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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nothing wrong with your profile, good looking couple.
Get yourselves to some clubs etc lots of single women there and its easier to create a situation face to face than through here   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Been a few forum threads about this topic
As a bi female I prefer to meet couples in a club with no pressure to play
Your comments about gross girls is off putting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Simply the lack of genuine, single bi women....rocking horse shit lol. Your profile, and you, look great.
If I was then I would but I'm not so I cant. My very best friend is but sadly we/she are too far away....Good hunting guys. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People should be more realistic not everyone is for everyone but ive found when given a chance great fun can be had by all ive been overlooked and turned down a few times well loads but a cpl i met changed there mind when we did play and been back a few times be more open everyone wants the fantasy person but take a gamble personality is better and your profile is a little aggresive |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are struggling in finding a girl to play with... is it normal for a couple? Or is it because something is wrong with us or our profile?
Any suggestions? 
Thanks,
M x "
So you are looking for a unicorn ? I'm sure she will come along in time . It's the same problem most men have finding a woman . Odds/numbers are against you . As suggested above , maybe better off attending a club .
Good luck in your search
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see your point about that message being aggressive... does it mean you are taking that message personally? I mean...do you think is referred to you?"
If it's a personal sent message then why wouldn't they take it personally ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are struggling in finding a girl to play with... is it normal for a couple? Or is it because something is wrong with us or our profile?
Any suggestions?
Thanks,
M x "
They don't call single ladies unicorns for nothing |
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By *marla OP Couple
over a year ago
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"I see your point about that message being aggressive... does it mean you are taking that message personally? I mean...do you think is referred to you?
If it's a personal sent message then why wouldn't they take it personally ? "
No no I'm not saying is personal, it's referred to some profiles that are not our cup of tea cause we find them gross. My question is: Why do you guys think it's referred to you?? Peace. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see your point about that message being aggressive... does it mean you are taking that message personally? I mean...do you think is referred to you?
If it's a personal sent message then why wouldn't they take it personally ?
No no I'm not saying is personal, it's referred to some profiles that are not our cup of tea cause we find them gross. My question is: Why do you guys think it's referred to you?? Peace."
I didn't think it was referred to me specifically, but it does make me think that you would potentially think I'm gross. It's self preservation to not take that risk and avoid the possibility being called gross. Plus it's also not how I'd talk about others and I wouldn't want to socialise with people who do talk about others like that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your comments about gross girls is off putting "
It's also stupid, if you are looking to fill your hole. You are looking for sex on here or not?
Changing it to tasteless is just as bad, lol... Why not just say what you want without insulting people who want differently to you? |
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"I see your point about that message being aggressive... does it mean you are taking that message personally? I mean...do you think is referred to you?
If it's a personal sent message then why wouldn't they take it personally ?
No no I'm not saying is personal, it's referred to some profiles that are not our cup of tea cause we find them gross. My question is: Why do you guys think it's referred to you?? Peace."
It isn't that they think it refers to them, they think that you are disrespecting other peoples preferences and there is no need for that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see your point about that message being aggressive... does it mean you are taking that message personally? I mean...do you think is referred to you?
If it's a personal sent message then why wouldn't they take it personally ?
No no I'm not saying is personal, it's referred to some profiles that are not our cup of tea cause we find them gross. My question is: Why do you guys think it's referred to you?? Peace."
It doesn't refer to me as I'm not tasteless or gross and not here just to fill my hole!! I just can't understand why would you put such a thing on your profile in the first place?
I'd say you're narrowing your chances of women messaging you. It's quite off putting.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Beauty is in the eye of the beholder so that makes me drop dead gorgeous sometimes txt and mail can come over the wrong way happens to us all . Good luck with your search |
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By *marla OP Couple
over a year ago
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"I see your point about that message being aggressive... does it mean you are taking that message personally? I mean...do you think is referred to you?
If it's a personal sent message then why wouldn't they take it personally ?
No no I'm not saying is personal, it's referred to some profiles that are not our cup of tea cause we find them gross. My question is: Why do you guys think it's referred to you?? Peace.
I didn't think it was referred to me specifically, but it does make me think that you would potentially think I'm gross. It's self preservation to not take that risk and avoid the possibility being called gross. Plus it's also not how I'd talk about others and I wouldn't want to socialise with people who do talk about others like that. "
Cmon, I'm sure you have seen/met people that you think were gross for one reason or the other.
But I understand your point about being "scared away". problem fixed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see your point about that message being aggressive... does it mean you are taking that message personally? I mean...do you think is referred to you?
If it's a personal sent message then why wouldn't they take it personally ?
No no I'm not saying is personal, it's referred to some profiles that are not our cup of tea cause we find them gross. My question is: Why do you guys think it's referred to you?? Peace.
