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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Interested in what people think of inviting strangers to their home for sex when they have children asleep upstairs? There have been posts that claim this isn't issue for some

Do you do it? And if you do is it because of babysitting issues? What do you do if they come downstairs or wake up?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't meet in my home regardless of whether my children are there or not. I keep this aspect of my life completely separate to my family life. . For their safety.

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By *ottscpl2014Couple over a year ago

nottingham/derby

Were happy to do this as its we dont very often get a babysitter. Once the kids are asleep their asleep and never wake up

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

weve never played whilst our child is in But we nearly did 1 sat night when we were so horny durin a sesh lol was about 1 am ish and messagin a guy asking him to come round for fun as hed always wanted to. but i think the nerv got to him as it didnt happen

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not something we would consider

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Were happy to do this as its we dont very often get a babysitter. Once the kids are asleep their asleep and never wake up

same with us. we dont mind ppl coming round ours as you find no one can accom so if no one accoms ya snookered. Plus accomodating means not rushing about to travel and drive back etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Were happy to do this as its we dont very often get a babysitter. Once the kids are asleep their asleep and never wake up

Are your visitors aware the children are home? Does it not bother them, make them a bit anxious??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

whether its right or wrong..I'd keep any details about accommodation with children at home private and not publicly aired...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We wont accommodate while the children are upstairs sleeping. Only accommodate while they are in school

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

most ppl work during the day so playin the day is a big no. we get a few hours spare once a week in the evening so have had fun then when invited someone round but felt rushed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally I wouldn't be too keen on it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"whether its right or wrong..I'd keep any details about accommodation with children at home private and not publicly aired..."

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By *ilkynmyzzyCouple over a year ago

Bridlington

It's something we never did when the children were younger and still at home. Neither would we go to someone else's home if they had children in the house.

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By *ichaelangelaCouple over a year ago

notts

"It's something we never did when the children were younger and still at home. Neither would we go to someone else's home if they had children in the house."

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By *bthreeCouple over a year ago

Yeovil

"Were happy to do this as its we dont very often get a babysitter. Once the kids are asleep their asleep and never wake up

same for us, although we can lock the door into the lounge just in case, not quite so easy now they are growing up, and we normally meet at a neutral venue first just to make sure we click

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We would never consider this. We wouldn't invite total strangers into our house for any other reason while we had a child upstairs asleep, let alone to have group sex with them. It's not just about them waking up, it's when they're at their most vulnerable...We've turned down meets from people who've wanted to do this on many occasions

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We would never consider this. We wouldn't invite total strangers into our house for any other reason while we had a child upstairs asleep, let alone to have group sex with them. It's not just about them waking up, it's when they're at their most vulnerable...We've turned down meets from people who've wanted to do this on many occasions"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

here is a fact:

no matter what you think, social services have a dim view of any internet meetings that may expose children to danger or sexual activity.

It is even worse with swinging.

However, as a good few people know...some people have lasting relationships via the swing world..so one off meets with strangers can become more like regular friendships.

but as I said before..dont post about meetings on a public forum that gives the indication you meet at home with children..it only takes one phonecall from a neighbour

*fact

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By *ottscpl2014Couple over a year ago

nottingham/derby

We will always tell people the children are there and only invite people we have spoke to quite a bit while the kids are there. How is it any different to you having sex between yourselves while their in bed? Obviously I can see the problem if its a complete stranger.

Its pretty much impossible for us to get a babysitter except for saturdays so dont really have much option.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"here is a fact:

no matter what you think, social services have a dim view of any internet meetings that may expose children to danger or sexual activity.

It is even worse with swinging.

However, as a good few people know...some people have lasting relationships via the swing world..so one off meets with strangers can become more like regular friendships.

but as I said before..dont post about meetings on a public forum that gives the indication you meet at home with children..it only takes one phonecall from a neighbour

*fact"

or one phonecall from a vindictive fab member...........

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Children's services at your county council(social services) will act upon anonymous tips and initiate an assessment which may include coming to your home and talking to your children. They will want assurance that the children's interests and safely are put first by the parents and if they consider this may not be happening they will take further action which could end up with the children being considered at risk and becoming registered as such.

Playing devils advocate here.....is having group sex, MMFs, gangbangs etc in the lounge whilst your children are upstairs asleep putting your children's interests first??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We do not have kids but we would simply not feel comfortable visiting with children present.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Were happy to do this as its we dont very often get a babysitter. Once the kids are asleep their asleep and never wake up

Quite. Plus both of ours are in cots and CANT get out of bed and come down. Plus I dont play on meets so if they need anything Im free to go to them.

