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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Come on guys be truthful. What first attracted you to fab, what were you expecting? Has it lived up to your expectations? Have your expectations changed? Are you now looking for or are into something completely different than you were in the beginning?
I am very interested to find out, I have a theory but don't want to share until I see some honest replies. |
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By *y2funMan
over a year ago
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"Wanted to forget the ex about oeigginaly and was inspired by her storries. I also want to enjoy life like she does."
and I'd recommend seeking help to move on and get over her, "enjoy life like she does" very weird thing to say. |
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By *rc83Man
over a year ago
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Me personally I'd been to a couple of clubs before I heard about the site.
I like the social side of it aswell so being able to chat with people like myself without being judged by my friends outside of this is brilliant.
If anything else happens that comes from this is a bonus for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wanted to forget the ex about oeigginaly and was inspired by her storries. I also want to enjoy life like she does."
i think u need to get help and move on |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
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"Wanted to forget the ex about oeigginaly and was inspired by her storries. I also want to enjoy life like she does.
i think u need to get help and move on"
The uni already give me councaling for something completely different. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wanted to forget the ex about oeigginaly and was inspired by her storries. I also want to enjoy life like she does.
i think u need to get help and move on
The uni already give me councaling for something completely different."
well ask them for some help in this instance too |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Wanted to forget the ex about oeigginaly and was inspired by her storries. I also want to enjoy life like she does."
Was there a particular scenario you were looking for it just open minded? And yeah like others say live for you, forget her x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Come on guys be truthful. What first attracted you to fab, what were you expecting? Has it lived up to your expectations? Have your expectations changed? Are you now looking for or are into something completely different than you were in the beginning?
I am very interested to find out, I have a theory but don't want to share until I see some honest replies."
The casual sex site i was on went down the pan and a member here suggested i try it. On the basis that I'm after chat, forum banter and the possibility of some fun i gave it a go. As for expectations, 2/3 aint bad so far. |
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"Wanted to forget the ex about oeigginaly and was inspired by her storries. I also want to enjoy life like she does.
i think u need to get help and move on
The uni already give me councaling for something completely different."
I think that everyone is genuinely trying to advise you for the best. This really isn't the place for someone who is vulnerable emotionally and it isn't fair on those you meet either.
I hope you can find some peace and a way forward but I believe you are looking in the wrong place. |
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"Come on guys be truthful. What first attracted you to fab, what were you expecting? Has it lived up to your expectations? Have your expectations changed? Are you now looking for or are into something completely different than you were in the beginning?
I am very interested to find out, I have a theory but don't want to share until I see some honest replies."
How will you determine honesty? |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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i was introduced (well corrupted) into swinging by other people and they suggest sites like this.... I have never been on the Casual sites like AFF.....
so did my research and before i started posted i get a feel for the lay of the land so i wouldn't make the mistakes that others did...
yes, originally came for the sex (who didn't) but very much stayed for the social side and the community |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Come on guys be truthful. What first attracted you to fab, what were you expecting? Has it lived up to your expectations? Have your expectations changed? Are you now looking for or are into something completely different than you were in the beginning?
I am very interested to find out, I have a theory but don't want to share until I see some honest replies."
I wanted to move on after my ex and I missed the personal iterraction. Plus i wanted to explore my bi side |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i was introduced (well corrupted) into swinging by other people and they suggest sites like this.... I have never been on the Casual sites like AFF.....
so did my research and before i started posted i get a feel for the lay of the land so i wouldn't make the mistakes that others did...
yes, originally came for the sex (who didn't) but very much stayed for the social side and the community"
That's very much the same for me, I was staggered by the sense of community and openness |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The uni already give me councaling for something completely different.
try relate mate i really don't think shagging yourself well will work... been there tried that."
This x |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
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"Wanted to forget the ex about oeigginaly and was inspired by her storries. I also want to enjoy life like she does.
