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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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This is getting beaten to death in the forums, and got me thinking.
Does age really matter? no hidden agenda, I prefer to stick to people around my own age but, If I see a gorgeous woman that I find sexually attractive, and she wanted me, age would not be a factor.
Although I have broken the first a number of times, my general guideline has always been, if she's young enough to be my daughter, or old enough to be my mother (let's be honest, she'd be a corpse to break the second one now lol) I'm dubious.
My preference is more the result of social conditioning than experience. I have met accomplished and attractive lovers (for want of a better word) of all ages.
Does age really matter to you, all these young guys desperate to meet older women, and all the older guys breaking their neck to meet a teenager, if someone your own age was interested, and you found her attractive, wouldn't you?
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Age does matter to me in general but not in particular. As a general rule I wouldn't meet a man younger than about 40-45 but particular younger men fit my criteria.
I don't agree that age is just a number either. |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
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Appeal matters to me more than age, but I am usually drawn to older men... my current lover is 11 years my senior and it works very well between us.
Women age is less of a factor, its more about a connection, sense of humour, personality and sexual attraction but I wouldn't go with anyone young enough that I could be their parent. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm drawn to younger men, I think, because I have an ex who's 13 years older. My age range on here is set lower than my grand old age of 50, but if someone my age caught my eye, then I'd message him  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm drawn to younger men, I think, because I have an ex who's 13 years older. My age range on here is set lower than my grand old age of 50, but if someone my age caught my eye, then I'd message him "
Am still waiting for my message ha ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't tend to find many people my age or older that attractive though, and a fair few even come off as experienced in being manipulative.
Otherwise age doesn't matter to me either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm drawn to younger men, I think, because I have an ex who's 13 years older. My age range on here is set lower than my grand old age of 50, but if someone my age caught my eye, then I'd message him
Am still waiting for my message ha ??"
Erm...you're not my age lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Appeal matters to me more than age, but I am usually drawn to older men."
 I'm the same, I do have an age range set on here though but I've always said if someone is over or under that who I'm attracted to then I have no issue with it. Also when it comes to clubs you could be attracted to someone and end up playing with them and they be outside your age range. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm drawn to younger men, I think, because I have an ex who's 13 years older. My age range on here is set lower than my grand old age of 50, but if someone my age caught my eye, then I'd message him
Am still waiting for my message ha ??
Erm...you're not my age lol"
Am close tho ha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My girlfriend is 22, she prefers people my age and older so as a rule that's the age group we meet. We have however met younger people in clubs and socially a few times so we don't set our preferances in stone.
Often you hear the term "maturity" used but I don't think it's that so much as everyone getting on so that everything goes with the flow. |
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"I don't tend to find many people my age or older that attractive though, and a fair few even come off as experienced in being manipulative.
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Yes, I have found that too - and far less so from younger men who often appear fairly guileless. I won't meet young men who say they have 'a fantasy' about meeting a mature woman, have any hint of a 'to do list', but if I find someone engaging and attractive and they find me so, then in terms of nsa age really is immaterial to me.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm drawn to younger men, I think, because I have an ex who's 13 years older. My age range on here is set lower than my grand old age of 50, but if someone my age caught my eye, then I'd message him "
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"I don't tend to find many people my age or older that attractive though, and a fair few even come off as experienced in being manipulative.
Yes, I have found that too - and far less so from younger men who often appear fairly guileless. I won't meet young men who say they have 'a fantasy' about meeting a mature woman, have any hint of a 'to do list', but if I find someone engaging and attractive and they find me so, then in terms of nsa age really is immaterial to me.
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Which means the same applies to men of any age. I'm not looking for an age, I'm looking for chemistry. Hopefully alchemy!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't tend to find many people my age or older that attractive though, and a fair few even come off as experienced in being manipulative.
Yes, I have found that too - and far less so from younger men who often appear fairly guileless. I won't meet young men who say they have 'a fantasy' about meeting a mature woman, have any hint of a 'to do list', but if I find someone engaging and attractive and they find me so, then in terms of nsa age really is immaterial to me.
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I'm ok with tick lists with the right person and if we're going to see each other regularly and i enjoy what their tick lists is comprised of, but yeah i have a good idea of when someone has fetishised me and tend to avoid those people. |
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"I don't tend to find many people my age or older that attractive though, and a fair few even come off as experienced in being manipulative.
