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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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ok, potentially a contentious issue (will avoid this thread herein!  )
why is it that whenever a woman makes a comment about personal experiences, the battle cry goes out from otherwise silent single man on the site of "oh, another single male bashing thread".
It never seems to answer the question and there is an equal number of threads aimed directly at single women and couples.
why do single men consider themselves the victims...surely by writing something constructive, you must realise that there is more of a chance of challenging someones stance?
I speak for a few btw...there are a lot of single men that contribute to the forums and they quite happily play devils advocate and put forward some strong and substantial arguments
......i'm off!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"surely there is good and not so good in all catergories male, female and couples.
the not so good just make the good look even better."
exactly
as thier are so many single men thier are more dick head single men lol
never thought about it till you just said that 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think the problem is that SO many threads made by single males are of the "not getting meets" type.
This threads are usually posted by single males who are both clueless and don't realise the very faults they present are what are holding them back.
What I DON'T like is that if a couple or single woman posts a similarly whiny thread, they don't always get shot down, when they should, with equal vigour and venom.
This lack of equality just adds fuel to the "downtrodden single man" syndrome, sad to say. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think the problem is that SO many threads made by single males are of the "not getting meets" type.
This threads are usually posted by single males who are both clueless and don't realise the very faults they present are what are holding them back.
What I DON'T like is that if a couple or single woman posts a similarly whiny thread, they don't always get shot down, when they should, with equal vigour and venom.
This lack of equality just adds fuel to the "downtrodden single man" syndrome, sad to say."
dont get shot down?? i would have to disagree there....why just today.....  |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"What I DON'T like is that if a couple or single woman posts a similarly whiny thread, they don't always get shot down, when they should, with equal vigour and venom.
This lack of equality just adds fuel to the "downtrodden single man" syndrome, sad to say."
I see what you're saying, but one look at the response to different genders on the introductions forum reinforces the theory that you don't diss the single (potentially elusive bi-) fem! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think the problem is that SO many threads made by single males are of the "not getting meets" type.
This threads are usually posted by single males who are both clueless and don't realise the very faults they present are what are holding them back.
What I DON'T like is that if a couple or single woman posts a similarly whiny thread, they don't always get shot down, when they should, with equal vigour and venom.
This lack of equality just adds fuel to the "downtrodden single man" syndrome, sad to say."
*Nods in agreement* |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What I DON'T like is that if a couple or single woman posts a similarly whiny thread, they don't always get shot down, when they should, with equal vigour and venom.
This lack of equality just adds fuel to the "downtrodden single man" syndrome, sad to say.
I see what you're saying, but one look at the response to different genders on the introductions forum reinforces the theory that you don't diss the single (potentially elusive bi-) fem!"
Why would anyone get yelled at for posting an introduction in the introduction forum? |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"Why would anyone get yelled at for posting an introduction in the introduction forum?"
OK, I phrased that badly!
I meant single fems get more welcome notes than single men do, because they are more in demand/popular etc. |
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"ok, potentially a contentious issue (will avoid this thread herein!"
Is generally a part of the problem. The vast majority of threads which 'kick off', regardless of subject matter, never involve the OP - because they have started a thread they KNOW will be contentious, and then legged it.
They know full well what they are doing, and sit and spectate as the forumites tear into each other until Rugby bans me(!). But you very rarely see 'em being part of the discussion.
Just my 2p worth.
Oh, and i think the OP on this thread MAY be the exception to the rule.
But i might be wrong on that.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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""ok, potentially a contentious issue (will avoid this thread herein!"
Is generally a part of the problem. The vast majority of threads which 'kick off', regardless of subject matter, never involve the OP - because they have started a thread they KNOW will be contentious, and then legged it.
They know full well what they are doing, and sit and spectate as the forumites tear into each other until Rugby bans me(!). But you very rarely see 'em being part of the discussion.
Just my 2p worth.
Oh, and i think the OP on this thread MAY be the exception to the rule.
But i might be wrong on that.
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hold your baws there...i already have contributed! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why would anyone get yelled at for posting an introduction in the introduction forum?
OK, I phrased that badly!
I meant single fems get more welcome notes than single men do, because they are more in demand/popular etc."
Well of course they do... put one girl in a bar full of men and she'll get more attention also.