Was there a particular scenario you were looking for it just open minded? And yeah like others say live for you, fo rget her x"
I am taking g this with an open mind i know i am not the best looking bloak around. And i also realise i do not necessary have that personity. I realised that from overhearing girls conversations and a few years on dating sites. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Come on guys be truthful. What first attracted you to fab, what were you expecting? Has it lived up to your expectations? Have your expectations changed? Are you now looking for or are into something completely different than you were in the beginning?
I am very interested to find out, I have a theory but don't want to share until I see some honest replies.
How will you determine honesty?"
Can only take your word for it. If people didn't want to answer honestly I'd assume they'd avoid the thread, perhaps not tho  lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Come on guys be truthful. What first attracted you to fab, what were you expecting? Has it lived up to your expectations? Have your expectations changed? Are you now looking for or are into something completely different than you were in the beginning?
I am very interested to find out, I have a theory but don't want to share until I see some honest replies."
just another site you don't really know what they are about until you join ,most of these sites are top heavy with men and this is no exception ,you can't really have conversations here but it does have an array of facets ,chat rooms ,cams,the forums and the browsing section Havnt met anyone yet but have met via text some interesting and intelligent women who I would love to investigate more on a negative note have come across a few really quiteo narrow minded women who shall remain nameless but know who they are,you are however lovely |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Come on guys be truthful. What first attracted you to fab, what were you expecting? Has it lived up to your expectations? Have your expectations changed? Are you now looking for or are into something completely different than you were in the beginning?
I am very interested to find out, I have a theory but don't want to share until I see some honest replies. just another site you don't really know what they are about until you join ,most of these sites are top heavy with men and this is no exception ,you can't really have conversations here but it does have an array of facets ,chat rooms ,cams,the forums and the browsing section Havnt met anyone yet but have met via text some interesting and intelligent women who I would love to investigate more on a negative note have come across a few really quiteo narrow minded women who shall remain nameless but know who they are,you are however lovely "
Cheers hun, you too xx |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
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"Wanted to forget the ex about oeigginaly and was inspired by her storries. I also want to enjoy life like she does.
i think u need to get help and move on
The uni already give me councaling for something completely different.
I think that everyone is genuinely trying to advise you for the best. This really isn't the place for someone who is vulnerable emotionally and it isn't fair on those you meet either.
I hope you can find some peace and a way forward but I believe you are looking in the wrong place."
Thanks.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I didn't have a clue, my mate suggested this site to me as I can be a horny fucker on times haha.  So I came for a look. I actually don't mind it, there are some rare people about on here but there's some fucked up people in the real world to! I didn't come on here with any "expectations" I literally just came to have a gander. Also, no I'm not looking for anything different. It's just fun for me when I've got the time |
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my wife and i also have a joint profile, we joined fabs, for what it is, a site were like minded people, can get together for freindship and some sexy fun, ie, swinging,
but we do find alot of poeple on here, think its like reading fifty shades of grey, in outher words, its all going on in there heads [ fantacy ] but when it comes down to swinging a lot of people make exuses and back down. so why be on a swingers site, if they dont want to swing ?. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To clarify I mean why a swinging site as opposed to a casual sex site. Xx
i would think hoping to get lucky..... and the low moral values held on here might help their cause."
Why do people have low moral values?.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I don't understand singles only meeting singles, I know some go to clubs and play with other and that I get, but don't understand how 1 on 1 is swinging. I'm not judging and each to there own, live and let live, I just don't get it. Maybe somebody can educate me... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wanted to try some of the scenarios I read about in certain magazines. And have been lucky enough to experience those and more. On this site and others. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I wanted to try some of the scenarios I read about in certain magazines. And have been lucky enough to experience those and more. On this site and others. "
I suspect a lot would like a mff (and some a mmf). Probably a lot of disappointment from what I read in the forums |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To clarify I mean why a swinging site as opposed to a casual sex site. Xx"
swinging is about sex too though only difference I can see is one does in groups and socialises in clubs but same end result xxxx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I may be in the minority here, but mff was certainly not one of them. Although I have experienced it. Well you can't say no, can you?
