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seperate room fun for one of partners
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Couple who are in a 8 month relationship but don't live together been swinging happily at clubs for 4 months both love mmf and straight couple swap. Both fantasized about girl having another man alone in private room un club and says idea turns her on more than anything so far. She had chats on fab to a suitable guy with partner seeing texts and both in heat of lust agree idea with guy. Both partners have 100% trust but next day male partner starts having doubts as gf cant promise that she wont lose track of time and spend rest of night in club with guest in room and male partner will be left at bar (although has been agreed he can see a girl or couple). Doubts on him growing as she says she cant say whether men alone in private room isn't what she will only want from then on in. He feels what's the point in swinging if he is just to sit at bar and misses the mmf and couple swap. Telling her his concerns she says its no loss and they won't do it and draw a line under it. He feels bad knowing he unlocked her desire for man alone and wonders if he should cave in but realise she might get a taste for it only and worried she doesn't seem concerned about spending fun with him after. Or does he accept her offer to can 1 on 1 and hope her mind awakened to it and not doing it puts a strain on her feelings. Long winded concern I know but a genuine one and thoughts, replues encouraged from serious experienced swingers. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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You need to talk this through between you and base any decision on that - not the opinions of others whose circumstances and preferences are personal to them.
Not much help I know - but the best and only solution really.
Good luck.
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By *tmmCouple
over a year ago
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For us swinging is about what we can give each other. I'm dying to find a woman to take my lovely man off me for an evening 
With what we call loans - me with another guy possibly on my own - we limit the meets to half an hour. So maybe a time limit set would help? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Great reply to be honest and same principles. We have talked alot and will do again before Saturday. Wad just interested in experiences before doing so. The concern us more about she says put it behind us and don't worry yet I don't want to hurt het and know how much it turned her on. Supposing better putting off doing single in room for now until discussed as easier to put it aside u than it is after actually doing it. Also concerned its confused her about swinging.
You have helped tho thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For us swinging is about what we can give each other. I'm dying to find a woman to take my lovely man off me for an evening
With what we call loans - me with another guy possibly on my own - we limit the meets to half an hour. So maybe a time limit set would help?"
Half an hr?
I am not even naked by then.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"For us swinging is about what we can give each other. I'm dying to find a woman to take my lovely man off me for an evening
With what we call loans - me with another guy possibly on my own - we limit the meets to half an hour. So maybe a time limit set would help?"
. . . but as she says she may get carried away in he's of moment and be there until closing! |
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By *tmmCouple
over a year ago
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"For us swinging is about what we can give each other. I'm dying to find a woman to take my lovely man off me for an evening
With what we call loans - me with another guy possibly on my own - we limit the meets to half an hour. So maybe a time limit set would help?
Half an hr?
I am not even naked by then. "
Lol you're one of the lucky few then... Most I've met I'm back in the car 10-15 mins later  |
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By *tmmCouple
over a year ago
harlow |
"For us swinging is about what we can give each other. I'm dying to find a woman to take my lovely man off me for an evening
With what we call loans - me with another guy possibly on my own - we limit the meets to half an hour. So maybe a time limit set would help?
. . . but as she says she may get carried away in he's of moment and be there until closing!"
Then that is where imo the issue is. When you are doing this as a couple it is still a joint thing whether it's one of you getting your rocks off or both. I always set an alarm or similar and make sure the other party knows the score. Like I say it's my opinion and not meant to offend I'm just offering you an idea based on what works for us.
I also agree with everyone else about its something that only you two know the answer to was just passing on ideas xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For us swinging is about what we can give each other. I'm dying to find a woman to take my lovely man off me for an evening
With what we call loans - me with another guy possibly on my own - we limit the meets to half an hour. So maybe a time limit set would help?
. . . but as she says she may get carried away in he's of moment and be there until closing!
Then that is where imo the issue is. When you are doing this as a couple it is still a joint thing whether it's one of you getting your rocks off or both. I always set an alarm or similar and make sure the other party knows the score. Like I say it's my opinion and not meant to offend I'm just offering you an idea based on what works for us.
I also agree with everyone else about its something that only you two know the answer to was just passing on ideas xxx"
ahah how long's the alarm set for?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"For us swinging is about what we can give each other. I'm dying to find a woman to take my lovely man off me for an evening
With what we call loans - me with another guy possibly on my own - we limit the meets to half an hour. So maybe a time limit set would help?
. . . but as she says she may get carried away in he's of moment and be there until closing!
Then that is where imo the issue is. When you are doing this as a couple it is still a joint thing whether it's one of you getting your rocks off or both. I always set an alarm or similar and make sure the other party knows the score. Like I say it's my opinion and not meant to offend I'm just offering you an idea based on what works for us.
I also agree with everyone else about its something that only you two know the answer to was just passing on ideas xxx"
Had suggested idea we finish an hour before club closes so we have some time together. We are usually there from at least 11:00 until close at 3:00 a.m.xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"For us swinging is about what we can give each other. I'm dying to find a woman to take my lovely man off me for an evening
With what we call loans - me with another guy possibly on my own - we limit the meets to half an hour. So maybe a time limit set would help?"
Your advice was great by the way. We'd go for more than 30 minutes but definitely a good idea. X |
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By *tmmCouple
over a year ago
harlow |
"For us swinging is about what we can give each other. I'm dying to find a woman to take my lovely man off me for an evening
With what we call loans - me with another guy possibly on my own - we limit the meets to half an hour. So maybe a time limit set would help?
Your advice was great by the way. We'd go for more than 30 minutes but definitely a good idea. X"
Awwwww thank you
Glad to be of service - happy swinging!  |
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