which I add can be backed up by anything I have said, I see no reason to even answer you further.
So what is it you find so disturbing that you feel it should be covered up? Birth marks? Birth defects? Scars?
As the thread was started with the aim of talking about larger women and whether they cover up or let it all hang out, I think it's safe to assume that's the subject matter and that you meant overweight people 'should understand' that that others may not want to see what they have on show. That makes you sizeist.
That's not a problem - if you don't like the look of fat bits, that's your preference (which is fine) but why the hell should overweight people cover up to appease your sensibilities? Don't like it? Then just look away.
And if you weren't referring to fat body parts perhaps you could enlighten us all as to what exactly it is you find so offensive that it shouldn't be on show?"
i have to say england after reading this thread, the questions raised by the above (and previous) comments are valid questions, im not sure you have ment to come across the way you have, or the way some people have (including myself) taken what you have said.
maybe further explanation of your views would make things more clear. |
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Well heres a forum page we can join in as we understand the issue/discussion lol.
All we can say is "its not about what other people think of you its's what you think of yourself!"
Dress how the heck you like be that lingerie or towel(in chams)or however out and about, and if folks don't like it then tough!!!
You won't find us turning our back on anyone because of their size/shape (personal hygene is a bigger turn off!).
M&M xxxxx |
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i have to say england after reading this thread, the questions raised by the above (and previous) comments are valid questions, im not sure you have ment to come across the way you have, or the way some people have (including myself) taken what you have said.
maybe further explanation of your views would make things more clear."
Sorry but this thread far, far outlived my interest in bothering with it. |
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i have to say england after reading this thread, the questions raised by the above (and previous) comments are valid questions, im not sure you have ment to come across the way you have, or the way some people have (including myself) taken what you have said.
maybe further explanation of your views would make things more clear.
Sorry but this thread far, far outlived my interest in bothering with it."
Hmm in that case i have no choice but to take my first opinion of you and your comments as i did, i have read your profile and seen your posts over the past few weeks and i would have thought you to be very open minded people, turns out i was wrong, small mindedness is not an attractive quality, but i wont moan too long, ill do what most people do, look the other way and leave you to it, what every makes you happy...
ill be over there, with all the sexy ladies that let it all hang out
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i have to say england after reading this thread, the questions raised by the above (and previous) comments are valid questions, im not sure you have ment to come across the way you have, or the way some people have (including myself) taken what you have said.
maybe further explanation of your views would make things more clear.
Sorry but this thread far, far outlived my interest in bothering with it."
Typical response from someone who made a comment that can't be defended without making them look even more foolish.
I will remain covered up as that's how I feel most comfortable, but respect to those who CHOOSE to let it all hang out whatever their shape or size xx
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I'm a larger lady who hasn't been comfortable in her own skin for a long time but going to Chams has given me a new lease of life. I tend to wear underwear and a see-through baby doll plus pretty knee high stockings and heels. that I only wear them for the first hour in the bar is fine cos once I hit the jacuzzi I then wear my towel for the rest of the night. xx |
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I guess what I'm trying to say here ladies is that there are a lot of factors other than size that make a woman attractive.
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This is so very true!! and thank god it is !! I like to cover up my wobbliness and feel confident strutting about. we are all beautiful, big medium or small. the main thing is that you dress to feel confident and happy. xx |
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Tell me though ladies, at clubs like Chams, who have a specific dress code for guys, what do you think sexy dress is for a guy like me. Are shorts or towel sexy? Not to me they're not
While I've never been I can have an opinion (I hope) and I have to say that the thought of you (being the man, not *you* in particular) being restricted to a towel / shorts is just insulting to your and you desire to dress how you want. To me it turns a roomfull of individuals into a roomfull of identikit meat. Even worse woman are given free reign to dress to impress.
But that's just me, and it was also a different thread so I won't bang on. And don't bother flaming me either, I won't bite this time.
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To be honest i see everyone in a towel or underwear a great leveler not an insult to your individuality, it does not matter how much money you earn or what car you drive, when you go in there and everyones dressed the same noones any better than anyone else
And i perspnally like it for that |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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I'm like Jack in this respect...far from comfortable wandering around in a towel.
It's improved over the last year as being on here has helped me accept my physical attributes for what they are, but I'd still rather have a top on, even in a "towel club" (and I do note some of the above comments above saying this would be acceptable).
As for it being a leveller....well, yes, in a clothing sense. But it marginalises those less comfortable parading virtually naked.
It's not all about the label in your clothes...
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I do love a sexy bbw who shows off her curves and her flesh. Naked in a swinging club is fine by me! 
In the real world, there's a fine line between a bbw being too underdressed and dressing sexy, but definitely cleavage is a good thing, knee lengths skirts prob recommended.
But I guess it's the girl herself who just has to feel sexy in her outfit and have the confidence to pull it off...which usually makes me want to pull it off too |
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"I'm like Jack in this respect...far from comfortable wandering around in a towel.
It's improved over the last year as being on here has helped me accept my physical attributes for what they are, but I'd still rather have a top on, even in a "towel club" (and I do note some of the above comments above saying this would be acceptable).
As for it being a leveller....well, yes, in a clothing sense. But it marginalises those less comfortable parading virtually naked.
It's not all about the label in your clothes...
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not its not all about the labels in your clothes at all, i pesonally dont think things like that matters, but lets be honest how many times have you read on people profiles things like 'must be professional' etc as for lots of people what job you do and what kind of car you drive does matter, all i ment by being a great leveller is if your all sat wearing the same none can judge you by daft things and may get to know you and actually like you where as in other circumstances they wouldnt even talk to you
As for not feeling comfy, i hate walking round in my underwear, i feel very self conscious, every time i go to clubs and see the young, slim girls there i stand and think.....what the hell am i even doing here!! i have many faults, saggy and wobbly bits, and i know i have much competition in such places, and by competition i dont mean i have to compeat i mean theres much better looking women than me in there lol but if your going to do this you hve to get over your insecurities other wise theres no point |
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