But in the main it was mmf, group and gang. All of which I, luckily, have experience of. Plus picked up a few other things on the way! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wanted to try some of the scenarios I read about in certain magazines. And have been lucky enough to experience those and more. On this site and others.
I suspect a lot would like a mff (and some a mmf). Probably a lot of disappointment from what I read in the forums"
I still Havnt achieved mff but may do soon |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I may be in the minority here, but mff was certainly not one of them. Although I have experienced it. Well you can't say no, can you?
But in the main it was mmf, group and gang. All of which I, luckily, have experience of. Plus picked up a few other things on the way!"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"To clarify I mean why a swinging site as opposed to a casual sex site. Xx swinging is about sex too though only difference I can see is one does in groups and socialises in clubs but same end result xxxx "
But I think the groups and socialising aspect is what seperates swinging from casual sex..... In my humble opinion!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I want to try mff! Haha, had a mmf 3 sum. Would love to bi girls for a night though!! What straight guy wouldn't though lol?"
I know some....but not many! Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I want to try mff! Haha, had a mmf 3 sum. Would love to bi girls for a night though!! What straight guy wouldn't though lol?
I know some....but not many! Lol"
I think they're telling porkies! Lol just messing, everybody is different!.. So obviously people are going to like/dislike different things. I, personally would LOVE this Nearly happened once, was sooooo close to lol |
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"Come on guys be truthful. What first attracted you to fab, what were you expecting? Has it lived up to your expectations? Have your expectations changed? Are you now looking for or are into something completely different than you were in the beginning?
I am very interested to find out, I have a theory but don't want to share until I see some honest replies."
A friend told me this site was better than the one i met her on so i joined, must admit she was right and its a lot cheaper for guys. Did,nt have any expections though as all these site are the same too many guys not enough females and couples, am i looking for anything differant no. Met some great people on here its just a shame there are lots of timewasters too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To clarify I mean why a swinging site as opposed to a casual sex site. Xx swinging is about sex too though only difference I can see is one does in groups and socialises in clubs but same end result xxxx
But I think the groups and socialising aspect is what seperates swinging from casual sex..... In my humble opinion! "
hey you are course right as always but the end result is SEX Mmmmmm |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"To clarify I mean why a swinging site as opposed to a casual sex site. Xx swinging is about sex too though only difference I can see is one does in groups and socialises in clubs but same end result xxxx
But I think the groups and socialising aspect is what seperates swinging from casual sex..... In my humble opinion! hey you are course right as always but the end result is SEX Mmmmmm"
If you're lucky I have lots of friends on the scene and there isn't any desire or expectations between us to have sex. Some are old enough to be my parents and its just friendship and respect for one another. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To clarify I mean why a swinging site as opposed to a casual sex site. Xx swinging is about sex too though only difference I can see is one does in groups and socialises in clubs but same end result xxxx
But I think the groups and socialising aspect is what seperates swinging from casual sex..... In my humble opinion! "
I agree with you there, I would define swinging as a group of people not necessarily in any kind of relationships meeting for an evening of socialising. Maybe have a meal or some drinks, a bit of a get together and then ultimately ending in sex.
However times change and ideas evolve to the make the idea of swinging into maybe something different. My own personal experience on here would be more casual sex than swinging but in a more refined way of selecting and corresponding with people before hand and keeping in touch.
Im a single guy and joined this site as an outlet to try and explore my sexuality in ways that i wouldn't be comfortable doing on other sites. There is a certain escapism on here i find where people can be someone new and try different things without it effecting their 'normal' life.
Reading that back sounds like i have made this site as some sort of personal religion, i don't mean to make it all too heavy it is all just lighthearted fun at the end of the day and a way to blow off some steam. It has no way changed who i am just allowed me to try new things in the bedroom with different people.
Its great though innit. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"To clarify I mean why a swinging site as opposed to a casual sex site. Xx swinging is about sex too though only difference I can see is one does in groups and socialises in clubs but same end result xxxx
But I think the groups and socialising aspect is what seperates swinging from casual sex..... In my humble opinion!