I didn't think it was referred to me specifically, but it does make me think that you would potentially think I'm gross. It's self preservation to not take that risk and avoid the possibility being called gross. Plus it's also not how I'd talk about others and I wouldn't want to socialise with people who do talk about others like that.
Cmon, I'm sure you have seen/met people that you think were gross for one reason or the other.
But I understand your point about being "scared away". problem fixed "
Thinking it and writing it on your profile are two completely different things! |
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"I see your point about that message being aggressive... does it mean you are taking that message personally? I mean...do you think is referred to you?
If it's a personal sent message then why wouldn't they take it personally ?
No no I'm not saying is personal, it's referred to some profiles that are not our cup of tea cause we find them gross. My question is: Why do you guys think it's referred to you?? Peace.
I didn't think it was referred to me specifically, but it does make me think that you would potentially think I'm gross. It's self preservation to not take that risk and avoid the possibility being called gross. Plus it's also not how I'd talk about others and I wouldn't want to socialise with people who do talk about others like that.
Cmon, I'm sure you have seen/met people that you think were gross for one reason or the other.
But I understand your point about being "scared away". problem fixed "
Yes. However your profile is there to attract people not tell them that you have previously come across people you find unattractive, it makes you sound superior in attitude.
You asked for advice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see your point about that message being aggressive... does it mean you are taking that message personally? I mean...do you think is referred to you?
If it's a personal sent message then why wouldn't they take it personally ?
No no I'm not saying is personal, it's referred to some profiles that are not our cup of tea cause we find them gross. My question is: Why do you guys think it's referred to you?? Peace.
I didn't think it was referred to me specifically, but it does make me think that you would potentially think I'm gross. It's self preservation to not take that risk and avoid the possibility being called gross. Plus it's also not how I'd talk about others and I wouldn't want to socialise with people who do talk about others like that.
Cmon, I'm sure you have seen/met people that you think were gross for one reason or the other.
But I understand your point about being "scared away". problem fixed "
It's not something I'd like to see on a profile, and it's not a term I'd use for requirements on a profile.
I'm just explaining why I didn't reply as you asked for advice. Hopefully it'll help you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes. However your profile is there to attract people not tell them that you have previously come across people you find unattractive, it makes you sound superior in attitude.
You asked for advice "
I automatically imagine judgemental people as so fussy about sex that they'd use tongs to touch another persons privates, lol. |
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By *marla OP Couple
over a year ago
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It definitely helped a lot! We are Italian and we got used to say what we think, so we didn't mean to offend anyone..I mean, how could we! It's probably a different side of our culture..anyway.. that probably comes across as being haughty, so..profile changed!
Thanks for the advice! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes. However your profile is there to attract people not tell them that you have previously come across people you find unattractive, it makes you sound superior in attitude.
You asked for advice
I automatically imagine judgemental people as so fussy about sex that they'd use tongs to touch another persons privates, lol."
What a picture I now have in my head   |
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By *marla OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Yes. However your profile is there to attract people not tell them that you have previously come across people you find unattractive, it makes you sound superior in attitude.
You asked for advice
I automatically imagine judgemental people as so fussy about sex that they'd use tongs to touch another persons privates, lol."
It's spelled tongues not tongs lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It definitely helped a lot! We are Italian and we got used to say what we think, so we didn't mean to offend anyone..I mean, how could we! It's probably a different side of our culture..anyway.. that probably comes across as being haughty, so..profile changed!
Thanks for the advice!"
Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes. However your profile is there to attract people not tell them that you have previously come across people you find unattractive, it makes you sound superior in attitude.
You asked for advice
I automatically imagine judgemental people as so fussy about sex that they'd use tongs to touch another persons privates, lol.
It's spelled tongues not tongs lol"
I meant cooking tongs, as in you don't really wanna touch anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes. However your profile is there to attract people not tell them that you have previously come across people you find unattractive, it makes you sound superior in attitude.
You asked for advice
I automatically imagine judgemental people as so fussy about sex that they'd use tongs to touch another persons privates, lol.
What a picture I now have in my head "
I love my imagination, it's very funny. |
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By *marla OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Yes. However your profile is there to attract people not tell them that you have previously come across people you find unattractive, it makes you sound superior in attitude.
You asked for advice
I automatically imagine judgemental people as so fussy about sex that they'd use tongs to touch another persons privates, lol.
It's spelled tongues not tongs lol
I meant cooking tongs, as in you don't really wanna touch anyone."
I know what you meant lol! Mine, was a joke saying that rather than tongs we use tongues (difficult to say jokes online) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes. However your profile is there to attract people not tell them that you have previously come across people you find unattractive, it makes you sound superior in attitude.
You asked for advice
I automatically imagine judgemental people as so fussy about sex that they'd use tongs to touch another persons privates, lol.
