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"I just don't get it. I guess like everyone on here, I'm driven by lust and desire, but I've never had a detached emotionless shag, there needs to be a connection, I need kissing touching and caressing, without it, it just doesn't feel right, those that proclaim they just want a shag, how does it work? why not just wank? genuine question, no judgement "Gotta agree...its hard to be datatched with someone who's sharing with you one of the most personal and intimate things a person can give....there's always some connection on some level... | |||
"I dont have to fancy or have good chemistry with the woman I fuck. As its just a one night stand "Ok but how can you actually shag someone you don't fancy? I just couldn't do that. | |||
"I dont have to fancy or have good chemistry with the woman I fuck. As its just a one night stand
Ok but how can you actually shag someone you don't fancy? I just couldn't do that. "Not sure how I can describe it, but I gues its just something in me and I do good at it, it gets easier after a few. | |||
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"I just don't get it. I guess like everyone on here, I'm driven by lust and desire, but I've never had a detached emotionless shag, there needs to be a connection, I need kissing touching and caressing, without it, it just doesn't feel right, those that proclaim they just want a shag, how does it work? why not just wank? genuine question, no judgement "Sounds like you want the full 'girlfriend experience' when you have sex. Some guys need this, some don't. Lust, great sex and mutual satisfaction come in many forms. | |||
"I dont have to fancy or have good chemistry with the woman I fuck. As its just a one night stand
Ok but how can you actually shag someone you don't fancy? I just couldn't do that. Not sure how I can describe it, but I gues its just something in me and I do good at it, it gets easier after a few."Practice makes perfect. | |||
"I dont have to fancy or have good chemistry with the woman I fuck. As its just a one night stand
Ok but how can you actually shag someone you don't fancy? I just couldn't do that. Not sure how I can describe it, but I gues its just something in me and I do good at it, it gets easier after a few.
Practice makes perfect.
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"I just don't get it. I guess like everyone on here, I'm driven by lust and desire, but I've never had a detached emotionless shag, there needs to be a connection, I need kissing touching and caressing, without it, it just doesn't feel right, those that proclaim they just want a shag, how does it work? why not just wank? genuine question, no judgement "I can kiss, touch and caress guys I'm playing with but I have no emotion towards them. | |||
"I just don't get it. I guess like everyone on here, I'm driven by lust and desire, but I've never had a detached emotionless shag, there needs to be a connection, I need kissing touching and caressing, without it, it just doesn't feel right, those that proclaim they just want a shag, how does it work? why not just wank? genuine question, no judgement
I can kiss, touch and caress guys I'm playing with but I have no emotion towards them. " | |||
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"I kiss and touch those I sleep with, but I'm not emotionally attached to them. It's just sex for me, I'm not looking for a boyfriend. " This is me too. I'm not in a place where I can risk developing feelings for someone so has to be emotional-less one-offs for me. At the time, though, I thoroughly enjoy the connection. | |||
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"I just don't get it. I guess like everyone on here, I'm driven by lust and desire, but I've never had a detached emotionless shag, there needs to be a connection, I need kissing touching and caressing, without it, it just doesn't feel right, those that proclaim they just want a shag, how does it work? why not just wank? genuine question, no judgement ". Depends on the environment . At some clubs members can be quite ruthless . You are there to perform if selected. Not all ladies want to be kissed , touched or caressed. If they are in a swing chair this may not be practical anyway. At the clubs in Cap d Agde you are selected on how you look and how you perform.Little time for kissing which quite a few ladies do not want to do. | |||
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"I just don't get it. I guess like everyone on here, I'm driven by lust and desire, but I've never had a detached emotionless shag, there needs to be a connection, I need kissing touching and caressing, without it, it just doesn't feel right, those that proclaim they just want a shag, how does it work? why not just wank? genuine question, no judgement "I know exactly what you mean. | |||
"Reading this thread, I can't help but feel sorry for you singletons, especially at this time of year. Yes, i pity you and you emotional neediness. I would suggest that you take a good hard look at yourself and ask "Do i really want to swing, or am I looking for Mr/Mrs right? Am I emotionally fit for this kind of pastime?" Reading some of your posts I would suggest not. That's not a bad thing, just something to think about. Of course you should fancy someone before jumping into bed, I fancy Angelina Jolie, but would i want a conversation with her? Hell no! Take care of yourselves, I think your more vulnerable than you think." I love having close FWB to enjoy fun, laughter, great sex and to chat with, but I love having my space too. Being on here gives me the best of both worlds, which, for now, is enough. | |||
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"I don't need to be in love to shag, but I do try and at least like the guy I'm shagging. Not in a club though. Don't care in a club. "[we both say] | |||
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" You lot do make me laugh. Why do you assume that just because people aren't looking for emotional attachment to the people they meet that the sex they have is cold and clinical? ??? Another example of "I don't do things this way so I'm going to belittle it"" I was thinking the same. There's always an underlying insinuation that people that don't want friendship, Sunday lunch etc with their meets, are somehow 'wrong'. I think it's just the nature of the forums though. People that like to chat and make friends use the forums. People that like 'detached sex' don't want the chit chat so their opinions aren't aired on here as often. Of course there's also the point that certain people like to display their 'emotional qualities' - men in particular seem to do it to entrap... oops... entice emotionally needy women. And I'm certainly not saying there's anything wrong with needing an emotional connection. It's just shit to watch the fawning love ins and then the emptiness as the guy moves on and the woman is left hanging. | |||
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"Reading this thread, I can't help but feel sorry for you singletons, especially at this time of year. Yes, i pity you and you emotional neediness. I would suggest that you take a good hard look at yourself and ask "Do i really want to swing, or am I looking for Mr/Mrs right? Am I emotionally fit for this kind of pastime?" Reading some of your posts I would suggest not. That's not a bad thing, just something to think about. Of course you should fancy someone before jumping into bed, I fancy Angelina Jolie, but would i want a conversation with her? Hell no! Take care of yourselves, I think your more vulnerable than you think."  I'm certainly not emotionally needy, vulnerable or need you or anyone else to feel sorry for me. Just because I want a connection with someone I invite into my home to have sex with does NOT mean Im looking for Mr right.