I agree with you there, I would define swinging as a group of people not necessarily in any kind of relationships meeting for an evening of socialising. Maybe have a meal or some drinks, a bit of a get together and then ultimately ending in sex.
However times change and ideas evolve to the make the idea of swinging into maybe something different. My own personal experience on here would be more casual sex than swinging but in a more refined way of selecting and corresponding with people before hand and keeping in touch.
Im a single guy and joined this site as an outlet to try and explore my sexuality in ways that i wouldn't be comfortable doing on other sites. There is a certain escapism on here i find where people can be someone new and try different things without it effecting their 'normal' life.
Reading that back sounds like i have made this site as some sort of personal religion, i don't mean to make it all too heavy it is all just lighthearted fun at the end of the day and a way to blow off some steam. It has no way changed who i am just allowed me to try new things in the bedroom with different people.
Its great though innit."
I like this answer, you win...pmsl
Especially like how well written it was, culminating with the last line.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honestly !
For me ( him lol)
It was because I had really only ever had sex with one person who didn't get any enjoyment from the sex act ? She enjoyed foreplay ( me on her !) but anything thing else was normally to late for her as she was tired by the foreplay?
So once away from that ! I wanted to experience things I had missed in my younger years ? But didn't have the self confidence to play alone with a lady who knew what she wanted !
So by going with a couple if I had a bit of a moment lol ( lost my control !)
Then the partner could always be there to help ? Also I could see and learn how women like to be pleasured !
I have found a sexy lady who loves what I do ! Still not sure I'm any good lol but that's what being able to explore is all about and another story lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Saw a thing about swinging on sexcetera a while back and thought it was my kind of thing as i love to explore "
What specifically was you looking for out of it though? If you don't mind sharing xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Saw a thing about swinging on sexcetera a while back and thought it was my kind of thing as i love to explore
What specifically was you looking for out of it though? If you don't mind sharing xx"
im not sure probably to explore my sexuality and for fill some fantasy's |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I saw fabs site on channel 4s documentary bout dogging 5 years ago,
so thought wow this sounds fun and would be an easy way to get a sex meet, no it havent lived up to its expectations but one day maibe it might lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To clarify I mean why a swinging site as opposed to a casual sex site. Xx"
Its easy cos a casual sex site is to expensive to pay a membership each month to, so fab is free, that's why too.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I saw fabs site on channel 4s documentary bout dogging 5 years ago,
so thought wow this sounds fun and would be an easy way to get a sex meet, no it havent lived up to its expectations but one day maibe it might lol "
Haven't you had any luck on here? Only a webcam veri  and you have a six pack too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I saw fabs site on channel 4s documentary bout dogging 5 years ago,
so thought wow this sounds fun and would be an easy way to get a sex meet, no it havent lived up to its expectations but one day maibe it might lol
Haven't you had any luck on here? Only a webcam veri and you have a six pack too "
Well yes I did meet one woman last year as well so kinda lucky I recon, and no women in general are not that keen on muscles guys with a 6pack, mind you I mostly use the forum now and not that bothered for a meet as I was before. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I saw fabs site on channel 4s documentary bout dogging 5 years ago,
so thought wow this sounds fun and would be an easy way to get a sex meet, no it havent lived up to its expectations but one day maibe it might lol "
Easy way to get a sex meet is why lots of single guys join from what we see.
Most couples however join because of the lifestyle and not just because of the free sex.
Probably why the single guys are perceived as what they are on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I saw fabs site on channel 4s documentary bout dogging 5 years ago,
so thought wow this sounds fun and would be an easy way to get a sex meet, no it havent lived up to its expectations but one day maibe it might lol
Easy way to get a sex meet is why lots of single guys join from what we see.
Most couples however join because of the lifestyle and not just because of the free sex.
Probably why the single guys are perceived as what they are on here."