Thats nothing more than a fact of numbers. |
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"ok, potentially a contentious issue (will avoid this thread herein! )
why is it that whenever a woman makes a comment about personal experiences, the battle cry goes out from otherwise silent single man on the site of "oh, another single male bashing thread".
It never seems to answer the question and there is an equal number of threads aimed directly at single women and couples.
why do single men consider themselves the victims...surely by writing something constructive, you must realise that there is more of a chance of challenging someones stance?
I speak for a few btw...there are a lot of single men that contribute to the forums and they quite happily play devils advocate and put forward some strong and substantial arguments
......i'm off!
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Because were sad an lonely.an have to watch hollyoaks omnibus on our own.lol |
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"ok, potentially a contentious issue (will avoid this thread herein! )
why is it that whenever a woman makes a comment about personal experiences, the battle cry goes out from otherwise silent single man on the site of "oh, another single male bashing thread".
It never seems to answer the question and there is an equal number of threads aimed directly at single women and couples.
why do single men consider themselves the victims...surely by writing something constructive, you must realise that there is more of a chance of challenging someones stance?
I speak for a few btw...there are a lot of single men that contribute to the forums and they quite happily play devils advocate and put forward some strong and substantial arguments
......i'm off!
Because were sad an lonely.an have to watch hollyoaks omnibus on our own.lol "
On behalf of single guys i would like to point out at this juncture that 'sad and lonely' we can go along with.
'Hollyoaks omnibus' the poster speaks for himself and himself alone.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think the problem is that SO many threads made by single males are of the "not getting meets" type.
This threads are usually posted by single males who are both clueless and don't realise the very faults they present are what are holding them back.
What I DON'T like is that if a couple or single woman posts a similarly whiny thread, they don't always get shot down, when they should, with equal vigour and venom.
This lack of equality just adds fuel to the "downtrodden single man" syndrome, sad to say."
here here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You wouldn't believe how often we hear "can we meet at 7:30, I have to watch Hollyoaks, sorry".
*grown man weeps*
*MEN*  "
you will not have that with me, tv doesnt rule my life and i dont care if i miss something i might like |
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"Lol yeh your right,ive went to far with that one.but in my defence i dont watch it for the quality acting,i watch it cos of the fit women.lol"
Do you have ANY idea how big a hole you are digging for yourself??!!
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"Lol yeh your right,ive went to far with that one.but in my defence i dont watch it for the quality acting,i watch it cos of the fit women.lol
Do you have ANY idea how big a hole you are digging for yourself??!!
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Lol im not caring mate,cos im not afraid to show my sensitive side.an hollyoaks has its good points..i mean wot about that mercedes mclean.i would actualy take her to the pictures.eh if she asked.lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oops sorry fell in as a single male & thought it was about wanking lol
seen as I'm here - its not all about single males having a point of view it's about pople in general on here taking the fingers from up their arse - engaiging their brain & being constructive & thoughtful. Everyoneon here has a right to have an opinion be it right / wrong or conjecture. Look at me a wanker with a spare hand to type lol. I can't judge anyone by having an opinion about something - thank god they have one & are not just a muppit following the crowd! If I don't agree with their opinion & WANT to debate it, that's my right. If I take offence ignore it. If I get abuse report it.
God let's be adults - smile & the whole world smiles with you
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And i'd give Angalina Jolie a lift to pick up her curry if she asked.
But we're both on the interent at half 9 on a Wednesday night.
And i don't know about you, but my phone aint ringing and lighting up with "AJ" on the screen....
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"I think the problem is that SO many threads made by single males are of the "not getting meets" type.
This threads are usually posted by single males who are both clueless and don't realise the very faults they present are what are holding them back.
What I DON'T like is that if a couple or single woman posts a similarly whiny thread, they don't always get shot down, when they should, with equal vigour and venom.
This lack of equality just adds fuel to the "downtrodden single man" syndrome, sad to say.
*Nods in agreement*"
* nods too * |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Oops sorry fell in as a single male & thought it was about wanking lol
seen as I'm here - its not all about single males having a point of view it's about pople in general on here taking the fingers from up their arse - engaiging their brain & being constructive & thoughtful. Everyoneon here has a right to have an opinion be it right / wrong or conjecture. Look at me a wanker with a spare hand to type lol. I can't judge anyone by having an opinion about something - thank god they have one & are not just a muppit following the crowd! If I don't agree with their opinion & WANT to debate it, that's my right. If I take offence ignore it. If I get abuse report it.
