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Hi I am looking for peoples thoughts on my dilemma.
I am going out on Friday with the girls and guys from work after we finish for the holidays. I have a nice new black lace top and am wondering whether to wear a bra under it or not. It is kind of see through but a pet hate of mine is seeing bras under clothing and I am not a great lover of wearing bras anyway.
Would this be just a bit too much?
I am not worried what men would think about it but more about the cattiness from other females.
Any thoughts would be appreciated
Babydoll xxx |
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By *nnyMan
over a year ago
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I'm not a fan of visible underwear - bra straps showing etc. I wonder if a slinky, strappy top would be the answer.
Preserve your modestly yet allow people to realise you're bra less? |
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over a year ago
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"I was wanting to wear this top though. Not worried about modesty, it is less than is seen on a spanish beach lol
Babydoll "
Why ask the question if you have already made up your mind? Just wear the top and enjoy your night. |
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"I was wanting to wear this top though. Not worried about modesty, it is less than is seen on a spanish beach lol
Babydoll
Why ask the question if you have already made up your mind? Just wear the top and enjoy your night."
I have decided to wear the top it is wether to go braless or not |
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"Hi I am looking for peoples thoughts on my dilemma.
I am going out on Friday with the girls and guys from work after we finish for the holidays. I have a nice new black lace top and am wondering whether to wear a bra under it or not. It is kind of see through but a pet hate of mine is seeing bras under clothing and I am not a great lover of wearing bras anyway.
Would this be just a bit too much?
I am not worried what men would think about it but more about the cattiness from other females.
Any thoughts would be appreciated
Babydoll xxx"
Wear what you feel comfortable with. Not sure why you're more worried about what the women think than the men.
A suggestion has been made that you wear a slinky top underneath rather than a bra, I thought that was quite a good idea. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Will you FEEL COMFORTABLE without a bra all night? If yes, then go for it.
Personally, I would only go bra-less on nights where I was a 100% I wouldn't be dancing, I'm sure you know what I mean! |
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"Will you FEEL COMFORTABLE without a bra all night? If yes, then go for it.
Personally, I would only go bra-less on nights where I was a 100% I wouldn't be dancing, I'm sure you know what I mean!"
Yes i will feel comfortable braless, I dont wear them that often |
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"Will you FEEL COMFORTABLE without a bra all night? If yes, then go for it.
Personally, I would only go bra-less on nights where I was a 100% I wouldn't be dancing, I'm sure you know what I mean!
Yes i will feel comfortable braless, I dont wear them that often"
There you are then! Go bra less and enjoy the evening.
I always wear one when I'm out because I'd have somebody's eye out if I didn't.  |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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"A suggestion has been made that you wear a slinky top underneath rather than a bra, I thought that was quite a good idea."
Me too. Go for a flesh coloured one or a bright snazzy colour so it doesn't detract from or enhances the lace. |
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"Hi I am looking for peoples thoughts on my dilemma.
I am going out on Friday with the girls and guys from work after we finish for the holidays. I have a nice new black lace top and am wondering whether to wear a bra under it or not. It is kind of see through but a pet hate of mine is seeing bras under clothing and I am not a great lover of wearing bras anyway.
Would this be just a bit too much?
I am not worried what men would think about it but more about the cattiness from other females.
Any thoughts would be appreciated
Babydoll xxx
Wear what you feel comfortable with. Not sure why you're more worried about what the women think than the men.
A suggestion has been made that you wear a slinky top underneath rather than a bra, I thought that was quite a good idea."
We all know what the men would think it is more about the bitchiness from other women |
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"Hi I am looking for peoples thoughts on my dilemma.
I am going out on Friday with the girls and guys from work after we finish for the holidays. I have a nice new black lace top and am wondering whether to wear a bra under it or not. It is kind of see through but a pet hate of mine is seeing bras under clothing and I am not a great lover of wearing bras anyway.
Would this be just a bit too much?
I am not worried what men would think about it but more about the cattiness from other females.
Any thoughts would be appreciated
Babydoll xxx
Wear what you feel comfortable with. Not sure why you're more worried about what the women think than the men.
A suggestion has been made that you wear a slinky top underneath rather than a bra, I thought that was quite a good idea.
We all know what the men would think it is more about the bitchiness from other women"
I think on Christmas evenings out the clothing is often a bit more revealing than normal I'm sure the women will be fine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi I am looking for peoples thoughts on my dilemma.
I am going out on Friday with the girls and guys from work after we finish for the holidays. I have a nice new black lace top and am wondering whether to wear a bra under it or not. It is kind of see through but a pet hate of mine is seeing bras under clothing and I am not a great lover of wearing bras anyway.
Would this be just a bit too much?
I am not worried what men would think about it but more about the cattiness from other females.
Any thoughts would be appreciated
Babydoll xxx
Wear what you feel comfortable with. Not sure why you're more worried about what the women think than the men.
A suggestion has been made that you wear a slinky top underneath rather than a bra, I thought that was quite a good idea.
We all know what the men would think it is more about the bitchiness from other women"
Some men would actually be embarrassed if a woman in the vicinity is wearing something too see through. Not being bitchy, but going off personal experience of having a cousin who used to wear see through lace stuff a fair bit.
I like the idea of a vest top too, think they look nice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If its a work do wearing see through clothing wouldnt be the best idea. Bosses see things like that as you representing the company. I also think a thin strappy top underneath would look more classy.
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"If its a work do wearing see through clothing wouldnt be the best idea. Bosses see things like that as you representing the company. I also think a thin strappy top underneath would look more classy.
