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Does the soft play option hold you back/put you off?

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

As a soft swap only couple we find it difficult to arrange meets with other couples at times. Many have said that they only meet full swap couples even though they list ss in their interests. (We know this could be a polite way of declining a meet with us) however our question is would "soft play only" put you off messaging a couple or have you also encountered similar issues ?

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By *eminiman61Man  over a year ago

mansfield

I can see it putting some people off, but quite a few like S.S or voyeurism. I think itd be a good way to break the ice. A girl I was seeing said she'd only soft swing, because she'd be jealous seeing me with another woman I said we'd go for it hoping things would progress further during any future meets....

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

We was looking into swapping a while back and decided we would over ever soft swap, but circumstances changed so we dont swap now...

But don't worry about what puts some people off, do what is right for you, there's plenty of couples on here who also only soft swap.

Mrs xx

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

We would try it but as I dont join in at all it would seem a bit pointless

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman  over a year ago

Deviant City

Love soft swap, had many a horny meet without full penetrative sex.

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By *ackandruinCouple  over a year ago

Wakefield

We are happy with soft swap, it can be very erotic

x

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By *0hnnyBrav0Man  over a year ago

Great Wyrley

Soft play is still having fun is it not?

I can't see why it would put anyone off. Its all about enjoyment

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

were only soft swap we have a fair share of meets and we and the others involved have great fun and enjoy,

im sure we would get more offers if we did full swap but were not intrested,

we still have penetration with our own partners, plus there are many ways to enjoy sex without penetration

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By *win PeaksCouple  over a year ago

Northamptonshire

We only do full swap as we find soft swap a bit like making a cake but not being able to eat it. But everyone should only play to their own limits and never go beyond what they feel comfortable doing.

Dave

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"As a soft swap only couple we find it difficult to arrange meets with other couples at times. Many have said that they only meet full swap couples even though they list ss in their interests. (We know this could be a polite way of declining a meet with us) however our question is would "soft play only" put you off messaging a couple or have you also encountered similar issues ? "

Firstly you have to do what you are comfortable with, but we feel that it places yet another restriction on a meet. We've done soft-swap and it was very nice but we wouldn't choose to meet a couple who are only soft-swap generally.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

we struggle with meets as mr E only plays with me but i will play with both of other cpl full swop if the attraction is there so if any cpls up for it ....

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I've had a few soft swap meets with couples and have actually found them more erotic and enjoyable than full swap meets as some want to go straight to sex whereas with the soft swap it was all about the pleasure without the end goal of shagging away

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By *corpio67Man  over a year ago

hillingdon

being invited to "play" with a couple is a privilege!

if they want to enhance their relationship, and it's very erotic exploring!

with some couples bringing full sex into the equation can actually ruin the relationship, while others love it!

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By *UN TIME COUPLECouple  over a year ago

redditch

We have had many a soft swap meets jn the past we find it comfy for what we want as full swap is not our thing everything we do with another couple kissin oral fondling etc is still erotic for us just when it comes to full blown intercourse we keep it to own partners

And the people who we have met have been 100% fine with it were not everyones cup of tea but still nice to be tea for some lol

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By *UN TIME COUPLECouple  over a year ago

redditch

We have had many a soft swap meets jn the past we find it comfy for what we want as full swap is not our thing everything we do with another couple kissin oral fondling etc is still erotic for us just when it comes to full blown intercourse we keep it to own partners

And the people who we have met have been 100% fine with it were not everyones cup of tea but still nice to be tea for some lol

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By *UN TIME COUPLECouple  over a year ago

redditch

We have had many a soft swap meets jn the past we find it comfy for what we want as full swap is not our thing everything we do with another couple kissin oral fondling etc is still erotic for us just when it comes to full blown intercourse we keep it to own partners

And the people who we have met have been 100% fine with it were not everyones cup of tea but still nice to be tea for some lol

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By *adybee77Woman  over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I have done soft swap in the past with a previous partner, but it became apparent after a couple of meets it was soft swap because he was insanely jealous, and did not want to think of me with another man, but wanted other women. The jealousy was part of why we split.

With my current lover, I would actually consider soft swap - because we are not jealous with each other at all, and not sure if we are ready for full swap

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By *roovytwoCouple  over a year ago

burnley

Don't feel pressured into doing anything that you both don't feel ready for.

Some couples have decided to soft swap only and that's what they feel comfortable and happy with.

We also have had some really sexy erotic sticky fun with soft swap couples

Agree with Miss Insatiable that sometimes penetration seems to be the "be all and end all" of having fun ...we personally have found that its more about the flirting/kissing/stroking/sucking/undressing/watching/wanking as a 3 sum or 4 sum that excites us on many an occasion...depends on the mood and whether everyone is happy to full swap but important not to be pushy and to fully respect others boundaries.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Profiles that are only into full swap or expect it put us off. We don't rule out full swap but we're very much into how we feel in the moment and how the playing progresses and how comfortable we feel with the people we are playing with. So we always express to any potential playmates that there should be no expectations from either side.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Love soft swap, had many a horny meet without full penetrative sex."