Yes, I have found that too - and far less so from younger men who often appear fairly guileless. I won't meet young men who say they have 'a fantasy' about meeting a mature woman, have any hint of a 'to do list', but if I find someone engaging and attractive and they find me so, then in terms of nsa age really is immaterial to me.
I'm ok with tick lists with the right person and if we're going to see each other regularly and i enjoy what their tick lists is comprised of, but yeah i have a good idea of when someone has fetishised me and tend to avoid those people."
Yes, that's what I meant - having 'mature woman' on a to do list. Nope. Not this one. Well.... not unless they're really really hot...
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't tend to find many people my age or older that attractive though, and a fair few even come off as experienced in being manipulative.
Yes, I have found that too - and far less so from younger men who often appear fairly guileless. I won't meet young men who say they have 'a fantasy' about meeting a mature woman, have any hint of a 'to do list', but if I find someone engaging and attractive and they find me so, then in terms of nsa age really is immaterial to me.
I'm ok with tick lists with the right person and if we're going to see each other regularly and i enjoy what their tick lists is comprised of, but yeah i have a good idea of when someone has fetishised me and tend to avoid those people.
Yes, that's what I meant - having 'mature woman' on a to do list. Nope. Not this one. Well.... not unless they're really really hot...
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Yeah sorry i did translate that into tick lists in my head for some reason, got what you mean now.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm drawn to younger men, I think, because I have an ex who's 13 years older. My age range on here is set lower than my grand old age of 50, but if someone my age caught my eye, then I'd message him
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Oh and it would help if they lived less than 300 miles away too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm quite open to any age that's legal, I'm more interested in personality.
But if I remove my message block on younger people then I get bombarded with crude messages from younger males (I can't call them men!) who have no manners, no respect, and mostly just tell me that they're desperate to fuck an older women (and probably don't care who...)
So the few good ones get drowned out ....
So, sorry, but my younger age block stays in place!
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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago
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I prefer men around my age, give or take a few years. I often think when a younger guy messages why would he be interested when there are younger, very fit women on here. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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Age matters more to me than I would like. I still have a mental block about going past that 49 mark.
Even though I am in my 40's now, in my head I'm not and 50+ still seems more like my parents' generation than mine.
Not meaning to be offensive but most 50+ guys look like grandparents, (which, of course, they often are!), to me.
I know a few really hot 50+ men but generally guys aren't that well preserved by that point. Grey and balding just isn't my thing.
I know I'm going to get slated know but this is how I feel about it. Like I said at the beginning of the post, I'd like to feel different. I feel like I shouldn't think like this. But I do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Appeal matters to me more than age, but I am usually drawn to older men.
I'm the same, I do have an age range set on here though but I've always said if someone is over or under that who I'm attracted to then I have no issue with it. Also when it comes to clubs you could be attracted to someone and end up playing with them and they be outside your age range."
Really, lol? I have been trying to find the right younger fem for some time now, without much success! And wouldn't you know it, I can't mail you because of your age limits lol! xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Age is really not just a number to me...it's am indicator of so much more that leads to some kind of connection, no matter how fleeting. I do ask people how old they are in clubs but generally find I can tell if they fall into my parameters...because I wouldn't generally have sustained any interest in them anyway. In a game where you have to draw the line somewhere, age is one of the measures that are useful to me... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If a man my age or older is young at heart and doesn't dance like me dad I could find him attractive. There are some men like that around but mostly are married or not into women like me |
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I have had a 25 yr old gf for a while earlier this year. To be honest, although I had a bit of a conscience about it, we worked well together and were well matched.
I can be morechild like and she was very wordly for her years. In bed...well I had 'more stamina than anyone she had ever been with '
Well, as long as I had my afternoon nap that is   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Aesthetic and personality matter for us. However the age filters are up because we get a fair few messages and we have to sadly filter some people out. It's a buyers market at the moment. |
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Young men do have such gorgeous toned hard bodies and I think what the hell are they doing looking at me but joking aside I know what I prefer and it is older men, meeting someone is much more than what their body looks like or how long they can fuck for in my case |
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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago
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I have always naturally been drawn to slightly older guys.