God let's be adults - smile & the whole world smiles with you
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I wasnt pointing my finger at chaps like you who do add something constructive, if you'd read my original post (felt weird not saying profile there).
I was wagging the finger of shame at those that post "oh another single male bashing" and that';s it, nothing else...just that one line ....(could go on and jest about single men and one-liners, but...sigh, alas no, not tonight)
I appreciate everyones views, even if i don t agree with them, but that one line...does nothing other than ignite the flames (not of passion i might add) and suddenly a constructive thread turns into a battle of the sexes |
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By *ig badMan
over a year ago
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"ok, potentially a contentious issue (will avoid this thread herein! )
why is it that whenever a woman makes a comment about personal experiences, the battle cry goes out from otherwise silent single man on the site of "oh, another single male bashing thread".
It never seems to answer the question and there is an equal number of threads aimed directly at single women and couples.
why do single men consider themselves the victims...surely by writing something constructive, you must realise that there is more of a chance of challenging someones stance?
I speak for a few btw...there are a lot of single men that contribute to the forums and they quite happily play devils advocate and put forward some strong and substantial arguments
......i'm off!
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Some do some don't and i find this thread a huge generalisation personally. There are a good 2 dozen topics that will cause a reaction. When you have been here a bit longer you will have a much clearer picture on why people react in the way they do to certain threads. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"ok, potentially a contentious issue (will avoid this thread herein! )
why is it that whenever a woman makes a comment about personal experiences, the battle cry goes out from otherwise silent single man on the site of "oh, another single male bashing thread".
It never seems to answer the question and there is an equal number of threads aimed directly at single women and couples.
why do single men consider themselves the victims...surely by writing something constructive, you must realise that there is more of a chance of challenging someones stance?
I speak for a few btw...there are a lot of single men that contribute to the forums and they quite happily play devils advocate and put forward some strong and substantial arguments
......i'm off!
Some do some don't and i find this thread a huge generalisation personally. There are a good 2 dozen topics that will cause a reaction. When you have been here a bit longer you will have a much clearer picture on why people react in the way they do to certain threads."
if it was a generalisation, i would have said all single men, i was very careful not to say that.
i have been on the site before and used the forums then too. time served doesnt really mean anything though as you could be a member for two years and not have used the forums. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"ok, potentially a contentious issue (will avoid this thread herein! )
why is it that whenever a woman makes a comment about personal experiences, the battle cry goes out from otherwise silent single man on the site of "oh, another single male bashing thread".
It never seems to answer the question and there is an equal number of threads aimed directly at single women and couples.
why do single men consider themselves the victims...surely by writing something constructive, you must realise that there is more of a chance of challenging someones stance?
I speak for a few btw...there are a lot of single men that contribute to the forums and they quite happily play devils advocate and put forward some strong and substantial arguments
......i'm off!
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Probably due to the amount of Single Guys who have been frustrated or disappointed with the site, a lot think as soon as they join they will be Bonking so after a Week or two when they have access to the Forums the Battle crys begin |
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By (user no longer on site)
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What I dont understand is that you say "I appreciate all views" and then go on to imply that some people shouldn't express them.
Which is it?
At the end of the day if people's experience leads them to feel frustrated with things why not allow them to express that rather than pointing your finger of shame.
I'd like to point my finger of shame at people who write shirty and rude profiles who warn people off on pain of death from dropping them a line, people who whatever people write take the opposite view, people who bicker amongst themselves, people who put new posters off contributing.
It's a democracy and within reason folks should be able to make their points. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"What I dont understand is that you say "I appreciate all views" and then go on to imply that some people shouldn't express them.
Which is it?
At the end of the day if people's experience leads them to feel frustrated with things why not allow them to express that rather than pointing your finger of shame.
I'd like to point my finger of shame at people who write shirty and rude profiles who warn people off on pain of death from dropping them a line, people who whatever people write take the opposite view, people who bicker amongst themselves, people who put new posters off contributing.
It's a democracy and within reason folks should be able to make their points."
when someone posts "another single male bashing thread" it is not, in my view, an opinion, it is a statement and seems to be done deliberately to infuse a situation.
i dont mind if you call me black white or indifferant...it is your opinion of me and you are totally entitled to it...i dont mind if you like dislike or are indifferant towards what i write and if you have a criticism, constructive or otherwise, hell, throw the damn thing in, i'm not going to cry over it or hold a grudge about it as it's not my style.