YEs and as well single women got no problem here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I want to try my bi side but even more in a mmf meet , not happened yet. To be honest I'm very surprised at the couples on here thought as a good looking , good size cock u might of got lucky lol.
it's a lot harder on here than I thought it would be, I suppose too many single men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wanted to forget the ex about oeigginaly and was inspired by her storries. I also want to enjoy life like she does."
Soz about the patronising "advice" from the Trollabies one here.
Mate, you are doing it right, enjoy and keep listeing to yourself!
Happy swinging!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I saw it as being the best, if not only, way of having group sex. I initially went for mfm, but have moved on and explored mmf, mmmmf and variations thereof. Still have the odd single meet, and it is a sure fire way tomeet the sort of people I want to meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wanted to forget the ex about oeigginaly and was inspired by her storries. I also want to enjoy life like she does.
i think u need to get help and move on"
Why you judging this guy?? He is not the OP?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fantasy and meeting like minded people.
I once wrote a detailed reply to this question explaining my expectations and the reality of Fab as a single guy which spread over 3 threads!
Trust me you can go into a lot of detail about the expectation and reality, but the bottom line is nsa sex with like minded people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why a swinging site?
Because i can't do a wham, bam, thank you ma'am.
I'm not here to add numbers to how many people i can fuck. You can see from my veris how many people i actually do meet for that.
I'm here for an 'experience' if you want to call it that. To make likeminded filthy/kinky friends. Be able to talk about our sexual experiences and journey together. And finally, to have some stories of our own, some wet sheets and a fab fucking time.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To clarify I mean why a swinging site as opposed to a casual sex site. Xx
i would think hoping to get lucky..... and the low moral values held on here might help their cause.
Why do people have low moral values?.. "
What low moral values? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To clarify I mean why a swinging site as opposed to a casual sex site. Xx
i would think hoping to get lucky..... and the low moral values held on here might help their cause.
Why do people have low moral values?..
What low moral values?"
Good question!!
Look forward to whoever asked it, answering it!! |
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By *iccardaTV/TS
over a year ago
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i started attending swinging events before i ever heard of fab so joined to stay in touch with the people i meet and still think that is the best way to use the site. Use it to find an event, get out to it and meet people, then use Fab to stay int ouch, works fort me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"i started attending swinging events before i ever heard of fab so joined to stay in touch with the people i meet and still think that is the best way to use the site. Use it to find an event, get out to it and meet people, then use Fab to stay int ouch, works fort me "
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As old school, I used to buy my monthly copy of "Forum", a packet of stamps and write off to other "lifestyle" (not called swinging then) readers...
The anticipation of a letter and invite back took upwards of 2 weeks..
So using the internet just speeds things up, though as some one else said, it has made it seedy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As others (I suspect) Fab was recommended to me by a lady from another site.
Originally I was always after NSA meets and sex, the free messaging, forums and chat rooms were a big draw. Was probably as I expected, hard bloody work for a single guy but rewarding because of the variety of people (singles and couples) you can chat to and meet.
As for things changing, as demonstrated by this profile, I've found an amazing buddy to explore and have double the trouble with!!
So yes, my expectations and desires have totally changed now. |
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Why do single fellas join fab??
Good question..... I am one of these.....
Sumilar question could asked of single ladies....
For me, not all guys have been fortunate enough to of found the so called" special one"
But because of this are forced to abstain from what is a natural urge.
I enjoy the directness of this site, without the interogations and hidden agendas that come from other sites.
If your here its only for one reason, if a friendship blossoms from it a bonus..
Uncomplicated simple.....Us single
guys unlike I feel single ladies get a rough deal..
I feel that maybe a little stigma that " eeeerrggh if he,s single there must be a reason, must be weirdo" with some... WHY??
ever considered it maybe out of choice or perhaps buissy lifestyle it actually dictates...
Perhaps we to prefer to seperate the sex from the emotional relationship aspect.
We sre not bad people..... That is unless given the chance.. Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had experimented a bit but wanted to take it further. I loved the idea of joining couples as my ex and I had let a few people join us. I researched and stumbled across this.