At the end of the day people who have an issue with it dont have to meet those that do it. But nobody has the right to criticize just because they wouldnt do it. The kids are in no way at risk.

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By *aime DowneMan over a year ago

stoke on trent

It's terrible

I went to a threesome once and the kids had just gone bed, all three of us couldn't make any noise, whilst having fun....Very bizarre and very off putting and very wrong

Went on a meet and was told the kids had gone bed, we played in the living room with door open and eventually one of the kids woke up, I heard him, he must have heard us, very off putting , especially as she was playing behind her husband's back, whilst at work and the lad was at a age where he could have told him

So wrong

Prefer people to come to mine, much better

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No one from fab even knows where I live. I'm keeping it that way. If it means I get to meet once a year so be it. I'm not compromising my children's safety for the sake of a fuck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No one from fab even knows where I live. I'm keeping it that way. If it means I get to meet once a year so be it. I'm not compromising my children's safety for the sake of a fuck."

Nail on the head there. If social services felt the children's safety was being compromised for the sake of a fuck ((within a loving committed relationship is a very different thing from a six guy gangbang) they would consider placing those children on the at risk register

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Were happy to do this as its we dont very often get a babysitter. Once the kids are asleep their asleep and never wake up

Quite. Plus both of ours are in cots and CANT get out of bed and come down. Plus I dont play on meets so if they need anything Im free to go to them.

At the end of the day people who have an issue with it dont have to meet those that do it. But nobody has the right to criticize just because they wouldnt do it. The kids are in no way at risk."

neither was one of my friends kids...I'm just stating the facts of her ordeal..

no matter what she said, no evidence of anything etc etc...she still had to admit being in the wrong.

Sorry if I have made it sound judgemental...

my actual point is, do ones best to keep as much of your private home life away from public forums...especially with the given subject matter.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We would never have anyone at our house. No matter how frequently we met them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd never do it. It does make meets really difficult for us, as we don't get a babysitter very often. But only a couple of years ago I couldn't even leave their bedroom or they'd wake up!

So I'm happy to wait for the odd occasion. And my husband sometimes babysits while I play alone in a hotel meet/elsewhere.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd never do it. It does make meets really difficult for us, as we don't get a babysitter very often. But only a couple of years ago I couldn't even leave their bedroom or they'd wake up!

So I'm happy to wait for the odd occasion. And my husband sometimes babysits while I play alone in a hotel meet/elsewhere."

hotel booked..in glasgow...tonite tho

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I couldn't even leave their bedroom or they'd wake up!

We have three older kids who go to their dads alternate weeks. But when they are home they shout scream and argue. Thump around. Blast music and the kids sleep through it all. We have two big rottwiellers who bark all hours of the day and night and the kids sleep through that. Most of our meets have been with a couple or single guy. The biggest group was two guys not a six guy gang bang

theres no need to whisper. The kids have only ever woken once when we were having a social and a fire engine came down the street. I gave them bottles and within seconds they were asleep again. No matter what people say on here the amount of meets we have had and the list of people wanting to arrange meets when we have time goes to show a large amount of people are not bothered. Only 1 couple ever said not with kids there which was fine. We moved on and that was that. I dont understand why people get worked up because other people do things they wont. If you dont like how somebody plays dont play with them move on and find somebody compatable! Its quite simple.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Interested in what people think of inviting strangers to their home for sex when they have children asleep upstairs? There have been posts that claim this isn't issue for some

Do you do it? And if you do is it because of babysitting issues? What do you do if they come downstairs or wake up?

I won't accommodate when the kids are home, and rarely when they are not there either. I only meet full stop when they are away .

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

The thing that would concern me about meeting at home with children there or even mentioning it on here is that you do not know who you're inviting into your house, what their motives are and if they have intentions other than swinging.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

A forum is for people to exchange views and debate that's why people are expressing opinions and discussing their viewpoints. Some people are also concerned that social services may take a dim view if they were contacted, which is also up for discussion if people wish. Behaving in a way that some people may find abhorrent and then trying to justify to those people why you do it isn't going to win them over. Similarly if you don't wish for your private business to be criticised don't paste it all over a public forum

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

Children have a habit of being ill and not telling mum n dad before hand that it will happen 'later'..

also they wander about or may want a drink and they can be very quiet too..

only has to happen once and they see something which one would not want them to talk about at a later date..