Stu"
Its not a works do, it is just some of the workers going for a night out as we are finished for a fortnights holiday. There will be no bosses there
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"Have re read the op. How sheer is the lace?
It is not that sheer but nipples are clearly visible. It will be worse if disco lights are on lol "
My honest opinion not based on cattiness, jealousy or bitchiness is that showing your nipples at a works do is probably not a great idea. |
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If your nipples will be visible you will be stared at all night. If you don't mind that then leave the bra at home. Is it a usual thing that women do where you go? |
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i never wear a bra - not shy of showing a hint of nip but wouldnt show a full on see through top if i was with people it might embarass - if youre comfy wear it without |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi I am looking for peoples thoughts on my dilemma.
I am going out on Friday with the girls and guys from work after we finish for the holidays. I have a nice new black lace top and am wondering whether to wear a bra under it or not. It is kind of see through but a pet hate of mine is seeing bras under clothing and I am not a great lover of wearing bras anyway.
Would this be just a bit too much?
I am not worried what men would think about it but more about the cattiness from other females.
Any thoughts would be appreciated
Babydoll xxx"
send me a pic with and without and will let Yer know  |
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Me personally would go without as its xmas and who cares
If you are comfortable braces then I'm sure yoh will decide for yourself whatever our opinions
Enjoy your evening and be careful not to get black eyes
Xxx |
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"Me personally would go without as its xmas and who cares
If you are comfortable braces then I'm sure yoh will decide for yourself whatever our opinions
Enjoy your evening and be careful not to get black eyes
Xxx"
I am comfortable with it as I go braless most of the time and the hubby is ok with it, in fact I think he is quite excited by it lol.
I have decided to go braless and take a bra in my bag.
Black eyes wont be an issue as I am not big enough for that ha |
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"Hpoe I meet up with you babydoll. I am out in Dingwall on Friday eith your hubby. County Tsvern?"
will probably meet up somewhere its not a big town lol. We are starting off in the Tavern but please dont get the othe half in the same state he was in last year lol |
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"I was wanting to wear this top though. Not worried about modesty, it is less than is seen on a spanish beach lol
Babydoll
Why ask the question if you have already made up your mind? Just wear the top and enjoy your night."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just wondering if you do go bra less can I wear it instead .......... Just to keep it warm for you when you return !!!!!! honest ........ !!!!! ??"
Ear muffs?   |
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"Hpoe I meet up with you babydoll. I am out in Dingwall on Friday eith your hubby. County Tsvern?
will probably meet up somewhere its not a big town lol. We are starting off in the Tavern but please dont get the othe half in the same state he was in last year lol"
Look forward to it but I am not responsible for the state he could be in |
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Honestly i think its quite tastleless and if a police officer see's you technically could be done for indecent exposure so be careful on that one!
I know many bars around here wont let women in if they are dressed like that theres a difference between showing cleavage and pretty much having all your tits on display |
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"Honestly i think its quite tastleless and if a police officer see's you technically could be done for indecent exposure so be careful on that one!
I know many bars around here wont let women in if they are dressed like that theres a difference between showing cleavage and pretty much having all your tits on display"
I agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I guess it depends, if it's lacy and you can pretty much are your tits nipples and all then that's probably something you should confine to a swingers club.
Also, it's not clear from the photos on your profile so I'll ask the question. Will you look good braless, lacy tops don't give a lot of support. Have a good long look at yourself wearing the top in the mirror. If your happy and comfortable then don't wear a bra |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yeah I don't think I've ever seen a woman's tits obviously on display on a night out? Yes on a beach in Spain. Not on a night out with work mates.
I think a sexy bra underneath can look amazing and be more sexy than showing it all off.
(Wow I sound really old reading that back!)
But wear the shortest skirt you want. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Will you FEEL COMFORTABLE without a bra all night? If yes, then go for it.
Personally, I would only go bra-less on nights where I was a 100% I wouldn't be dancing, I'm sure you know what I mean!
Yes i will feel comfortable braless, I dont wear them that often"
there's your answer I think . have fun and enjoy xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"And having just seen your pics I'd say you'd benefit from the support of a bra."
have to agree, definitely some support needed, it would make you look sexier if they are lifted a little. |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
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I have quite small, pert boobs, and I would not go so obviously braless on a works night out.
It would likely make quite a few people uncomfortable, and I'm maybe a prude but there is a time and a place.
I'd like to be taken seriously by my colleagues and not just be known as the strumpet that flashed her tits on the xmas night out.
I have a few dresses that require braless, but they do not show my whole tits. Mainly lace panels at the back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It seems like you've made your mind up so just go out without a bra. If you get cattiness from women and you may get it from men too, then you will have to deal with it won't you.
Many girls will be out looking sexy in revealing clothes, I doubt its going to be anything that out of the ordinary, just go for it |
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"I have quite small, pert boobs, and I would not go so obviously braless on a works night out.
It would likely make quite a few people uncomfortable, and I'm maybe a prude but there is a time and a place.
I'd like to be taken seriously by my colleagues and not just be known as the strumpet that flashed her tits on the xmas night out.
I have a few dresses that require braless, but they do not show my whole tits. Mainly lace panels at the back."
this. (Except for the small and pert bit, that I am not!) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i never wear a bra and sometimes the closefitting cami/vest is too much - i have a couple of lacy bralets that are light weight - i dont feel that im wearing too much with one of those - still cant wait to pull the thing off though - |
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