I think I must be reading thing differently to some other posters on here too as I really can't see where anyone has belittled anyone else. All I've read is peoples personal preferences! | |||
"There definitely needs to be some chemistry there, not that you're looking for that loving feeling, but there does need to be a tingle in the right places "Methinks the word u are looking for is "lust" | |||
"I have better sex with someone I meet regularly than a one off which is why I try to steer clear of one offs " | |||
" You lot do make me laugh. Why do you assume that just because people aren't looking for emotional attachment to the people they meet that the sex they have is cold and clinical? ??? Another example of "I don't do things this way so I'm going to belittle it"" I know its fun how they see and say it, all my fucks are great even tho for one time. | |||
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" And I'm certainly not saying there's anything wrong with needing an emotional connection. It's just shit to watch the fawning love ins and then the emptiness as the guy moves on and the woman is left hanging. " | |||
"I just don't get it. I guess like everyone on here, I'm driven by lust and desire, but I've never had a detached emotionless shag, there needs to be a connection, I need kissing touching and caressing, without it, it just doesn't feel right, those that proclaim they just want a shag, how does it work? why not just wank? genuine question, no judgement "I prefer this but maybe detached is better then you can't get hurt when they stop talking | |||
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" You lot do make me laugh. Why do you assume that just because people aren't looking for emotional attachment to the people they meet that the sex they have is cold and clinical? ??? Another example of "I don't do things this way so I'm going to belittle it"" Pretty much my thoughts. During any meet I have there is physical intimacy, lust and desire... Then we go our separate ways. Some I may meet again, many I won't but that doesn't negate the experience or make it any better/worse than anyone else's, it just makes it different to some. | |||
"I just don't get it. I guess like everyone on here, I'm driven by lust and desire, but I've never had a detached emotionless shag, there needs to be a connection, I need kissing touching and caressing, without it, it just doesn't feel right, those that proclaim they just want a shag, how does it work? why not just wank? genuine question, no judgement "I need a connection to meet. I also like kissing and touching. But that's not emotion. I wouldn't exactly call them "emotionless shags" but they are two adults who click, have a mutual spark of attraction and need. | |||
"Can't have steak every day some days only a sandwich is available. Sex is the same, yes it's great if you meet some one you really fancy and have a spark with. The sex is extra special. Problem is how often does this happen, are we supposed to be confined to masturbation until it does. This is a swinging site, it's not an deep and meaning full soul mate life partners for ever site. I want casual meaningless sexual gratification in an uncomplicated and disposable way " | |||
"I just don't get it. I guess like everyone on here, I'm driven by lust and desire, but I've never had a detached emotionless shag, there needs to be a connection, I need kissing touching and caressing, without it, it just doesn't feel right, those that proclaim they just want a shag, how does it work? why not just wank? genuine question, no judgement
I need a connection to meet. I also like kissing and touching. But that's not emotion.
I wouldn't exactly call them "emotionless shags" but they are two adults who click, have a mutual spark of attraction and need."In fact I think the ladies I have met on fab would be highly offended if I called them emotionless shags. | |||
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"Reading this thread, I can't help but feel sorry for you singletons, especially at this time of year. Yes, i pity you and you emotional neediness. I would suggest that you take a good hard look at yourself and ask "Do i really want to swing, or am I looking for Mr/Mrs right? Am I emotionally fit for this kind of pastime?" Reading some of your posts I would suggest not. That's not a bad thing, just something to think about." Don't waste your pity on me. I am totally emotionally fulfilled as I don't need a man to 'complete' me, and you shouldn't believe everything you see on TV that says that single people do. I have great fun on here without having to be head over heels with every bloke I get into bed with. Of course there are people on here looking for 'the one', but I think the most rabid romantic will realise this is not the best website to find Mr or Ms Right. | |||
" but I think the most rabid romantic will realise this is not the best website to find Mr or Ms Right." | |||
" but I think the most rabid romantic will realise this is not the best website to find Mr or Ms Right. "Some rabid romantics don't... | |||
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"But...there is a diff between a build up and seduction (no matter how brief or in what form) and the sexercise I have witnessed at clubs. No need for anything deep and meaningful, but I like to feel the tension develop and then be released. I like to feel the energy pass between us and how it alters based on what I do. How our exploration creates satisfaction. In clubs it often seems that anything from anyone goes and that its just bodyparts smashing into each other. Nothing wrong with that and people enjoy diff things. Intellectually, I do not think one is better than the other, but emotionally I am a little puzzled by it. But as long as we are all having fun, value judgements are irrelevant. " Funnily enough, someone I met at a club by complete chance has been one of my most intense sexual experiences. | |||
"But...there is a diff between a build up and seduction (no matter how brief or in what form) and the sexercise I have witnessed at clubs. No need for anything deep and meaningful, but I like to feel the tension develop and then be released. I like to feel the energy pass between us and how it alters based on what I do. How our exploration creates satisfaction. In clubs it often seems that anything from anyone goes and that its just bodyparts smashing into each other. Nothing wrong with that and people enjoy diff things. Intellectually, I do not think one is better than the other, but emotionally I am a little puzzled by it. But as long as we are all having fun, value judgements are irrelevant. Funnily enough, someone I met at a club by complete chance has been one of my most intense sexual experiences." hey you haven't met me yet miss clause the things i could do with u if you came down my chimney | |||
"Reading this thread, I can't help but feel sorry for you singletons, especially at this time of year. Yes, i pity you and you emotional neediness. I would suggest that you take a good hard look at yourself and ask "Do i really want to swing, or am I looking for Mr/Mrs right? Am I emotionally fit for this kind of pastime?" Reading some of your posts I would suggest not. That's not a bad thing, just something to think about. Of course you should fancy someone before jumping into bed, I fancy Angelina Jolie, but would i want a conversation with her? Hell no! Take care of yourselves, I think your more vulnerable than you think." This comes across as very patronising. Anyhow, a girlfriend is great for christmas, but a guitar is for life | |||
