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so what's with the constant double standards here?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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From my short time here it seems if a bloke mails a woman without a face pic he's either asked for one or deleted and ignored, yet that same woman can have the audacity to demand this on their profiles without having a single photo of theirselves on there. Incidentally, a man couldn't get away with the same thing, so why do the women here?
Maybe most people are used to it but it seems extremely unfair and frankly sexist. |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
Supply and demand.
Guys outnumber ladies on here...
And just because there are very few pics on a profile does not mean they are not in private.
I don't have face pics on show... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"From my short time here it seems if a bloke mails a woman without a face pic he's either asked for one or deleted and ignored, yet that same woman can have the audacity to demand this on their profiles without having a single photo of theirselves on there. Incidentally, a man couldn't get away with the same thing, so why do the women here?"
Because guys let them get away with it - but that doesn't mean you have to. If you're not comfortable with the terms that a woman sets then you don't have to agree with them, sure you may get passed up for having standards of your own, but its never a bad thing for a man to show some balls and a sense of self worth. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Get over it, move on to a woman that does have photos. There are search parameters available to you to allow you to search for people with public images. Just use them. It's no good blaming the site or moaning about others profiles. Control what you can control |
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"Supply and demand.
Guys outnumber ladies on here...
And just because there are very few pics on a profile does not mean they are not in private.
I don't have face pics on show..."
 thats where we keep ours..connie |
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"From my short time here it seems if a bloke mails a woman without a face pic he's either asked for one or deleted and ignored, yet that same woman can have the audacity to demand this on their profiles without having a single photo of theirselves on there. Incidentally, a man couldn't get away with the same thing, so why do the women here?
Because guys let them get away with it - but that doesn't mean you have to. If you're not comfortable with the terms that a woman sets then you don't have to agree with them, sure you may get passed up for having standards of your own, but its never a bad thing for a man to show some balls and a sense of self worth."
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I don't demand face pics with a first message as I don't provide mine until a few messages in when I've worked out whether there is any potential.
However I have had guys and couples provide a face pic with their first message then demand one in return. They then get arsey or affronted when I won't send mine even when I point out that it was their decision to send one to me.
Shit happens across the board makes no odds what gender they are.
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"From my short time here it seems if a bloke mails a woman without a face pic he's either asked for one or deleted and ignored, yet that same woman can have the audacity to demand this on their profiles without having a single photo of theirselves on there. Incidentally, a man couldn't get away with the same thing, so why do the women here?
Maybe most people are used to it but it seems extremely unfair and frankly sexist."
. Men can get away with this as well. No one is compelled to contact anyone . Members have to market themselves by having interesting profiles and good pictures . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Supply and demand.
Guys outnumber ladies on here...
And just because there are very few pics on a profile does not mean they are not in private.
I don't have face pics on show..."
its another problem i see within the site, when we get complaints about how single men will msg etc etc...as the largest fab group...we will OBVIOUSLY have more bad behavioured types...but there are plenty of couples,fems,tv's etc who can act like fucktwats..they just arent a big enough majority to moan about |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"From my short time here it seems if a bloke mails a woman without a face pic he's either asked for one or deleted and ignored, yet that same woman can have the audacity to demand this on their profiles without having a single photo of theirselves on there. Incidentally, a man couldn't get away with the same thing, so why do the women here?
Because guys let them get away with it - but that doesn't mean you have to. If you're not comfortable with the terms that a woman sets then you don't have to agree with them, sure you may get passed up for having standards of your own, but its never a bad thing for a man to show some balls and a sense of self worth."
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By (user no longer on site)
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No cos its a cock fest for women so they don't need to have a pic cos there will always be hundreds of guys that will fuck one with no pic here, even me lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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More moaning from a single guy not agreeing with the way single women conduct there selfs on this site.
Really !!! Who's cares there's no hard and fast rules here .
Life is life get over it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Plenty of men message me without face pics. Many have only dark faces...no features at all or sometimes long noses but no eyes or mouth...oh wait..those are the cock pics we all treasure so much.
My face pic goes to people I am likely to meet and not to anyone else. |
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"Plenty of men message me without face pics. Many have only dark faces...no features at all or sometimes long noses but no eyes or mouth...oh wait..those are the cock pics we all treasure so much.
My face pic goes to people I am likely to meet and not to anyone else. "
Not all man and woman are the same |
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"I don't demand face pics with a first message as I don't provide mine until a few messages in when I've worked out whether there is any potential.
However I have had guys and couples provide a face pic with their first message then demand one in return. They then get arsey or affronted when I won't send mine even when I point out that it was their decision to send one to me.
Shit happens across the board makes no odds what gender they are.
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I'm not fussed how it works, does give a skewed environment, but difinately send face pics and don't expect them in reply.