Anything younger than 30 is just too much of a risk... a few 18-29 year olds pop up in chat, and their immaturity is obvious within the first 4-5 sentences 
My meets so far on here have been in the 40-55 range, and they have by far been the best. I don't have the patience to give anyone younger a chance.. same on here as when I am in 'nilla land.
Wait, what was the question again? lolol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is getting beaten to death in the forums, and got me thinking.
Does age really matter? no hidden agenda, I prefer to stick to people around my own age but, If I see a gorgeous woman that I find sexually attractive, and she wanted me, age would not be a factor.
Although I have broken the first a number of times, my general guideline has always been, if she's young enough Ito be my daughter, or old enough to be my mother (let's be honest, she'd be a corpse to break the second one now lol) I'm dubious.
My preference is more the result of social conditioning than experience. I have met accomplished and attractive lovers (for want of a better word) of all ages.
Does age really matter to you, all these young guys desperate to meet older women, and all the older guys breaking their neck to meet a teenager, if someone your own age was interested, and you found her attractive, wouldn't you?
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no age doesn't matter to me its firstly about look then personality  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm drawn to younger men, I think, because I have an ex who's 13 years older. My age range on here is set lower than my grand old age of 50, but if someone my age caught my eye, then I'd message him
Oh and it would help if they lived less than 300 miles away too "
That, gorgeous lady, is the story of my sex life  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Young men do have such gorgeous toned hard bodies and I think what the hell are they doing looking at me but joking aside I know what I prefer and it is older men, meeting someone is much more than what their body looks like or how long they can fuck for in my case "
Some older guys are in pretty good shape too  |
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The only problem I have about age is that most that I'm attracted to on here have a cut off at 50 Most people tell me I don't look,dress or act my age.
I normally go for women around my age,but I'm attracted by a personality
Around 3yrs ago my age difference was 19-67 |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Young men do have such gorgeous toned hard bodies and I think what the hell are they doing looking at me but joking aside I know what I prefer and it is older men, meeting someone is much more than what their body looks like or how long they can fuck for in my case "
Agree with this |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
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I know i am not the most maturest person in the world. But the msturity, the exsperences they have and the fact that they know what they want from life more so than some younger people is what i find sexy in a potential gf. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I (Jude) like younger men, more fun, better laugh and haven't given in to the draw of the pipe and slippers lol
On a serious note though it is about attraction/connection...I would love my Mr regardless of his age, the fact he is younger is coincidence ....happily |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm a little hung up on age I don't know why but I can't shag guys under 30, I've spoken to and met loads at clubs, socials, parties etc who have been really nice and who I have got on with well and kept in contact with on here but I just can't have sex with them, i just makes me feel like a sad old women, I know a lot may find that odd but I just can't help the way I feel, older I'm open to offers, if I met someone over my upper age limit I would still play with them if we got on but not my lower age limit |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm a little hung up on age I don't know why but I can't shag guys under 30, I've spoken to and met loads at clubs, socials, parties etc who have been really nice and who I have got on with well and kept in contact with on here but I just can't have sex with them, i just makes me feel like a sad old women, I know a lot may find that odd but I just can't help the way I feel, older I'm open to offers, if I met someone over my upper age limit I would still play with them if we got on but not my lower age limit"
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have been attracted to much younger men from their initial messages and engaged in conversation which has shown them to be mature in their attitude and outlook, similarly I have received messages from men my age and older who seem to lack that maturity, so maturity does not always come with age!!
Last summer I connected with a guy after reading his forum posts on a number of subjects and we met for a drink when he was in London. During the next five hours we barely stopped talking long enough to draw breath and its one of the best afternoons I've had in a long, long time with lots of laughter but plenty of in depth meaningful chat too. He was 23 and I was 54 - did we meet up again, yes we did and the second time was just as amazing tho possibly with a little less chat!! Had anyone asked me when I joined the site three years ago whether I would meet a 23 year old for sex I would have said absolutely no way, I have children older than that!!! Charisma, chemistry and personality make someone attractive, it has nothing to do with their date of birth! |
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"I have been attracted to much younger men from their initial messages and engaged in conversation which has shown them to be mature in their attitude and outlook, similarly I have received messages from men my age and older who seem to lack that maturity, so maturity does not always come with age!!