It's spelled tongues not tongs lol
I meant cooking tongs, as in you don't really wanna touch anyone."
What about curling tongs?? Pmsl |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes. However your profile is there to attract people not tell them that you have previously come across people you find unattractive, it makes you sound superior in attitude.
You asked for advice
I automatically imagine judgemental people as so fussy about sex that they'd use tongs to touch another persons privates, lol.
It's spelled tongues not tongs lol"
I like what you did there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes. However your profile is there to attract people not tell them that you have previously come across people you find unattractive, it makes you sound superior in attitude.
You asked for advice
I automatically imagine judgemental people as so fussy about sex that they'd use tongs to touch another persons privates, lol.
It's spelled tongues not tongs lol
I meant cooking tongs, as in you don't really wanna touch anyone.
What about curling tongs?? Pmsl "
Lol. Imagining pubes, flaps, and balls being styled now, thanks.
Did watch a porn last night where the woman had her flaps tied together with a shoelace through some piercing holes, omg it was so weird and funny. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes. However your profile is there to attract people not tell them that you have previously come across people you find unattractive, it makes you sound superior in attitude.
You asked for advice
I automatically imagine judgemental people as so fussy about sex that they'd use tongs to touch another persons privates, lol.
It's spelled tongues not tongs lol
I meant cooking tongs, as in you don't really wanna touch anyone.
I know what you meant lol! Mine, was a joke saying that rather than tongs we use tongues (difficult to say jokes online)"
I don't even get jokes in real life never mind on the internet, someone else got it though. |
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"It definitely helped a lot! We are Italian and we got used to say what we think, so we didn't mean to offend anyone..I mean, how could we! It's probably a different side of our culture..anyway.. that probably comes across as being haughty, so..profile changed!
Thanks for the advice!"
Good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are struggling in finding a girl to play with... is it normal for a couple? Or is it because something is wrong with us or our profile?
Any suggestions?
Thanks,
M x "
Some bisexual women just aren't turned on by being treated like a sex object. |
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"We are struggling in finding a girl to play with... is it normal for a couple? Or is it because something is wrong with us or our profile?
Any suggestions?
Thanks,
M x
Some bisexual women just aren't turned on by being treated like a sex object."
on the other hand some men positively love it.. |
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By *marla OP Couple
over a year ago
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"We are struggling in finding a girl to play with... is it normal for a couple? Or is it because something is wrong with us or our profile?
Any suggestions?
Thanks,
M x
Some bisexual women just aren't turned on by being treated like a sex object."
Where do we say we'd treat them as sex objects??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Many couples objecify women - it's all about fulfilling their fantasy and no real considerationis given to the female's enjoyment. There are numerous threads on here where women have said they've joined a couple and subsequently been made to feel like a performing seal.
We've had several FFMs in the time we've been swinging and in all honesty could have had more. Not one was as a result of this site. All were as a result of real life encounters. |
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By *marla OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Many couples objecify women - it's all about fulfilling their fantasy and no real considerationis given to the female's enjoyment. There are numerous threads on here where women have said they've joined a couple and subsequently been made to feel like a performing seal.
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And your point is? That we'd do the same?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would wonder if your previous profile content will be remembered by others, especially the females.
A change in text isn't always a change in attitude.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Many couples objecify women - it's all about fulfilling their fantasy and no real considerationis given to the female's enjoyment. There are numerous threads on here where women have said they've joined a couple and subsequently been made to feel like a performing seal.
And your point is? That we'd do the same??"
Does your husband have sex with the woman too? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Many couples objecify women - it's all about fulfilling their fantasy and no real considerationis given to the female's enjoyment. There are numerous threads on here where women have said they've joined a couple and subsequently been made to feel like a performing seal.
We've had several FFMs in the time we've been swinging and in all honesty could have had more. Not one was as a result of this site. All were as a result of real life encounters."
I have had a couple too. As much as I enjoyed the woman it was the man getting a lot of attention I liked too. I couldn't have sex with a woman while a man watched. I would rather have the woman alone |
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"Many couples objecify women - it's all about fulfilling their fantasy and no real considerationis given to the female's enjoyment. There are numerous threads on here where women have said they've joined a couple and subsequently been made to feel like a performing seal.
And your point is? That we'd do the same??"
I never said that did I?
I waa just making an observation as to why women on here are generally cautious. Your defensive response speaks volumes though |
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By *marla OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Many couples objecify women - it's all about fulfilling their fantasy and no real considerationis given to the female's enjoyment. There are numerous threads on here where women have said they've joined a couple and subsequently been made to feel like a performing seal.
And your point is? That we'd do the same??