"But...there is a diff between a build up and seduction (no matter how brief or in what form) and the sexercise I have witnessed at clubs. No need for anything deep and meaningful, but I like to feel the tension develop and then be released. I like to feel the energy pass between us and how it alters based on what I do. How our exploration creates satisfaction. In clubs it often seems that anything from anyone goes and that its just bodyparts smashing into each other. Nothing wrong with that and people enjoy diff things. Intellectually, I do not think one is better than the other, but emotionally I am a little puzzled by it. But as long as we are all having fun, value judgements are irrelevant. " You do realise that having one sort of sex does not prevent us from having the other sorts, right. I do one on one meets, club meets, all out Greedy Girl nights, and still have time to spend a long, horny night with a FWB. Some of us choose to enjoy this site the way WE wish to, and not say its weird if others don't agree. Just live and let live. | |||
"But...there is a diff between a build up and seduction (no matter how brief or in what form) and the sexercise I have witnessed at clubs. No need for anything deep and meaningful, but I like to feel the tension develop and then be released. I like to feel the energy pass between us and how it alters based on what I do. How our exploration creates satisfaction. In clubs it often seems that anything from anyone goes and that its just bodyparts smashing into each other. Nothing wrong with that and people enjoy diff things. Intellectually, I do not think one is better than the other, but emotionally I am a little puzzled by it. But as long as we are all having fun, value judgements are irrelevant. You do realise that having one sort of sex does not prevent us from having the other sorts, right. I do one on one meets, club meets, all out Greedy Girl nights, and still have time to spend a long, horny night with a FWB. Some of us choose to enjoy this site the way WE wish to, and not say its weird if others don't agree. Just live and let live." | |||
"Can't have steak every day some days only a sandwich is available. Sex is the same, yes it's great if you meet some one you really fancy and have a spark with. The sex is extra special. Problem is how often does this happen, are we supposed to be confined to masturbation until it does. This is a swinging site, it's not an deep and meaning full soul mate life partners for ever site. I want casual meaningless sexual gratification in an uncomplicated and disposable way "I like the way you say cant have steak everyday sometimes its just a sandwich. | |||
"Can't have steak every day some days only a sandwich is available. Sex is the same, yes it's great if you meet some one you really fancy and have a spark with. The sex is extra special. Problem is how often does this happen, are we supposed to be confined to masturbation until it does. This is a swinging site, it's not an deep and meaning full soul mate life partners for ever site. I want casual meaningless sexual gratification in an uncomplicated and disposable way
I like the way you say cant have steak everyday sometimes its just a sandwich. "Compromise with a steak sandwich? | |||
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"The first time I met my fb there was an instant spark..infact fireworks lol. He is my best friend my lover and soulmate..its more than just sex..but hells bells the sex is mindblowing. And I aint going into any more detail lol "Well that's fantastic but that doesn't sound like the description of a FB to me | |||
"The first time I met my fb there was an instant spark..infact fireworks lol. He is my best friend my lover and soulmate..its more than just sex..but hells bells the sex is mindblowing. And I aint going into any more detail lol
Well that's fantastic but that doesn't sound like the description of a FB to me"No it doesn't. | |||
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"For us, swinging is all about creating and enjoying an erotic, porn-like experience. We've never been interested in the 'get yer kit off and do it approach. There has to be a build up to create sexual tension, but this is s very, very different to any emotional connection. It's a lustful connection. Most of the guys we've met understand and enjoy this kind of experience, but there are some men who think they have to 'make love' in a tender, almost romantic way, and that just doesn't for us because we're a couple, and that kind of sex is exclusive to just the two of us." Exactly ... there has to be a lustful connection for me too | |||
"I just don't get it. I guess like everyone on here, I'm driven by lust and desire, but I've never had a detached emotionless shag, there needs to be a connection, I need kissing touching and caressing, without it, it just doesn't feel right, those that proclaim they just want a shag, how does it work? why not just wank? genuine question, no judgement
Sounds like you want the full 'girlfriend experience' when you have sex. Some guys need this, some don't. Lust, great sex and mutual satisfaction come in many forms."Well I guess i'm like that too! I take time to get to know my meets over dinner or drinks and chatting online - so by the time we go to bed it's pretty electric!! I tried the 'fuck and go' when I first joined fab but it just made me feel cheap - and the sex wasn't nearly as good as it is now! Xx | |||
"Why are you puzzled by it, there is no emotion involved it's just sex. That's what's so good about it, no pretence no hidden agendas no fuss just some lovely dirty sex. Gratuitous and disposable. " Disposable?  | |||
" You lot do make me laugh. Why do you assume that just because people aren't looking for emotional attachment to the people they meet that the sex they have is cold and clinical? ??? Another example of "I don't do things this way so I'm going to belittle it"" So true! | |||
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"I just don't get it. I guess like everyone on here, I'm driven by lust and desire, but I've never had a detached emotionless shag, there needs to be a connection, I need kissing touching and caressing, without it, it just doesn't feel right, those that proclaim they just want a shag, how does it work? why not just wank? genuine question, no judgement "I look for intimacy - not love. | |||
"I just don't get it. I guess like everyone on here, I'm driven by lust and desire, but I've never had a detached emotionless shag, there needs to be a connection, I need kissing touching and caressing, without it, it just doesn't feel right, those that proclaim they just want a shag, how does it work? why not just wank? genuine question, no judgement
I look for intimacy - not love."Absolutely, love doesn't come into it. Can't do clinical though | |||
"Why are you puzzled by it, there is no emotion involved it's just sex. That's what's so good about it, no pretence no hidden agendas no fuss just some lovely dirty sex. Gratuitous and disposable. Disposable? "Yes, not intended to last. Not, Ya throw them in the bin afterwards | |||
"I just don't get it. I guess like everyone on here, I'm driven by lust and desire, but I've never had a detached emotionless shag, there needs to be a connection, I need kissing touching and caressing, without it, it just doesn't feel right, those that proclaim they just want a shag, how does it work? why not just wank? genuine question, no judgement
I look for intimacy - not love.