Last summer I connected with a guy after reading his forum posts on a number of subjects and we met for a drink when he was in London. During the next five hours we barely stopped talking long enough to draw breath and its one of the best afternoons I've had in a long, long time with lots of laughter but plenty of in depth meaningful chat too. He was 23 and I was 54 - did we meet up again, yes we did and the second time was just as amazing tho possibly with a little less chat!! Had anyone asked me when I joined the site three years ago whether I would meet a 23 year old for sex I would have said absolutely no way, I have children older than that!!! Charisma, chemistry and personality make someone attractive, it has nothing to do with their date of birth! "
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"I'm drawn to younger men, I think, because I have an ex who's 13 years older. My age range on here is set lower than my grand old age of 50, but if someone my age caught my eye, then I'd message him
Oh and it would help if they lived less than 300 miles away too
That, gorgeous lady, is the story of my sex life "
Mine too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I prefer men around my age, give or take a few years. I often think when a younger guy messages why would he be interested when there are younger, very fit women on here. "
Because they cant always get a very fit young woman on here and sometimes they feel less shy with a much older plainer woman because they aren't so stuck up. |
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"I prefer men around my age, give or take a few years. I often think when a younger guy messages why would he be interested when there are younger, very fit women on here.
Because they cant always get a very fit young woman on here and sometimes they feel less shy with a much older plainer woman because they aren't so stuck up. "
I just love that you always have such a happy positive take on why people use this site |
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"I'm drawn to younger men, I think, because I have an ex who's 13 years older. My age range on here is set lower than my grand old age of 50, but if someone my age caught my eye, then I'd message him
Oh and it would help if they lived less than 300 miles away too
That, gorgeous lady, is the story of my sex life
Mine too "
And mine.
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By (user no longer on site)
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For me, it's more about personality and a mutual connection rather than age. There's not much age barrier when it comes to attraction but I relate better to people around my age or older. So regular meets have always reflected that. But, I wouldn't rule out regular meets with someone much younger if we got on. I did have an ex girlfriend who was 12 years younger than me and we got on great. Never say never.
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"Young men do have such gorgeous toned hard bodies and I think what the hell are they doing looking at me but joking aside I know what I prefer and it is older men, meeting someone is much more than what their body looks like or how long they can fuck for in my case
Some older guys are in pretty good shape too "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I prefer men around my age, give or take a few years. I often think when a younger guy messages why would he be interested when there are younger, very fit women on here.
Because they cant always get a very fit young woman on here and sometimes they feel less shy with a much older plainer woman because they aren't so stuck up. "
Or they're just taking second best |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You could ask younger guys why? I do, am nosey so i ask a lot of questions anyway.
Reasons i've had given to me is, young women tend to be crap in bed (probably shy or unconfident, i know i didn't used to like giving bjs when i didn't know what i was doing), older women look after themselves and they like that, the milf fantasy thing, young women tend to be shallow and materialistic this makes guys feel under pressure when with them, they wear too much make up or look fake and the guy wants a 'real' women (whatever the fuck that means). All these are off several different guys and so are their individual experiences with women overall and not a generalisation of younger women by me.
I've met a fair few younger guys, they're alright, pretty much all of them polite, nice guys, fun and good in bed. Nothing to do with stamina either, they love exploring sex and want to experience new things or better versions of what they've had already.
You can be suspicious if you want but it might be all in your head. Shit i'm nothing much to look at, not minging but nothing stunning, small, fat, alright face, bit rough in manner sometimes, but i'm friendly, fun and have a lot to offer a guy (many guys lol), and that's what makes me attractive. The fact that i have hang ups but understand most guys do not care about them, overall i think i'm a good package and always have been and it's not that much down to looks.
Men are a lot less shallow than we think they are, trust me. In fact i've noticed they let themselves be vulnerable a lot sooner than women do. Don't know why that is, just an observation. |
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"I prefer men around my age, give or take a few years. I often think when a younger guy messages why would he be interested when there are younger, very fit women on here.
Because they cant always get a very fit young woman on here and sometimes they feel less shy with a much older plainer woman because they aren't so stuck up.
Yes, second best.
Or they're just taking second best"
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"I prefer men around my age, give or take a few years. I often think when a younger guy messages why would he be interested when there are younger, very fit women on here.
Because they cant always get a very fit young woman on here and sometimes they feel less shy with a much older plainer woman because they aren't so stuck up. "
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