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IT'S HARD FOR GUYS ON HERE, IT IS!
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"to stand out, i would suggest you add more profile info and more pics. x" Exactly. With there being more single males than single females/couples, those looking for single males have the pick of the crop (so to speak), so you guys need to stand out to get attention, take a look around at single guy profiles, find the well verified ones and take a leaf from their profile (not copy and paste). W  | |||
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"What about an annual cull,like they do with the deer in Scotland,lol. It would make things a bit easier for the ones that were left. (Joke);-) XXXX" Yeah, I think I am just about ready for the knackers yard!! lol seriously...though.. to the OP, I compare this place to like a pub... you don't expect the locals to take to you straight away, it takes time.... just be patient..... maybe that sort of patients helps seperate the nice ones from the not so nice ones.... | |||
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Speak to anyone though couples,single fems,they all have stories to tell about how its not as easy as you think to find compatable playmates
Its all part of the fun though and when you meet some cool people it makes it all worth it | |||
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"i think its hard to get a meet off of here and i meet as a single female, maybe its because i'm not a Angelina Jolie lookalike, i don't know, i've been on the site several months and i've only met 2 guys off here that i did'nt already know from other sites etc, i know men that have met more than that!" | |||
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"There is a massive no-man's-land between the FANTASY of swinging and the REALITY of swinging. So if a single guy expects to join a swinging site and get laid seven times a week, he is going to be disappointed. The reality is very different to the fantasy. I am myself roaming naively in the no-man's-land I speak off. In the same way, if a newbie couple expects that there first swingers party is going to be like the one in "Eyes Wide Shut", then they too will end up crestfallen." check out the meets n parties forum ya mite be suprised !!! xx | |||
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"check out the meets n parties forum ya mite be suprised !!! xx" I am going to a party advertised on this site tonight, in fact. I really hope that I am surprised. We shall see! | |||
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"Hmmmmm not the blood bath i was expecting to see....everyone nice and mellow today? good good "My thoughts exactly! Thank you everyone for the sanity on this thread, It's worth saying again sometimes to the newbies! | |||
"I understand you ladies who say be patient, we will get round to replying but you can't blame a guy for trying. There are way many more men than women on here so its difficult being the guy, it really is unless your Brad Pitt that is so please have some sympathy ladies lol " I think everything you require has been covered in detail apart from... FFS, show some self esteem! All this its difficult malarky makes you sound weak, pathetic almost. Be a man, stand by your principals and fun will follow even if your village is short of an idiot while u type "difficult" on here. FFS. Happy swinging xx PS. Obviously the above should not be taken out of context. Basically it is saying "Keep the chin up" xx | |||
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 happy days LOL ,Be yourself have little patience hehe begining to njoy this post getting funny take care all mwah x | |||
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"Well your profile does contain a lot of negatives. After reading it, I would be in two minds whether to contact you or not. I would have said try and be a little more positive in it and see if that alters the replies you are getting." does it? i just try to be honest, i assum you mean its negative because it says i'm fat, saying your fat is only seen as a negative thing if you don't like fat women, you say you'd be in two minds about replying to me after reading it so to me its a good thing because it saves your not replying to a woman your not going to like anyway, your right i could alter what i have put but at the end of the day they are still going to meet ME and if i big myself up to get moe replys, they just going to be from guys who wont like me so why do that, if someone dont reply to me because i have given a honest description of me they wont like me in the flesh if i lie to get more meets
I just try to be open and honest thats all, im not at all a negative person, anyone who has met me will tell you that | |||
"It is difficult for the single guy on here, I've been on ages and only had one meet but I'm sure more will come. The great thing about this site and things in general nowadays is that it's a place for like minded people to hang out and chat in real time, I was a bit young pre internet days but I imagine things were a lot trickier then! " Aww FFS. The words "Difficulty" and "trickier" have me thinking you believe this is a competition. Perhaps you have a special target you wish to reach. If this is the case I would allow your "cock" to breathe at the next photo session or it will never make it. PS. The above thoughts are based on 2 words and a photo. The words are self explanatory but the photo comment could be construed as being rude. This is not my intention. I am merely pointing out the fact that if you look really closely at your tinged blue cock profile photo you can clearly see the japs eye gasping for breath and uttering help! PPS. Loosen up my fellow single and you will meet every goal you set yourself. Happy swinging and good luck on your quest x | |||
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"i found this site 6mths ago and wow have never looked back got a meet nearly every weekend " Superb news. You are a shining example to us all. x Happy Swinging xx | |||
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"Cheers for that i was trying to be positive to the OP in my reply, I guess writing was never my strong point. I'm not sure I follow how using the words difficult and trickier construed that I think it's a competition, just stating facts that being a single guy on here will get you passed by on a lot of occasions, and I'm not even complaining about that, just the way the wind blows round here. P.S. I'm glad you enjoyed studying my picture so closely, I'm touched." YOu should be touched, I was using reverse psychology so all the lovely ladies will look at your cock shot! Dont take it personally, just some light banter and your writing is fine xx Happy swinging xx | |||