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By *umbriaman1962Man over a year ago

outside of penrith

single now kids grown up

but in past with ex we did accommodate with kids asleep when very young

but only people we had met before never strangers and we had lock on a living room door so we played down stairs and if they had a woke up we heard them trying open door

lock was also good even if just two of use playing or watch porn etc

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Never in a million years. At the end of the day they are strangers coming into your home. You know very little about them other than they want to have sex with you. Children can wake up or become ill during the night. You are a parent first and foremost. All about priorities.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Children have a habit of being ill and not telling mum n dad before hand that it will happen 'later'..

also they wander about or may want a drink and they can be very quiet too..

only has to happen once and they see something which one would not want them to talk about at a later date.."

Be hard to tell us if they were ill they can barely speak yet lol once they are older we wont do this anymore. But for now I am the childminder while my wife plays.

Fully clothed, sober, sensible and quite capable of dealing with any needs they may have while the fun continues.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's terrible

I went to a threesome once and the kids had just gone bed, all three of us couldn't make any noise, whilst having fun....Very bizarre and very off putting and very wrong

So wrong

Prefer people to come to mine, much better"

but you went and played anyway ?

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Children have a habit of being ill and not telling mum n dad before hand that it will happen 'later'..

also they wander about or may want a drink and they can be very quiet too..

only has to happen once and they see something which one would not want them to talk about at a later date..

Be hard to tell us if they were ill they can barely speak yet lol once they are older we wont do this anymore. But for now I am the childminder while my wife plays.

Fully clothed, sober, sensible and quite capable of dealing with any needs they may have while the fun continues."

you seem to have missed the point in that regardless of being at a talking age or not, kids cant pre warn that they will be ill 'later'..

and some kids want 'mum' when that happens..

just my opinion having raised ours to adulthood, not criticising you personally..

why so defensive?

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

My concern would be that people aren't always who they claim to be and paedophiles are prepared to use any means to win trust, find out where children are that can be targeted and take advantage of a situation. I wouldn't invite a stranger I had just met into my house if my young children were there no matter where I'd met them and I wouldn't be advertising on an internet forum that I was prepared to do it either.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My concern would be that people aren't always who they claim to be and paedophiles are prepared to use any means to win trust, find out where children are that can be targeted and take advantage of a situation. I wouldn't invite a stranger I had just met into my house if my young children were there no matter where I'd met them and I wouldn't be advertising on an internet forum that I was prepared to do it either.

They would never get the chance to get to the kids let alone be alone with them.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

They would never get the chance to get to the kids let alone be alone with them. "

I wasn't directing my comments at any particular poster. If you're happy with how you play that's fine I'm just saying why I wouldn't risk it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They would never get the chance to get to the kids let alone be alone with them.

I wasn't directing my comments at any particular poster. If you're happy with how you play that's fine I'm just saying why I wouldn't risk it. "

No thats cool I can totally understand that would be an issue for some

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

My children are all grown up now but still I wouldn't invite strangers into my home. When my children were small I would have been terrified they would have heard stuff and been frightened. Supposing someone decided to go into their room when I was otherwise engaged? Doesn't bear thinking about. If they came downstairs and witnessed stuff would be the ultimate nightmare, could really damage them, give them a warped view of sex maybe. Nope babysitters all the way for us

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dont get me wrong if we had family across town then we would utilise that. We would have child free nights and be going to clubs etc.

But when your closest family is 100 miles away a sitter would be a stranger and to me thats far more risky than controlling the enviroment yourself.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wouldn't be comfortable with this, just feels a bit wrong really

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I never met anyone when my son was a kid. I think its ok if its for just an hour and you are very careful and very quiet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No one from fab even knows where I live. I'm keeping it that way. If it means I get to meet once a year so be it. I'm not compromising my children's safety for the sake of a fuck."

S x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Dont get me wrong if we had family across town then we would utilise that. We would have child free nights and be going to clubs etc.

But when your closest family is 100 miles away a sitter would be a stranger and to me thats far more risky than controlling the enviroment yourself."

Thats precisely why we only meet a couple of times a year and why I meet alone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I never met anyone when my son was a kid. I think its ok if its for just an hour and you are very careful and very quiet."

We dont do overnight its only an hour or two in the evening.

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By *ezebelWoman over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Admin have said on previous threads about the same thing that they think is isn't an appropriate topic for discussion on the forums "because a) it outs people who have kids and is useful to paedophiles and b) anyone who says "yeah this is fine we do this" could be reported to social services and this used as evidence" so Im closing this sorry

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