This.. in fact have had many meets where it's just happened that way x

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By *onnie and JohnCouple  over a year ago

andover


"Love soft swap, had many a horny meet without full penetrative sex."

as above..connie xx

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By *et a roomCouple  over a year ago

Leeds

It's all about being happy with what you're doing, without any pressure. Everyone should only do what they want to do, and having seen your pics there must be plenty of people who would be happy to meet you just for soft swap.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Profiles that are only into full swap or expect it put us off. We don't rule out full swap but we're very much into how we feel in the moment and how the playing progresses and how comfortable we feel with the people we are playing with. So we always express to any potential playmates that there should be no expectations from either side."

we have been swinging for over ten years .we used to full swop at first . 99$ of the sex the two of us have at home is only soft play its the why my wife comes a couple of years ago we was at a house party we played with a few people . on the way home we was talking about it and my wife was say it was an ok night but was thinking about stopping swinging as it wast not as much fun anymore. we talked and it was that she was not coming the men would only play and lick for about 10 min then fuck her .so we started to soft swing and have never looked back .we did meet one single men that played for houses and when she asked him to fuck her he had not got a rubber . but we had a great night .

DO WHAT YOU LIKE ITS YOUR LIFE AND GOOD LUCK

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By *iggerooooCouple  over a year ago

Conwy

We have had meets with no sexual contact at all. We find the whole swap and go through the sexual motions a little tedious at times. But ill happily tie you up and spank you, invite your partner to play with you as my partner is restrained to just watching the scenario unfold from the corner of the room, blindfold .. Paddles and a few toys are the way to go. Better than running through the same meet with different people time again So no, full, soft and even no sexual contact shouldn't put anyone off ... Unless they lack imagination obviously

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"We have had meets with no sexual contact at all.

We find the whole swap and go through the sexual motions a little tedious at times.

But ill happily tie you up and spank you, invite your partner to play with you as my partner is restrained to just watching the scenario unfold from the corner of the room, blindfold .. Paddles and a few toys are the way to go.

Better than running through the same meet with different people time again

So no, full, soft and even no sexual contact shouldn't put anyone off ... Unless they lack imagination obviously "

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your so right imagination is the key to great sex .sex is great the first 1000 times and still good now after 30 years but great sex is all in the build up and the imagination so why would any one like to rush it

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

in 4 years on this site we have meet 3 single men. we have given up on them now as we was getting about 300 messages a week. we was asking for ideas do not send on liners but never got them.this was an idea we had from a single men and played out days later that was not full swing

I'm an Estate Agent in the West Midlands.

I was talking to a couple on here whom took an interest in my job and what I may have to offer, they wanted to view a house.

I arranged a house for them to see, the house was furnished with quite a few mirrors around.

There was a knock on the door, mr & mrs horney came in, mrs horney was dressed in a long black coat short denies skirt with boots, the house was warm, mr horney advised her to take off her coat, she unveiled a skipy top showing her beautiful nipples.

Mrs horney took a good look at the fireplace to standing over a mirror that was on the floor, I stood back and starred right up her skirt at a shaven pussy my cock was instantly hard

We then went into the kitchen where a cloth was on the floor, mrs horney bent over her skirt was riding up with her wet pussy on show again. I was in my suit, my cock was building out of my trousers at this point. Mr horney didn't say anything. She then seemed to pull a muscle in her leg, she asked if I could help rub her leg, as she directed my hand all the way up her leg I was starring at her ass and pussy.q

Next was the bathroom, she wanted to make sure there was plenty of room so she sat on the toilet with the lid down and legs spread,

Back into the kitchen, she made herself at home sitting on the kitchen side, her pussy was soaking wet dripping wiith cum, she left a wet patch on the side, wiped it with her fingers and put them in my mouth. Her cum tasted amazing I was stroking my cock thought my suit trousers as she walked out of the room, I think mr horny took a peak.

Mr horny lead the way upstairs followed by mrs horny with me at the end looking up her skirt, she then bent over to pick a letter up which was on the floor. There right informs of me was a dripping wet pussy, fuck it I'm going in, I got closer and closer as my lips touched her pussy she made a slight noise mmmmm, there was no way I was moving, I tasted her again and it was amazing.

We went into the bedroom, she laid down and pulled her skirt up with her legs spread and down I went sucking licking teasing playing her pussy, wow it tasted so nice, she then sucked me and mr horny swapped with me, mr horny said I don't waste a drop with a wink, mr horny was busy taking videos and pictures of mrs horny sucking my cock and balls

I'm an Estate Agent in the West Midlands.

I was talking to a couple on here whom took an interest in my job and what I may have to offer, they wanted to view a house.

I arranged a house for them to see, the house was furnished with quite a few mirrors around.

There was a knock on the door, mr & mrs horney came in, mrs horney was dressed in a long black coat short denies skirt with boots, the house was warm, mr horney advised her to take off her coat, she unveiled a skipy top showing her beautiful nipples.

