This is something we are very content to explore with a guy we've met here.
It never occurred to us until we met this particular man, it was not even an idea let alone a fantasy, but we would be very interested to hear the experiences of other couples who experimented with this or ventured down this route x |
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I've been seeing a really great guy ( who just happens to be black )from this site regularly at clubs or parties for about 7 years either as a threesum with my husband or as part of a group of guys.My husband was normally there although occasionally at clubs I'd go off on my own with him to start playing and my husband would join us. Just over two years ago we made the decision that I'd try meeting him on my own occasionally - we did and it was a lot of fun - I'd take home pictures and videos , my husband would listen on the phone and the last couple of times before we changed to soft swap he sat at home and watched as we played on cam in chat rooms. Afterwards the sex with my husband was (as always) amazing ??
We changed to soft swap just over a year ago to try for a family , but now we're "coming back" to full swap and the three of us have already been talking about us renewing that arrangement.
From our perspective it's been a lot of fun - he's a polite, respectful (and hot??) guy that both myself and my husband feel totally secure about. Meeting someone regularly makes for more relaxed meets - both know what "works" for eachother and it's a kick for myself and my husband.
It's another aspect of our sex life and like everything else we do with swinging it adds to our already great sex life, but doesn't "make" it or replace it.
People wonder about "emotional attachment" and possibly threatening a relationship. Well for us its affection, respect and friendship and that's it - in no way does it pose any threat to our marriage, just like other "swinging" doesn't either.
For us it's worked and been a bit of fun so if you're lucky enough.
I'd just like to add that for the last couple of years I've had a couple of other "regular" guys ( in fact the group fun used to be with the few regulars I have) - he's the only black guy so it's not just a "BBC" thing  |
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I have several regular black guys that I meet and it is great to know them and their abilities. It works for me and my husband prefers this arrangement to me meeting strangers.....its turns him on knowing what I am doing and who with. |
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"I have several regular black guys that I meet and it is great to know them and their abilities. It works for me and my husband prefers this arrangement to me meeting strangers.....its turns him on knowing what I am doing and who with. "
Thanks. We've gone over this a hundred times and Lou and I are very happy with the arrangement we're developing. The guy is coming over the following two Fridays, We're all three excited by it and think this is ideal for us, win win win for us all. |
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