Absolutely, love doesn't come into it. Can't do clinical though"I'm not sure why you associate a one off experience with being clinical. Clinical sex has nothing to do with frequency, repeated sex has just as much chance of being clinical as one off experiences can be filled with passion. Many of us are on here for a range of experiences, all of which satisfy in their own way to the individuals involved | |||
"I just don't get it. I guess like everyone on here, I'm driven by lust and desire, but I've never had a detached emotionless shag, there needs to be a connection, I need kissing touching and caressing, without it, it just doesn't feel right, those that proclaim they just want a shag, how does it work? why not just wank? genuine question, no judgement
I look for intimacy - not love.
Absolutely, love doesn't come into it. Can't do clinical though"There's that damn word again. Nsa sex is not clinical  | |||
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"It can be and that is where the ops problem is. I have watched people in clubs nod and just gesture to the beds. Off they go and fuck. No chat or eyes made. And straight into fucking too. No it doesnt have to be, but it can be and that was the original question." Does it matter... As long as all parties involved are happy... I do tend to talk to people more these days and I personally Dont want one on one with a guy so it's different I guess.. as I prefer couples meets with Lee x | |||
"Oh dear, I was genuinely interested in the mechanics of something that I can't really relate to and thought maybe I might be missing out on, however, some of the sad responses have served to reinforce my current perspective. I have no desire whatsoever to 'perform' this is about mutual pleasure for me, not showing off, and the numerous meets I have had over my many incarnations on fab have left all parties extremely fulfilled. In a way, it's a useful exercise because I now am 100% sure that clubs parties, socials and definitive one night stands are of no interest to me whatsoever. If I wanted a relationship, I have ample opportunity, and Sunday lunches are reserved for family and friends (yes that does occasionally include fwb's) so sympathy, whilst much appreciated really isn't required. I genuinely do wish all well, and provided all parties are happy, whatever 'floats your boat' is fine by me. However, I've yet to meet a woman, who didn't want to repeat the event, nor have I ever shot my load, wiped my cock, thanked her and made a quick exit. I guess I've just been very lucky, (or careful) in who I've met. Anyway, for the critics, thanks for reinforcing my belief, and for the rest of you, thank god there's a lot of us on here. Happy fabbing peeps However "You set the tone of this thread so it's a bit rich for you to be disappointed with the responses. In your opening post you suggested that if people weren't having sex the way you like it, then it must be detached, cold, clinical, and not much better than having a wank | |||
"Oh dear, I was genuinely interested in the mechanics of something that I can't really relate to and thought maybe I might be missing out on, however, some of the sad responses have served to reinforce my current perspective. I have no desire whatsoever to 'perform' this is about mutual pleasure for me, not showing off, and the numerous meets I have had over my many incarnations on fab have left all parties extremely fulfilled. In a way, it's a useful exercise because I now am 100% sure that clubs parties, socials and definitive one night stands are of no interest to me whatsoever. If I wanted a relationship, I have ample opportunity, and Sunday lunches are reserved for family and friends (yes that does occasionally include fwb's) so sympathy, whilst much appreciated really isn't required. I genuinely do wish all well, and provided all parties are happy, whatever 'floats your boat' is fine by me. However, I've yet to meet a woman, who didn't want to repeat the event, nor have I ever shot my load, wiped my cock, thanked her and made a quick exit. I guess I've just been very lucky, (or careful) in who I've met. Anyway, for the critics, thanks for reinforcing my belief, and for the rest of you, thank god there's a lot of us on here. Happy fabbing peeps However
You set the tone of this thread so it's a bit rich for you to be disappointed with the responses. In your opening post you suggested that if people weren't having sex the way you like it, then it must be detached, cold, clinical, and not much better than having a wank"It's his marketing tactic. | |||
"Oh dear, I was genuinely interested in the mechanics of something that I can't really relate to and thought maybe I might be missing out on, however, some of the sad responses have served to reinforce my current perspective. I have no desire whatsoever to 'perform' this is about mutual pleasure for me, not showing off, and the numerous meets I have had over my many incarnations on fab have left all parties extremely fulfilled. In a way, it's a useful exercise because I now am 100% sure that clubs parties, socials and definitive one night stands are of no interest to me whatsoever. If I wanted a relationship, I have ample opportunity, and Sunday lunches are reserved for family and friends (yes that does occasionally include fwb's) so sympathy, whilst much appreciated really isn't required. I genuinely do wish all well, and provided all parties are happy, whatever 'floats your boat' is fine by me. However, I've yet to meet a woman, who didn't want to repeat the event, nor have I ever shot my load, wiped my cock, thanked her and made a quick exit. I guess I've just been very lucky, (or careful) in who I've met. Anyway, for the critics, thanks for reinforcing my belief, and for the rest of you, thank god there's a lot of us on here. Happy fabbing peeps However
You set the tone of this thread so it's a bit rich for you to be disappointed with the responses. In your opening post you suggested that if people weren't having sex the way you like it, then it must be detached, cold, clinical, and not much better than having a wank
It's his marketing tactic."Yes, and next time I'm not joining in | |||