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"I understand you ladies who say be patient, we will get round to replying but you can't blame a guy for trying. There are way many more men than women on here so its difficult being the guy, it really is unless your Brad Pitt that is so please have some sympathy ladies lol " There is lots of great advice on this thread for you . Mine would be, it isn't like joining a queue at a burger place and ordering what you want for that night. For many people, male female or couples it isn't straight away that they get meets, most don't want them that quick with people anyway. Add to the forums, go in chat, that might get you noticed in the shortterm until you decide wether to go to a social or not. | |||
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"Some great examples of speaking one's mind while showing absolutely no tact. Nice. " And here was me thinking this thread was much better than the ones that have been before when single men post. ~~~off to read it again. | |||
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"you all need to get yourselves to The Pussy Posse Beach Party! You'll soon find out how hard it is for the Single men!!!!! **Maddie runs away cackling**" as long as the single men are hard ..... | |||
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"There are some that do reply with a polite 'thanks, but no thanks'. I had one yesterday, and as dissappointing as it was, it was welcome. But I understand women not sending out negative replies. They probably get a lot of mail as it is, and most likely a lot of abuse from those that don't get the answer they want. The single male tw@s on here make it difficult for everyone "think that about sums it up, guys seem to think if a woman talks to them on here its half way to getting in their pants, i will personally talk to anyone, does not mean i want to play with them, i remember one night in a club i spent about half a hour chatting to a guy who then asked me if i wanted to go to a room and when i said no thanks his reply was.....well why have you just spent the last half hour talking to me then!!?.....and its the same on here if you chat to someone and then say you don't want to meet they come back is usually, well i dont have to come on here i can do loads better than you anyway etc, or they call you fat/ugly and tell you you cant afford to be so picky lol so it really is hard as a woman to know what to do, are you freindly and talk to everyone? or only the ones you want to meet? personally if i ever get to the point that i wont talk to men i don't fancy i'll stop swinging, so i just put up with the childish comments | |||
"Lamb to the slaughter, but does anyone want to give my profile a once over? Please be gentle "nice profile open and not up yourself | |||
"Lamb to the slaughter, but does anyone want to give my profile a once over? Please be gentle "Sharpens the knife.......oh thats right you dont do S&M...my bag lol | |||
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And the knife maybe extreme, but as for the other, I never knock something until I've tried it
naughtynymphos : "say you don't want to meet they come back is usually, well i dont have to come on here i can do loads better than you anyway etc"
Thats not just here, or swinging sites. Women get that on dating sites as well. Hell, even I got a woman throwing that kind of tantrum. But when they do that, you know you where right on the money when you said no thanks
Deleted and edited for grammar that had my english teacher rolling in his grave. Then again, he's been doing that since I buried him the garden. How long before someone runs out of oxygen? | |||
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"Sorry Miss F, you moved kind of fast then. "lol It has been known.x | |||
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"Really? Care to show me "There you go. Did you miss it? I did say I was fast.......lol | |||
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"You've left scorch marks on my trousers. Thats impressive in itself, but on the inside?" Talented and fast.....what can I say. | |||
"Talented and fast.....what can I say." I don't know, you've left me tongue tied. But by the sound of it, you like it that way | |||
"Talented and fast.....what can I say. I don't know, you've left me tongue tied. But by the sound of it, you like it that way "Tongue and tied.......what a delicious combination! | |||
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"Well, you can tempt me with half of that sentence, the other half we can work on." Do I come across as a woman who compromises????? lol | |||
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"This site is about having fun, not just getting into someones pants. Getting to know someone makes the anticipation of a meet all the better, so what if it takes 3 weeks or 3 months. Go with the flow." Why not have both, fun and meet without waiting for ages??? | |||
"This site is about having fun, not just getting into someones pants. Getting to know someone makes the anticipation of a meet all the better, so what if it takes 3 weeks or 3 months. Go with the flow." well said we had a guy of another site wanted to meet and have HIS WAY LOL dont need pushy guys | |||
"This site is about having fun, not just getting into someones pants. " oh damnit, I'm on the wrong site again. | |||
"This site is about having fun, not just getting into someones pants. Getting to know someone makes the anticipation of a meet all the better, so what if it takes 3 weeks or 3 months. Go with the flow." I only want to get in their pants. Why the feck would I want to get to know them? | |||
"i've been on here for a while now, and i seemto mostly get the "he's a really nice guy" quotes and verifications! i am a nice guy, but seems that it really doesn't get you very far! don't get me wrong, i thinkit's a great site, and i've met a couple of greast women, and got some good "chat " friends, but us guys are definately fighting against the crowd! sometimes it would be nice to get a message back, even a "no thanks" at least shows an acknowledgement....and i know ladies, yo get hundreds of messages, and it's not easy!" CANT REPLY TO U AS UR PROFILE SAYS NO LONGER A USER!! | |||
"i've been on here for a while now, and i seemto mostly get the "he's a really nice guy" quotes and verifications! i am a nice guy, but seems that it really doesn't get you very far! don't get me wrong, i thinkit's a great site, and i've met a couple of greast women, and got some good "chat " friends, but us guys are definately fighting against the crowd! sometimes it would be nice to get a message back, even a "no thanks" at least shows an acknowledgement....and i know ladies, yo get hundreds of messages, and it's not easy! CANT REPLY TO U AS UR PROFILE SAYS NO LONGER A USER!!" another one must of spat his dummy out and left lol  | |||
"i've been on here for a while now, and i seemto mostly get the "he's a really nice guy" quotes and verifications! i am a nice guy, but seems that it really doesn't get you very far! don't get me wrong, i thinkit's a great site, and i've met a couple of greast women, and got some good "chat " friends, but us guys are definately fighting against the crowd! sometimes it would be nice to get a message back, even a "no thanks" at least shows an acknowledgement....and i know ladies, yo get hundreds of messages, and it's not easy! CANT REPLY TO U AS UR PROFILE SAYS NO LONGER A USER!!" another one must of spat his dummy out and left lol | |||