I used do a big message, tailored to each person I'd approached, now just read a profile and try and make the other person laugh or compliment, as well as lust, life's too short to worry about perceived hurdles  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"From my short time here it seems if a bloke mails a woman without a face pic he's either asked for one or deleted and ignored, yet that same woman can have the audacity to demand this on their profiles without having a single photo of theirselves on there. Incidentally, a man couldn't get away with the same thing, so why do the women here?
Maybe most people are used to it but it seems extremely unfair and frankly sexist."
Get a life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"From my short time here it seems if a bloke mails a woman without a face pic he's either asked for one or deleted and ignored, yet that same woman can have the audacity to demand this on their profiles without having a single photo of theirselves on there. Incidentally, a man couldn't get away with the same thing, so why do the women here?
Maybe most people are used to it but it seems extremely unfair and frankly sexist."
Men have as much right as women do to run their own profiles as they see fit, they can only be dictated to by women/couples if they allow themselves to be.
If you think it unfair that a woman says she will only respond to messages with a face pic attached when she does not display any public pics the answer is simple - message her with a face pic as she requested or find a profile you like that does have public pics and message that one instead - the choice is yours. |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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Men have as much right as women do to run their own profiles as they see fit, they can only be dictated to by women/couples if they allow themselves to be.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"From my short time here it seems if a bloke mails a woman without a face pic he's either asked for one or deleted and ignored, yet that same woman can have the audacity to demand this on their profiles without having a single photo of theirselves on there. Incidentally, a man couldn't get away with the same thing, so why do the women here?
Maybe most people are used to it but it seems extremely unfair and frankly sexist."
Oh the audacity of a lady setting out criteria of who they will / will not reply to.
Don't hate the player, hate the game.
Or did you think this was guaranteedashagwitheverymessage.com? |
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I ask for a face pic with a first message and unless the person sending the pic is what I'm looking for, I don't send mine back as we wouldn't be meeting. However if I'm messaging someone first I always attach a pic so they have that same choice |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I ask for a face pic with a first message and unless the person sending the pic is what I'm looking for, I don't send mine back as we wouldn't be meeting. However if I'm messaging someone first I always attach a pic so they have that same choice"
This as stated on my profile |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Here is an example of why we can be audacious and sexist. Tonight I have been online for ten minutes. i have had four messages from new men unknown to me. I state in my profile that I would like a face pic in my first message. some of those men sent me a face pic. Why would i go and chase that one with a blank avatar and no face pic? It's a woman's market. If you want to have sex with people, read their profiles and comply with their requests or move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Here is an example of why we can be audacious and sexist. Tonight I have been online for ten minutes. i have had four messages from new men unknown to me. I state in my profile that I would like a face pic in my first message. some of those men sent me a face pic. Why would i go and chase that one with a blank avatar and no face pic? It's a woman's market. If you want to have sex with people, read their profiles and comply with their requests or move on. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I ask for a face pic with a first message and unless the person sending the pic is what I'm looking for, I dont send mine back as no point in meeting "
Sorry to say this but I hate when a woman does that. If she does it for some valid reason like after seeing your face pic she realises she knows you then fair enough. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It isn't just single women that do it... I've sent my mug shot to have it deleted with no reply before now, but I'd rather that than be strung along with endless messages because the other person feels they owe me something for sharing a picture. I'm on here to meet and don't always have the most time to arrange meets in, so I'd rather be chatting to people that actually wanna shag me not who just feel they need to be polite! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I ask for a face pic with a first message and unless the person sending the pic is what I'm looking for, I dont send mine back as no point in meeting
Sorry to say this but I hate when a woman does that. If she does it for some valid reason like after seeing your face pic she realises she knows you then fair enough. "
And not fancying you after seeing your pic isn't valid enough reason?? If I don't fancy someone there us no point continuing chatting as I'll never meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I ask for a face pic with a first message and unless the person sending the pic is what I'm looking for, I dont send mine back as no point in meeting
Sorry to say this but I hate when a woman does that. If she does it for some valid reason like after seeing your face pic she realises she knows you then fair enough.
And not fancying you after seeing your pic isn't valid enough reason?? If I don't fancy someone there us no point continuing chatting as I'll never meet."
i don't understand if a woman asked for a face pic and man don't want to send one , then she ain't going to want to meet u , I meet a woman a long time ago with out seeing pic it was a disaster and I felt awful . So I can understand woman askin for them . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I haven't read the whole thread but I think it's a case of supply and demand so don't bow down to it!
I like a face pic, make sense to see asap in case one thinks nooooooo..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If someone dosent match your needs simply move on, everyone runs their profile as they see fit. It's neither anybody else's place to judge and criticise it. |
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