"Oh dear, I was genuinely interested in the mechanics of something that I can't really relate to and thought maybe I might be missing out on, however, some of the sad responses have served to reinforce my current perspective. I have no desire whatsoever to 'perform' this is about mutual pleasure for me, not showing off, and the numerous meets I have had over my many incarnations on fab have left all parties extremely fulfilled. In a way, it's a useful exercise because I now am 100% sure that clubs parties, socials and definitive one night stands are of no interest to me whatsoever. If I wanted a relationship, I have ample opportunity, and Sunday lunches are reserved for family and friends (yes that does occasionally include fwb's) so sympathy, whilst much appreciated really isn't required. I genuinely do wish all well, and provided all parties are happy, whatever 'floats your boat' is fine by me. However, I've yet to meet a woman, who didn't want to repeat the event, nor have I ever shot my load, wiped my cock, thanked her and made a quick exit. I guess I've just been very lucky, (or careful) in who I've met. Anyway, for the critics, thanks for reinforcing my belief, and for the rest of you, thank god there's a lot of us on here. Happy fabbing peeps However
You set the tone of this thread so it's a bit rich for you to be disappointed with the responses. In your opening post you suggested that if people weren't having sex the way you like it, then it must be detached, cold, clinical, and not much better than having a wank" And add to that the fact that we are not careful in choosing who we meet...
If only the op was genuinely interested in how it is possible to have fantastic sex with a one off meet and never become involved with them emotionally then he would take time to listen to others. I suspect it's his way of saying look how caring and sensitive i am ladies....
I'm just relieved that what I'm doing is fine by the OP. | |||
"I have better sex with someone I meet regularly than a one off which is why I try to steer clear of one offs "
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"Why are you puzzled by it, there is no emotion involved it's just sex. That's what's so good about it, no pretence no hidden agendas no fuss just some lovely dirty sex. Gratuitous and disposable. " | |||
"Reading this thread, I can't help but feel sorry for you singletons, especially at this time of year. Yes, i pity you and you emotional neediness. I would suggest that you take a good hard look at yourself and ask "Do i really want to swing, or am I looking for Mr/Mrs right? Am I emotionally fit for this kind of pastime?" Reading some of your posts I would suggest not. That's not a bad thing, just something to think about. Of course you should fancy someone before jumping into bed, I fancy Angelina Jolie, but would i want a conversation with her? Hell no! Take care of yourselves, I think your more vulnerable than you think." Oh my god this made us giggle and so true! | |||
"Oh dear, I was genuinely interested in the mechanics of something that I can't really relate to and thought maybe I might be missing out on, however, some of the sad responses have served to reinforce my current perspective. I have no desire whatsoever to 'perform' this is about mutual pleasure for me, not showing off, and the numerous meets I have had over my many incarnations on fab have left all parties extremely fulfilled. In a way, it's a useful exercise because I now am 100% sure that clubs parties, socials and definitive one night stands are of no interest to me whatsoever. If I wanted a relationship, I have ample opportunity, and Sunday lunches are reserved for family and friends (yes that does occasionally include fwb's) so sympathy, whilst much appreciated really isn't required. I genuinely do wish all well, and provided all parties are happy, whatever 'floats your boat' is fine by me. However, I've yet to meet a woman, who didn't want to repeat the event, nor have I ever shot my load, wiped my cock, thanked her and made a quick exit. I guess I've just been very lucky, (or careful) in who I've met. Anyway, for the critics, thanks for reinforcing my belief, and for the rest of you, thank god there's a lot of us on here. Happy fabbing peeps However
You set the tone of this thread so it's a bit rich for you to be disappointed with the responses. In your opening post you suggested that if people weren't having sex the way you like it, then it must be detached, cold, clinical, and not much better than having a wank
And add to that the fact that we are not careful in choosing who we meet...
If only the op was genuinely interested in how it is possible to have fantastic sex with a one off meet and never become involved with them emotionally then he would take time to listen to others. I suspect it's his way of saying look how caring and sensitive i am ladies....
I'm just relieved that what I'm doing is fine by the OP. " | |||
"I suspect it's his way of saying look how caring and sensitive i am ladies.... " This | |||
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"Oh dear, I was genuinely interested in the mechanics of something that I can't really relate to and thought maybe I might be missing out on, however, some of the sad responses have served to reinforce my current perspective. I have no desire whatsoever to 'perform' this is about mutual pleasure for me, not showing off, and the numerous meets I have had over my many incarnations on fab have left all parties extremely fulfilled. In a way, it's a useful exercise because I now am 100% sure that clubs parties, socials and definitive one night stands are of no interest to me whatsoever. If I wanted a relationship, I have ample opportunity, and Sunday lunches are reserved for family and friends (yes that does occasionally include fwb's) so sympathy, whilst much appreciated really isn't required. I genuinely do wish all well, and provided all parties are happy, whatever 'floats your boat' is fine by me. However, I've yet to meet a woman, who didn't want to repeat the event, nor have I ever shot my load, wiped my cock, thanked her and made a quick exit. I guess I've just been very lucky, (or careful) in who I've met. Anyway, for the critics, thanks for reinforcing my belief, and for the rest of you, thank god there's a lot of us on here. Happy fabbing peeps However
You set the tone of this thread so it's a bit rich for you to be disappointed with the responses. In your opening post you suggested that if people weren't having sex the way you like it, then it must be detached, cold, clinical, and not much better than having a wank
And add to that the fact that we are not careful in choosing who we meet...
