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Those who don't swing are they boring or cheat
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We do believe that who don't swing lead boring lifestyle or cheat thier partners .. We have been swinging even before we got married and can't imagine life without this lifestyle ...
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over a year ago
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While this lifestyle is fun and great to have is say calling people who lead what are classed as conventional relationships boring is pretty narrow minded.
Personally id say if you need to have this lifestyle then there's more of an issue in that.
If one of you decided to stop swinging what then? |
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"We do believe that who don't swing lead boring lifestyle or cheat thier partners .. We have been swinging even before we got married and can't imagine life without this lifestyle ...
Rahul and Neha "
I believe you are judgmental and jump to conclusions.
How would you feel if people started having a go about your lifestyle choices?
I know loads of couples who don't swing yet are very happy together and don't cheat. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We do believe that who don't swing lead boring lifestyle or cheat thier partners .. We have been swinging even before we got married and can't imagine life without this lifestyle ...
Rahul and Neha "
Wow, I'm just gobsmacked at you horrible, horrible attitude. I feel you may be more closed minded than the type of people you are judging. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Very judgemental to calk people who are not into tgus lifestyle boring or cheats. I have many vanilla friends who are neither. They are just living their lives their way. Lots of cheats on here tho. |
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"While this lifestyle is fun and great to have is say calling people who lead what are classed as conventional relationships boring is pretty narrow minded.
Personally id say if you need to have this lifestyle then there's more of an issue in that.
If one of you decided to stop swinging what then?"
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Neither I or Kate had "swung" before we did together and were together 10 years before it even came Into conversation. Infact it was purely an accident, not something either of us had contemplated. Our sex life was anything but boring , and neither of us ever strayed.
It was only the fact that we did have 10 years under our belt of having a loving, faithful, great, secure, fulfilling sex life, that allowed us to contemplate it in the first place.
Or in short... No.
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" In fairness if you read the profile, it says he's just had surgery so isn't swinging so I guess he's bored 
I on the other hand am a right boring git contemplating building an Airfix spitfire this weekend instead of a sex filled weekend of debauchery."
Airfix Spitfire? Cool!  |
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"We do believe that who don't swing lead boring lifestyle or cheat thier partners .. We have been swinging even before we got married and can't imagine life without this lifestyle ...
Rahul and Neha "
good for you but dont assume because other people in the world have other lifestyles are boring |
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"We do believe that who don't swing lead boring lifestyle or cheat thier partners .. We have been swinging even before we got married and can't imagine life without this lifestyle ...
Rahul and Neha "
Everyone may believe what they wish. One set of circumstances rarely applies to a whole group of people though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Wow ......... I know couples married for years and really happy with each other and in love. See some that's all they need in life to be happy and in love and don't look for others to spice it up .. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"like I said, if my marriage was good enough, then I wouldn't be on here would i."
Who knows, some singles play with their husbands consent and that is their kink...he gets off on the thought of the wife playing with someone and coming back and telling him what happened. |
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"like I said, if my marriage was good enough, then I wouldn't be on here would i.
Who knows, some singles play with their husbands consent and that is their kink...he gets off on the thought of the wife playing with someone and coming back and telling him what happened. "
Yes and he gets off just thinking about it. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"like I said, if my marriage was good enough, then I wouldn't be on here would i.
Who knows, some singles play with their husbands consent and that is their kink...he gets off on the thought of the wife playing with someone and coming back and telling him what happened.
Yes and he gets off just thinking about it."
OK, this is a bit confusing but personal to you so I bow out. |
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Oh how we like to judge others with big browd brush strokes .... what works for some may not work for others,everyones threshold of happiness or boredom is individual.im glad your happy and have an exciting ,fulfilling life because you lead this lifestyle , its wrong of you to assume that everyone outside of it is any less happy or fulfilled |
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"We do believe that who don't swing lead boring lifestyle or cheat thier partners .. We have been swinging even before we got married and can't imagine life without this lifestyle ...
Rahul and Neha "
I think it's supremely arrogant to look down on those who don't have the same sexual taste as you. |
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Sorry my dad and mum didn't live a boring life they didn't swing to keep their marriage together. Remember One man's meat is another man's poison.you may like this alternative lifestyle. Someone else may find it repulsive and abominable act.
So don't judge others |
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I really think people have missed the original posters point.
My understanding is because they enjoy swinging they cannot fathom why others wouldn't want to do it. And the cheat comment wasn't suggesting that couples cheat on each other, but suggesting they may be cheating someone out of something. |
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"While this lifestyle is fun and great to have is say calling people who lead what are classed as conventional relationships boring is pretty narrow minded.