Mrs horney took a good look at the fireplace to standing over a mirror that was on the floor, I stood back and starred right up her skirt at a shaven pussy my cock was instantly hard

We then went into the kitchen where a cloth was on the floor, mrs horney bent over her skirt was riding up with her wet pussy on show again. I was in my suit, my cock was building out of my trousers at this point. Mr horney didn't say anything. She then seemed to pull a muscle in her leg, she asked if I could help rub her leg, as she directed my hand all the way up her leg I was starring at her ass and pussy.q

Next was the bathroom, she wanted to make sure there was plenty of room so she sat on the toilet with the lid down and legs spread,

Back into the kitchen, she made herself at home sitting on the kitchen side, her pussy was soaking wet dripping wiith cum, she left a wet patch on the side, wiped it with her fingers and put them in my mouth. Her cum tasted amazing I was stroking my cock thought my suit trousers as she walked out of the room, I think mr horny took a peak.

Mr horny lead the way upstairs followed by mrs horny with me at the end looking up her skirt, she then bent over to pick a letter up which was on the floor. There right informs of me was a dripping wet pussy, fuck it I'm going in, I got closer and closer as my lips touched her pussy she made a slight noise mmmmm, there was no way I was moving, I tasted her again and it was amazing.

We went into the bedroom, she laid down and pulled her skirt up with her legs spread and down I went sucking licking teasing playing her pussy, wow it tasted so nice, she then sucked me and mr horny swapped with me, mr horny said I don't waste a drop with a wink, mr horny was busy taking videos and pictures of mrs horny sucking my cock and balls

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By *eforfuncplCouple  over a year ago

Morecambe

Not at all lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"As a soft swap only couple we find it difficult to arrange meets with other couples at times. Many have said that they only meet full swap couples even though they list ss in their interests. (We know this could be a polite way of declining a meet with us) however our question is would "soft play only" put you off messaging a couple or have you also encountered similar issues ? "
yes we have had trouble finding ss couples meet ! But we find them very sexy Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Prefer soft play, more sensual, last longer and more fun to be had, unlike a shag where its wham bham thank you maam and all over...

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By *ratty_DamselWoman  over a year ago

London.


"We have had meets with no sexual contact at all.

We find the whole swap and go through the sexual motions a little tedious at times.

But ill happily tie you up and spank you, invite your partner to play with you as my partner is restrained to just watching the scenario unfold from the corner of the room, blindfold .. Paddles and a few toys are the way to go.

Better than running through the same meet with different people time again

So no, full, soft and even no sexual contact shouldn't put anyone off ... Unless they lack imagination obviously "

Now this sounds very horny!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Prefer soft play, more sensual, last longer and more fun to be had, unlike a shag where its wham bham thank you maam and all over..."

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"We are happy with soft swap, it can be very erotic

x"

agree totally

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

this is how we started out and still dont mind it now - we are very sensual and love all that foreplay with others and end up with each other for full sex at some point of play - our boundaries have moved and full swap now but we always said we would with the right people and once we both knew how we felt about seeing each other with others -

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

As a soft swap only cple we enjoy the teasing and touching it brings .

It can be so much more erotic as you take the time to fully enjoy your new partner and that in turn lets you find so much more about your own body at times .

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

We tend to soft soft most of all, because we just like to have fun. We have full on swapped and did enjoy it, but Im greedy and would like to be fucked and have something to play with in my mouth C x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Soft play sounds really good. No pressure or demands, just an awesome laid back time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Great feedback. Thanks all.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Soft or full, it's more about everyone feeling comfortable and having fun. If there's the pressure of anyone feeling they have to go further than what they're comfortable with, then no one will feel relaxed enough to enjoy themselves. It is all about having fun at the end of the day

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By *ngie1962Couple  over a year ago

Bedford

We've done soft swap at club but prefer full swap

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Our profile (not this one) says we do either full or soft swap or anything in between. We are happy if everyone is happy. We often soft swap in clubs, just depends on the people. It's good fun.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Prefer full swap ....... wait I've nothing to swap so I'll just dive in

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Soft swing fun fine by me love to watch a couple fuck etc maybe some oral fun after let me lick her pussy clean etc

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Soft or full, it's more about everyone feeling comfortable and having fun. If there's the pressure of anyone feeling they have to go further than what they're comfortable with, then no one will feel relaxed enough to enjoy themselves. It is all about having fun at the end of the day "

My fb and me are still awaiting our first time which looks like being soft swing which will be great ! We both like touching,kissing,gentle massage and most of all having fun & laughter !

We will try full but will start slowly and see how it goes ?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

We much prefer soft swap, there are lots of couples on the site that like the same style of play, actually fucking with another couple present is a huge turn on for us.

TandJ. X

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"this is how we started out and still dont mind it now - we are very sensual and love all that foreplay with others and end up with each other for full sex at some point of play - our boundaries have moved and full swap now but we always said we would with the right people and once we both knew how we felt about seeing each other with others - "

You sound a lot like us. swinging for us is about having a good time. for all. when we was all younger we would meet chat kiss play with body parts kiss and lick body parts and at the end if you thought you liked that Pearson that much and you liked fucking you would fuck .We are swingers but would not say we are going to fuck all may play with some but not fuck them SO WE SAY WE ARE SOFT SWING ONLY .

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