If only the op was genuinely interested in how it is possible to have fantastic sex with a one off meet and never become involved with them emotionally then he would take time to listen to others. I suspect it's his way of saying look how caring and sensitive i am ladies....
I'm just relieved that what I'm doing is fine by the OP. "I love this, I've made a genuine enquiry and suddenly I'm Beelzebub, thanks Winks for actually getting the Jist of my enquiry. I am in no way interested in becoming emotionally involved, been there, got the t shirt, I'm just intrigued as to how people can be so certain that a one off is as good as it gets. I've had a mind blowing time with a woman, met again and, guess what, it was better, but it was allways just sex and friendship. Now, if one offs are your thing, fill yer boots, there are lots on here that are seeking that, however, I do wonder how genuine that is, are you secretly desiring something else? A little bit more perhaps. Here's the thing, I find intimacy and desire essential to a fulfilling experience, if you can attain that with someone you know nothing about and have never met before, I'd like to know how because, I sure as shit can't, I need to know what pushes your buttons, what sets you on fire or, for that matter what dampens the flames. for me it's all about both blowing each other away (and it's happened more times than I can remember). Ladies, be under no illusion that I want anything more than to rock your world and for you to rock mine, hopefully many times over and for a reasonable time span. We've all had spontaneous meets that have lead to mind blowing sex, just don't get why you wouldn't want a repeat of that unless it's some sort of performance, ego trip or bed notching exercise. Again, before you crucify the demon in me, if that's your thing, your not affecting me so enjoy. I'm getting what I want, I've often wondered if I should be on a site like this, but the proof of the pudding is in the wonderful ladies I've met. In respect of caring and sensitive, I care about my friends most definitely, I care about starving kids in Africa, i card about people who are suffering and dying, that's me I'm afraid, sorry if that's unnatractive, and if by sensitive you mean wanting to please, oh yeah, that's how I get off, I love to feel that I've made my lady feel as good as she's made me feel (and I'm quite good at it aparently). Love no, emotionally involved, only insofar as, if we become friends, I'll want to help where I can (just like my vanilla friends). Anyhow, scarlet, you and I really are Venus and Mars babe and nicewithit, people can have sex however they want As long as it doesn't affect me, goldilocks, good point, as I say, been there done the spontaneous and it wasn't clinicsl, but did go back for more. Oh well, enough said, hope I havent pissed anyone off, just curious. | |||
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""In respect of caring and sensitive, I care about my friends most definitely, I care about starving kids in Africa, i card about people who are suffering and dying, that's me I'm afraid, sorry if that's unnatractive, and if by sensitive you mean wanting to please, oh yeah, that's how I get off, I love to feel that I've made my lady feel as good as she's made me feel (and I'm quite good at it aparently). Love no, emotionally involved, only insofar as, if we become friends, I'll want to help where I can (just like my vanilla friends)." threw up in my mouth, just a little.. " | |||
""In respect of caring and sensitive, I care about my friends most definitely, I care about starving kids in Africa, i card about people who are suffering and dying, that's me I'm afraid, sorry if that's unnatractive, and if by sensitive you mean wanting to please, oh yeah, that's how I get off, I love to feel that I've made my lady feel as good as she's made me feel (and I'm quite good at it aparently). Love no, emotionally involved, only insofar as, if we become friends, I'll want to help where I can (just like my vanilla friends)." threw up in my mouth, just a little.. "It's like a party political broadcast on behalf of the swingers party. I stand for giving a lady a good time I stand for making sure she had multiple orgasms And I absolu will not rest till she has made a damp patch on the bedding | |||
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""In respect of caring and sensitive, I care about my friends most definitely, I care about starving kids in Africa, i card about people who are suffering and dying, that's me I'm afraid, sorry if that's unnatractive, and if by sensitive you mean wanting to please, oh yeah, that's how I get off, I love to feel that I've made my lady feel as good as she's made me feel (and I'm quite good at it aparently). Love no, emotionally involved, only insofar as, if we become friends, I'll want to help where I can (just like my vanilla friends)." threw up in my mouth, just a little..
It's like a party political broadcast on behalf of the swingers party.
I stand for giving a lady a good time
I stand for making sure she had multiple orgasms
And I absolu will not rest till she has made a damp patch on the bedding"one thing I dislike is men or women on here who like to brag about how good they are. that don't impress me much. it is only sex after all. | |||
""In respect of caring and sensitive, I care about my friends most definitely, I care about starving kids in Africa, i card about people who are suffering and dying, that's me I'm afraid, sorry if that's unnatractive, and if by sensitive you mean wanting to please, oh yeah, that's how I get off, I love to feel that I've made my lady feel as good as she's made me feel (and I'm quite good at it aparently). Love no, emotionally involved, only insofar as, if we become friends, I'll want to help where I can (just like my vanilla friends)." threw up in my mouth, just a little..
It's like a party political broadcast on behalf of the swingers party.