In all honestly it's not exactly lived up to my expectations. But for some reason this is now the third time I'm back... |
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By *not69Man
over a year ago
Lancashire |
It was recommended to me by a female friend after I split up with my fb. She told me that I didnt have to swing as their were single ladies looking for single guys too. What she didnt know was that Id wanted to go to a swingers club years ago but didnt have the balls to do it. So I registered on here on a monday, on tuesday I went to my first club, on thursday I went to my second club and became a member, on saturday I wasn back again.
8 months ago if youd told me in the next 8 months I'd have done half the things I have done I wouldnt have believed you. threesomes, foursomes, group sex (9 being the max so far), gangbangs, among lots of others.
Its been a wonderful journey so far and Ive met so many great people, singles and couples. From now on any woman would have to be bloody amazing to convince me that a vanilla relationship is a better alternative. I just wish Id done it years ago when I didnt have the balls to do it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was recommend by a friend to come out my shell a bit open my eyes to new things i have and a few things id still like to try.
Finding meets is sometimes hard work through people gettin messed about but worth while when i get them could do with makin some new friends and a few party invites always welcome |
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By *0JOMan
over a year ago
Glasgow |
"I may be in the minority here, but mff was certainly not one of them. Although I have experienced it. Well you can't say no, can you?
But in the main it was mmf, group and gang. All of which I, luckily, have experience of. Plus picked up a few other things on the way!"
Crabs? Lol |
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By *not69Man
over a year ago
Lancashire |
"i started attending swinging events before i ever heard of fab so joined to stay in touch with the people i meet and still think that is the best way to use the site. Use it to find an event, get out to it and meet people, then use Fab to stay int ouch, works fort me "
Thats exactly how I use fab now. There is so much competition that your message gets hidden in a big pile of other messages. I much prefer to meet face to face in a club where you can socialise and interact with other like minded people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I originally joined after being told about the site by someone on another site and was on here without much success for a couple of years so left saying I would never return
However a woman I knew from fab kept pleading witth me to return so at a difficult time for her on here I relented and rejoined to please her- then almost immediately she formed a couples profile with another guy,deleted her singles profile and now refuses to acknowqledge me
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To clarify I mean why a swinging site as opposed to a casual sex site. Xx
i would think hoping to get lucky..... and the low moral values held on here might help their cause."
Judging by others responses to this post I am sure I am not the only one who thinks your reference to low morals is offensive.
To my mind being a swinger is about being open minded and enjoying sex in a way that steps beyond the conventions that "society" deems acceptable. Being on a swinging site rather than a casual sex site increases the chances of finding other like minded people.
The fact that I swing (yes I do swing, despite this being a single profile I also have a joint profile with my partner) does not mean that I have low morals at all, my morals here are no different or lower than my morals in my vanilla life. I treat people with respect and expect the same in return. The fact that I enjoy sex the way I do and with who I do has nothing to do with morals. |
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"To clarify I mean why a swinging site as opposed to a casual sex site. Xx
i would think hoping to get lucky..... and the low moral values held on here might help their cause.
Judging by others responses to this post I am sure I am not the only one who thinks your reference to low morals is offensive.
To my mind being a swinger is about being open minded and enjoying sex in a way that steps beyond the conventions that "society" deems acceptable. Being on a swinging site rather than a casual sex site increases the chances of finding other like minded people.
The fact that I swing (yes I do swing, despite this being a single profile I also have a joint profile with my partner) does not mean that I have low morals at all, my morals here are no different or lower than my morals in my vanilla life. I treat people with respect and expect the same in return. The fact that I enjoy sex the way I do and with who I do has nothing to do with morals. "
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
"Wanted to forget the ex about oeigginaly and was inspired by her storries. I also want to enjoy life like she does.
i think u need to get help and move on
Why you judging this guy?? He is not the OP??"
Op? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To clarify I mean why a swinging site as opposed to a casual sex site. Xx
i would think hoping to get lucky..... and the low moral values held on here might help their cause.
Why do people have low moral values?..