Will say it again, what this thread is referring to is that one line that gets written as if it addresses the situation...if it is a single male bashing then say why...explain what is offensive about it to you...it's akin to writing "you're wrong"....then having nothing to back it up with.
tell me why it's a single male bashing when you post on the thread rather than just write that one line and run.
and i will say this again, there are a lot of single men that post that give considered and well thought through critique, that isnt me being patronising, it's me saying i'm not attacking every single man |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What I DON'T like is that if a couple or single woman posts a similarly whiny thread, they don't always get shot down, when they should, with equal vigour and venom.
This lack of equality just adds fuel to the "downtrodden single man" syndrome, sad to say.
I see what you're saying, but one look at the response to different genders on the introductions forum reinforces the theory that you don't diss the single (potentially elusive bi-) fem!"
we are not elusive at all,just fed up with mail from couples saying we want you and coming with all the stupit rules,and demands.What ever happent to just being fun and going with the flow
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By *ig badMan
over a year ago
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"ok, potentially a contentious issue (will avoid this thread herein! )
why is it that whenever a woman makes a comment about personal experiences, the battle cry goes out from otherwise silent single man on the site of "oh, another single male bashing thread".
It never seems to answer the question and there is an equal number of threads aimed directly at single women and couples.
why do single men consider themselves the victims...surely by writing something constructive, you must realise that there is more of a chance of challenging someones stance?
I speak for a few btw...there are a lot of single men that contribute to the forums and they quite happily play devils advocate and put forward some strong and substantial arguments
......i'm off!
Some do some don't and i find this thread a huge generalisation personally. There are a good 2 dozen topics that will cause a reaction. When you have been here a bit longer you will have a much clearer picture on why people react in the way they do to certain threads.
if it was a generalisation, i would have said all single men, i was very careful not to say that.
i have been on the site before and used the forums then too. time served doesnt really mean anything though as you could be a member for two years and not have used the forums. "
Err you didn’t use the word “some” you generalised and you even used the word “lot” in relation to single men. ( so careful you were not!) I for one find this objectionable and you will find there will be others who do too. You even titled the thread contentiously. Now if you don’t want a negative reaction then don’t bear bate people as that’s what you will get.
As for you being here before I'm frankly surprised at the contentious nature of the thread if you have been here before.
So offence taken!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I speak for a few btw...there are a lot of single men that contribute to the forums and they quite happily play devils advocate and put forward some strong and substantial arguments
......i'm off!
Some do some don't and i find this thread a huge generalisation personally. There are a good 2 dozen topics that will cause a reaction. When you have been here a bit longer you will have a much clearer picture on why people react in the way they do to certain threads.
if it was a generalisation, i would have said all single men, i was very careful not to say that.
i have been on the site before and used the forums then too. time served doesnt really mean anything though as you could be a member for two years and not have used the forums.
Err you didn’t use the word “some” you generalised and you even used the word “lot” in relation to single men. ( so careful you were not!) I for one find this objectionable and you will find there will be others who do too. You even titled the thread contentiously. Now if you don’t want a negative reaction then don’t bear bate people as that’s what you will get.
As for you being here before I'm frankly surprised at the contentious nature of the thread if you have been here before.
So offence taken!
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apologies sir, you are quite correct, i didnt say some at all...I said "a few"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"there are a lot of single men that contribute to the forums and they quite happily play devils advocate and put forward some strong and substantial arguments
......i'm off!
Err you didn’t use the word “some” you generalised and you even used the word “lot” in relation to single men. ( so careful you were not!) I for one find this objectionable and you will find there will be others who do too. You even titled the thread contentiously. Now if you don’t want a negative reaction then don’t bear bate people as that’s what you will get.
As for you being here before I'm frankly surprised at the contentious nature of the thread if you have been here before.
So offence taken!
apologies sir, you are quite correct, i didnt say some at all...I said "a few"
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...and you are also correct when you mention I said "a lot"...I said a lot of men contribute something substantial
you seem to be arguing my point and i am now confused?! |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"we are not elusive at all,just fed up with mail from couples saying we want you and coming with all the stupit rules,and demands."
I know that they aren't elusive, some of my favourite meets have been single bi fems. I was just referring to the cliche'd view that they (you) are seen as elusive.
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