I stand for giving a lady a good time
I stand for making sure she had multiple orgasms
And I absolu will not rest till she has made a damp patch on the bedding"Oh, and we don't all want multiple orgasms, thanks. | |||
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"Don't be so mean you lot, I understand what LoveO is trying to say, I am the same myself, I don't go to clubs and I don't do one offs and then never see them again, we all have preferences and he is just asking a question " Just pulling his leg I sure he is a lovely chap and terribly terribly good in bed | |||
"Don't be so mean you lot, I understand what LoveO is trying to say, I am the same myself, I don't go to clubs and I don't do one offs and then never see them again, we all have preferences and he is just asking a question Just pulling his leg I sure he is a lovely chap and terribly terribly good in bed "and very caring, and full of blah blah blah I'm so great yarda yarda yarda... | |||
"Don't be so mean you lot, I understand what LoveO is trying to say, I am the same myself, I don't go to clubs and I don't do one offs and then never see them again, we all have preferences and he is just asking a question Just pulling his leg I sure he is a lovely chap and terribly terribly good in bed
and very caring, and full of blah blah blah I'm so great yarda yarda yarda..."Clem I think I love you a little | |||
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""In respect of caring and sensitive, I care about my friends most definitely, I care about starving kids in Africa, i card about people who are suffering and dying, that's me I'm afraid, sorry if that's unnatractive, and if by sensitive you mean wanting to please, oh yeah, that's how I get off, I love to feel that I've made my lady feel as good as she's made me feel (and I'm quite good at it aparently). Love no, emotionally involved, only insofar as, if we become friends, I'll want to help where I can (just like my vanilla friends)." threw up in my mouth, just a little..
It's like a party political broadcast on behalf of the swingers party.
I stand for giving a lady a good time
I stand for making sure she had multiple orgasms
And I absolu will not rest till she has made a damp patch on the bedding
Oh, and we don't all want multiple orgasms, thanks. "We don't??? And it's 'only' sex?? Hilda you are a lovely woman i'm sure but we differ massively on this. To me sex is the most gorgeous, mind-blowing pleasure a human being can have - and I love multiple orgasms - the more the better! Xx | |||
""In respect of caring and sensitive, I care about my friends most definitely, I care about starving kids in Africa, i card about people who are suffering and dying, that's me I'm afraid, sorry if that's unnatractive, and if by sensitive you mean wanting to please, oh yeah, that's how I get off, I love to feel that I've made my lady feel as good as she's made me feel (and I'm quite good at it aparently). Love no, emotionally involved, only insofar as, if we become friends, I'll want to help where I can (just like my vanilla friends)." threw up in my mouth, just a little..
It's like a party political broadcast on behalf of the swingers party.
I stand for giving a lady a good time
I stand for making sure she had multiple orgasms
And I absolu will not rest till she has made a damp patch on the bedding
Oh, and we don't all want multiple orgasms, thanks.
We don't??? And it's 'only' sex?? Hilda you are a lovely woman i'm sure but we differ massively on this. To me sex is the most gorgeous, mind-blowing pleasure a human being can have - and I love multiple orgasms - the more the better! Xx"Yes, and. | |||
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""In respect of caring and sensitive, I care about my friends most definitely, I care about starving kids in Africa, i card about people who are suffering and dying, that's me I'm afraid, sorry if that's unnatractive, and if by sensitive you mean wanting to please, oh yeah, that's how I get off, I love to feel that I've made my lady feel as good as she's made me feel (and I'm quite good at it aparently). Love no, emotionally involved, only insofar as, if we become friends, I'll want to help where I can (just like my vanilla friends)." threw up in my mouth, just a little..
It's like a party political broadcast on behalf of the swingers party.
I stand for giving a lady a good time
I stand for making sure she had multiple orgasms
And I absolu will not rest till she has made a damp patch on the bedding
Oh, and we don't all want multiple orgasms, thanks.
We don't??? And it's 'only' sex?? Hilda you are a lovely woman i'm sure but we differ massively on this. To me sex is the most gorgeous, mind-blowing pleasure a human being can have - and I love multiple orgasms - the more the better! Xx"Woman I'm in your camp | |||
""In respect of caring and sensitive, I care about my friends most definitely, I care about starving kids in Africa, i card about people who are suffering and dying, that's me I'm afraid, sorry if that's unnatractive, and if by sensitive you mean wanting to please, oh yeah, that's how I get off, I love to feel that I've made my lady feel as good as she's made me feel (and I'm quite good at it aparently). Love no, emotionally involved, only insofar as, if we become friends, I'll want to help where I can (just like my vanilla friends)." threw up in my mouth, just a little..
It's like a party political broadcast on behalf of the swingers party.
I stand for giving a lady a good time
I stand for making sure she had multiple orgasms
And I absolu will not rest till she has made a damp patch on the bedding"You sound atrocious. There's nothing worse than someone who thinks it's a competition, to be measured and won by result X and Y | |||
"its only sex is a turn of phrase, when people take it too seriously. "Aaaaaah - sorry sweetie! In that case I agree! If it's not about love then tou need to inject some fun into it. I often do this by using one of those clown's flowers that squirts water at my meets! rolf | |||
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""In respect of caring and sensitive, I care about my friends most definitely, I care about starving kids in Africa, i card about people who are suffering and dying, that's me I'm afraid, sorry if that's unnatractive, and if by sensitive you mean wanting to please, oh yeah, that's how I get off, I love to feel that I've made my lady feel as good as she's made me feel (and I'm quite good at it aparently). Love no, emotionally involved, only insofar as, if we become friends, I'll want to help where I can (just like my vanilla friends)." threw up in my mouth, just a little..
It's like a party political broadcast on behalf of the swingers party.
I stand for giving a lady a good time
I stand for making sure she had multiple orgasms
And I absolu will not rest till she has made a damp patch on the bedding
You sound atrocious.