What low moral values?
Good question!!
Look forward to whoever asked it, answering it!!"
I'd like to know the answer too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To clarify I mean why a swinging site as opposed to a casual sex site. Xx
i would think hoping to get lucky..... and the low moral values held on here might help their cause.
Judging by others responses to this post I am sure I am not the only one who thinks your reference to low morals is offensive.
To my mind being a swinger is about being open minded and enjoying sex in a way that steps beyond the conventions that "society" deems acceptable. Being on a swinging site rather than a casual sex site increases the chances of finding other like minded people.
The fact that I swing (yes I do swing, despite this being a single profile I also have a joint profile with my partner) does not mean that I have low morals at all, my morals here are no different or lower than my morals in my vanilla life. I treat people with respect and expect the same in return. The fact that I enjoy sex the way I do and with who I do has nothing to do with morals. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To clarify I mean why a swinging site as opposed to a casual sex site. Xx
i would think hoping to get lucky..... and the low moral values held on here might help their cause.
Why do people have low moral values?..
What low moral values?
Good question!!
Look forward to whoever asked it, answering it!!
I'd like to know the answer too"
Everybody get a pitchfork and wait for him.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To clarify I mean why a swinging site as opposed to a casual sex site. Xx
i would think hoping to get lucky..... and the low moral values held on here might help their cause."
By "Low" you actually mean "Differing from the majority" presumably?  I'm not sure we've met anyone on fab with "Low" moral values" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally i was pointed to the site by a lady friend and did nowt about it at first. Then a couple i was seeing through another site recommended it to me....about 3 years back.
What is a casual sex site? |
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A lady friend suggested it to me I have joined to see what the fuss is all about and got hooked on it I like the forum's and the friend's I have made and some who I have had the pleasure of meeting |
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over a year ago
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"To clarify I mean why a swinging site as opposed to a casual sex site. Xx
i would think hoping to get lucky..... and the low moral values held on here might help their cause.
Why do people have low moral values?..
What low moral values?
Good question!!
Look forward to whoever asked it, answering it!!
I'd like to know the answer too"
Cheeky git questioning my morals
Shall poke them with a sharp stick if I catch em |
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Was on AFF for a few years before i joined here, used to get meets on there and also attend the group socials thing much the same as here really, but that site went downhill fast in a very short space of time, crappy site updates/changes and far too many fake profiles allowed onto the site, so i looked for something else and found Fab.
So glad i did, and not long after joining here found some of my old friends from AFF had also come here (seems a lot of people left there and came here during the same time period). Yes i initially joined here for the sex/meets, but i have also always enjoyed the social side of swinging and got into the forums and the group meets/socials organised on here aswel. Also enjoy going to swingers clubs and get to know people through the clubs on here aswel. Sometimes use the chatrooms on here too, i am also single and would be great to meet a long term girlfriend/partner who is into the swinging scene (still looking for her) so it is a good mix of all those things put together.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was originally seeing somebody who was interested in a MFF. But our relationship ended and I have stayed on here trying to find somebody who has a similar outlook to me in regards to a relationship and sex.
With my previous partner, we were full on exploration of our sexual desires. And I don't think I would find that through regular dating sites.
Still not 100% convinced about the scene and the social side sounds nice. But it appears that Single Guys get bundled into a big ball of "just out for a shag" types.
I am looking for friendship and more, but struggling to find it.
And I know the clubs are "supposedly" the way to go, but single guys aren't welcomed from some of the posts and comments I have seen the forums and on the re_iews.
Not sure what to do really. Its a shame, as there is some genuinely lovely people on here, but the much maligned "single guy" appears at face value to be the butt of the Swinger world. Even this post asking why single guys join says it all for me.
I was also on AFF but that was even worse.
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"I was originally seeing somebody who was interested in a MFF. But our relationship ended and I have stayed on here trying to find somebody who has a similar outlook to me in regards to a relationship and sex.
With my previous partner, we were full on exploration of our sexual desires. And I don't think I would find that through regular dating sites.