Personally id say if you need to have this lifestyle then there's more of an issue in that.
If one of you decided to stop swinging what then?"
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Well, I think the op may have a point.
All they are saying is that not having sex with other people is a boring way to live, aren't they?
Frankly, shouldn't everyone on this site be in full agreement with them, rather than having a go?
Monogamy is a bit boring to us isn't it, as perfectly fine as that might be for many?
That doesn't mean our choice is the only choice and, for others, the best choice, but not doing it is surely going to lead to a lack of stimulation or excitement we will find hard.
The exception I would make is for those who have been there and done it, ticked all their boxes and settled down to a conventional life. I wouldn't describe them as boring, just that they have moved on. I suspect when that happens to me I will say something like 'I've become a bit boring in my old age'.
I'm sorry to agree with the op's and tar everyone on here with the lavish praise that you're just that little bit more interesting and adventurous than most, but you're just going to have to put up with the facts!
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"Sorry my dad and mum didn't live a boring life they didn't swing to keep their marriage together. Remember One man's meat is another man's poison.you may like this alternative lifestyle. Someone else may find it repulsive and abominable act.
So don't judge others"
Well said. I don't judge anyone, and while I am uncommitted I will meet all sorts of people, but yes, I am actually a fan of monogamy, it suits me best.
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"Well, I think the op may have a point.
All they are saying is that not having sex with other people is a boring way to live, aren't they?
Frankly, shouldn't everyone on this site be in full agreement with them, rather than having a go?
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I like playing computer games. I don't assume that people who don't play computer games have a boring life.
I like BDSM based relationships. I don't assume that anyone who is 'vanilla' (i.e. most swingers) are cheats because they're not exercising the full remit of their sexuality. |
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"We do believe that who don't swing lead boring lifestyle or cheat thier partners .. We have been swinging even before we got married and can't imagine life without this lifestyle ...
Rahul and Neha "
. Lots of people lead really interesting lives without their sex lives being important . Swinging is great for those who enjoy it , but should only be part of your overall life style . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That's a bit of rude assumption to make I didn't swing when I was married and my sex life was anything but boring and neither of us cheated either. "
Well said ! |
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So as someone who likes computer games, would you find a life without computer gaming a bit boring?
Yes you would. I think the op is merely saying the same with regard to not having sex with other people. They think it is a boring way to live?
Out of interest, do you only have one exclusive long term BDSM relationship at a time? I would concede that those who do are certainly not boring.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I used to think that maybe some couples were boring if they weren't swingers but after being on here a long time I have changed my mind about that and a lot of other things. |
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"So as someone who likes computer games, would you find a life without computer gaming a bit boring?
Yes you would. I think the op is merely saying the same with regard to not having sex with other people. They think it is a boring way to live?
Out of interest, do you only have one exclusive long term BDSM relationship at a time? I would concede that those who do are certainly not boring.
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I don't think it is a 'boring way to live' I just think it's not my personal preference. I think some of my friends have really rather exciting lives, despite not playing computer games.
And no, I have multiple BDSM relationships at a time. I'm polyamorous. |
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'I have multiple BDSM relationships at a time'
That is because more than one relationship at a time is more stimulating and satisfactory, isn't it? Or, to put it another, just the one or none would be a bit boring by comparison. To you.
I'm simply sticking up for the op's who I don't think were making the statement to sneer at other people, but were given some pretty short shrift on here when all I think they were trying to say was 'hey, whisper it quietly, but you're all just that little bit cooler and more interesting than all the others who are afraid or unadventurous or unopen to the idea of sex with other people.'
To put it another way, if you are only ever in a monogamous relationship, you're never ever going to experience the thrill of a threesome, are you? Now, isn't that just a little bit boring?
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"We do believe that who don't swing lead boring lifestyle or cheat thier partners .. We have been swinging even before we got married and can't imagine life without this lifestyle ...
Rahul and Neha "
thats possibly one of the most ignorant, naive and insulting comments ive read on here.... |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
I'm struggling to see why there is so much vitriol.
The OP has stated an opinion/belief, might not fit into others worlds, however it is theirs and everyone is entitled an opinion, well they were when I was a lad. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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That is because more than one relationship at a time is more stimulating and satisfactory, isn't it? Or, to put it another, just the one or none would be a bit boring by comparison. To you.
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No, I don't find other peoples lives 'boring' just because they don't do the same things as me for fun.
Generally I find that most people I know have genuinely exciting lives that I wouldn't consider boring at all - it's just that the way they choose to find their own excitement is different to mine. But I would never say they were boring. Because they're not. They're just different. |
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