Does your husband have sex with the woman too? "
Yep, it's a 360 degrees experience anyway..he's not my husband |
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By *marla OP Couple
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"Many couples objecify women - it's all about fulfilling their fantasy and no real considerationis given to the female's enjoyment. There are numerous threads on here where women have said they've joined a couple and subsequently been made to feel like a performing seal.
And your point is? That we'd do the same??
I never said that did I?
I waa just making an observation as to why women on here are generally cautious. Your defensive response speaks volumes though"
Defensive? Really? Are you implying something then! Not fair dude, you don't know me/us. But anyway.. I don't care |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Many couples objecify women - it's all about fulfilling their fantasy and no real considerationis given to the female's enjoyment. There are numerous threads on here where women have said they've joined a couple and subsequently been made to feel like a performing seal.
And your point is? That we'd do the same??
I never said that did I?
I waa just making an observation as to why women on here are generally cautious. Your defensive response speaks volumes though
Defensive? Really? Are you implying something then! Not fair dude, you don't know me/us. But anyway.. I don't care"
I'm not implying anything. I mafe a general observation and you got defensive which suggests you think that it would apply to you.
No I don't know you, I can only judge on your posts on this thread and tge posts refering to your old profile. And to me that makes it pretty clear why you are struggling.
Did you actually want advice when you started this thread? You don't come across as overly receptive |
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By *marla OP Couple
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"Many couples objecify women - it's all about fulfilling their fantasy and no real considerationis given to the female's enjoyment. There are numerous threads on here where women have said they've joined a couple and subsequently been made to feel like a performing seal.
And your point is? That we'd do the same??
I never said that did I?
I waa just making an observation as to why women on here are generally cautious. Your defensive response speaks volumes though
Defensive? Really? Are you implying something then! Not fair dude, you don't know me/us. But anyway.. I don't care
I'm not implying anything. I mafe a general observation and you got defensive which suggests you think that it would apply to you.
No I don't know you, I can only judge on your posts on this thread and tge posts refering to your old profile. And to me that makes it pretty clear why you are struggling.
Did you actually want advice when you started this thread? You don't come across as overly receptive"
I just modified my profile following people advices, so yeah I'm quite receptive..unlike you apparently
Second: I asked what did you mean when you said that thing and I asked if you referred to us, cause this specific forum post is about us. So I don't understand how is this being defensive. And I don't understand how you can imply things like that..very (loosely)judgemental and not very receptive again.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Many couples objecify women - it's all about fulfilling their fantasy and no real considerationis given to the female's enjoyment. There are numerous threads on here where women have said they've joined a couple and subsequently been made to feel like a performing seal.
And your point is? That we'd do the same??
I never said that did I?
I waa just making an observation as to why women on here are generally cautious. Your defensive response speaks volumes though
Defensive? Really? Are you implying something then! Not fair dude, you don't know me/us. But anyway.. I don't care
I'm not implying anything. I mafe a general observation and you got defensive which suggests you think that it would apply to you.
No I don't know you, I can only judge on your posts on this thread and tge posts refering to your old profile. And to me that makes it pretty clear why you are struggling.
Did you actually want advice when you started this thread? You don't come across as overly receptive
I just modified my profile following people advices, so yeah I'm quite receptive..unlike you apparently
Second: I asked what did you mean when you said that thing and I asked if you referred to us, cause this specific forum post is about us. So I don't understand how is this being defensive. And I don't understand how you can imply things like that..very (loosely)judgemental and not very receptive again.
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Now I'm just confused 
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By (user no longer on site)
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Where do we say we'd treat them as sex objects??? "
Your profile text just comes across that way - as does the profile text of most m/f couples who are looking for a bisexual woman.
Us bisexual women are used to being treated like a sex object and we are generally wary about this setup.
It's better to get to know someone in person. All my mff threesomes have come via established relationships through my poly network. I'd *never* look for one on a casual site like this. |
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By *marla OP Couple
over a year ago
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Where do we say we'd treat them as sex objects???
Your profile text just comes across that way - as does the profile text of most m/f couples who are looking for a bisexual woman.
Us bisexual women are used to being treated like a sex object and we are generally wary about this setup.
It's better to get to know someone in person. All my mff threesomes have come via established relationships through my poly network. I'd *never* look for one on a casual site like this."
I am a bisexual woman myself hun..I never felt used, not even when I was the single part of the threesome..I'm sorry you feel that way about it.
Anyway..please tell me what on our profile makes you feel like we'd treat women like sex objects cause I genuinely dont see it.. That'd be of great help |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Us bisexual women are used to being treated like a sex object and we are generally wary about this setup.
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Bit of a sweeping generalisation and didnt realise you spoke for the masses. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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we have met some and have a regular fem we play with - guess we are lucky or just bloody nice - we do make our fem the centre of attention for a lot of our play ie both give her a massage - very sensual
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