Still not 100% convinced about the scene and the social side sounds nice. But it appears that Single Guys get bundled into a big ball of "just out for a shag" types.
I am looking for friendship and more, but struggling to find it.
And I know the clubs are "supposedly" the way to go, but single guys aren't welcomed from some of the posts and comments I have seen the forums and on the re_iews.
Not sure what to do really. Its a shame, as there is some genuinely lovely people on here, but the much maligned "single guy" appears at face value to be the butt of the Swinger world. Even this post asking why single guys join says it all for me.
I was also on AFF but that was even worse.
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Have read at least 3 different threads today with a lot of single guy bashing going on in them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Got chatting to someone on a non sexual site. Probably pof and a lady on there said I'd probably like chams and would I like to go?
We joined and she also got me involved with fab. I thought it would be a great way to meet people and have nsa sex with no complications.
There are pros and cons but I miss it if I try and stay away that's for sure. Theres my hones answer xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I saw fabs site on channel 4s documentary bout dogging 5 years ago,
so thought wow this sounds fun and would be an easy way to get a sex meet, no it havent lived up to its expectations but one day maibe it might lol
Easy way to get a sex meet is why lots of single guys join from what we see.
Most couples however join because of the lifestyle and not just because of the free sex.
Probably why the single guys are perceived as what they are on here."
You do seem to be obsessed about...single guys...on fab. Why let them concern you. Unless your looking for them. What about single females? I suppose most of them are here for the lifestyle aswell and not a fuck  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well I was on another site and some friends recommend fab to me and it has been the best year ever.
Why a swingers site?
I swing both ways and it's been the perfect place to meet all walks of life. But I do crave finding a partner to settle with and swing together but I do not think I will find one here. But never say never.
Happy holidays to you all and hope you all have a fun party season |
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I join because I went to swing club and had good time then found this one but to many of us men here so its hard . to me its back to clubs that way women get to see you face to face
and I don't no any date sites that are free |
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By *educedWoman
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Come on guys be truthful. What first attracted you to fab, what were you expecting? Has it lived up to your expectations? Have your expectations changed? Are you now looking for or are into something completely different than you were in the beginning?
I am very interested to find out, I have a theory but don't want to share until I see some honest replies.
The casual sex site i was on went down the pan and a member here suggested i try it. On the basis that I'm after chat, forum banter and the possibility of some fun i gave it a go. As for expectations, 2/3 aint bad so far."
Jesus! Was that a casual sex site? |
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over a year ago
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"Come on guys be truthful. What first attracted you to fab, what were you expecting? Has it lived up to your expectations? Have your expectations changed? Are you now looking for or are into something completely different than you were in the beginning?
I am very interested to find out, I have a theory but don't want to share until I see some honest replies.
The casual sex site i was on went down the pan and a member here suggested i try it. On the basis that I'm after chat, forum banter and the possibility of some fun i gave it a go. As for expectations, 2/3 aint bad so far.
Jesus! Was that a casual sex site? "
It was for me Pumpkin!! |
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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago
London / Herts |
a) this is a safe place to experiment with sex and sexuality,
b) I have no idea about these casual sex sites, and I prefer sex with people I've got to know first.
But out of interest, what casual sites have people got in mind? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ok honest answer I joind as I have very little sexual experience and was also looking into trying the Bi thing have used toys for years . I thought meeting a couple who had a bi guy would be a good way to try it and this site seemed to offer that scenario on a fairly simple basis.
It has succeeded in helping decide a cock in the ass feels good and I do like a lady to watch it happening |
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over a year ago
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"I may be in the minority here, but mff was certainly not one of them. Although I have experienced it. Well you can't say no, can you?
But in the main it was mmf, group and gang. All of which I, luckily, have experience of. Plus picked up a few other things on the way!
Crabs? Lol"
Lol, No!! Definitely not, or anything else!
I have been waiting for someone to pick up on that! Took your time.
I did mean, I picked up a few things, i.e. other experience's along the way! |
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