There's nothing worse than someone who thinks it's a competition, to be measured and won by result X and Y" | |||
"its only sex is a turn of phrase, when people take it too seriously.
Aaaaaah - sorry sweetie! In that case I agree! If it's not about love then tou need to inject some fun into it. I often do this by using one of those clown's flowers that squirts water at my meets! rolf "Are you pissed dear? | |||
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"its only sex is a turn of phrase, when people take it too seriously.
Aaaaaah - sorry sweetie! In that case I agree! If it's not about love then tou need to inject some fun into it. I often do this by using one of those clown's flowers that squirts water at my meets! rolf "so you try to blind people on first meeting them | |||
"I have better sex with someone I meet regularly than a one off which is why I try to steer clear of one offs " | |||
"its only sex is a turn of phrase, when people take it too seriously.
Aaaaaah - sorry sweetie! In that case I agree! If it's not about love then tou need to inject some fun into it. I often do this by using one of those clown's flowers that squirts water at my meets! rolf
Are you pissed dear?"Maybe the teensiest bit tipsy!! I rarely drink - and never really during the day! Sorry dear! Giz a cuddle!! | |||
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"Shall we call a truce and close this down ? Merry Christmas one and all xxx" Mesghy crishmush!!!  xx | |||
"Shall we call a truce and close this down ? Merry Christmas one and all xxx Mesghy crishmush!!! xx"Merry Christmas sexy loving the pics lol | |||
"I don't need to be in love to shag, but I do try and at least like the guy I'm shagging. Not in a club though. Don't care in a club. "ha ha i witnessed that exact statement at BMFC back in august | |||
""In respect of caring and sensitive, I care about my friends most definitely, I care about starving kids in Africa, i card about people who are suffering and dying, that's me I'm afraid, sorry if that's unnatractive, and if by sensitive you mean wanting to please, oh yeah, that's how I get off, I love to feel that I've made my lady feel as good as she's made me feel (and I'm quite good at it aparently). Love no, emotionally involved, only insofar as, if we become friends, I'll want to help where I can (just like my vanilla friends)." threw up in my mouth, just a little..
It's like a party political broadcast on behalf of the swingers party.
I stand for giving a lady a good time
I stand for making sure she had multiple orgasms
And I absolu will not rest till she has made a damp patch on the bedding
one thing I dislike is men or women on here who like to brag about how good they are. that don't impress me much.
it is only sex after all." | |||
"Shall we call a truce and close this down ? Merry Christmas one and all xxx Mesghy crishmush!!! xx"I think i love you .... Hic | |||
some people will say anything.. | |||
""I think i love you .... Hic" well you would do......
some people will say anything.. "... to get a shag....... | |||
""I think i love you .... Hic" well you would do......
some people will say anything..
... to get a shag....... " | |||
"I have better sex with someone I meet regularly than a one off which is why I try to steer clear of one offs "I better block you then, just saying. | |||
"Shall we call a truce and close this down ? Merry Christmas one and all xxx Mesghy crishmush!!! xx
I think i love you .... Hic "I loved you from the moment I first clapped eyes on you!! 
Oh - hang on! - We've never met!! xx | |||
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"its only sex is a turn of phrase, when people take it too seriously.
Aaaaaah - sorry sweetie! In that case I agree! If it's not about love then tou need to inject some fun into it. I often do this by using one of those clown's flowers that squirts water at my meets! rolf "Just saw this and thought...What a great name for a lady who squirts. If anybody is called 'Clown's Flower' please get in touch | |||
"its only sex is a turn of phrase, when people take it too seriously.
Aaaaaah - sorry sweetie! In that case I agree! If it's not about love then tou need to inject some fun into it. I often do this by using one of those clown's flowers that squirts water at my meets! rolf
Just saw this and thought...What a great name for a lady who squirts. If anybody is called 'Clown's Flower' please get in touch "Might have to change my name | |||
""I think i love you .... Hic" well you would do......
some people will say anything.. "Clem I already said I was a little in love with you so how about that shag | |||
""I think i love you .... Hic" well you would do......
some people will say anything..
Clem I already said I was a little in love with you so how about that shag "He's married to a beautiful woman
S x | |||
"Shall we call a truce and close this down ? Merry Christmas one and all xxx Mesghy crishmush!!! xx
I think i love you .... Hic
I loved you from the moment I first clapped eyes on you!!
Oh - hang on! - We've never met!! xx"Good point, minor detail though | |||
""I think i love you .... Hic" well you would do......
some people will say anything..
Clem I already said I was a little in love with you so how about that shag
He's married to a beautiful woman
S x"Don't worry there's plenty of Clem to go around.....but he's very lazy, and can't travel more than about 30ft...lazy so and so... . 100yards for a big cock, 2 miles if it's black, 100miles to see Mrs Fandango sit on it! More flexible than I gave myself credit for! | |||
""I think i love you .... Hic" well you would do......
some people will say anything..
Clem I already said I was a little in love with you so how about that shag
He's married to a beautiful woman
S x
Don't worry there's plenty of Clem to go around.....but he's very lazy, and can't travel more than about 30ft...lazy so and so... . 100yards for a big cock, 2 miles if it's black, 100miles to see Mrs Fandango sit on it! More flexible than I gave myself credit for! "Lol !
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""I think i love you .... Hic" well you would do......
some people will say anything..
Clem I already said I was a little in love with you so how about that shag
He's married to a beautiful woman
S x"Yes I know he is, it's called banter | |||
""I think i love you .... Hic" well you would do......
some people will say anything..
Clem I already said I was a little in love with you so how about that shag
He's married to a beautiful woman
S x
Yes I know he is, it's called banter "I know - I was bantering | |||
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